Men Prefer Debt-Free Virgins Without Tattoos
Do you know how much more attractive debt-free virgins (without tattoos) are to young men? Unfortunately, there are so few of these types of young women anymore because of the high costs of college (debt) and sexual promiscuity even within those in the church. As believers in Jesus Christ, we need to live in a way that is pleasing to Him because His ways are the best. He calls debt a burden and urges us to live lives of sexual purity.
There are many more reasons why Christian young women should carefully consider whether or not they go to college, especially if they want to be wives and mothers someday. Secular universities teach against the God of the Bible and His ways. It’s far from what God calls women to be and do: it teaches them to be independent, loud, and immodest instead of having meek and quiet spirits.
One woman wrote me some more reasons that she thought of why women shouldn’t go to college. (I have added my thoughts in parenthesis.):
“Men don’t want to marry a women with debt. Most of this debt comes from college. They would also prefer a woman who still lives at her parent’s house that has not had other relationships. Do those two things and you will be highly sought after.” (I’m not sure about men only preferring women who still live at their parent’s house and have had no other relationships since some young women have no choice but to live away from their families and some have had their hearts broken by men they thought was ‘the one.’ I would agree that most men don’t want to marry a woman with a load of debt! That isn’t right to bring into a marriage.)
“If they go to college, they are unlikely to stay home raising their children to pay off the debt and use the degree they spent years on.” (I have seen this in many young women’s lives, sadly.)
“The husband will need to take years teaching his wife the correct way to act, think, and live since college taught them every possible way that is wrong.” (Sadly, most young Christian women wouldn’t listen to their husbands since they’ve not been taught to live in submission to their husbands. However, it’s the older women who are called to teach the younger women biblical womanhood and most husbands have never seen it modeled in their lives so they wouldn’t know what to teach.)
“They will start having babies later in life. That is if they can still conceive naturally.” (Is college worth having fewer children? I will never understand how women prefer careers over having precious babies.)
“They lost a handful of years of experience learning to cook large meals and learning how to work in the garden. College kids don’t cook. If they do, it’s typically for themselves.” (Young women learn nothing about biblical womanhood or what it takes to run a home when they go to college. They don’t learn to serve others either. They learn the ways of the world instead.)
“The list goes on. Churches don’t talk about it. They support the college kids (really adults) and the ‘working’ mothers.” (It greatly offends working mothers to teach women to be keepers at home.)
“It’s very rare to find an 18 year old woman that continues to work and live at her parent’s house until she meets her husband. It’s pretty much a joke to all who do that.” (It’s actually protection for young women to live under their father’s roof until they get married, if they are able, and there’s nothing wrong with doing this if they want this protection.)
“Your posts sound crazy to anyone who does not believe the Bible is true. Most girls have not read the Bible with their father (Ephesians 6:4) or husband to explain it to them (1 Corinthians 14:35). That part is important. Instead of learning it from their parents, they seek out books or movies on how to interpret the Bible which leads them down the wrong path.”
Young women, be wise in the path that you choose to walk on. Keep a long-term vision of your life and how you hope it will be someday instead of acting upon all of the “what ifs…?” that many will throw at you. Trust God with your life, study the Word, and take the narrow path that leads to life. Stay virgins until marriage, out of debt, and don’t get tattoos!
Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
1 Peter 3:4
86 thoughts on “Men Prefer Debt-Free Virgins Without Tattoos”
I understand that heavy debt from college is a great burden on both male and female students. In Wisconsin, if a student can live at home, they can earn a 2 year degree for about $6500. My niece just finished up a one year Licensed Practical Nurse program and got a very good job with benefits and NO DEBT. My cousin’s daughter got a 2 year
Registered Nurse degree and makes amazing money and NO DEBT. Young people can get training or schooling reasonably if they look. Many do not go to expensive private colleges.
My niece learned in school how to take care of people who are sick or ill and need help. I do not think she learned many ungodly things. She is only 20 years old and can sew beautiful clothes and loves to cook. My son has a 2 year marketing degree and manages a large retail store, makes good money, and NO DEBT.
There are 2 sides to every story and huge college debt is diminishing because young people now see that they can get the training they need at a much lower cost.
This is great news to me! Thanks for sharing and may this attitude of have-to-have-a-4-year-college-degree-to-make-it-in-this-society be done away with…until we leave this earth.
I’m so over the mentality that smart/qualified=college degree!
The point the author is trying to make from Gods Word, before others try, like Eve, to reason it away, is that out of Titus 2 and Proverbs 31 our Creator ordained that the young women are to marry, bear children and be keepers of the home….not working in a career and making “amazing money”. That is not Gods plan for a woman. No where in His Word do you find that. And it is the responsibility of women our age that did not teach their daughters to follow Gods Word. But of course, if a Mother isn’t a believer of Christ and doesn’t actually follow Gods Word herself, she will not teach her daughter to….nor will she be that Godly example of an older woman that Titus 2 speaks of. Its all about the choices we make.
Why would you use an anecdote to refute a demonstrable and statistical reality. American women no longer possess the requisite skills to be good wives and mothers. That is why men no longer marry, that is why illegitimacy in the white community is approaching 45%. Blessed is the nation whose God is the Lord. This nation has unleashed a nightmare with 3rd wave feminism and it is the universities that were the injection point.
College debt continues to skyrocket. What are you talking about?
And even $6500 isn’t no money – most young people don’t have such savings to burn.
One does not need to go to college. The trades are screaming for people to go to work for them. One can made awesome money and NO debt at all. O e has to work hard and wait for the big money. But such is life. Wait upon God and He will give you the desires of your heart.
Well done. This is great advice for any woman that doesn’t want to end up like Shulamith Firestone. She died alone with her line extincted, childless, age 67, body undiscovered for some days, partially eaten by her collection of cats. Better by far to have the woman’s equivalent of the funeral of Dr. Ernest Menville (played by Bruce Willis) in the movie “Death Becomes Her”. Feminine (as opposed to “feminist”, the antonym) women in my experience usually avoid the first one, especially if they put family above careerism and hedonism, as any true lady likely would.
I grew up Christian and I went to a Christian university. I understand your post and your perspective. But I’m still curious: is it not possible for women to read the Bible an understand God’s word on their own? Must it be interpreted by man?
Fathers are responsible for raising their children in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord and when a wife has a question about the sermon, she is to ask her husband at home, but yes, certainly she needs to daily read and study the Bible on her own but God definitely set up a hierarchy for the Church and family. He makes it abundantly clear in His Word.
I’m sure that this article will be hated by women who think men should be attracted to them just because they have a pulse, but the truth is that you are right. It doesn’t mean that a man won’t overlook a woman’s flaws if he falls in love with her, but if you stack two women up with identical personality, the debt free virgin will almost certainly be more attractive to him as a mate. This is just common sense.
This is no doubt offensive to some but is it really that controversial that men might not care for women that come with
$100,000 of debt- (no self control)
A questionable past (would you feel special being her 48th boyfriend?)
and tattoos that might not age well?
According to an article on CBS’ website posted July 9th, “Women owe about $890 billion of the country’s $1.48 trillion student loan debt, nearly double the $490 billion owed by men…”
Where is SL debt diminishing? The blog author’s acumen in her posting is spot on.
*Cue blaming of the mean patriarchy/glass ceiling/wage gap/other virtue signaling myths for the imbalance.
I have a lot to say about this. And I’m really only going to address one of the three topics (even though I could go on about all of them) you covered here: debt and college.
I married last year. My husband and I met…in college. We attended a Christian college for four years a piece and each received a Bachelor’s degree. He spent an extra couple of years pursuing his Master’s, which did not work out. So, between the two of us, who do you think brought more debt to this marriage? Him. Between college and credit cards, he was the one with the most financial burden, and as my husband he was putting that on me. We even had to take out a loan to help pay credit cards off more easily in my name only because I had the better credit score—and a pretty good one. (My mom, who raised me single, taught me well when it came to finances.)
Now I don’t say this to put him down or complain. Times are hard, those are the cards we have to play, and I choose to work with my husband in all things. But I say this because you don’t seem to be wanting to hold men accountable for their choices here. If, as you say, men are supposed to be superior and provide everything for their wives, what would you say to those college-educated Christian men like my husband who can’t do that alone? Are they excused because they’re men?
We live in a world where it’s nearly impossible to make a living unless you have a college degree—and even now a Master’s is starting to be required. My husband and I can’t afford our life without a double income, and that’s just the bare basics. Not only is your article damaging to women who want to make good lives for themselves and who God has plans for that may or may not include a husband, but it’s also ignorant of the current economic and institutional situation we’re living in.
I personally want a family some day. I want to raise children in the Lord and love them and teach them. But I also want a career and a greater purpose and a life where I don’t have to struggle providing for my kids. And with God, I know both are possible, and these are the very things he provides to make it possible.
This stood out from the article which I 100% agree with. “It greatly offends working mothers to teach women to be keepers at home.” God’s word doesn’t change just because the world does. The problem isn’t so much women going to college though, it is that most men nowadays don’t want to be the sole breadwinner of the home and have a wife that stays at home. It is a double edged sword of the society we are currently living in.
Hi Lori,
I am so sorry you’ve been receiving so much backlash to this post; I want you to know that I am praying for you and that, while I disagree with the main point of this article, I also disagree with the way others have gone about expressing their own disagreement. I would say more, but I’m in the middle of writing up my own response in the hopes that others might read it and be less quick to grow angry. Stay tuned for that if you’d like to read it <3
Do you want your son to marry a tatted up slattern who is drowning in debt ?
Increasingly, there is little difference between “Christians” and others. They all think the same thing and make the same comments. The only view that matters at the end of the day, is God’s, and this is found in His word. Take comfort in Philippians 1:29 and Matthew 5:11. I know you own a Bible.
Educating women is of great benefit to society. I homeschool my children. All 6 of them. My 18 year old daughter is attending college on a full scholarship. She worked very hard at homeschooling so that she wouldn’t have debt from college, yet she has a beautiful mind that loves our Lord, serves our church family by singing worship every Sunday, and serves her family as she is able, since she chose to live at home during college despite having the opportunity to live on campus for free. We highly encouraged her to pursue higher education because her beautiful mind is a gift from the Lord, and we do not squander Gods gifts.
I am dismayed at how you put all men into a very small minded box. My husband, a pastor, married me, a single mother of 19, with a tattoo and college debt. He thinks I am a priceless treasure, despite having to pay off my college debt incurred for the career I never worked at. He loves my intelligent mind and the ability to have thoughtful reasoned conversations. He tells me how proud of me he is when I kick butt at Scrabble and he always wants me on his team when we play games with friends,because I’m good at them.
My college education prepared me for home schooling my kids in such a way that they are clever, love to learn, logical and wise. They also can cook, clean, care for children, and do other wonderful things that prepare them for life as well.
As I read your article with my husband he commented on how it saddened him to think that some young woman may find herself unworthy of a righteous man’s love, because she wasn’t what you have described men want. Men don’t want robots. They don’t want women to pander to their whims, or obey their orders. They want women who love the Lord, who serve him faithfully in whatever calling he has placed upon their hearts, who love others, who are kind and loyal, and who are wise enough to know that no woman should attempt to become the woman some man wants…. But rather strive to please the Lord with the gifts He has bestowed upon them. He is the only man that matters! A wise woman knows that.
You and others are reading a lot into the post as it does not say that a woman/wife should not be educated, but rather think twice before burdening our family with college debt. Especially if you are not going into a career. Like so many you want to read your experience into the post instead of reading it from a perspective of what God admonishes and desires.
The fact that it all worked out for you and our husband may have far more to say about God’s bountiful goodness than it does about His admonitions. Will you raise your daughters to stay pure for their marriage bed, avoid debt and especially large and ugly tattoos that will scar their God given bodies? You bet you will, yet you will object to a post that tries to teach thees principles to young Christian women who do not have parents like you.
You are correct in much of what you write about what men want in a wife, but so wrong that women are not significantly focused on getting the best catch they can in a godly husband. You overlook the many Christian young women who need to be told to think twice before falling headlong into societies hedonistic ways. Are we not to be different from the world? And are not godly men preferring Christian women who are different by doing things God’s ways? This is what godly men “prefer” and not to say they do not have grace and love for those who fall short of their preferences.
Lori, I see you’re getting a lot of grief from leftist websites. Just wanted you to know you’re right on target. May the Lord bless you and protect you from the arrows being aimed at you by those who do not seek the truth.
I want to be pleasing in the eyes of the Lord, not marriageable men. God gave me a mind, a heart, a body, and a soul to work for Him, not to simply for a husband or to propagate the species. I’m not seeking a husband; I’m seeking God’s will.
The best place to start in seeking God’s will is to be in His Word where He teaches us that one of our greatest ministries for God is found in marrying and bearing godly offspring. A few are called to be single so that they can devote their whole focus to ministry. If that is you, go for it with all your heart, but most Christian mothers can’t imagine life without our beautiful babies. Few will lead another to Jesus in their lifetime, but a mother can help God build His family with her investment of Christ’s love into her children, winning their souls for Jesus.
Excellent advice, Biblically sound.
You’ll get a lot of hate from this article. Heaven loves it, though, so that might be something of a consolation to you.
Cheers.
Hey Lori!
I read your article after my friend posted it on Facebook. I really enjoyed how you included an email, and how your articulated your points with examples.
One thing that stuck with me was when you said “I will never understand how women prefer careers over having precious babies.” It made me think of my mother, who stayed at home her whole adult life to raise me and my siblings. I am so grateful I had a stay-at-home mother, who dedicated her life to me and my siblings, and teaching us how to live our lives in the name of others.
She and my father instilled in me at a young age that I was to live for others, to become the best version of myself so I can take care of those who need it most. I have interpreted that to mean that I can help more lives if I work in healthcare, specifically pet care.
I do want to have children, and be a good mother. But I can help more lives if I do pursue this career. Jesus Christ dedicated his life to helping others, and I could not see myself doing anything but helping those that need it most.
I hope this might help you understand why some people follow their careers. If not, I hope this isn’t offensive or unwarranted. I really enjoyed your article, and your point of view.
Keep writing! 🙂
Hi Rachel,
I never have written that women should not attend college but they must count the cost, literally and figuratively. Blessings to you!
As someone who finished college debt-free, loves the Bible and is still a virgin without tattoos – I find this collection of quotes ridiculous. My first and hopefully final serious relationship began at the age of 39. Had I skipped college and later postgraduate studies, learned to cook and waited around for a man to show up, I would have forfeited 20 years of serving others through work and ministry. The Bible teaches quite clearly that all of our work is an act of worship, so both my time in the secular media and working for Christian ministries were opportunities to serve others and be an ambassador for Christ. Paul and Jesus weren’t the only ones who lived single, childless and blessed lives. Encourage women who also have seasons of singleness and may never raise children to flourish where God’s placed them, whether or not it comes with a paycheck.
Yes, Michelle. With thousands of posts, why not read many of the others that emphasize other key truths. One post can’t cover everything and everyone’s situation.
I am not sure I understand why a father or husband is the only way a woman can understand scripture. I understand and disagree with most of this article, but I am confused where you get this particular viewpoint…
The Bible tells fathers that they are to raise their children in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord and the Apostle Paul tells us that if a wife has a question about the sermon, she should ask her husband at home so these are biblical, however, all godly wives should be in the Word daily and allowing it to dwell richly within them.
Great advice and spot on…
I read a whole bunch of angry comments about this article you wrote. So much so, I needed to read for myself to see what could cause this outrage.
Thank God we have people still saying what you have! I think the anger is more about personal guilt from what they see in themselves than any fingers pointed at you. It’s not easy going against the grain or bucking trend. It’s not popular to say that women cannot do everything and be everything and still do it all with a high level of success. That it’s not the piece of paper framed on the wall, the paycheck and independence, the bigger home, better cars, etc that matters… the important things are your children. But how can you argue that point in a world that needs special car alarms so you don’t forget your child in the backseat. We value our phones more than our children. And for a large majority of people… kids, husband, family… homemaker… that’s not the prize. They’d rather enslave themselves to a “man” that signs the check not the man that takes care of her.
You actually are right on
Lori,
Keep up with the good work.
God bless you!
Lot of women don’t like hearing it, but as a man I can confirm everything you said.
Seeing how this has made the rounds on the internet – I feel it’s worth noting that it’s primarily feminist SJW’s in “christian” clothing that seem triggered by this idea. And then they bemoan their own single status.
I get where this article is coming from and yes, I care less about a woman’s sexual experiences than how much secular feminist doctrine she’s drank in… but I do find the two to be curiously correlated. And tattoos… meh, women used to think they were edgy. But it’s not edgy. And who wants to look at the 60yr old version of that tramp stamp that you thought was cool in college. Yeah.. “love me for me” – well ok, but doesn’t that go both ways?
Feminism has infected the church to the degree that men are simply avoiding women who display it. So they come out to write blogs and be angry about it. And the quality men just shake their heads and move on to women who aren’t wrapped up in that world. If you want to find a good man… ditch the angry blogs by women who aren’t married and aren’t any closer to it. And if they use terms like “power structures”, “misogyny”, and “patriarchy”… well.. just think how single you could continue to be if you become just like them! Yeah Boundless.org… I’m looking at you here.
Anyway, great article here. Worth chewing on. And if you take anything as Gospel truth because you read it on the internet – newsflash: you’re doing it wrong.
Wow! Just wow! I am blown away. I have been teaching the young men in my church to guard their hearts against the harlot (Proverbs 7). To use societies “tells” (college/debt, tats, face piercings, crazy color hair) to avoid troublesome women. I have explained their need to embrace their masculine nature (protection, provision and procreation) and encourage their lady’s femininity (helpmate, childbearing/caring and affectionate nature). Outside of the “manosphere/pickup community” I cannot find any resources, Christian or otherwise, to support Godly manliness and femininity. Even amongst my fellow Christian men there is a fear of women that is in lockstep with American culture. Thank you so much. You are literally doing God’s work. the situation between men and women is secular and responsible for EVERY ill we see in America. Debt, violence, addiction, suicide, divorce and overall unhappiness.
If you want this message to gain any penetration with women, you’re going to have to target getting it across to young men. Young women by their early twenties and late teens who’ve bought into the careerist life path cannot be swayed unless they know conclusively that men will not pursue them knowing that marriage, family, and children will be only seen as accessories in their lives, than the primary concern. Young men at this stage, especially the increasing number raised in fatherless households will appreciate and respect the perspective these words offer and it is only by reaching them, will you be able to reach the women.
Hello Lori!
Yes and amen!!!!! This is a messege I feel greatly many young people are missing in these last days. I hope the Lord Jesus takes me home before I have to see much moore of this suffering and travailing in labor this old Earth is doing.
I for one am so glad my dauhgters have growned up to love Jesus. They know that the man comes first, and have learned to serve and be good obedient women in the home. My dauhter, Janine, makes the most wonderful rhubarb pie, which has been in our family for generations and is a favorite of my husband’s. She is a precious ruby in the sihgt of God.
My little ones will never learn the evil ways of this world, teaching them they can learn or read by themselves, without the men to help them understand. A woman’s place is to be a loving support for her husband, to cook and clean and sew and knit and be obedient at all times!!! And of course my hubby reads to us at night from Holy Scipture. It saddens my heart her and so many other young girls like her are taught they have to fill their head with nonsense like math, or that evil evolution stuff (the Lord teaches us we do not come from babboons!!), or that men and women should be the same. We are both God’s creations, but have different roles!! The nose and the mouth do not do the same thing, but they both make the face, so too is the home to be the face of Jesus’s bride.
Tattoos are ugly, and so are pirceings! Why would beutiful women want to ruin their faces, or color their hair crazy colors, or listen to that rowdy rock and roll? All the devil’s handywork, turning our sweet ladies into followers of Satan and enticing them to follow Al Kaeda.
LISTEN TO HER LADIES!!! Be godly, dont read books without men there to explain them to you, love that you get to make babies one day, and you will be happier!!!!
Did your husband read this to you too? Lol, I’m sorry. I’m not a feminist or anything, but I think it’s pretty sad to think yourself incapable of understanding and learning. We are all made in God’s image, with full capability to learn and grow. Submitting to our husbands and respecting their authority is crucial, but they’d be pretty lost without our uniquely wired mind power. There is a reason women were created, and it’s not just because Adam didn’t know how to do the dishes. Also, if God just wanted women to act as these functional machines, you’d think he’d remove the mouth and mind. But God’s not dumb, and he’s infinite and the MVP. So yeah, we women get to do those incredible things like raising kids and managing the home. But also we get to read and learn and feel and think and experience him in the way only WE can understand. I just love God so much, He’s the best.
Wouldn’t being in debt just make the woman more dependent on her husband? I’m a very devout Christian man and I agree with most of your comments but above all I believe that a woman should be dependent upon her man. Otherwise I fear that the woman may leave her family for another man. I’ve heard many stories of woman who are independent and confident leaving their husband/ man because they realized they weren’t happy. I think that’s horrible and frightening. Please advise.
What type of school are they attending?!?! My daughter’s tuition is almost $30,000 for one semester!!
The title of this article is absolutely true.
If you’re smart, and work hard, and ‘sacrifice’ by living at home, you can get a degree, Debt Free, nd make good money after, if you want. I make six figures.
Sex is sacred, and nobody seems to understand.
Tattoos are immature and permanently ruin beautiful bodies.
If my wife wants to support the family by making another six figures together or/and helping with a family business, I want her there; we can hire a nanny/provide for a god-mother to help her. If she wants to stay home, I want her there. But this is moot, because nobody has family value anymore.
I love this article
But you missed a few things:
Super short hair
And disgusting face and nose piercings
The piercings some girls have make me have to blind myself without puking
I guess a woman can always grow out her hair and take off those piercings, can’t regain virginity and remove ink
I’m sorry for all of the negative feedback this post has generated. Thank you for sharing your opinion. I think it is timely and helpful. Even if people disagree, what harm is there in hearing and considering someone else’s perspective?!
Excellent article! Now if young people would read with an
open mind and with a heart of understanding.
Looks like you stirred up a hornet’s nest with this one!
As a guy who is also a debt-free virgin with no tatoos, I understand the self-sacrifice involved in each of those decisions. They’re not necessarily deal breakers, but they certainly are indicators of who a person is and what they value.
Thank you for acknowledging the value of these traits. I just read another blog which dismisses the ideas you set forth, and commented that the article “makes me regret every girl I ever honored, respected, and didn’t deflower. I don’t appreciate that.”
There is not a lot of encouragement to sacrifice in the way I’ve chosen to. There’s also a lot of pain for a guy who does so (men are physical beings after all). While your comments may make some people uncomfortable, they also encourage me to live for Christ and not myself. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.
P.S. I very much like the format in which you wrote this. Makes it seem like a dialogue instead of a pronouncement of right and wrong. It’s a very approachable style which makes reading the article interesting and enticing. Good work.
How wonderfully refreshing to hear a true Christian woman whose heart is turned towards God. These same problems have been discussed many times in my circles of the hospital. I know that you will receive many negative comments for speaking God’s truth; I fully support your position and applaud your strength. May you continue in this work and be a true blessing to the many families who need to hear God’s plan. Keep the armor of God close.
Common sense in a world gone mad. Thank you for this. The reaction this piece has gotten from modern xtians is appalling, and prima facie evidence of just how out of touch the modern church is with its roots and the law of God.
Annette,
Some of this will be very bluntly worded, but none of it is to attack anyone. Iths just direct and to the point, like Lori’s post and it’s about time women hear what follows.
Your example is a rare example and not the norm and note how your daughter isn’t even thinking about marriage. Plus you’ve left a lot out:
1) 99% of women do not choose $6,500 degrees. They move to college, pay to live and run up a very high bill in school loans, which they don’t think about being that young.
2) For the most part, women get useless degrees in Gender Studies (man-hating feminism) which has no jobs, or Social Work or Teaching, both of which pay poorly. So who’s gonna end up paying for it? The husband, of course. Why is it that women want to be independent, but only up to the point where it’s time to pay for the consequences of their actions?
3) Women looking to set up careers are looking to set up single lives, not marriage and motherhood and taking care of the home as she should be. Men and women are not equal. They are not the same. Men MUST work. Women CHOOSE to work. So when they think it’s okay to put their WANTS ahead of REALITY, it’s not.
Whether you like hearing it or not, men and women age very differently! Men become “distinguished looking”, while women look worse and men are visual creatures and we’re not looking to wife up the “looks have hit the wall” slut who’s “had her fun and now wants to settle down”. Nature geared men to be attracted to young, fertile women and geared women to be attracted to men who have it together and that’s why men age far better than women. Your feminist anger about that is irrelevant, because it’s built on a lie.
What women today seek, is to be sluts starting in their teens, go to college to get a low paying degree while being drunk and getting banged by multiple men and piling up debt, then chasing a career and accumulate more debt shopping and then, when they’re older, sagging and have used up bodies with loose vaginas, want to find a man to wife them up before even more wrinkles appear so they can get the man to deplete his savings and investments to pay their still existing college and now credit card debt, as well as pay for the IVF they’ll now need and of course, since he has all that money, it’s time to get their name added to his credit cards and shop even bigger, while nagging him that he doesn’t make enough money and should get a second job when they start sinking financially.
Or, all of that, except she already had kids and now expects him to pay to raise another mans children and of course, women berate men who object, saying they’re qnot a real man”. And she worked before, leaving the kids in the cheapest day care because she “wasn’t looking to settle down”, so the children have no mother at home and no father at all, while she chases her career and tells everyone; “I’m all about my kids!”
Of course once married she’ll be a lousy housekeeper and cook because she never learned and will say things like; “I’m nobody’s slave!”, because her Gender Studies course taught her to and how “masculinity is toxic”, while teaching her to act masculine.
Yea, that’s quite the friggin’ deal men are getting! Wow, baby! Hubba! Hubba!
Yes, feminism has been so wonderful for women!
You keep writing, Lori! Men, by nature, want to protect and provide for their wives and children and wish to marry young, virtuous, debt and children free women and only the mind-virus called “feminism” would make a woman think that’s it’s too much to ask for a woman to want to support her family from home!
I’ve noticed a lot of people are coming away from this post with the impression that it’s saying that a girl who has debt, a tattoo or lost virginity is worthless as a spouse. I’m sure you were trying to say that men are hoping for a girl without those kinds of baggage but perhaps you could explain the virgin-tattoo thing a little clearer.
Also, as Annette pointed out in her comment the points against college seem narrow-minded. There are several reasons a righteous woman might pursue a college degree, (at the recommendation of her parents or because she’s called to a certain mission field…) and several ways she can do it without incurring debt or living in an unwholesome atmosphere. (scholarship… earning her degree over the internet…) This is from someone who chose NOT to pursue college but who still might do so if, say, the government required a degree to homeschool.
“Men Prefer Debt-Free Virgins without Tattoos” This is good advice, I wish you best of luck I think you will help a lot of young women make good choices.
They do, but where can one find such a woman? I live near Boston and every woman seems to dedicate her life here to be abything but what you describe.
This is true.
I write with no comment on your article–I write merely to inform you that today another blogger, Grayson Gilbert, has posted an article which criticizes some of the negative reactions to it. It is mostly a defense of your article.
Mr. Gilbert’s article is entitled “On Debt-Free Virgins without Tattoos – Stop being Gnostics”. At present it is accessible here: http://www.patheos.com/blogs/chorusinthechaos/debt-free-virgins-tattoos/
Thank you for posting Mr. Gilberts’ article. His article was a great response and i hope those who read this will also read that.
Lori,
Thank you for having the courage to speak the truth in this wicked and perverse generation. God bless you.
Lori,
Reading this blog entry made my day. Thank you, better, I thank Jesus for you. Our culture has become so pathological for a variety of reasons; extreme feminism just one awful example. I spoken to my 18 year old son about a range of issues and have cautioned him regarding the quality of young ladies nowadays. Fortunately he loves and respects me and has taken my words to heart. I fear for his future as he wants to marry and have a daughter some day, but he knows adventuring into the marriage mine field is quite a roll of the dice.
I wish these so called “professional pastors” would truly lead Christians instead of pandering for the purpose of fulling their pews and their collection plates.
May God continue to bless you and your family……..
I just read Dalrock’s post. Keep up the good work.
They should be ashamed of themselves.
We got your back, ignore the haters, history is on your side.
I am always shocked at people who live happy lives because they followed the above advice, who then mock and adimadvert those who give it.
The vast majority of women are not super special snowflakes of exceptional oddity. Nor do they want to end up like “the woman at the well”. Life is made of opportunity costs. Lying to women about the optimum min/max choices that will get them a loving home with husband and kids, ski that they can feel inclusive and be accepted by the worldly powers is despicable.
Keep telling truth to power.
This article is highly offensive to most women, no doubt.
…But it’s also the plain, unvarnished truth. Well done for writing it: very few women would dare.
Men, throughout history, and all around the globe, have preferred to marry virgins. It is the way they are created. It is only in the feminist, socially engineered climate of the modern West that men are attacked for expressing such a preference, since it has been central to feminist dogma that women should be “sexually liberated” — or “play the whore” as the Bible puts it. Had women realised that such behaviour jeopardises their chances of having a husband and children then they might have been disposed to reject feminism.
And so, in order to keep feminism going, men were socially conditioned (through fear of ridicule) into declaring that they don’t mind marrying non-virgins, and brainwashed into believing the lie that their wife’s sexual past has no bearing on anything, when in fact a woman’s chances of forming a strong, stable marriage decrease in proportion to the number of sexual partners she has. Western males have become fools; duped, willing cuckolds who marry promiscuous women, with predictably disastrous results.
And so we see the moral wasteland of today’s society — where (at least here in Britain), the average woman will, over the course of her life, have sex with not one man, not two, but eight different men. That’s all the players on a polo field. No sane man wants to marry that (sadly, men these days are ungodly, and thus foolish creatures). …And that is just the average woman.
Doubtless this is the price men pay for turning from God. Hosea 4:14 springs to mind…
Most women these days have had way more than 8 partners. They usually cross that number either before or in their first year of college.
I would like to say: God forgives all who turn to him in repentance and we are called to be like Christ; so any man who immediately rules out a woman as worthless because she made mistakes in the past is not someone I would like to know. I’m not saying that having debt, or tattoos, or tons of ex-boyfriends is exemplary, but I think men who dismiss women as lesser who have made mistakes are not actually living out a Christ-like life.
Yes, and the post does not say that either Abigail. It only points out God’s ideals. Our God is a redeeming God, but He first warns us as a loving Father to walk the right path. Do you believe God no longer wants His admonitions known within the church? Why not share God’s standards of what is not only exemplary, but pursuing righteousness.
they aren’t “mistakes” they are decisions that represent a pattern. There is far too much risk associated with a loose woman and far too little reward.
This is very sound advice and unfortunately hurts some.
I count my blessings every day when I remember the day 32 years ago that I asked a young lady to marry me. She was a virgin, she was debt-free and she had no tattoos.
After that time, we have raised three sons together, so she is no longer a virgin but still has no tattoos.
I count my blessings every day when I remember that day. Would that there were more like her today!
You are so blessed! Doing God’s ways is such a blessing and He tells us his ways are not burdensome.
Interesting thoughts. On the other hand, there ARE women in Scripture, recommended even, who do not fit the “stay at home” mother role.
What I find interesting also, is that in order for a woman to be considered “promiscuous,” why is not that same “label” applicable to the man? After all, it takes two to “promiscuate…”
Men are as scarred by multiple relationships as women, says research.
Years ago, a Time Magazine front page was a picture of a man,lying in bed, by himself, with a wall full of female “scalps.” The idea that, after all that sexual prowess, he was still alone…
Yes Rudy, and this blog is written for Christian women. The men can teach what you are saying to the Christian men. Most things that are not done God’s ways scar us a little or a lot, and men should be taught good morals by their parents. The idea of a man’s sexual prowess is an ugly perversion of God’s intent for one man and one wife united together as one for life.
I know plenty of mothers who have tattoos, weren’t Christians their whole life, and are THRIVING in their families and with the Lord. Not to mention thousands of women who have had their purity ripped away from them or people from the middle and lower classes who don’t have Daddy’s trust fund to pay their way through school. I work 3 jobs to be a student, have had many things taken away from me by the hands of others, and I know I will be with a man who adores me for me and the ways I don’t fit the mold. It’s not always so cut and paste like you are. You can’t speak for all men with all different types and desires and backgrounds because you are not them. And if you truly think you have that authority then your page is bust for me.
Yes Katie, God’s grace abounds, but that does not mean that God does not prefer a better way for our own good. Godly young men will fall in love with girls who have not perfectly followed God’s ways, after all, they too have their own sins and issues. But don’t for a second believe godly men do not “prefer” that their future spouse be a debt free virgin without uncomely tattoos.
There will be more virgins available to marry when Christians teach their sons to:
1. Not practice fornication, adultery, rape
and/or sexual assault against females of any age, at any time in their lives;
2. Be virgins and pure as the new-driven
snow on their wedding nights;
3. Remember that HOLINESS and sexual purity is required by all males who claim to serve God and/or follow the Lord Jesus Christ.
Amen! But unfortunately both parents in many homes are too busy at a job outside the home to properly train their sons and daughters in the ways of the Lord.
Amen! I am a single Christian man and I absolutely refuse to court a woman who has marked her body with disgusting pagan tattoos!
Also, it used to be the norm that a woman would be a virgin upon marriage, but now that is the smallest of a minority! Feminism teaches women to be as promiscuous as they can be.