Jail Time for Messy Housekeepers
If a husband doesn’t do his job like he’s supposed to do, he will get fired. If a wife doesn’t do her job keeping the home clean and tidy and fix nourishing meals for her family, she should go to jail. Just kidding! The entire family suffers, however. Some women today even like to brag about their messy homes. There is no shame about it. They don’t think having a clean and tidy home is nearly as important as all the other things they are trying to accomplish.
An article tells about a situation like this. “A husband in Italy is accusing his wife of “mistreatment of family and ‘bad management of domestic affairs’ for failing to keep up with the household chores, such as cooking and cleaning. According to Italy’s penal code, the law ‘punishes whoever mistreats a person in their family or a person entrusted to them for reasons of education, care or custody.'” If convicted, she faces up to six years in jail.
Yes, I believe this is too extreme and should never take place but what is a husband supposed to do when married to a woman who rarely cleans the home and clothes or fixes meals? He suffers, this is what happens. Look at the home of this woman who is mocking this man for doing such a thing. She is another “in your face” woman that is so prevalent in our culture today. The type of women who mock God’s ways and goodness. When I read about the man wanting his wife in prison, my first thought is that I feel sorry for any man who has to live in a filthy home with no good food, especially those men who work hard to provide for their families while their wives are home all day. Yes, it’s understandable if a wife is sick or injured but not for those who are in good health.
The woman who wrote the article mentioned above said, “My therapist would think it’s a good idea to air my insecurities.” Her “insecurities” are pictures of her dirty home. Why is this good? According to the Word, we should be encouraging each other towards good works and older women are to teach the younger women to be keepers at home. “Work hard in your home, women. Keep them as clean and tidy as you can. Have your children help you as you are raising them. Fix nourishing food for your family and make your home a place of comfort, peace, and joy for your hard-working husband.” And let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds (Hebrews 10:24). If a woman showed me those pictures, this is exactly what I would tell her to do, not air out her dirty laundry for the world to see like this woman did, as if this was supposed to help her. Truth is what she needs to hear. but truth offends women today.
“Right now I’m sitting at my kitchen table, writing. The surface surrounding my laptop is strewn with crumbs, kids’ artwork, and hardened pasta-filled dishes from last night’s dinner. There are papers piled on my once-beautiful kitchen windowsill and Cheerios all over the floor.” This motivates no one to do better and just causes her to be less motivated to clean.
It’s the same as saying, “I’m such a sinner. Woe is me.” If you are a believer in Jesus Christ, no, you’re not. Christ calls you a saint and tells you that you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you! Therefore, get to work and begin having a clean and tidy home. Fix nourishing food for your family. This is your God-ordained ministry. Besides, keeping a home clean and tidy and having good food is nothing compared to what the pioneers had to do. Thank the Good Lord for all that you have and then get busy!
The soul of the sluggard desireth, and hath nothing: but the soul of the diligent shall be made fat.
Proverbs 13:4
39 thoughts on “Jail Time for Messy Housekeepers”
Hi Lori, The pioneer link did not work for me. : )
I find my stress levels rise when my home isn’t clean and tidy. During this time of year, as things get busier, there are times I have to put off cleaning for a few days and it drives me crazy. It feels like I am not doing my job and I don’t feel better until I can get it done. After all, I take pride in the fact that maintaining a clean/tidy home and cooking are my job, and I love my job!
It’s working for me now. See if it works for you, Angela.
Yes, they are our job and ” whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God” (1 Cor. 10:31) and “Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy might” (Ecc. 9:10). Keeping our homes clean and tidy should be a priority for all of us, HH!
I have made this comment here before: a husband is the only authority that has no means of physical restraint to enforce their authority. Why is that ? And, has the breakdown we now see in all other authorities any relation to this?
What could a husband do that wasn’t physical abusive, Dave? It seems their hands are tied as they helplessly watch their foolish wives tearing down their homes.
If these women are godly women, they should fear God and do what they are called to do so they aren’t blaspheming His name (Titus 2:5) and “give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully” (1 Tim. 5:14). These reasons should be enough for godly women to keep and guide their homes but in today’s messed up world, most Christian women don’t even fear God.
My first thought when reading this was that, according to law, Joseph could have put Mary away as divorced when he learned of her pregnancy; he did not do so because he was a righteous man. According to law, the Pharisees should have stoned the woman caught in adultery; Jesus called them hypocrites and extended mercy to the woman. Any man who would actually want to see his wife in jail because the house is messy (or for any reason short of her actually committing a crime), is cruel, hard-hearted and most definitely not loving his wife as Christ loved the church.
I think this woman clearly needs Flylady! Though I don’t always agree with her I’m learning from Flylady how to keep our home nice and clean. Our old house in CA was disgustingly dirty. I definitely would have gone to jail if it were against the law to have a messy house.
That lady should be ashamed. I was ashamed for her that she dared even think about putting those pictures of her house online. I have piles of dishes to do some days-like on a day we butchered a beef , or I was canning all day, but not like that. Those pictures are pictures of neglect. In the pioneer days of this country , women also got dunked for not talking nicely to her husband. I have such a burden for ladies who spend time online neglecting what really is the important things
(Just to add–I know you are using this extreme example to illustrate a point, Lori, and not endorsing prison time for lazy wives. )
That is a good question Lori, and one that I hope the church seeks to answer.
I know this is not your mission to answer this but I say it to get people thinking that something is missing. Maybe start with ‘What does any other authority do?’
The marriage relationship models the church and the church then models every other institution for man. Why, in today’s church, does the very basis for all authority have no ultimate method for control? I suggest that we have we become so entrenched in the [for a catch-all word] feminism POV that we can’t think.
As John Adams studied and noted: all western civilizations [note BTW: all Christian] have failed when women shun their modesty, ie. self-restraint. He notes it is the ‘surest barometer’ to the pending failure of a nation.
Is it any wonder every other institution in our country [law enforcement, business, schools, government, church, family…] is failing?
Here is a post I wrote last year what President John Adams said about this. It’s called, “Bikinis and Careers Have Destroyed America.”
http://lorialexander.blogspot.com/2015/06/bikinis-and-careers-have-destroyed.html
I agree Regina FlyLady has helped millions of women (including me) who needed that little bit of extra help, her way of motivating people is so loving and kind. I love her baby-steps they helped me get back on track, I love that she loves the Lord and is not ashamed to say it.
The 15 minutes at a time is so good.
Yes there is no doubt I love FlyLady she is amazing! ???
I don’t think he has ever read this part of the Bible or thought that perhaps his wife suffers from depression very badly it is so sad he didn’t think of using the money he has had to spend on lawyers on a house cleaner. That may have helped his wife more than throwing her in jail.
Very sad!
1 Corinthians 13:4-8Amplified Bible (AMP)
4 Love endures with patience and serenity, love is kind and thoughtful, and is not jealous or envious; love does not brag and is not proud or arrogant. 5 It is not rude; it is not self-seeking, it is not provoked [nor overly sensitive and easily angered]; it does not take into account a wrong endured. 6 It does not rejoice at injustice, but rejoices with the truth [when right and truth prevail]. 7 Love bears all things [regardless of what comes], believes all things [looking for the best in each one], hopes all things [remaining steadfast during difficult times], endures all things [without weakening].
8 Love never fails [it never fades nor ends]. But as for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for the gift of special knowledge, it will pass away.
Dear Lori,
I’d read about the Italian man putting his wife on trial some time ago, and thought,”good for you!”
I agree that there are special circumstances when perhaps a wife is unable to provide meals or clean their homes, but increasingly this is becoming a common issue in homes today.
I know this because my husband regularly goes to people’s homes in his job as an architect. He is no longer surprised to find an unkempt or dirty home. He must survey the rooms in the home and in the process must go into bedrooms, etc. Many times, the beds aren’t made and laundry is all over the house, kitchen is dirty, etc.
In addition, the “lady of the house” may look like she just got out of bed, and on occasion he has actually knocked on the door to have it answered by a woman wearing pajamas!
Now, he just doesn’t “turn up,” unannounced, and on each occasion an appointment is arranged with the client.
There is no sense of shame or embarrassment from these women at all, and apparently, the Scottish expression of being “House-Proud” or in other words, taking pride in the cleanliness and presentation of one’s home, however humble, does not exist for them.
Increasingly too, he finds that during appointments when he is discussing important matters where the clients are perhaps spending many thousands of pounds, he is often trying to talk over televisions blaring in the background and poorly mannered children (not babies or toddlers) creating disruption.
I feel there would be a direct correlation between the lack of cleanliness and organisation in the home, appropriate meals or lack thereof, and he children’s overall behaviour as a result.
I’ve seen “witty” sayings like “Only dull women have clean houses.” I choose to be dull in that case, but my home will be clean and my husband well fed.
Blessings,
Christine
Hi Dave. I was thinking about what you wrote all day today, and I thought that the only thing a man can do in this situation is pray. That reminded me of Ephesians 6:13; ‘Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.’
I love that the Word tells us that after we have done all, we just need to stand. God will work it out for our best. In the love chapter we are taught how to love; sometimes it is so hard to do, but God’s Word never returns to us void – it always does what it needed to do, even if it takes time. I also believe that Jesus never pushes the church (His Bride) to obey because he wants loving obedience from her, just as God wants loving obedience from a wife to her husband; it is about free will, not pressure.
How sad it is that when a wife treats her husband badly, she is also treating God badly because it is God’s precious Word that she is going against, not just her husband. Try to keep in mind that Love never fails, and in turn God never fails because He is love!
I do believe that a Godly marriage is about showing unconditional love, a pure love that seeks not its own. Jesus loves us unconditionally. He looks for the good in us, not seeking His own comfort but ours. To me this is the kind of love a husband should be aiming for in his marriage because as he is the head of the woman, so Jesus is the head of the church. Therefore, a husband’s love should mirror the love that Jesus has for the church. A husband should be continually washing his wife with the Word of God and praying without ceasing (1 Thessalonians 5:17). People often think that a lot is put on the woman to obey her husband. I think a lot more is put on the husband in the area of always washing his wife with the word and always praying for her. Anyone can obey – that is not hard if our hearts are right with God. But for a man to be consistently praying for his family, speaking God’s Word over his family, providing for his family, giving himself for his family… and the list can go on, that is much more difficult (You’re not kidding! —Antony).
After pondering this, Dave, I believe a husband should do what the Bible tells him to do, wash her with the Word. Every day, spend time reading her the Word since it is living and active and sharper than a two edged sword. The only problem is she may not want him to read the Word to her if she has a rebellious heart and refuse to listen sadly.
Vikki
So what should a husband do when he has a rebellious (stay-at-home) wife (perfectly healthy with no legitimate excuses) that refuses to keep their home clean? Should he just be forced to live in filth and squaller? Should, after he has been away from home working 10, 12, 14 hours a day to support the family, then have to come home and clean up the house too? What about their children who are also growing up in this filthy environment, does he also not have a responsibility to them? What about his responsibility before God to be the head of his household? You can call that husband “cruel, hard-hearted and … not loving” all you want but what SHOULD he do in this case because this occurs here in America too (with women who call themselves Christians) and it’s a lot more prevalent than you might think. Please provide for us the right and “loving” answer. Lots of men reading this would sure like to know.
I do too, Dorcas. It’s amazing that women, who are the weaker vessel, have so much power to destroy their marriages and families by being foolish and tearing their homes down with their own hands.
It’s the popular thing among rebellious women today. What they should be ashamed about, they flaunt as if what they are doing is good.
I just read these verses and thought of women who are like this:
“Now as Jannes and Jambres withstood Moses, so do these also resist the truth: men of corrupt minds, reprobate concerning the faith. But they shall proceed no further: for their folly shall be manifest unto all men.” (2 Tim. 3:8, 9)
I hate having a messy house. There are days when im just too tired to clean or cant physically do the work (like when i have a migraine or like today when i just had surgery yesterday). But i do make sure the dishes get into the dishwasher and the counter and tables are wiped down and clothes off the floor before i go to bed. It takes 15 minutes. And it makes me feel good about my house. Even if you are laying on the couch you can fold laundry or get up during commercial breaks to sweep or load the dishwasher.
Even if you are home with kids all day, you can do small things throughout the day to ensure you arent too exhausted to tackle clean up at the end of the day. Enlist the help of the kids. Even if its to “help” sweep or fold socks. Kids love to “help” with chores!
This is what women fail to realize. Today with all of the modern conveniences that men have invented for us, keeping a home clean does not take that much time.
Hi Trey, the greatest weapon any husband has in this situation is prayer. Prayer always works, if you are praying the Word of God over a rebellious wife. It will work because God’s Word never returns void it always accomplished what it is sent to do. Walk in love as the Bible sees love. Love even when love is the last thing you want to do, because that is how God loves us He loved us when we were in our most unworthy state in fact His love went way beyond anything that we could ever do, He sent His only begotten Son to redeem us, your prayers and love could help your wife find her redemptions in Jesus and turn her life around for the good of all in your family.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8Amplified Bible (AMP)
4 Love endures with patience and serenity, love is kind and thoughtful, and is not jealous or envious; love does not brag and is not proud or arrogant. 5 It is not rude; it is not self-seeking, it is not provoked [nor overly sensitive and easily angered]; it does not take into account a wrong endured. 6 It does not rejoice at injustice, but rejoices with the truth [when right and truth prevail]. 7 Love bears all things [regardless of what comes], believes all things [looking for the best in each one], hopes all things [remaining steadfast during difficult times], endures all things [without weakening].
8 Love never fails [it never fades nor ends].
Jilly, I think that prayer is certainly part of the answer but I don’t think it is as simple as that. If it were, there are lots of men (family’s) who would still not be suffering in this area. I believe that is applicable to a wife as her role is one of submission and she has a promise that she can win her disobedient (to the Word) husband “without a word” but it does not follow that a husband who has been given the role of headship is in the same position. No other position of authority on this earth (all authority comes from God) is structured without some way for the authority to apply some form of discipline to gain compliance.
Like Dave, I have long known in my heart that there is something missing here that is not being taught in our churches. I just do not know (exactly) what the right answer is but I can tell you that it is horrible to know that you are responsible for and will be held accountable for something that you (apparently) have no control over. I just cannot see God putting men in that position.
I think the answer (the missing piece of the puzzle for me) is what was discussed on the Always Learning blog in 2014 regarding husbands disciplining their wives. This is certainly not something I have ever heard taught in church but it appears to me to be (at least part of) what is missing. Here are some of the posts for those who have not read them.
http://lorialexander.blogspot.com/2014/01/should-husbands-ever-discipline-their.html
http://lorialexander.blogspot.com/2014/01/husbands-are-powerless-leaders.html
http://lorialexander.blogspot.com/2014/01/the-self-discipline-of-one-flesh.html
http://lorialexander.blogspot.com/2014/02/dealing-with-rebellious-wife.html
I have spend much time in thought and prayer over these posts and I am currently attempting to gently apply them to my marriage with some initial positive results. That is all I can claim for now.
There is a missing piece to the marriage puzzle that happened when the patriarchal aspects of the family disappeared. Every organization type has its flaws and the flaws of patriarchy in today’s world is that the husband has no elders to report to for how he treats his wife. God has established the Christian husband’s leadership to be informed and limited by the husband’s obedience to a higher Master in God. The husband has an obligation to be just, fair, and loving in his leadership, and this means insuring that his treatment of his wife elevates her, not making her his inferior.
The rub in modern marriage comes with who is to decide what is fair and how is a husband to lead his wife, especially a difficult or rebellious one. First, it is not the wife who gets to interpret her husband’s actions according to how she perceives he is or is not being loving. Few believe God, or a husband, is being loving when under discipline for willful disobedience or defiance. A wife in this condition often views the marriage in slanted terms, justifying and excusing her bad behaviors and poor performance as a wife.
What should happen in the church, but cannot happen in most churches because they are broken, is that older godly couples appointed by the church, who understand God’s word on the matter of a husband’s loving leadership and a wife’s willful submission, should meet with the couple that is struggling and determine if indeed the wife is stubbornly not performing in her part of the marriage out of rebellion, or lack of effort, or if the husband is being too nitpicky, which is the common complaint in these situations. Their ruling should prevail, and if rebellion is seen, they should suggest disciplinary actions.
Certainly either party is still free to behave as they will even after getting a reasonable ruling with help from the marriage pastor and his wife. An appeal of a bad ruling may be made to the elders as a whole, or an appeal that a spouse is still not willing to fulfill her reasonable responsibilities. What is lacking in our current Christian marriage system is first an understanding of God’s ways for marriage which Lori regular speaks about from God’s Word, but secondly there is no one to help arbitrate the deadlocks that occur in difficult marriages.
Too often Christian counselors are afraid to tell Christian women what they should be doing to live up to Biblical standards, or even any standard for a common marriage in fear of losing the woman, and the account, for further counseling. The moment Lori discovered that the counselor was zeroing in on her behavior and not mine, she bolted from the counseling. “I don’t think we need that anymore.” Fortunately the counseling started the process of her opening her eyes to another way of marriage and living where she could learn to accept me and not be in control.
I believe that many Christian wives already know their areas of necessary improvements as it doesn’t take much to observe a regularly messy home, an angry or moody mom, or dinner poorly done or not regularly provided. Husband and wife should agree on what roles each should play and be willing to be held accountable for achieving a reasonable standard of performance in these areas. Just as a husband cannot always bring home the bacon, so too a wife cannot always have a well-kept home or a good dinner prepared each night. The reasonable expectations established together in writing must take into account the unique aspects of the marriage; the number of kids and their ages, the wife’s work outside the home, any health issues, etc. But once those standards are set, then reasonable accountability standards should also be set alongside of them.
A wife should not get a free pass just because she is in a marriage with a loving husband. If she is consistently falling short of any reasonable standard for homemaking, and this is to be a key component of her contribution to the marriage, then barring any legitimate excuses, what she lacks in discipline, becomes her godly husband’s responsibility to help her grow up in these areas. How he helps her with this must be loving, but it is not loving to leave such a wife in a consistently messy home without trying to move her to greater personal and spiritual growth. “Hands off my life” is not a Christian or decent response to display to a husband who can consistently point out areas of failed performance.
No good boss let’s employees get away with poor quality and poor performance without consequences. And no good boss picks on his employees and demands more from them than an simple expectation of meeting the minimum standards of the job while displaying great teamwork. A wife is not an employee as she should be functioning at the partner level, not needing any supervision for her responsibilities. When one lead partner must correct and demand discipline from another the partnership is failing and she is either lazy, undisciplined or in rebellion.
Lastly, a husband can discipline his wife, just as many wives dish out inappropriate punishment to their husbands with the moods, quips and withholding sex. Any discipline a husband chooses to give should rarely be arbitrary or unilateral and such discipline usually fails. He should instead be seeking her desire for self-discipline. The spouse who needs the discipline in areas that are lacking should be asking for help and accountability in these areas. Once the accountability is in place it should be consistently followed. There should be an appeals process where either spouse can ask another older godly couple to arbitrate, instead of having the gridlock of power that often exists in marriages. If a wife is truly submissive she would only ask for such a ruling if she felt that her husband was significantly “missing the mark.” Unfortunately such a place to turn is sorely lacking in the church, mainly because many churches are following a worldly model for marriage instead of the specific Biblical model given God’s Word.
My question is, why aren’t all these issues and expectations being addressed in these Christian couples before they get married? Churches should be offering extensive premarital counseling where these things are hashed out. I find it really hard to believe that husbands just turn mean or wives turn difficult after marriage w/o that being in their hearts beforehand. I understand that during an engagement, couples are “in love” and blind to the faults of each other-which makes good premarital counseling essential-prompting each to weigh important issues, talk about expectations so that neither is w/o excuse after they get married. When I got married, we had a total of 2 sessions, which basically amounted to “God hates divorce” and that was it. Thankfully, we’d known each other our whole lives, so we knew what we were getting into, but I think there should’ve been much, much more substance-even more so if the couple was not raised in Christian homes with the benefit of witnessing a successful Christian marriage.
That was my first thought, too!
As far as I’m concerned, if a “husband” thinks it is ever acceptable to get his wife sent to prison for not doing the housework, then she is seriously better off without him! What ever happened to “husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church?”
I’m not meaning to condone the wife’s slackness here – perhaps she has been very remiss in her duties (it’s hard to tell, from the article I read) and I definitely agree that the woman is the keeper of the home and should take pride in doing it well. But jail time? Seriously??? There is something really, really wrong in a man’s head when he thinks that is an acceptable course of action.
Trey – In situations like that I would be considering a short separation. The intention would be to reconcile as soon as possible, but a separation would allow both spouses to see where there heart actually lies, and appreciate each other again. Does the husband still love and want to be with his wife? Does the wife still love and want to be with her husband? Do both spouses love God? If the answer to all those questions is “yes” a short separation is almost guaranteed to work to get both people back on track.
It worked for me (my marriage troubles were nothing to do with housework, but instead addiction issues) and now my marriage is stronger than ever. I don’t see any reason why it wouldn’t work in this situation, too.
The other thing I would be suggesting, is the possible reasons behind the wife’s negligence. Was she once an immaculate housekeeper and now changed? Or was she always hopeless? Is it an addiction problem (internet addiction, reading addiction etc.) is it depression … loneliness etc.? Does she actually have the skills and knowledge to do what is required? If not, is there anybody within the church community who could mentor/teach her?
As an afterthought, I do not believe that men will be held responsible for their wives lack of submission to them. Submission is a gift that a woman chooses to give – it is not something a man can “take” from them. As long as the husband is doing his best to lead, and is fulfilling his role and loving his wife as best he can, that is all God asks of him. A man can not force his wife to submit. Even God doesn’t force us to submit to Him – He wants us to choose to submit.
I have never understood this kind of behavior Lori, it makes no sense to me.
Jilly oxo
Cor! That was my reaction to the text and photos.
I was also shocked that this is in ‘Country Living’. The UK version of ‘Country Living’ focuses on beautiful simple interiors, and how to make our own homes welcoming and pretty. The UK version tries to inspire the reader to live in a more lovely style. (Sometimes it is all about superficial attractiveness, rather than deeper values, but it’s not a Christian magazine, so hey ho …)
When our children were small we had messy times, and the obvious consequence was that I spent a LOT of time wiping up and washing up. My first instinct was not to stop for a photograph of the detritus in my kitchen.
However, lest I should present myself as a paragon of female virtue: here is my confession. I have recently given up being an AVON lady, because AVON has started testing on animals in China. As I handed out my last brochure, I realised how much time I had given each week to what was SUPPOSED to be a manageable money-earner. It hit me that all the tasks left undone — the clutter uncleared, the homemaking lessons untaught, the mail unsorted, the sewing half-completed — could now perhaps be dealt with. My little AVON empire had left me with no time to get my house in order.
After this week, I shall have a few more precious hours, and I shall take away the lesson from this post and the ‘Country Living’ column. Now, where’s that duster?
You know, Lori, everyone gets the same allocation of time. I always joke that, “They don’t make 36-hour days where I live!” The lady who boasted about her messy home was writing an article for a magazine. I know that crafting a readable, pithy editorial text takes time and effort. So she sat in front of the mess for an hour or so, and decided to prioritise the writing of the article.
I have often wanted to write a blog, and even set up a WordPress page. But I hesitated, because it seems to me that the time taken on these beautiful online confections is time that we do not have, if we have dependent children still at home. I also wonder if our words have the credibility or weight that would be there in a book or blog from a woman who has finished with childraising and home educating.
What do you think, Lori? I have heard others say that even if you are not very experienced, you can still inspire someone else.
Ken and I mentored couples for a while before my second brain surgery and I would take the young women through Created to Be His Help Meet since I clearly knew what was important for women to know. It all helped these women and their marriages immensely!
Good for you. If women don’t have to make any money, it is good for them not to and simply focus upon the many things needed in the home with their husband and children.
I have a post coming out soon about this. Paul wrote that the “aged women” are to be the ones teaching younger women because they have raised their children and been married a long time. They also have the time because their children are no longer under their care. Yes, I agree with you!
KK, Regarding your separation suggestion above.
Matthew 19:6 – So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.
1 Cor. 7:10 – But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband.
I do allow an exception, (physical abuse) but as a rule, I do not believe in separations. I take the Bible literally and my observation of them throughout my life is that they more often than not, lead to divorce. Practically speaking, if you are trying to not fall off the edge of a cliff (divorce), taking one giant step toward the edge (separation) is not a sound strategy. I am glad that it worked out for your marriage but I think (that it did) is the exception (and Gods Grace), not the rule.
I personally would never post a photo of my home after a huge family meal and being a Mary over a Martha.
Who YOU chose- reflects-YOU. Enough said
Question, do you feel this way about all couples are just Christian couples?
I teach younger Christian women, Ash, as the Word tells us to do in Titus 2:3-5 but God’s ways are good and the best for everyone since He is our Creator.