Are You a Foolish or a Wise Woman?
In James 3:14-17, we are clearly shown what a foolish and wise woman looks like. Unfortunately, there are many foolish women in our world. They don’t know God nor do they want to worship Him. They want to be their own god, make up their own rules, and live life as they please. They will even twist scripture so they can do what they want instead of obey God.
“But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth. This wisdom descendeth not from above, but is earthly, sensual, devilish. For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.”
Foolish women have “bitter envying” as James refers to it. When I show a picture of my bathtub on Instagram, they will comment, “I sure can’t afford a bathtub like that!” There is a ton of bitter envying among women today. “They lust and have not.” This is why God commands that we be content with such things as we have. If you have bitter envying over someone else’s looks, weight, husband, home, health, or even their bathtub, you are a foolish woman.
Foolish women cause “strife.” They enjoy slandering others and causing contention among people. There is little peace in their homes. They tear down their homes with their own hands by insisting on being right and getting their own way. They refuse to live in submission to their husband’s leadership but instead, try to forcefully take control.
Foolish women are “earthly.” Earthly pertains to things of this earth and includes things that are vile and mean. They are of the worldly kingdom and not the heavenly kingdom so they only live for the here and now and what they can get for themselves. Their “glory is in their shame” (Philippians 3:19). They store their treasures on earth instead of in heaven. They are friends of the world and enemies of God. They dress and act in a way that pleases themselves, not the Lord.
Foolish women are “sensual.” They are “devoted to the gratification of sense; given to the indulgence of the appetites” according to the 1828 Webster Dictionary. They give into all of their appetites regardless of the harm they do to themselves and others. They dress sexy and turn other wives’ husbands on. They give into their gluttony, alcoholism, and fornication while think nothing of it.
Foolish women are devilish. “Partaking of the qualities of the devil; diabolical; very evil and mischievous; malicious.” They are not the kind of women you want to be around because they enjoy causing destruction. They are Satan’s agents and doing his work which is characteristic of Jezebel in the Bible.
Foolish women cause “confusion and every evil work.” Do you want to know why our culture is in such a mess? Foolish women have destroyed the family by not being content in the role that the Lord gave them but instead sought after men’s roles, thus destroying marriages and children. This has caused confusion on every level in our culture from the government down to the family. Children are being taught they can decide what sex they want to be! I am not sure what can be more confusing and evil than this.
Wise women are pure, peaceable, gentle, easy to be entreated, full of mercy and good fruits without partiality, without hypocrisy, and humble (James 3:17). “Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies” (Proverbs 31:10). Wise women like this are rare indeed. They abstain from all appearance of evil. They rid their homes of it. They pursue peace with all men. They are gentle with people knowing that we all have struggles thus showers mercy and grace upon them.
They aren’t leaders or teachers in the churches. No, they are quiet and learn in all submission. They dress modestly and adorn themselves with good works and in submission to their husbands. They love bearing children and raising them, if they are able, while being keepers at home. They love their God-given role and are thankful to be a woman. They have no desire to compete with or be like men. They want to be feminine women who love their Lord and Savior by obeying Him and living for Him.
Who is a wise man and endued with knowledge among you? let him shew out of a good conversation his works with meekness of wisdom.
James 3:13
17 thoughts on “Are You a Foolish or a Wise Woman?”
Foolish women are ones who buy into the lie of radical feminism and the radical Left. Lies that tell them any family is a real family, your career is more important than your kids, you have to be a man to be worth anything in life, you’re “oppressed” if you choose to be a wife and mother, you are entitled to just hook up with whoever you please, then cry rape after the fact if it doesn’t go your way…. That being empowered means being a “nasty woman” instead of a lady of elegance and grace.
I can’t imagine being around such women. I know a Christian wife who was like that and now she is divorced, initiated by her.
I hate when jokes about wives like that are told from the pulpit. Some pastors make it appear that husbands are to obey their wives and run the show. This is totally unacceptable!
No wonder there are so many Christian marriages falling apart!
Thank you Lori for another great post. Every Christian wife needs to read the scriptures above and take heed.
I had another thought after I was reading the scriptures above regarding bitter envying. I’ve seen mean spirited veiled jealous comments on a particular godly family’s blog and it’s so obvious they are jealous of this family. Even though they are anonymous, it’s almost obvious they are women because they act just like the women described in the above scriptures.
Yes, foolish women are the ones described in the Bible. May we all learn to be wise godly women and never be foolish.
I have a short poem that I have on my windowsill above my kitchen sink that helps me to remember to not be a foolish woman.
“Root them out, get them gone;
All unwanted features that to me belong.
Envy, jealousy, malice and pride;
They should never in my heart abide.”
-author unknown
America is full of foolish women. 70% of single women vote Democrat, and the majority of married women do too. All Democrats are going to hell, unless they repent. They openly support abortion, pornography, and homosexuality, which are all abominations. Many women are deceived like Eve, and it is great that there are Godly women like Lori, and many of the commenters on her blog.
I am not sure it can be biblically backed up that “all Democrats are going to hell”. Each person falls far short of the glory of God, regardless of party affiliation. Anyone who does not trust in Christ will go to hell. There are absolutely views that espoused by many democrats that are abominable and of course if someone isn’t saved by Christ then they are going to hell. But, being a Democrat and being saved by Christ are not mutually exclusive. I know people who may be registered Democrats that don’t necessarily believe in abortion or pornography, homosexuality, etc. Many are Democrats based on how they view the economy and the free market. A Democrat is a political view as is republican, and neither affiliation saves a person. I would be interested to hear Lori’s thoughts on this.
I stay in prayer (or maybe I should say begging) mode these days praying for a wise, godly wives for each of our sons. Proverbs 31:10 is one of those verses that makes me fear our sons will not find these virtuous wives. They do seem to be rare. And more so with our growing feminist culture.
I can’t remember the last time I met a women, watched a TV show or the news and thought “she is truly graceful”. The only time I think of a women that is graceful is when I read your articles and read your responses.
Thank you for everything you do and thank you to all your followers that respond. It reminds me that I’m not alone in this crazy world.
Well sad Lady of Reason!
Agree. I don’t think it’s biblical at all to say or to even imply that an entire group of people is destined for hell. There are Republicans who support abortion and who view pornography and who are homosexual. Sin isn’t exclusive to any particular political party. And it isn’t Godly to hold such hatred in your heart that you would imply eternal damnation for people — souls — you don’t even know.
Common sense dictates all Democrats are hellbound. Christians are defined by following Christ, and the church has badly departed from strict teaching and has strayed into the fanciful territory of easy believism, and hyper grace. The Gospel is Law and Love combining. Every last command is for our own good. We will be judged on our works, whether they are good or evil. Revelations 20 and Ecclesiastes 12 both say this.
As such, anyone supporting the Democrat party, which supports the evils of porn, homosexuality, abortion, and Islam, are damned unless they repent. Not all Republicans are going to heaven either, but at least they largely acknowledge biblical precepts. 90% of American Christians know their hellivisions more than their Bibles. This is why so many object to being judged by the Bible, because they don’t know it. They use words like legalism, Pharisee, and judgemental to justify themselves.
We are all responsible for obeying God and following those who do as well. The Democrat party does not follow God at all, and displays its love of abortion, homosexuality, and abortion right on its party platform, unlike the Republicans. This is a problem with church discipline, which is severely lax.
I don’t know that we can determine whether someone is hellbound based on common sense. Our belief about salvation should be based on Scripture, which states that unless you confess with your mouth and believe with your hear that Jesus Christ is Lord, you will not be saved. It is true that the Democratic party holds many unbiblical views that are diametrically opposed to Scripture, but as Kelly stated this does not mean that all Democrats are hellbound. As I stated earlier, there are many Democrats who oppose abortion, homosexuality, and pornography, yet might consider themselves a Democrat because of the way they view the economy and free market.
Unless you are able to state with 100% confidence that you know the heart of every democrat and whether or not they are trusting in Christ for their salvation, I do not believe it is appropriate to make such blanket statements. If you do believe you can make such a claim, then you would be elevating your status to that of God’s who is the only one who can know the heart of man, and this would be sin.
We certainly can determine if someone is hellbound. This is why baptism is essential to salvation, as it once was. Even Luther believed in it. Without it, you have people who believe they are saved based on their emotions. So we have a very emotional church with very little discipline that is too afraid to judge, as Christ commanded in John 7:24. Judge righteous judgement.
Scripture commands confession, faith, baptism, repentance, and belief for salvation. It is a common Christian error to cherry pick the method of salvation they like and ignore the rest. 90% of the Christian leaders in America commonly make this mistake. So the flock is being fleeced. Weak leaders = weak members = weak church = weak America. America’s corruption is a direct reflection of a milquetoast church.
It absolutely does mean Democrats are all hellbound, unless they repent. Part of the reason why so many think so little of their choices is the church is so cowardly about upholding God’s commands. It doesn’t matter if you oppose homosexuality and pornography, if you vote Democrat, your party approves of that. The RNC platform, which you apparently have not read, does not. Please don’t comment on topics you haven’t researched. God says not to answer a matter before you understand it.
I know the heart is deceitful and desperately wicked, and that our fruits show our heart. So no one cares about what a person’s heart is like, God judges on actions.
The Bible judges us all, and it’s not rocket science.
If you are in fornication and you die in the act, you will be going to hell, no matter what.
Monte Cristo, I have and do read the RNC platform because I am a Republican. 🙂 So yes, I am able to comment on this topic. You are referring to Proverbs 18:3 which says “If one gives an answer before he hears, it is his folly and shame.” I appreciate your response, however there is no way you can know whether or not I have researched this issue, and the issues of each party. I have, so you are incorrect in stating that I haven’t. Additionally, the Scripture here does not state “If one gives an answer before he fully has researched and completely understands”. It simply states “hear”. No man is all knowing, only God is. Therefore, there will always be issues which we are limited in our knowledge about. Scripture does not prohibit forming opinions and engaging in respectful debate on topics of which we are not “all knowing”. Otherwise, we would not be able to have opinions on anything, because no one is all knowing except God. I do not believe that you are able to know all things, or the heart of all men (Democrats included). You would be God if you could, and I know that is not the case. 🙂
Monte Cristo I just want to point something out here. And this is very important. Baptism is NOT a part of salvation. You do not have to get baptized to BE saved. Baptism is a work that SHOULD follow after salvation takes place. Repentance towards God and faith in the Lord Jesus Christ. It is coming to the end of ones self and realizing that you are a wicked sinner and that you deserve to Go to hell! It’s a change of mind, repentance is a change of mind about sin. Before I got saved I thought nothing of all my sins I was committing, but when I came under Holy Spirit conviction that I was a sinner and all these things I was doing was disobeying God then I turned from that and turned to God by faith! Believing that Jesus died for me in the cross in my place! For the wages of sin is death the King James Bible says! Nowhere does it say that baptism saves you.
Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and thou shalt be saved and thy house. Acts 16:31 it doesn’t say believe and be baptized. We have to be careful that we are not advocating a works based salvation! It is by grace through faith! Because then it’s someyhing that man has to do when salvation is of God! Repentance is of God!
Or despisest thou the riches of his goodness and forbearance and longsuffering; not knowing that the goodness of God leadeth thee to repentance? -Romans 2:4 KJV
For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: -Ephesians 2:8 KJV
Good works should come after salvation because we have a changed mind about sin we have confessed to God that we are a sinner and ask God to save us by accepting the free gift of salvation. It’s a gift, it’s not something that you work for. We can’t do anything in and of ourselves to save ourselves. And also remember too that it’s not just about believing because the bible says
Thou believest that there is one God; thou doest well: the devils also believe, and tremble. -James 2:19 KJV
The bible also says that we are to repent and believe. Not confession faith baptism then repentance…that is backwards! Baptism is an outward profession of faith that is it. It’s showing to others that you are dead with Christ and have been born again by the spirit of God. You become born again when you get saved. Something takes place that no one can truly explain.
And saying, The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God is at hand: repent ye, and believe the gospel. -Mark 1:15 KJV
I just wanted to share that because I do not believe in a works based salvation. It’s by grace through faith plus or minus nothing. Because when you start adding all these other things then it becomes works. You can’t work your way to heaven. You can’t earn your way to heaven. You can never be good enough for heaven, even if you do get baptized and make a profession of faith. There are many who have done so in vain. Pray a prayer and you will be saved, Believe in Jesus and you will be saved…do this or that etc…
For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. -Romans 10:10 KJV
The Gospel is simple and salvation is a free gift. So please be careful when you say you have to be baptized to get saved. This is a complete heiracy!! Because then you are saying that unless you get baptized then you’re not saved. Wrong! The Holy Spirit will guide the person to baptism at some point. Baptism never saves and never will. It’s something you do in direct obedience and guiding of the Holy Spirit in you. If you are teaching and advocating that baptism saves then you need to repent of this.and it seems that you do because you stated “baptism is essential to salvation.”
Food for thought, please I do speak all of this in love. Many people are decieved into thinking that there are works added into salvation. Or that it’s just simply believe that’s it aka easy believeism. By grace through faith repentance towards God faith in Jesus Christ that is it.
I feel like such a foolish woman. I am a foolish woman. I don’t want to be. I hate myself. Where do I begin?
Begin reading the Bible every single day for this is where all wisdom comes from.