Does a Wife’s Conscience Trump Her Husband’s Conscience?
A few days ago, I made a video titled The Submission of a Wife to Her Husband. Someone asked me about submitting to a husband who wants his wife and children to be vaccinated, but she doesn’t want this. I made a video about this the next day trying to answer her to the best of my ability. It wasn’t easy, since I am very much against vaccinations, but I fully support God’s Word and His will.
I shared the video I made on whether or not to submit to a husband concerning vaccinations on my Facebook page and Israel Wayne, who is a great homeschool advocate, responded this way: “No godly husband would ever ask his wife to violate her moral conscience.” He then wrote this on his own Facebook page.
Conscience is defined as “internal or self-knowledge, or judgment of right and wrong.” God’s Word is what should always steer our conscience, not our own judgment of right and wrong. God’s Word tells us that mature believers in Him can easily discern between good and evil (Hebrews 5:14). Unfortunately, most Christians aren’t mature believers whose consciences are led by Truth, so I am not sure I agree with Israel completely.
Lindsay Harold responded to Israel Wayne.
“I’m not sure I agree with this. There are times that someone’s conscience is so misguided that it would be wrong to follow it. For example, suppose the wife is pregnant with a disabled child and believes it is mercy to abort. Her conscience is telling her it is wrong to let the child have a difficult life. Yet her conscience is wrong. Very wrong. The husband would be right to tell her not to kill their child.
“I think the husband is given authority to lead the family precisely to avoid the tyranny of the wife’s conscience. We can all get various ideas in our heads about what we should do, and we might even have a strong belief that this is the right thing. But if the wife goes by what she thinks is right all the time, how is her husband to lead her when they disagree? Essentially, any time they disagree, she can invoke conscience and, magically, she gets her way. God gave the husband authority over her conscience on purpose to avoid this problem.
“Of course, I fully agree that in the vast majority of cases, when the wife has a conscientious objection, the husband should listen and take this into consideration. That’s wise leadership. If the husband commands his wife against her conscience, he will bear the blame if there is any sin. God will hold him responsible. So it’s a very serious matter. But I would definitely not say he should never require the wife to go against her conscience. God made the husband, not the wife’s conscience, the leader of the home.”
Lindsay and I are on opposite sides of the spectrum when it comes to the issue of vaccinations. She fully supports them, and I do not, but I fully agree with what she wrote to Israel Wayne.
There’s a young family that I know quite well. The husband is in the medical field and fully supports vaccination. He sees them as highly beneficial for his family. She does not, but she submits to him. She feeds her children the best that she can and prays over them when they are vaccinated. She is not going to fight or hurt her marriage over this even though her conscience says that vaccinations are wrong. Her husband’s conscience says they are right and good. She submits to his conscience.
Vaccinations aren’t a black and white issue, as I like things to be. We know robbing a bank is wrong. It’s stealing. A husband can’t make his wife sin against God. Porn is wrong. We are to flee all fornication. There are many things that are black and white issues that wives should choose to not submit to their husbands in, and they have the full backing of Scripture to support them.
Does she have to get into the car when he’s drunk and wants to drive? No. He’s doing something that is against the law. What about anal sex? All scientific research shows the harm of this, so she doesn’t need to submit. Yes, there is a lot of research on the harm of vaccinations, but then there is a lot of good research on it too. It’s a tough subject. All solid believers agree that stealing, porn, abortion, driving drunk, and anal sex are things wives should not submit to their husbands in, but they would not all agree that vaccinations are wrong. It’s not a black and white issue.
Be wise, women. Pray. Seek the Lord in wisdom. But remember, your husband’s conscience should trump your conscience IF your conscience is not being led by the Word of God, but God’s Word always trumps your husband’s requests of you.
But strong meat belongeth to them that are of full age, even those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil.
Hebrews 5:14
15 thoughts on “Does a Wife’s Conscience Trump Her Husband’s Conscience?”
I’m so glad you posted this here because every time I posted on YouTube my comments were deleted. YouTube heavily censors me.
The Lord does allow for following of conscience in certain cases. In Romans it is written, “For one believeth that he may eat all things: another, who is weak, eateth herbs. Let not him that eateth despise him that eateth not; and let not him which eateth not judge him that eateth: for God hath received him. Who art thou that judgest another man’s servant? to his own master he standeth or falleth. Yea, he shall be holden up: for God is able to make him stand.
If one argues that a wife should not be permitted to follow her conscience, I think it would be wise for the husband to show her in scripture where she is wrong and relieve her conscience. If there is no scriptural precedence, I believe it would be wise for him to allow her to follow her conscience based on the aforementioned scripture.
But when it comes to vaccinations I do think it is more than just conscience. I do not think it is right that we should “profit” off of the demise of babies. Firstly, I question the physical efficacy of anything that is created using the cells of murdered babies. Secondly, I question the spiritual understanding of anyone who purposefully profits off of the demise of babies. If anyone gains life due to the death of innocents, it is not a good thing.
M,
The verse you quoted from Romans has nothing to do with the relationship between a husband and a wife. Wives are told numerous times that they are to submit and even obey their husbands in everything, and that the husband is head over the wife. Wives could use that verse to get their way in anything they wanted if it were for them. Once married, they are to follow their husband’s leadership unless it is a clear violation of Scripture. I know many solid believers in Jesus Christ who fully support vaccinations.
What about if your husband wants a second wife? Am I to submit and obey this?
No, Christine, you are not to submit to this. God’s clear design is one man and one woman for life.
“But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; and they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” (Mark 10:6-9)
“Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.” (1 Cor. 7:2)
Lori, I did not understand your response to me. From your other teachings you have been clear on a wife not submitting to sin. As one preacher wisely said, “one man’s opinion is another man’s sin”. I advocated a husband taking the time to show his wife in scripture where she was wrong if it was a matter of sin/not sin. I did not say that a husband should submit to his wife’s opinion. Also I too know solid believers in Christ who fully support vaccines but that does not make them correct. I am not sure what point you are making to me that I failed to acknowledge in my comment. Please enlighten me.
Pope Francis stated that getting the COVID vaccination is an act of love, and I believe that it is, and that it is selfish to not get vaccinated. He is my spiritual leader. If my husband doesn’t want me to get vaccinated, I’m inclined to agree with Pope Francis. I think my husband is being selfish. I read numerous reports of unvaccinated fathers dying from COVID and leaving their wife and children to fend for themselves. This is the epitome of selfish to me.
M, Listen to the video I linked in my post that I made on this topic.
You’re wrong, Sarah. Your husband is your spiritual leader, NOT the pope. He’s is wrong on many issues these days, even clearly stated biblical issues. I am so thankful that Jesus Christ is my High Priest!
Dear Lori
Hello from the UK. A very interesting post, thank you. And your comments are much appreciated too.
As regards vaccines and vaccinations I say the matter is quite clear cut. I would like to to make the following extended comment if I may.
I have had my fair share of vaccines, including polio I believe. I used to think vaccines were of some use until, at 60 years of age in 2020, I researched properly. I changed my mind.
Covid 19 is the ‘flu, dressed up as a monster to scare people, re-branded if you will. This helps big pharma etc, control the populace and make more money.
The ‘flu is the internal toxicosis of the body, mainly via urea, partly due to metabolism of food and partly due to the many poisons in our environment which can and do enter our bodies in the air, food and water. The ‘flu cannot be transmitted to someone else as it is individual to each person.
Unless your blood is given to someone in a blood transfusion, for example.
Injecting poisons such as via vaccines merely adds to the toxicosis problem. Vaccines have never been of any use, it is merely that constant and persistent ‘advertising’ persuaded people that they were of use. The various deaths and harm have been well-documented over the decades. It is being documented now.
Vitamin D deficiency is the true pandemic due to indoor working and living away from the sunshine which, if we do the right thing things, will give us vitamin D (free!). Big pharma etc. are not keen on free as they don’t make much money out of it.
Vitamin D levels drop in the winter months, depending on latitude, due to reduced sunshine levels and as any gains in the summer months are depleted.
Lack of vitamin D causes rickets among other things. Polio was merely rickets re branded again for big pharma to make money. The polio vaccine was pointless. A good dose of vitamin D such as was once given via cod liver oil in a spoon (a disgusting taste I understand). You can now get this in capsule form of course.
Vaccines are neuro-toxins, if there is anything in them at all, as are most big pharma drugs. Therefore they are at best pointless.
If your immune system is in good order then by and large you will tolerate a poisonous vaccine. If weakened you will suffer various side effects. If your immune system is very poor you may die.
Boosting your immune system with vitamin D can go a long way to protecting you against the toxicosis, but vitamin C is very good as an anti-oxidant to help flush the toxins out of your system. By and large you should be able to gain your vitamins etc from good, untainted food. Highly processed foods will not help.
I have seen the statistics on Australia since February 2020. These show a close correlation between Covid cases and vaccination. It is abundantly clear the vaccines are causing the case numbers rise, as would be expected. Look at other statistics and you will no doubt see the same correlation. It is not rocket science.
I have done much on Covid 19 etc., here is my link to my summary. That gives access to the various other issues. I cover the statistics in the UK and USA and more recently those in Australia.
https://alphaandomegacloud.wordpress.com/covid-19-summary/
The following explains the variants. These are merely fear techniques to fool the gullible.
https://alphaandomegacloud.wordpress.com/2021/12/02/various-variants-covid-19/
The following explains the media fear campaign.
https://alphaandomegacloud.wordpress.com/2021/09/26/fear-is-the-key/
A useful website on the deceit.
https://timefortruth.blog/2022/02/01/how-the-media-lies-about-covid/
It should be noted that fear tends to ‘freeze’ the body’s immune system from functioning correctly and can stop people doing sensible things. Like avoiding having foreign bodies injected into their systems.
Finally I will say that it should be noted that ‘Vaccination’ and anagram of ‘Icon Vatican’. The pope is a fraud.
And as you so rightly say, Jesus Christ is my High Priest, the heavenly Father’s beautiful Boy who became a Man.
Whoever follows Christ, avoid vaccines like the plague; your life may depend on it.
Many thanks again.
Kind regards
Baldmichael Theresoluteprotector’sson
Please excuse the nom-de-plume, this is as much for fun as a riddle for people to solve if they wish.
I agree with you completely about vaccinations BUT my first priority must always be to stay true to God’s Word. This is what I tried to do in this post. There are many godly men who believe that vaccinations are good and beneficial for their families protection. I must take them into account as well. Strong marriages and families are far more important to the Lord than vaccinations, since our life on this earth is fleeting.
For Sarah – Your spirit is sweet in what you say. However, Catholics are only bound by the pope when he speaks ex cathedra. All else is opinion – and while it should be respected, it is not binding. Please use wisdom when taking Francis’s advice. Not all popes are good. (And I am speaking as someone who is seriously considering Catholicism. )
I am against vaccinations and fortunately, my husband is, too. It certainly makes life easier with us both being on the same page about this.
But it is untrue that vaccines are made from the cells of murdered babies. The cell lines used for medicine testing today were started more than 40 years ago. Originally, cells were used from two separate abortions that took place in the 70s and 80s. The babies were not aborted so their cells could be used in medicine; the babies were aborted for another reason. Vaccines were an indirect benefit of those two abortions, but not the reason for the abortions. The cell lines used in vaccines today are thousands of generations removed from the aborted foetal cells. Personally, I find it more morally wrong to test medicines on animals, than to use cell lines that are descended from an aborted foetus 45 years ago.
Diana, I encourage you to not even consider Catholicism. It has a lot of false beliefs. Find a solid Bible preaching church near you using this link instead!
https://tms.edu/find-a-church/
Here is a post about Catholicism:
https://www.gotquestions.org/catholicism.html
KAK, there’s more to consider than just the fetal cell lines.
You may appreciate my friend’s blog post called “Pandemic of the Aborted.” (Including the conversations in comments). I learned something new that was horrifying but important to know.
https://www.winepatch.org/blog/pandemic-of-the-aborted
To be honest, I’m not really all that interested in looking further into the issue as both my husband and I are in agreement that our minor children will not be vaccinated.
Our 17 year old daughter chose to be vaccinated so she could keep her job and our 18 year old son has chosen not to be vaccinated, as it’s not required for his job.