Making Single Life Blissful

Making Single Life Blissful

There’s an article called “Artist Highlights Moments That Make Single Life Blissful.” The artist is “living her best life (along with her pup!) and loving every moment of living alone.”

Living alone means you can shed your hair and not worry about the mess. It mean binging. “Living with someone makes it hard just to let go and eat as much as we want. You want to keep up appearances and make yourself look a little more put together than you are. But when you live alone, no one is watching, so binge away!”

Living alone means plants, cuddles with your pet, being dramatic, chaos (“Our worst nightmare would have to be living AND working in the same space as a significant other.”), and dance party. “But when you live alone, you can literally let your hair down and go buck wild! Pump up the jams, jump on your bed, wiggle your booty, and have the best time. Private dance parties are all the rage in the single community.”

Living alone means “me time” (“‘me time’ is all the time”), the bed to yourself, early mornings, fewer dishes, hobbies, and reading, but you get lonely. “Like we said, living alone can get lonely too. It’s not all fun and freedom all the time. Sometimes you think of something funny that you just want to share with someone, and you realize there is no one around.”

Living alone means fewer laundry days, being gross, experimenting, pampering, and being sad. “The only thing worse than being sad is being sad and alone. Somehow the sadness seems even more overwhelming, and we can’t entirely be held responsible for the actions that may or may not follow. Smashing a phone against the wall is not unheard of.”

And it goes on. She shares more benefits of living alone, but as I was typing these things, none of the benefits can make up for the negatives: being lonely and sad. Many of the things she shared, we can do married and with children. We can have plants, cuddle with our children, be dramatic (I sure am with my grandchildren!), dance, read, and so on. There’s a reason that God tells us that He puts the lonely in families (Psalm 68:6).

Living alone is hard and lonely. I don’t think God ever intended this for women especially. They need to be under the protection of a good man, either their father, brother, uncle, or husband if they’re married. This is how it should be. Yes, there are a few benefits to living alone, but not many and the negatives far outweigh the positives. This is why God created families.

God setteth the solitary in families.
Psalm 68:6

3 thoughts on “Making Single Life Blissful

  1. Dear Lori and Friends, if i was a divorcee, i’d probably think differently about living alone. While my husband was alive, i loved him and took care of him – but a third heart attack took him.
    Anyway, am alone, and not interested in even a coffee date. As for binging? No thanks! Need to keep in reasonable shape to get things done. And forget about pajamas – wouldn’t be caught dead in a pair of those things. Bluck!

  2. Lori, have you written anywhere specifically about working and having a job while single? I’ve read all the posts about singleness I can find but not anything that addresses this specifically (what I’ve seen is encouraging pursuing marriage and motherhood which I 100% agree with!) I’m single (though I long to be a wife/mother/sahm), mid-late 20s, and struggling so much over fear that I’m in sin for working outside the home. I quit my full time job last year to go part time in efforts to be ‘less’ outside of God’s commands for women, a kind of attempt to be a homemaker while also working. While it’s been a nice break and I’ve certainly grown in my domestic skills, Im at a point where financially this is becoming foolish—I have no savings, can barely afford to cover the few (essential-car, insurance, phone, etc) bills I have. If something were to happen to my parents (who I live with, and are wonderful despite not holding the same beliefs. They expect me to work but have been patient and supportive after i went part time), I would not be able to support myself. Im becoming convicted that I’m reaching a point of falling into stubborn folly (in my refusal to work full time) rather than actually pursuing righteousness. Proverbs has much to say about prudence—I don’t feel this is prudent. I have a very good full time offer lined up, for a good Christian owned company, but I’m so afraid, near despair, that it is sin, that I’m blaspheming the word of God (Titus2:5), simply for having a job. I don’t want any of this, but…it’s Providence, and here I am. It’s so hard to find teaching on how to live (practically speaking) in a broken world where the ideal is not reality when it comes to being a single woman.

    Ps. Sorry if this has double posted, I think I mistyped my email the other day.

  3. Biblically, your father should be supporting you rather than you having to go into the workforce. There is nowhere in the Bible that commands women to be away from their homes and in the workforce. If we look at 1 Timothy 5 and how widows are to be cared for, Paul never commands that they find work to support themselves. Family, relatives, and the churches are to do this. In your case and since your father wants you to work, then you should work. You aren’t in sin. There are families who have older daughters living with them who are very productive at home. There are even ways to make money from home. The workforce is stressful. Women aren’t naturally built for it. God didn’t create us for this, but we do live in a fallen world.

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