Living Biblical Womanhood Deepens Our Love

Living Biblical Womanhood Deepens Our Love

The disciples came to Jesus and asked Him what the signs of His second coming and the end of the world would be. Jesus began describing all that would take place and in the middle of His discourse with them, He said, “And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold” (Matthew 24:12). Evil will abound and the love of many will grow cold. We can see this happening today. Evil (Satan) is the opposite of good (God). God is love. He’s the definition, the beginning, and the ending of love. Without God, there is no love. Therefore, as wickedness increases, many will not love which explains a lot of what is happening today.

My main goal in writing to women is to encourage them in the ways of the Lord. His ways are “good, and acceptable, and perfect” (Romans 12:2), yet most women, even Christian women have never heard nor been taught them. I can tell this is the case because many who call themselves Christians are repulsed by God’s plan for their lives. They’ve only heard the feminist plan which is opposed to God’s plan.

Almost every day, I receive emails and messages from wise, godly women who encourage me and some even give me some wonderful ideas for blog posts. Elizabeth is one of them. She wrote this to me the other day:

“I want to send you a lot of good support for what you are doing. I have been living in a very ‘feminist’ environment for a long time, so I am still thinking about all the things you talk about. A lot of them are just so contrary to how life is now lived. One thing that occurs to me, however, is to wonder if living the way you suggest really helps to develop the heart.

“In a way, when women live that way, they sacrifice a lot of their intellectual development, and they also have to curtail a lot of their will, and also discipline their feelings, all of which are hard to do. (“Knowledge makes arrogant, but love edifies.” – 1 Corinthians 8:1). But perhaps the effect of this is to deepen their love, good will and goodness, and I can imagine that this really helps their husbands to be better men. I also think that spending so much time with children helps to keep women softer and more open and caring. When we have to deal with the adult-only workforce, it can be a bit hardening to our souls.”

The Lord asks us to live sacrificial lives. He asks us to love others deeply and when living a life of serving our husband, children, and home all day, I do believe it makes women softer, more feminine, caring, and most importantly, more loving since they are giving their lives away instead of selfishly living for themselves and their goals and desires. And no, mothers don’t just naturally love their children or else God wouldn’t have told older women to teach the young women to love their children.

Part of loving one’s children is wanting to birth them in the first place and then being the ones home full time to raise and discipline them in the ways of the Lord. It’s being kind and patient with them, not yelling at them and calling them names. It’s taking time to build deep relationships with them, listening to them, and speaking the truth in love to them often. In this way, the children will grow up knowing how to love. They will grow up knowing to hate the evil and love the good. They will be salt and light in this wicked generation and as a result, their love will not grow cold.

If ye love me, keep my commandments.
John 14:15

10 thoughts on “Living Biblical Womanhood Deepens Our Love

  1. When we love and embrace our husbands, it strengthens our marriage and his commitment to you. Resentment, unfulfillment as a traditional wife and mother only breeds unhappy marriages full of resentment on both ends! Embrace your own special role instead of trying to do his too!

  2. The Lord has blessed me in so many ways. I am continually thankful for being able to be with my sweet children every day. I get to be the one to snuggle them all day and teach them, it’s wonderful!

    I’ve heard many mothers excuse their participation in the daily workforce by saying that they would make terrible stay at home mothers or that their children love school (daycare) so all is well. They don’t think that God’s ways are for their own good too, not just their children’s. I’ve often thought of how God is refining me by my role in the house. I am definitely being stretched with learning patience and to love more deeply all day everyday.

    Women will say that their school/daycare does a better job of teaching (loving/entertaining) their kids than they are able to do. If God didn’t care about developing us mothers as his children through motherhood (for those who are mothers of course) than He could have only allowed certain women to be mothers. There are definitely women out there who are better mothers than me but God still loves me and wants me to continue to develop my love for Him and others through the role He gave me as a mother. God has not asked me to turn my children over to His approved professional mothers (you, Michele Duggar, Debi Pearl, etc.) But that is the lie the world believes and perpetuates. They say professionals are the way to go. Turn your kids over to world approved and credentialed teachers everyday for their development. All lies.

    1. Unfortunately, it seems most mothers don’t want to be home full time with their children and I don’t think it’s any different today than it’s always been or else God wouldn’t have commanded for older women to teach the young women to love their children and be keepers at home. Our natural inclination is towards selfishness and pursuing pleasure instead of selflessness and giving our lives away. Your children are blessed by having you as their mother!

  3. Perhaps I haven’t met those women who don’t naturally love their children, but I think they are in the minority. I can honestly say most women I know and me included, loves their children fiercely from the minute they were conceived and it only grew from there. Whether they are working moms or SAHMs, every woman I know works diligently in everything because of their love for their husbands and their children. I know there are a wide range of experiences, so I don’t doubt that there are those who need to be taught to love more, but I think those are the exception than the rule.

    1. You do know that there are over a million babies brutally murdered in their mothers’ womb each year, don’t you? This is not loving their children. Many women leave their children in daycare all day long because they say they couldn’t be home with their children all day long. This is not loving their children. All of God’s commands are for very good reasons including having older women teach the young women to love their children and be keepers at home.

      1. My family and I live in new york state and have been mourning the passing of our governors Abortion bill. As if the allowance of any abortion at all was bad enough. Now the bill is Allowing full term abortion for any reason and allowing any medical professional to perform abortion. Also taking abortion out of the criminal code. The love of many sure has waxed cold. It sickens me everytime I think of this. How can someone deny that an unborn baby is a life that has value?! It saddens me so much. I am ashamed of this “great state of new york” Its such great evil.

  4. Thank you, Lori, for another encouraging post. I enjoy teaching younger women Biblical womanhood; one way is through forwarding these wonderful posts to them. I am praying for your ministry.🙂

  5. Thank you Lori. I have 2 children who go to a wonderful school (I can’t homeschool) I volunteer in my community. My husband is amazing, and helps often (he cooks amazing cookies😁) What more could I ask for?

  6. Having spent 12 yrs of my life learning and practicing as a physical therapist before staying home with my children, I would say that being a mother and learning all I can for their health and well-being is just as intellectually challenging, so I don’t think we sacrifice intellectually as stay-at-home mothers/wives unless we choose to do this. Teaching our children can be intellectually challenging and interesting, too. I agree that when we sacrifice our wills to love our families, we end up being the winners, too.

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