A woman responded to this post I shared on my Facebook this way: “This is so wrong and not from God! He says it is better not to marry if you don’t need to (or want to). It is better to focus on following Jesus and serving others. It is not wrong to want or need to marry, but it is better if you don’t.”

Timothy Allen responded to her: What you’ve just done is twist the word of God to deceive. You said, “He says it is better not to marry, if you don’t need (have desires) or want to.” ….or want to? Since when do our “wants” enter into fulfilling the commands of God (Be fruitful and multiply)? Answer: THEY DON’T!

As TTW has pointed out, this verse is speaking of the few, the EXTREME FEW, who God has given no desire for physical intimacy, because that belongs exclusively in the realm of marriage.

WANT…
of a career
of a cat
of a relationship with a box of wine…

Has got NOTHING to do with it! You notice Paul later says that young widows ought to marry and keep having children (1 Timothy 5:14). Zero mention of “if they want,” but he does point out that it is to keep them out of the types of mischief that feminism INVITES women to do (1 Timothy 5:13).

Feminism LIES to women and tells them to go ahead and not marry and just be out and proud SLUTS (no slut-shaming). That is, you have the desires Paul speaks of, but you don’t have to get married to fulfill them. Here, you try to expand that to being not only a matter of (unnatural/abnormal) lack of desire for sexual intimacy, but also to include “eh…if you feel like it.”

Finally, I love how Paul honestly points out, “Now as a concession, not a command, I say this” (1 Corinthians 7:6).

It’s not an absolute. It’s his earthly wisdom, and it is good if you keep it in proper context, which you have failed to do. A woman with asexual desires had best *NOT* marry, because she will be depriving her husband in sin!

How many women does that truly apply to, do you think?

And what does “want” have to do with it?

Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
1 Corinthians 7:2

But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
1 Corinthians 7:9