Taking a Road Less Traveled

Taking a Road Less Traveled

Written By Emily at Blessed Homemaking

Dear Mothers at Home,

In our current times, we must be aware that this road we have chosen–the path to raise our daughters to be homemakers–is a road less traveled. Many years ago, it was common, and normal, to raise daughters to be keepers at home. The expectation was not that your daughters would be going off to college when they finished their other schooling. The assumption was not that they would need, or even want, to go out and obtain employment away from their families. It was understood that daughters should be, and would be, kept under the sheltering influence of their parents until they were married and then went to be in their husband’s home.

But since the influx of feminism into our culture, and sadly even the Church, we are now met with the questions for our dear daughters, “What is she going to be when she grows up?” “Where is she going to college and what career has she chosen?” We may feel pressured to succumb to these common inquiries and feel coerced to go with the flow of modern culture. We may feel a tinge of guilt. “Am I holding my daughter back by raising her to be a homemaker?”

But we must, as with all things, return to Scripture. What does the Bible say? We know from Titus 2:3-5, that one of our duties as women is to be keepers at home. This is not a “cultural” thing that only applied “back then.” It is just as relevant today as the other virtues listed in those verses. 1 Timothy 5:14 also exhorts the younger women: “I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.”

Along with our other spiritual armor, we must take up the shield of faith every day, and remember that we are taking a road less traveled. We will face opposition. We must expect it and be ready for it. We must not take the questions and criticism to heart, but remember that we are doing what God wants us to do. We must stand strong for the principles in God’s Word and not falter under pressure. And also, we must remember that we are to be a light shining in the darkness for others. Our very example and stance may encourage others in the Church to do the same, and to realize that there is a better path for daughters than careers and college. Take heart, dear ladies, for the Lord is on our side.

Thus saith the LORD, Stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask for the old paths, where is the good way, and walk therein, and ye shall find rest for your souls.
Jeremiah 6:16

16 thoughts on “Taking a Road Less Traveled

  1. The insane pressure to be a perfect family woman, and also have a high powered career is a set up for failure! One has to give, either your career, or your dedication to family… If you choose a career over your own children, you’re being incredibly selfish, to raise them with sub-par devotion and parenting! If the “empowered” woman is the one who is the workaholic, gets all the promotions, raises and awards, yet raises children who never see mommy except to drop off and pick up from daycare, and become latch key kids, then you FAILED as a decent parent and human being!!! Yet, radical feminism teachers women and girls this is the life to live, one where you care more about yourself and your own pleasures than anyone else, yet a man has to serve and be the help meet! Motherhood and family will be far more valuable to you in your old age, as you are replaceable in your careers, ladies, but a well raised family will cherish you forever. The sad epidemic of elder abuse and neglect parallels the neglect of children. Stuffed away for other’s convenience, because the children were raised you can just out away and ignore those who inconvenience you. Well people, karma bites back. You reap what you sow….

        1. The definition of karma: “(in Hinduism and Buddhism) the sum of a person’s actions in this and previous states of existence, viewed as deciding their fate in future existences.” I don’t want to have anything to do with Hinduism and Buddhism. Are you are believer in Jesus Christ, A Lady of Reason? You do have a lot of wisdom but I was just curious.

          1. Not really… I hope you’d keep an open mind knowing that, I have other reasons for my agreement with you on a lot of your posts! I enjoy what you have to say, and agree you are right in a lot of it. I just don’t bring religion in as a factor into it for myself.

  2. Lori, what is your take on a young married woman who hasn’t had children yet..do you think it’s ok for them to work outside of the home until they have children?

      1. Thank you, Lori! I will read it. My younger daughter recently got married and has a fulltime job. She has enjoyed being a wife so far! It brings joy to me to see her taking care of her home and husband but right now is working. She plans to stay home (his decision for her) when they have children. I appreciate your posts!

  3. The problem with married women continuing to work outside the home is that so many women ‘delay’ motherhood in favour of their career.

    A woman’s priority in preparation for marriage and definitely from her wedding day onwards should be her husband, home and family. Not career.

    To ‘delay’ is also a euphemism for the sin of not trusting God in openness to life in her womb.

  4. Hey, Lori. I’m a long time lurker of this blog but a first time commenter.

    I am 24 years old, unmarried and childless. I work from home. I live in a rural area so housing is quite cheap but still barely affordable for one income.

    I was wondering what your thoughts were on women who work from home?

  5. I can’t wait to stay at home and just take care of the house. Unfortunately, I had to go to college and am currently getting my PhD in Biochemical Pharmacology. I dislike the program. It’s very difficult and time consuming and when I finish I will just be staying at home and taking care of the home. I will not use this degree in anyway. I’ve been in this program for 6 years and my committee has approved my dissertation chapters. I should have quit in my second year and/or left with my masters. What a waste of 6 years. I feel both women and men should avoid the PhD. It is a waste of anyones time. Especially for a woman who just wants to take care of the home.

    1. Similarly, I am now 26 years old. I feel like I’ve done my husband and my (potential) family a disservice by waiting so long to have kids. I should have had them when I was 23 but I feel as though I’m entering into “geriatric” pregnancy years at age 26. It also seems as though I’m not able to conceive. I believe it’s because of stress from the PhD.

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