Stop Enticing Men!
God hates unlawful nakedness. Practically speaking, this is why God gave us clothes: to cover our nakedness. Hence, God was the first tailor, clothes were His idea.
Modesty is especially important for women. Men and women are different. They think differently and are tempted differently in regards to the opposite sex. Generally speaking, men are more enticed by what they see, whereas, women are more moved by how they are treated.
“And it came to pass in an eveningtide, that David arose from off his bed, and walked upon the roof of the king’s house: and from the roof he saw a woman washing herself; and the woman was very beautiful to look upon” (2 Samuel 11:2).
“But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart” (Matthew 5:28).
This is why Job said…
“I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I think upon a maid?” (Job 31:11).
For example, the pornography industry is infinitely more successful selling its filth to men than to women. Many women fail to take this in account when they consider how they dress. They don’t see it as a problem because they have no experience in the difficulties it can cause.
This, I believe is why women were addressed specifically in the New Testament concerning dress. All of the apostolic admonitions concerning apparel are directed toward women. This is not because Paul was a chauvinist, as the liberated women would have us to believe. Nor is it because men are free from the obligation to dress modestly, because they most assuredly are not. It is rather because immodesty in attire is more ingrained in the female carnal nature than in that of men.
Without a doubt, the minds of women are more taken up with fashions of dress than any other pleasure. This is clearly manifested by the billions of dollars spent every year on fashions and cosmetics. Dress designers make fabulous sums dreaming up new and exotic ways to reveal the female form in order to attract and stimulate the male passions. How else can one account for the absurd and even grotesque outfits that women gladly wear?
The strongest carnal drive in the man is the desire for power. The spirit of physical and mental competition begins very early in boys. That is why they push and shove and fight from their very childhood. However, as a result of the curse, a woman’s greatest carnal desire is to be desired by men. Thus, apart from grace, the moment that a girl enters puberty the opposite sex dominates her thoughts.
From that point on almost everything she does is, in some way, directed to entice men. Although there are exceptions, this is the general rule. And women instinctively know that men are easily lured by sex. Thus, Paul seems to be saying that all Christian women should be possessed of a certain sense of shame with respect to their bodies and that this shame should, in turn, produce a bashful and modest attitude toward attire. The woman who truly possesses this “shamefacedness” will be conscious that normal men can easily be tempted and that her body, if exposed will possibly be the instrument of eternal perdition to them.
“…the attire of an harlot” (Proverbs 7:10)
Remember, harlots dress in a specific manner for the sole purpose of drawing attention to their bodies. Ladies, you should seek not just to be adequately covered but should also avoid clothing that accentuates the shape of your body.
In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array.
1 Timothy 2:9
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15 thoughts on “Stop Enticing Men!”
Was so pleased to see Britt Williams – his writing is so clear and easy to understand on this topic. Modesty is such an important topic – and the old ways are indeed the best. The young ladies on his facebook page are attired as is fitting for Christian women – but Lori that picture for this blog post is one that could cause a brother to stumble. She is an example of what not to do. Would you please consider changing the image for one of a Godly-attired sister whose dress and shoes and pose will not lead a man who comes here seeking guidance for his wife astray? My husband Jeb is so thoughtful in finding materials that will help me grow (your book!) But he was a little shocked and surprised, and asked me to share his thoughts. He feels strongly that men should communicate to women outside the family through a female. So here I am. Thank you!
All you can see are her lower legs and some high-heeled shoes. What is inappropriate about the image? I’m asking sincerely because I want to understand your husband’s thinking.
Ava, tell your husband to grow the heck up. It’s just a pair of heels.
What lovely shoes, I love it when women dress like ladies and feminine!
Thank you for this article and especially the link to the original. Mr. Williams gave me some Scripture that I hadn’t looked into before on biblical modesty. I especially like Job 31:1 where he made a covenant with his eyes, so why should he think upon a maid? That’s powerful! It’s so difficult for our men and young boys as nakedness is constantly before them every where they look. The answer lies in this verse. Verses 1-10 are also very revealing about Job’s character. I highly recommend those verses as well.
This was an excellent article and I highly recommend following the link Laurie provided to read Mr. William’s full article. He breaks modesty down in a very easy to understand way and supports his thoughts every step of the way with Scripture. I especially enjoyed the words of God’s righteous servant Job in Job 31:1-12. He made a covenant with his eyes and goes on to ask very soul searching questions. Job is willing to be weighed in God’s balance to see if deceit or integrity is found in his heart. He considers it to be a heinous crime and an iniquity and those verses describe what he’s willing to do if he’s found guilty.
Ladies, we need to examine our hearts in the same manner with regard to modesty in light of what God’s word says.
It’s heels. What’s the big deal? Also, he’s an adult and adults are fully capable of talking to other adults regardless of gender, so I really don’t understand his problem. What if he’s at a doctor’s office and the doctor is a woman? What if he has to deal with a female pharmacist? Nurse? Therapist? Insurance representative? Lawyer? That sounds like a HIPAA nightmare if he’ll only speak through you.
Such an important message!
Unbelieveable what some people do nowadays.
Cancer of the soul, truly.
Keep spreading your words, Lori.
Over the last few decades – society has definitely steered away from religion.
Now we’re getting close to 50% of the US not believing.
God is still strong.
However, we still need to keep fighting to show people the light.
All over – at home and overseas.
I try to share the gospel wherever I can.
Live life the best you can, and k
Satan is always trying to worm his way in.
Amen. If someone is sexually aroused by a pair of shoes, they have serious psychological issues…
Ava, please give men a little credit.
“That picture for this blog post is one that could cause a brother to stumble.”
The more one creates an obsession with perfection (which is idolatry), the more one falls victim to it. And the idolatry that this post is promoting is to think that we humans can be perfect, and can somehow avoid that if only we (for men) don’t look at ________, (for women) don’t dress like _______.
It is demeaning to men to think that we have so little control of our desires, so little connection with God, and are so helpless before beauty and even the slightest inkling of sexuality, that one glance at lovely stylized picture with legs and heels would “cause a brother to stumble.”
We are not so helpless. We’re adult men, who should be able to control our carnal desires and know that women are more than simply sexual objects for our titillation.
It breaks my heart so see so much energy wasted on trying to be “the perfect Christian,” when that energy could be spent on being kind, accepting, gracious, just, and generous.
Jesus wouldn’t want you — or any of us — to fixate so much on these strict rules, but to focus instead on love, kindness, fair play, justice, and “the plank in our own eyes” rather than the heels on her feet.
You clearly have good intentions. You are imperfect, like all of us. The more we ACCEPT that, the more we’re able to deal with temptation, anger, and other stresses. The more we FIGHT that, the more spiritually brittle we are, and, ironically, the more easily we succumb to the same things — but either pretend in public that we don’t, or worse, fool ourselves that we don’t.
I honestly thought it wasn’t the shoes, it was the pose that was seductive. I don’t understand why people are attacking her husband. He’s pointing out that that made him stumble, I was a little surprised by the image choice myself. So we have the duty to bear with him and help him in his weakness. That’s the biblical response (Romans 14).
“Thats why God gave us clothes”.
I have honestly never heard that before, and I am pretty sure archaeology and history books would prove that is not the case at all.
I do recall many instances where its claimed in the Bible man is supposed to go out and populate the earth. Toward that goal one would think enticing men would be a noble endeavor.
At least until you found the right one and settled down with him.
It’s in the Bible. God clothed Adam and Eve with coats.
I believe women should dress in a feminine manner – for their husbands eyes. To dress modestly in public amongst other men….and then at home to dress how her husband desires. Femininity is something so special only a woman can attain it— the perfect match to her husband’s masculinity. Let them rejoice together as they see fit in the comfort of their home. Then once outside, let good prudence once again take priority…she shall dress ever so modestly so not to indulge the lusts of worldly men.
I agree with you Max. I think women shouldn’t dress immodestly, but that picture is so benign. I don’t think all men are such carnal idiots they can’t see a women’s feet without turning into a lusty puddle. Lol