Is this true? Are you worthy of flowers, bubble baths, candles, the ring, a man who loves you as Christ loves the church, and of the entire fairytale? A woman tagged me to this on Instagram. She knew these weren’t true. Look at all of the “likes” on this post already, and the woman who created it has a large following on Instagram. She is leading many women down the wrong path yet women eat this stuff up. They love their ears tickled. “Oh, yes! I am worthy of all of these things!”
Unfortunately, there are many women telling women these untruths these days. This only sets women up for unrealistic expectations and failed marriages. We are worthy of nothing, actually. Only Jesus Christ is worthy. He is the One who makes us worthy by clothing us with Christ’s righteousness, filling us with His Spirit, and making us new creatures in Christ who can do all things through Christ who strengthens us. He then gives us everything we need for life and godliness.
How about asking women if they are making themselves worthy by becoming godly women? They certainly aren’t worthy of anything simply for existing and being women. Are they working on being kind and loving? Are they working on showing grace and forgiveness to others? Are they working on becoming feminine women of God with meek and quiet spirits? These are what younger women need to be hearing from older women, not that they are worthy of a fairytale marriage without any responsibility of their own. Plus, fairytales are imaginary. They aren’t reality. Women need to hear truth more than they need to hear anything else since truth, God’s Truth, is what transforms them.
Also, who is to determine if a man loves his wife as Christ loves the Church? Is it the wife? I did this for a long time. I expected my husband to love me regardless of how I treated him. It never worked. Until I gave up this expectation and worked on myself alone did I find our marriage improving dramatically.
These things aren’t what God commands that older women teach younger women! He commands older women to teach younger women to love and obey their husbands so they don’t blaspheme the word of God (Titus 2:3-5). He wants younger women to focus only upon their own behavior, NOT on how their husband or future husband should treat them.
Young women, before marriage, work on becoming the woman that God has called to you to be. Learn to have a quiet and meek spirit, be shamefaced (not wanting to draw attention to yourself), sober, good, discreet, chaste, hard-working, learn homemaking skills, and godliness. When you meet a man that you may be interested in for marriage, make sure he is a man who loves the Lord, loves others, and is a hard worker. These are the qualities that make for a good marriage.
If he’s not romantic and doesn’t do all of these things listed above for you, it doesn’t matter. Flowers wilt, bubble baths get cold, candles burn out, and fairytales are only in movies, but a godly man is what you need to be looking for as you work on becoming a godly woman.
Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.