“The Bible does not support the idea of a stay at home mother; it’s unbiblical. There were no stay at home moms in the Bible; that’s laziness. The proverbs lady can be seen operating a business and earning money. She seeks wool and flax and works willingly. She sees her merchandise is good, meaning what she produces and sells. That’s why she’s known well at the gates of the city. She also has money to give to the poor. She has money to purchase a land, and to purchase food. From where does she get it, from her husband? Does it say the husband givers her money or does it say she earns it herself? So a transformed wife the Bible supports a working woman, but a stay at home wife or mom has no biblical support. The husband is not to be the soles provider in the household.”

This is a comment I received on my Facebook page from a man who has become feminized and it’s amazing how many believe what he wrote. It’s not until recently that anyone believed this but now men and women have been led to believe these untruths.

“The Bible does not support the idea of a stay at home mother; it’s unbiblical. There were no stay at home moms in the Bible, that’s laziness.” There are verses that tell women to stay at home. Older women are to teach the younger women to be “keepers at home” (Titus 2:5). “I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully” (1 Timothy 5:14). “He makes the barren woman to keep house, and to be a joyful mother of children” (Psalm 113:9). “She looks well to the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness” (Proverbs 31:27). Can you show me one verse where a woman left the home for hours every day, her children with strangers (daycare), or worked for a boss?

“The proverbs lady can be seen operating a business and earning money. She seeks wool and flax and works willingly. She sees her merchandise is good, meaning what she produces and sells.” She didn’t operate a business. She made sashes in her home, probably with her daughters at her side, and sold them to the merchants who passed by. There were no factories back then. She worked willingly in her home and planted a small vineyard with her children, so she could use the grapes to make wine, medicine, and give some to the poor.

“That’s why she’s known well at the gates of the city.” No,“her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land.”

“She also has money to give to the poor.” It doesn’t say anything about her giving her money to the poor. “She stretches out her hand to the poor; yea, she reaches forth her hands to the needy” (Proverbs 31:20). She helps them in any way she can but it doesn’t say how. She probably cooked food for them; sheltered them when they needed a home; helped them when they were sick.

“She has money to purchase a land, and to purchase food. From where does she get it, from her husband? Does it say the husband gives her money or does it say she earns it herself?” She earns some money to buy a little piece of land but I am sure her husband is the main provider since her job is to look “well to the ways of her household…Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her” (Proverbs 31:27, 28). She is known for looking well to the ways of her household, not a job and providing for her family. She is busy at and around her home. It’s not her boss and coworkers who rise up to bless and praise her. No, it is her children.

“So a transformed wife, the Bible supports a working woman, but a stay at home wife or mom has no biblical support. The husband is not to be the soles provider in the household.” God told Adam, not Eve: Then to Adam He said, “Because you have listened to the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree about which I commanded you, saying, ‘You shall not eat from it’; Cursed is the ground because of you; In toil you will eat of it all the days of your life…By the sweat of your face you will eat bread” (Genesis 3:17-19).

Paul specifically writing to men: “But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel” (1 Timothy 5:8). “But if any widow have children or nephews, let them learn first to shew piety at home, and to requite their parents: for that is good and acceptable before God” (1 Timothy 5:4). The Apostle Paul specifically said “nephews” not nieces and children which would include the husbands of the daughters.

What are older widows’ supposed to do with their lives? Are they supposed to have careers? “Well reported of for good works; if she have brought up children, if she have lodged strangers, if she have washed the saints’ feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she have diligently followed every good work” (1 Timothy 5:10) and teach the younger women (Titus 2:3-5). I don’t see ONE command for a woman to be the provider and work away from her home. Not one.