Written by William Gouge V @William_Gouge_X on X in response to a video Lila Rose made.

I never thought I’d ever agree or repost a Lila Rose clip, but here we are.

My thoughts: First, this guy knocks it out of the park (watch the video). Christianity needs to get back to the biblical model of courting and the traditional Christian (and biblical) household codes. Ninety-nine percent of postmodern Christians have zero understanding of biblical marriage, or its intended purpose (and how it’s supposed to mirror the relationship of Christ and the Church). They all follow the pagan world and its views on love and dating today, which they learn from Disney at a young age, up to the pagan Romance movies and novels they digest.

Second, while Lila (and some women) may find what he is saying to be true in their spirit, almost all modern Christian women today are infested with feminism down to their bone marrow and will run for the hills if you continue down the traditional biblical roles of men and women. The second you try to teach modern Christian women the truth of God’s Word (Ephesians 5 and 1 Peter 3) that they are to submit to their husbands, “AS the church submits to Christ in EVERYTHING, as you submit to the Lord, without a word of argument, even when you think he’s wrong, with a chaste and deferential demeanor, accompanied by fear (of your husband’s authority over you as your Head),” they will screech to the Heavens. “Get back to courting? Sure, that sounds romantic, just like Pride and Prejudice. I can get on board with that!” but “Submit to my imperfect husband in everything, as unto the Lord, no way! You narcissist control freak! That’s abusive to women.” Haha

The second you start teaching modern Christian women “those” biblical truths, and how we are to raise daughters to be wives, mothers, homemakers, and home-centered (NOT career oriented like Lila!) and that father’s need to protect the purity of their daughters at all cost until a husband is found to take over her protection and provision, and stop sending them off to colleges outside your covering and having them seduced and deflowered by seducing men. That’s a biblical bridge too far for these “conservative” Christian female influencers.

They want to decry modern feminism and pull back the reins a little bit on modern dysfunction, but only to 1980s Christian marriages. 1780s Christian marriages are a bridge too far for them. They still want their Women’s suffrage, independence, no-fault divorce, and ability to run around in their college years and “experience life” before settling down and heaping that emotional damage and baggage onto a godly husband from church.

There are a hundred changes that need to be made to Christian dating and marriages. The modern view in almost all churches on this topic is demonic, antichrist, anti-biblical, and destroying the Western church. You’re supposed to marry a godly spouse to create a miniature godly kingdom in your home, mirroring the church and Christ. It’s not about romance. It’s not all about you. It’s not about your happiness. It’s not about finding “the One.” It’s about Kingdom building for God, putting the household first, having lots of children, and raising them in the fear and admonition of the Lord through homeschooling. They don’t even teach the difference between Agape and Eros love anymore in church, and how Eros is never even mentioned in the Bible.

So many more things to consider and discuss on this topic, but a vast majority of modern Christian marriages are unbiblical train wrecks today because we’ve rejected the traditional biblical patriarchy approach and modeled Christian marriages after the pagans. Now, professing Christians divorce at the same rate as the pagans. Who would have guessed it? When you reject God’s ways and do it your own way, you’re bound for failure.

If you are reading this and absolutely confused about what I’m talking about, do yourself a favor, buy the three marriage books below (absolutely theological and doctrinal approaches to marriage that were the Gold standard in teaching on the subject of marriage and child rearing for hundreds of years until the feminists conquered and overtook the church in the 1960s) and compare the biblical approach in these books to the modern dumpsterfire pagan advice given in modern Christian marriage books today. It will save your marriage if you do it God’s way.

William Gouge – Of Domestical Duties

Richard Baxter – The Godly Home

Daniel Rogers – Matrimonial Honor

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Genesis 2:24

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