Is it sinful for married Christian couples to decide they are not going to have children if there are no medical or health problems? Yes, I believe that it definitely is sinful since God commands young women to “marry, bear children, and guide the home” (1 Timothy 5:14). Therefore, if they intentionally decide not to have children, they are disobeying this command. God also commanded His children to be fruitful and multiply and tells us that a man who has a quiverful is blessed. Before birth control, all Christian couples who were able to have children had children and the Church taught against birth control for many years after it became available in America. The Church clearly knew that children were a blessing and to be treasured as such.
Some don’t believe it’s a sin if Christian couples don’t have children. My question to them would be: Is it okay for all Christian couples to not have children then? (No one has answered me with a yes or no on this one when I’ve asked.) Of course it’s not okay for all Christian couples to not have children when one of the main reasons God gives for getting married is to be one flesh and out of becoming one flesh, children are conceived. God is the One who created sex and it is good when saved only for the marriage bed to bring pleasure and to bear children.
The only way that married couples can decide to permanently not have children is to use birth control or abstain completely (which is not biblical according to 1 Corinthians 7:5). Please study the roots of birth control and the desire to eliminate the black population. (Study specifically Margaret Sanger) Hint: birth control has evil roots and is not from God. Birth control has eventually led to the slaughtering of millions of unborn babies and the devaluing of children’s lives. Many mothers don’t even want to raise their own children anymore. They prefer their careers instead.
God’s will for most believers is marriage, sex, and children. They all go together and are intertwined. He created them all and they are good. Divorcing sex from children has been catastrophic for our culture. Birth control gave way to sex anytime with anyone and couples deciding to not have children or having children out of wedlock. God’s formula is marriage + sex = children, but many in our culture, even Christians unfortunately, don’t understand the value of children in God’s economy. Many put off having children or decide not to have children.
We, as believers in Jesus Christ, should fully support accepting children into our families. They are gifts and blessings. One of God’s purposes is for us to raise godly offspring. Sex should never be divorced from bearing children. Yes, child bearing is difficult but we are not promised an easy life without suffering. Our lives here on this planet are short and need to be lived to bring God glory. Bearing and raising children for Him bring Him glory.
Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.
*If you have never read the book The Way Home by Mary Pride, I encourage you to read it!