Happiness is the By-Product of a Life Well-Lived

Happiness is the By-Product of a Life Well-Lived


Women gave me a hard time when I wrote that I was not a fun mother and this doesn’t matter to me since fun wasn’t important to me; teaching my children about the Lord and His ways, disciplining and training them, and nurturing them was what was important to me. This proved the point of my post which was that women today believe that being a fun mother is very important. What about a mother like me who was very sick all of my children’s growing up years? I couldn’t be a fun mother, but I decided to be a pleasant mother in spite of my pain. I learned godliness with contentment is great gain. My children watched me suffer with my faith intact. The Bible tells us to consider it all joy when we encounter various trials since they mold us more into the image of Christ.

I have a few women who comment on my blog and they are wise women. I appreciate their comments on my blog and I wanted to share their comments from my “fun” post.

Mrs. Kelley Dibble: One of the signs of this end-time is “lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God.” I would urge a mother today, whatever her mothering-season, to focus on the joys of living for God and move out from there, using the Bible as her Guide Book, Instruction Manual, Road Map.

Um, where DO you want them to go? Because I wanted mine to go to Heaven (and I still do!), I realized that the Highway to Heaven is filled with work, toil, sweat. I had to be intentional, more intentional than my own mother was. I think we can say that, you and I and other unfun moms demonstrated a love for God, mercy, others, and His Word. Those are the pleasures we should steer them toward– the wisdom from above, integrity, living above reproach, making knowledgeable choices as a result of a multitude of wise counsel. And LISTENING to their little hearts. We can do none of these unless we listen to their hearts and then coach them, mentor them if you will, aim them toward godliness and righteousness. We can fill their lives with, “Mom prayed about everything” in pleasurable ways that impact their lives forever.”

I asked my youngest daughter if I was a fun mother after all the comments I received from my other post. She answered, “No, you were too sick but I had a happy childhood.” So you see, you don’t have to be a fun mother for a child to have a happy childhood! Have you read about Jesus’ and the Apostle Paul’s life? It sure wasn’t fun but they were both full of joy because they were doing the will of the Father. Jesus is who we are to model our lives after and Paul was a great example to all of us. Their goal in life was to glorify the Father in all that they did and most of this included loving and serving others.

Lindsay Harold, another wise woman wrote,  The funny thing is, some of the most unhappy people on earth are the ones who seek fun as their number one goal. Happiness isn’t something you can get by striving for it. You can get temporary pleasure by seeking fun, but lasting happiness is a by-product of a life well-lived. Teaching children self-control and to value family, faith, and good character makes them happier in the end than teaching them to seek their own immediate pleasure.

Amen! These were what were most important to me; their character and eternal souls. The Bible says to “bring them up in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord” (Ephesian 6:4), to be joyful, not complain, work heartily, hate evil and cling to what is good, walk with the wise, flee sexual immorality, and so on. I have never read any where in the Bible to make sure you are a fun mother, thankfully. If you are a fun mother, great, but make sure you are focusing on the important things like disciplining, training, and teaching them. Let the Word of God dwell in them richly for all of these have eternal value and seeking out fun does not.

If ye then be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ sitteth on the right hand of God. Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth. For ye are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God. When Christ, who is our life, shall appear, then shall ye also appear with him in glory.
Colossians 3:1-4

5 thoughts on “Happiness is the By-Product of a Life Well-Lived

  1. “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.”
    James 1:2-3

    If we have JOY, we can do anything, even parenting without, “fun”. As sick as you were, raising up your children and being a Godly wife, your family remembers you as having JOY. That’s what they remember. You got the job done with JOY.

  2. I read this post just after posting the following on Facebook. You did a great job raising our children and they all rise up and call you blessed!:

    My mom and dad were apparently abusive to me when I was a kid. They made me do household jobs, go to church, and go to school. They gave me a curfew and smacked my butt when I did wrong. They put food on the table and we were expected to eat it. They put clothes on our backs and we were expected to wear them. They suggested I get a job and work for the things that I wanted. They insisted that I do my best at school, at my job, and to take pride in my work. I grew up with morals, a good work ethic, and respect for the law and my elders. I thank God everyday for my Mom and Dad!

    My parents did all these things to me and what some now call abusive, I have found these things to be the root of all my success in life. Discipline, great and consistent discipline, is a gift that good parents give to their children. Many do not realize that Discipline = Love as the young adult who grows up undisciplined by their parents soon finds an unforgiving world giving them some real punishment and payback for their lacking self-discipline.

    Thanks so much Mom and Dad for loving me enough to swat me when I needed it!

  3. I sure do because I try to remind myself often that the JOY of the Lord is my strength, not my circumstances or my health. He is faithful. Thank you, Christine!

  4. I agree. As a “child of the 80s” who saw my parents’ generation doggedly pursuing their own pleasure (though I can’t say my parents were completely bought into that!), and who now sees as they age that they realize it wasn’t a worthy goal after all (for many reasons, and with various regret)–I think that an end goal of FUN is a pale shadow of much richer and deeper goals. Fun is very circumstance-dependent, but joy is not…..

    Those who have pursued their own pleasure often reap a painful harvest of major regrets later in life. It’s not worth it!

    All that having been said–I do try to have fun with my children, simply because we enjoy each other so much! But it probably doesn’t look exactly like the “fun” of popular culture anyhow. 😉

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