Women gave me a hard time when I wrote that I was not a fun mother and this doesn’t matter to me since fun wasn’t important to me; teaching my children about the Lord and His ways, disciplining and training them, and nurturing them was what was important to me. This proved the point of my post which was that women today believe that being a fun mother is very important. What about a mother like me who was very sick all of my children’s growing up years? I couldn’t be a fun mother, but I decided to be a pleasant mother in spite of my pain. I learned godliness with contentment is great gain. My children watched me suffer with my faith intact. The Bible tells us to consider it all joy when we encounter various trials since they mold us more into the image of Christ.
I have a few women who comment on my blog and they are wise women. I appreciate their comments on my blog and I wanted to share their comments from my “fun” post.
Mrs. Kelley Dibble: One of the signs of this end-time is “lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God.” I would urge a mother today, whatever her mothering-season, to focus on the joys of living for God and move out from there, using the Bible as her Guide Book, Instruction Manual, Road Map.
Um, where DO you want them to go? Because I wanted mine to go to Heaven (and I still do!), I realized that the Highway to Heaven is filled with work, toil, sweat. I had to be intentional, more intentional than my own mother was. I think we can say that, you and I and other unfun moms demonstrated a love for God, mercy, others, and His Word. Those are the pleasures we should steer them toward– the wisdom from above, integrity, living above reproach, making knowledgeable choices as a result of a multitude of wise counsel. And LISTENING to their little hearts. We can do none of these unless we listen to their hearts and then coach them, mentor them if you will, aim them toward godliness and righteousness. We can fill their lives with, “Mom prayed about everything” in pleasurable ways that impact their lives forever.”
I asked my youngest daughter if I was a fun mother after all the comments I received from my other post. She answered, “No, you were too sick but I had a happy childhood.” So you see, you don’t have to be a fun mother for a child to have a happy childhood! Have you read about Jesus’ and the Apostle Paul’s life? It sure wasn’t fun but they were both full of joy because they were doing the will of the Father. Jesus is who we are to model our lives after and Paul was a great example to all of us. Their goal in life was to glorify the Father in all that they did and most of this included loving and serving others.
Lindsay Harold, another wise woman wrote, The funny thing is, some of the most unhappy people on earth are the ones who seek fun as their number one goal. Happiness isn’t something you can get by striving for it. You can get temporary pleasure by seeking fun, but lasting happiness is a by-product of a life well-lived. Teaching children self-control and to value family, faith, and good character makes them happier in the end than teaching them to seek their own immediate pleasure.
Amen! These were what were most important to me; their character and eternal souls. The Bible says to “bring them up in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord” (Ephesian 6:4), to be joyful, not complain, work heartily, hate evil and cling to what is good, walk with the wise, flee sexual immorality, and so on. I have never read any where in the Bible to make sure you are a fun mother, thankfully. If you are a fun mother, great, but make sure you are focusing on the important things like disciplining, training, and teaching them. Let the Word of God dwell in them richly for all of these have eternal value and seeking out fun does not.
If ye then be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ sitteth on the right hand of God. Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth. For ye are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God. When Christ, who is our life, shall appear, then shall ye also appear with him in glory.