Mothers are Happier as Homemakers. Surprise!

Mothers are Happier as Homemakers. Surprise!

There was a time when the prophet Elijah was grief-stricken and thought he was the only one who worshiped the one true God. “Lord, they have killed thy prophets, and digged down thine altars; and I am left alone, and they seek my life” (Romans 11:3). How did God respond to him? “I have reserved to myself seven thousand men, who have not bowed the knee to the image of Baal” (Romans 11:4). There will ALWAYS be a remnant, women. “Even so then at this present time also there is a remnant according to the election of grace” (Romans 11:5) and it’s always a time of rejoicing when we remind ourselves of this fact!

There was an article written on the Daily Wire that asked, “Are Mothers Happier Being Homemakers or Working Full Time?” which stated, “Despite the onslaught of propaganda telling young girls otherwise, a recent research paper distilling data from over 30 European countries concluded that mothers find homemaking preferable to working full-time.”

Many women feel very alone in being full-time homemakers and mothers. They don’t have many, if any, friends. The homes in their neighborhoods sit empty all day long while they alone are busy in their homes raising their children.

While reading the comments on Ben Shapiro’s Facebook page where he shared this article, you will definitely see a remnant who values the things that God values. Yes, I will share a few negative comments as well.

Here is the most popular comment with close to 3,000 likes written by Marsha: “I would have killed to have the traditional family. Father working. Mother at home raising the children and keeping the household intact. Clean house. Home-made meals. Children taken care of by a mother and not a babysitter. This is the way it was supposed to be before women’s liberation became popular and ruined everything.” (A hearty amen!)

 Dean: “The death of the nuclear family is a major reason why there is so much confusion and also crime. In my opinion, it is women who choose to be stay-at-home moms who have a very fulfilling life taking care of their family.” (I love to see men chip in with wisdom!)

Maria: “I have just come to a realization that I am fine concentrating 100% on my kids, my husband, and running my home as my ‘career’ at the moment. I tried it the other way and worked outside of the home but there was never any balance. Either the kids and the household lacks attention or it’s going to be your career or profession that you’re in. I have chosen my kids, husband, and our home full time. Now my situation could be different because I have five kids and maybe someone can do it if they have one maybe even two kids but I think that would be difficult enough and something’s always going to be lacking your full attention.”

Natalie: “Depends on how a woman defines happiness. If she’s materialistic and wants things, it’s a job. If it’s nurturing and watching your children grow and develop, it’s a homemaker. It’s really dependent upon the woman’s values.” (Of course, she got nailed by the feminists who read her comment who value their own happiness over what is best for their children.)

Abigail: “Loved staying home and raising our babies. We went without a lot. I invented refrigerator soup. That’s when you take bits and pieces from the fridge and make soup. Once, we had one catfish fillet to feed all five of us. It made great soup! Happiest days of my life: raising three kids on no money, but loads of love! The kids are gone, but the love remains…” (Her family was blessed!)

Monica: “I have done both, and can say with great conviction that I was happier staying home with my kids. I hate working outside the home. I stayed at home when my older two were younger, but had to work when my youngest was younger. I feel like I’ve missed out on so much of her life. It makes me sad….” (I missed out on the first two years of my oldest daughter’s life and will always regret this.)

Lisa: “I would be happier (and am) working full time. I was not meant to be a mom even though I am. I need the break from my kid. But I would like it if one parent could stay home. I think a lot of problems in the world are caused by both parents working.” (Yes, Lisa, you are the one that God has called to be home full time and you were created to be a mom since you have children.)

Mona: “I loved being a wife, mother, caregiver, seamstress, lover, nurse, teacher and cook. I think my children benefited from me always being there for them. They have grown into parents themselves and make sacrifices for their children as I did.” (They absolutely benefited!)

Linda: “I always wanted to be a stay at home mother and wife. But feminism has forced women into the workplace (financially), and shamed them if they did decide to stay at home. Pretty sad that the ‘be who you want to be’ feminists don’t really mean what they say. You fit in their ‘box’ or you’re unacceptable. That and women are also forced by men that decided it was easier on them if the women worked. Just saying….” (She nailed it with this one, sadly.)

Stephen: “It’s not that they are happier being stay-at-home moms, working full-time, or doing a combination of both lifestyles. It’s a cultural war that has made it not honorable for women to want to stay home and raise children. Maybe I’m an on old fashioned misogynist but I can’t think of anything more honorable than a mother being a mother raising strong well-adjusted children.” (No, Stephen, you are not an “old fashioned misogynist.” You are a wise man who wrote truth.)

Melissa: “Bull – Every woman is different. Some enjoy being stay at home mothers – finding fulfillment that way. However, I know that I was not happy staying home full time- was bored out of my mind and felt like I was cut off from the rest of the world. I also had problems with not having my ‘own’ money. Money I didn’t have to feel guilty about spending. Guess I’m too independent.” (This is why God has commanded that older women teach the young women to love their children and be keepers at home since He knows that many will rebel against this and live their lives selfishly for themselves instead of what is best for their families.)

Lizzie: “I tried being a SAHM and hated every minute of it. I’m a better mom, wife, and all around person when I work! So to the the people who say “I’ve never met a mom who didn’t enjoy being a homemaker overall…’ maybe you should get out more.” (This is a make believe world she is living in if she thinks that she’s a better wife and mother by being away from her home and children all day long.  God is the one who created her to be a keeper at home regardless of what she wants.)

Tara: “Everything isn’t always about being happy in life and that’s why so many people are depressed. They’re fed this lie that every woman is supposed to have white teeth, no grey hair, be perfectly toned and have amazing clothes. That’s not what life is all about. This is an illusion the media has fed us over and over again. Life is a struggle with some happiness thrown in. It’s about what’s right and raising your own children and doing your own housework instead of letting someone else do it for you and is the most important job for a woman IMO. Yes it might not be rainbows and unicorns most of the time but it’s the way it’s supposed to be for you & your children.” (Amen, but happiness is a choice and as believers in Jesus Christ, we should choose to be happy; for happy is that people, whose God is the LORD! – Psalm 144:15)

He maketh the barren woman to keep house, and to be a joyful mother of children. Praise ye the LORD.
Psalm 113:9

10 thoughts on “Mothers are Happier as Homemakers. Surprise!

  1. Many people, even Christians, ask me what I want to do after my children have grown up, as if I am waiting for my life to begin, as if my life is on hold as long as I am a SAHM. They give me puzzled looks when I say I hope to continue caring for my children and husband and having babies if God would bless me with more! And then I also say that I want to be available to care for aging parents. I’m very happy and satisfied where I am and I don’t feel a need to go back to school and get a degree or go back into the workforce! My mother was a SAHM and even though I often express my gratitude to her, she often feels unfulfilled because society tells women they are unfulfilled and have achieved nothing if they don’t have their own career. My mother was always available for us, never rushed, took us to the park when we were little, knew all of our friends well, and cooked dinner every night (and we always ate together as a family). All her children are believers and married to believers. The generation of women she belongs to was the first generation of women to enter the workforce en masse so she often feels lacking when she compares herself to her peers. The feminist movement truly bred discontent and unhappiness among women—among both the career women who struggle to maintain a career while caring for their families and homemakers who feel unfulfilled for not having careers.

    1. You’re so right but we need to keep going back to our instructional booklet written by our Creator and know that being home with our children is exactly where He has called us to be. It’s perfect for us!

  2. Our Prime Minister just announced yesterday that she is pregnant, due in July, and her partner is going to be primary caregiver for the baby. Our parliament is a very baby-friendly place, with women breastfeeding during debates etc. But my first thought was how hard it is going to be for our Prime Minister to have just 6 weeks at home with her baby, then go back to work running a country. I’m so glad I am not in her shoes as there is no way I could do it!

    I had to work when I had my first 3 babies, but I got to stay at home with my last one, right up until he was 5 and started school and I loved it 🙂

  3. I did the combo of motherhood and working full time. It is impossible to have the proper balance between household duties, tending to the husband’s needs, and the children’s needs. Everyone suffered, sadly. Even after returning to the workplace part time after giving birth to my 3rd child, there still wasn’t any balance. So, my husband and I agreed that it was time to come home full time. Of course, being a mother isn’t always the easiest thing in the world, but there is such joy knowing that we are living in obedience to our Father’s Word. He alone gives me the strength each day to do all the tasks that I need to get done. It’s not about pride or feeling burdened. My husband and children are all less stressed and feel much more loved. Thank you Lori for being committed to showing Truth!!

  4. Thanks for this. I was a zombie when I worked a full time job. We finally got me back home when our son was 3. We have never regretted it. We have raised 3 kids now, and we are so glad we made a traditional home a priority. The Lord really started to bless us financially when we had me quit work. I have been made fun of and teased by my own extended family, I just chalk it up to jealousy. The women doing the put downs are all now unhealthy and unhappy in many ways. Thanks for telling the truth.

  5. My future Christian wife will NEVER work a day in her life. She will be homemaker even when the kids are married and building their own lives. I can’t bear the thought of her working outside of the home. I want us to spend as much time together as possible, which many couples don’t get. I will be really happy if she sets up some kind of home business, or gets a new hobby, or plants a garden. Homemakers aren’t dumb, they are very smart, just because she doesn’t have a college degree, doesn’t mean she is stupid.
    And if my wife and me have daughters, we will raise them to be homemakers also. Too many fathers help their daughters get a college degree, but not help them get a husband. Any father should know that most important thing (other than God) for his little girl is a man who will take care of her. I will support my daughters till the day they get married. And if their husband has financial issues, I will gladly help him. As a father, I know I have no right to tell him if my daughter should work outside of home or not (cause he’s the man of that home), but I hope he makes the right decision.

    As a good Christian man, all I want for my girls: wife, and my daughters is to raise lots of bundles of joy for the Glory of God and know that a wife and a mother is the greatest calling for a woman.

    I would like to thank all the homemakers out there, you all are the TRUE backbone of society. Any real Christian man would want a homemaker rather than a career woman, don’t let society or family tell you what to do, let the Bible show you the way of how to be a godly woman. Don’t fall into feminism.

    1. Vlad, men like you are one in a million. God will give you the desire of your heart. Praise God you have such a solid, Biblical understanding of what a husband should be. It is exciting to realize that there is still hope for this fallen world in men like you marrying a God-fearing young lady one day and passing all your Biblical values to your children. Continue to fear God and all will be well.

  6. While this post is from a year ago, I just wanted to share that your last scripture gave me a lot of hope. I am a millenial who came of age in a faith community that taught me (and other young girls) that I had to go to college and get a career because I can’t rely on a man to care for me and I have to situate myself to payback my parents (with tangible resources) for them having raised me. I am African American, and unfortunately we struggle with deliverance from the generational curse of fatherless homes. My grandmother, who later became a prominent role model in my childhood church, found herself a working single mom of four after her husband committed desertion. In my teens, I had this big secret hope to be a wife and homemaker, but when I told my family about how I didn’t want to go to college I was informed that I was going against God and wasting my talent. I made some weighty compromises under this advisement, and now have more student debt than I can manage. It now feels like under this great financial burden the initial dream that was placed on my heart can no longer be fulfilled. I have repented, prayed, and searched the scriptures a lot on this matter. Psalms 113:9 reminded me of how powerful and faithful God is to put me back on His path.

  7. What a great post . I
    I have been a homemaker for 20 years now and still feel that I need a daily dose of encouragement in this calling. I plan to visit your site for encouragement. Blessings from California. p.s Ladies, be encouraged in your role as homemakers, you are doing it for God and your family, you will NOT regret it.

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