Men Prefer Debt-Free Virgins Without Tattoos

Men Prefer Debt-Free Virgins Without Tattoos

Do you know how much more attractive debt-free virgins (without tattoos) are to young men? Unfortunately, there are so few of these types of young women anymore because of the high costs of college (debt) and sexual promiscuity even within those in the church. As believers in Jesus Christ, we need to live in a way that is pleasing to Him because His ways are the best. He calls debt a burden and urges us to live lives of sexual purity.

There are many reasons why Christian young women should carefully consider whether or not they go to college, especially if they want to be wives and mothers someday. Secular universities teach against the God of the Bible and His ways. It’s far from what God calls women to be and do: it teaches them to be independent, loud, sexually available, and immodest instead of having meek and quiet spirits.

One woman wrote to me and gave her opinions on why women shouldn’t go to college. (I have added my thoughts in parenthesis.):

“Men don’t want to marry a women with debt. Most of this debt comes from college. They would also prefer a woman who still lives at her parent’s house that has not had other relationships. Do those two things and you will be highly sought after.” (I’m not sure about men only preferring women who still live at their parent’s house and have had no other relationships since some young women have no choice but to live away from their families and some have had their hearts broken by men they thought was ‘the one.’ I would agree that most men don’t want to marry a woman with a load of debt! That isn’t right to bring into a marriage.)

“If they go to college, they are unlikely to stay home raising their children to pay off the debt and use the degree they spent years on.” (I have seen this in many young women’s lives, sadly.)

“The husband will need to take years teaching his wife the correct way to act, think, and live since college taught them every possible way that is wrong.” (Sadly, most young Christian women wouldn’t listen to their husbands since they’ve not been taught to live in submission to their husbands. However, it’s the older women who are called to teach the younger women biblical womanhood and most husbands have never seen it modeled in their lives so they wouldn’t know what to teach.)

“They will start having babies later in life. That is if they can still conceive naturally.” (Is college worth having fewer children? I will never understand how women prefer careers over having precious babies.)

“They lost a handful of years of experience learning to cook large meals and learning how to work in the garden. College kids don’t cook. If they do, it’s typically for themselves.” (Young women learn nothing about biblical womanhood or what it takes to run a home when they go to college. They don’t learn to serve others either. They learn the ways of the world instead.)

“The list goes on. Churches don’t talk about it. They support the college kids (really adults) and the ‘working’ mothers.” (It greatly offends working mothers to teach women to be keepers at home.)

“It’s very rare to find an 18 year old woman that continues to work and live at her parent’s house until she meets her husband. It’s pretty much a joke to all who do that.” (It’s actually protection for young women to live under their father’s roof until they get married, if they are able, and there’s nothing wrong with doing this if they want this protection.)

“Your posts sound crazy to anyone who does not believe the Bible is true. Most girls have not read the Bible with their father (Ephesians 6:4) or husband to explain it to them (Ephesians 5:26; 1 Corinthians 14:35). That part is important. Instead of learning it from their parents, they seek out books or movies on how to interpret the Bible which leads them down the wrong path.”

Young women, be wise in the path that you choose to walk on. Keep a long-term vision of your life and how you hope it will be someday instead of acting upon all of the “what ifs…?” that many will throw at you. Trust God with your life, study the Word, and take the narrow path that leads to life. Stay virgins until marriage, out of debt, and don’t get tattoos!

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
Proverbs 31:10

*Follow up post for Christians.

156 thoughts on “Men Prefer Debt-Free Virgins Without Tattoos

  1. I understand that heavy debt from college is a great burden on both male and female students. In Wisconsin, if a student can live at home, they can earn a 2 year degree for about $6500. My niece just finished up a one year Licensed Practical Nurse program and got a very good job with benefits and NO DEBT. My cousin’s daughter got a 2 year
    Registered Nurse degree and makes amazing money and NO DEBT. Young people can get training or schooling reasonably if they look. Many do not go to expensive private colleges.
    My niece learned in school how to take care of people who are sick or ill and need help. I do not think she learned many ungodly things. She is only 20 years old and can sew beautiful clothes and loves to cook. My son has a 2 year marketing degree and manages a large retail store, makes good money, and NO DEBT.

    There are 2 sides to every story and huge college debt is diminishing because young people now see that they can get the training they need at a much lower cost.

    1. This is great news to me! Thanks for sharing and may this attitude of have-to-have-a-4-year-college-degree-to-make-it-in-this-society be done away with…until we leave this earth.
      I’m so over the mentality that smart/qualified=college degree!

      1. I’m not a Christian but I agree with the article. Totally agree on the debt free part. Unless it is smart debt. $60,000 in student loan debt and you have a pharmacy degree? Smart debt. $60,000 in debt with a criminal justice or communications degree? Fooling debt. The virgin part is nice but not realistic. Even in Christiandom. I will settle for a woman who has simply limited sex to a long term relationship. Zero upside to marrying a promiscuous woman. Former or current. My other deal breaker is simply an addiction to stuff. Particularly designer stuff. I don’t get my happiness from stuff. I don’t like going into debt for stuff. I want no part of a woman who worships the designer label. My wife of 20 years has a few. She got them all when we were married. Not an issue really. Honestly, everything else I am fine with. Even looks actually. If a woman brings a package of morality , loyalty and being smart with money looks move way down the list. Seriously. I’m a jacked up bodybuilder and in my single days in my quest for wife material looks were the #5 thing I was looking for. I would have married a big woman if she had had all the other qualities.

    2. The point the author is trying to make from Gods Word, before others try, like Eve, to reason it away, is that out of Titus 2 and Proverbs 31 our Creator ordained that the young women are to marry, bear children and be keepers of the home….not working in a career and making “amazing money”. That is not Gods plan for a woman. No where in His Word do you find that. And it is the responsibility of women our age that did not teach their daughters to follow Gods Word. But of course, if a Mother isn’t a believer of Christ and doesn’t actually follow Gods Word herself, she will not teach her daughter to….nor will she be that Godly example of an older woman that Titus 2 speaks of. Its all about the choices we make.

    3. Why would you use an anecdote to refute a demonstrable and statistical reality. American women no longer possess the requisite skills to be good wives and mothers. That is why men no longer marry, that is why illegitimacy in the white community is approaching 45%. Blessed is the nation whose God is the Lord. This nation has unleashed a nightmare with 3rd wave feminism and it is the universities that were the injection point.

    4. College debt continues to skyrocket. What are you talking about?

      And even $6500 isn’t no money – most young people don’t have such savings to burn.

    5. One does not need to go to college. The trades are screaming for people to go to work for them. One can made awesome money and NO debt at all. O e has to work hard and wait for the big money. But such is life. Wait upon God and He will give you the desires of your heart.

    6. Yes Annette. We need to tell young women that they do not have to go to the $40,000 a year schools to feel worthy and to have terrific lives. College is a choice, so choose wisely, and count the costs.

    7. A certain group also has a way to disobey the bible. It’s called apologetics. Any and every degree is worthless because one, it takes the wife out of the home and forces her children to be raised by strangers and two, Men marry girls because they want their children to be just like her. Families can survive with one bread winner. Two is selfishness.

  2. Went to college, have debt, married for 14 years to the same man, have two kids, a career, money of my own that rivals my husband’s pay, and I grew up in a conservative Christian household. The difference, I was encouraged to get an education. The woman in my family were god fearing, educated, business owning, yes, OWNING, women who worked hard and kicked A. I was inspired to be like them. Oh and the women in my family can cook up a storm that would make chefs blush. I teach my daughter how to cook because I tell her how amazing her grandmother, great grandmother, great great grandmother, and even her mother before her were, and now I get to pass those skills and knowledge onto her. She is all about it. My husband encourages me, inspires me, communicates with me, and shares responsibility with me, like a good husband should. Marriage is about finding a path together, communication, give and take, and being PARTNERS! A woman can submit but will eventually resent him if she doesn’t find herself, believe me, I learned this the hard way in our relationship of 17 years (together 3 years before marriage). Independent, Codependent, problems, issues, go see a therapist, they can and will help, believe me! So, I take your words with a grain of salt, my dear lady. Your path isn’t everyone else’s path and for that, God would agree! We all have our own separate journeys based on what lessons God wants us to learn. He also gave us free will to explore what all is around us. We all play our part, let others follow their destined paths.

    1. The path I try to teach comes right out of God’s Word as that is what He tells me to teach. I can’t teach your experience, nor is there any way of knowing if your experience pleases God, just because it pleases you or works for you. At some point as Christians we must confront the Word of God and decide if we will follow what God asks of us or go do things our own way. We all may have a separate path, but God only has one Word on the matters as to how we are to live our lives.

  3. So where can we read the le on what women prefer? So many are focused on what men prefer and no one ever speaks out on behalf of women. We want men that are virgins, debt free and that don’t have tattoos and aren’t on the down low too!

  4. For women reading this article, you’re valued as who you are, regardless of your sexual, debt, or tattoos. If there are men who are using a check list of criteria to select a future spouse that align with this, move on. You’ll always be less than your greatest potential. Parenthood is a great experience and all these factors discussed in the article don’t prevent you from ever having children.

    Do what is best for you, a partner will come in time

    Sincerely,
    -White, man. Age 24

    1. You start off with good thinking, but you end up telling women “Do what is best for you.” That sounds a lot like the book of Judges where “everything did what was right in their own eyes” and completely destroyed their lives and a nation.

      No Samuel, there are fundamental standards that have been set not because someone is trying to be a party spoiler, but because it leads to better lives. God does not give us His instruction manual then tell us to go do whatever we want.

      It is far better to to teach wisdom and to ask others to seek it.

    2. You mean well, Sammy, but

      John 7:24;

      “Do not judge by appearances, but judge with right judgment.“

      What you fail to grasp is that men hold the key to marriage and until women start whipping out the rings and kneeling, it’s not their call on how a man values them.

    3. I don’t know about this way of thinking because when reading and studying the word of God you’ll easily be able to understand that he too (figuratively) has a checklist of criteria for his wife (the church) to meet. And so if the husband is the head of his wife like Christ is the head of the church… I don’t think it is that bad for a guy to have a sort of checklist especially because I’m sure the woman would have one too. Trust me if one doesn’t check off the box that says…’do not indulge in adultery’ , they surely will not be getting into heaven unles they repent and turn away from sin.

    4. I just recently read a secular article about late-30s single women who are bemoaning the fact that their frozen eggs are proving to be un-viable. They wasted their fertility years chasing a financial dream that was implanted in them by others, and have realized too late that they will never bear children of their own. So yes, Samuel. It is a very real possibility that the worldly model will indeed result in misguided women never having children of their own.

    5. Thanks so much for this encouragement. God bless you. I am a single girl searching but not desperate. If you are searching too, I hope you find what you’re looking for

  5. Lone voice in the girth wilderness of “meat generation” meshed in deceit and promiscuity. This is the least of what their itching ears want to hear. Thanks for doing the needful; she who has ears let….
    Many blessings; God is pleased!

  6. This blog is getting alot of hate from young women on social media probably because they feel criticized, but in reality if this type of woman existed I would marry today. Lol.

  7. I’ve seen quote a few triggered women writing fiery rants against this piece. They demonstrate the failure of contemporary, Christian women.

    Yes, there is grace and redemption in Christ, but this doesn’t mean the Christian ideal is a debt laden whore.

    The typical Christian woman today is like the prostitute who pays her paramours.

    “They give gifts to all whores: but thou givest thy gifts to all thy lovers, and hirest them, that they may come unto thee on every side for thy whoredom.”

    —Ezekiel 16:33

    To young men I’d say run as fast as you can from the woman who can’t say amen to this article, for death is in her house.

  8. Our cultural mores have removed all the protections from women in the guise of freeing them. The “freedom” has led to women being encouraged to act like the worst of men in order to be “equal.” A young woman should be protected and stay at home rather than living away. Loneliness and bad companions can lead anyone male or female into harmful situations. I agree with your points, but I think that many young women who want to be chaste and have a faithful, fruitful, and unbroken marriage find it hard to find husbands.

    1. That’s so true because we Christian women too have our standards for husbands and what are the chances that there are people who meet our standards. Thus, making it really hard for us to find husbands that will protect, love and provide for us!!

  9. What are your thoughts on Jesus loving on the woman at the well? Or Mary and Martha? Jesus was not so concerned about Martha not getting help in the kitchen but rather speaking with Mary. I don’t think the Bible necessarily supports these points you are making. I believe Jesus is more concerned with the hearts of people and not so much about tattoos and college debt and the necessity to be pure and sinless —- yes he wants that but He died so that we can rest in his grace and not be continually judged and damned. Pushing these views that only pure sinless and debt-free virgins get “good” husbands and a happy marriage is definitely not biblical at all. You put in your own biography that you and your husband had years of hardship in your marriage (who doesn’t!? We are all sinners that fall short). A more biblical viewpoint would be that no matter your history Jesus loves you and that you worth is not defined by being a baby making homemaker but we are defined by the love of Christ.

    1. Jesus told the woman at the well to “Go and sin no more.” Contrary to most “Christians” thinking, God does care about our obedience; for He tell us if we love Him, we will obey His commands. They are protection for us and for our good!

    2. Sarah,

      Jesus loved the prostitutes and tax collectors, so are you going down the former path because of a Joel Osteen-like warm and fuzzy church feeling?

      I hope not!

    3. “For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly in the present age,…
      Speak these things, exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no one despise you.”
      ‭‭Titus‬ ‭2:11-12, 15‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
      http://bible.com/114/tit.2.11-12,15.nkjv

      “You shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor tattoo any marks on you: I am the LORD.”
      ‭‭Leviticus‬ ‭19:28‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
      http://bible.com/114/lev.19.28.nkjv

      “The rich ruleth over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender.”
      ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭22:7‬ ‭KJV‬‬
      http://bible.com/1/pro.22.7.kjv

      “Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.”
      ‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭6:18-20‬ ‭KJV‬‬
      http://bible.com/1/1co.6.18-20.kjv

      “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.”
      ‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭13:4‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
      http://bible.com/114/heb.13.4.nkjv

      “Let no one despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love, in spirit, in faith, in purity.”
      ‭‭I Timothy‬ ‭4:12‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
      http://bible.com/114/1ti.4.12.nkjv

      “that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.”
      ‭‭Titus‬ ‭2:4-5‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
      http://bible.com/114/tit.2.4-5.nkjv

      This article in no way questioned your salvation or ability to be saved if you have debt, get tattoos, commit sexual immorality, or partake in any other behavior the Bible calls a sin.
      This article also does not say that you will not be able to find a good Christian husband and have a fulfilling Christian life if you participate in any of these or other sins during your youth.

      This article is simply (and truthfully) pointing out that it will be much easier for young women to find godly husbands if they keep themselves pure and follow God’s teaching for them. This is both because Christian men have a God-given desire for Biblical qualities in their wives, and also because God blesses those who follow His word and will.

      Yes Jesus forgives us of our sin. But He also calls us to turn from our sin. And if young ladies can live their life following Biblical truth and not fall into the trap of sin (be it in the form of needless debt, disrespecting their bodies, or any other sin), they will be much happier and, yes, much more attractive as an option for a wife.

      The very first Bible passage I quoted, Titus 2:11-12, &15, makes it clear that a part of salvation by grace is a desire for righteous living. It also makes it clear that we are to teach righteous living to other Christians and REBUKE, meaning chastise/call out/discipline/correct, those who choose not to live according to God’s law. Part of the reason Christianity is in decline and more and more self-proclaimed “Christians” are advocating immoral behavior is because too many people want to focus solely on Christ’s love for the sinner and not His hatred of the sin.

  10. Well done. This is great advice for any woman that doesn’t want to end up like Shulamith Firestone. She died alone with her line extincted, childless, age 67, body undiscovered for some days, partially eaten by her collection of cats. Better by far to have the woman’s equivalent of the funeral of Dr. Ernest Menville (played by Bruce Willis) in the movie “Death Becomes Her”. Feminine (as opposed to “feminist”, the antonym) women in my experience usually avoid the first one, especially if they put family above careerism and hedonism, as any true lady likely would.

  11. I grew up Christian and I went to a Christian university. I understand your post and your perspective. But I’m still curious: is it not possible for women to read the Bible an understand God’s word on their own? Must it be interpreted by man?

    1. Fathers are responsible for raising their children in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord and when a wife has a question about the sermon, she is to ask her husband at home, but yes, certainly she needs to daily read and study the Bible on her own but God definitely set up a hierarchy for the Church and family. He makes it abundantly clear in His Word.

    2. Eph 5:22-24, madam:

      Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

  12. I’m sure that this article will be hated by women who think men should be attracted to them just because they have a pulse, but the truth is that you are right. It doesn’t mean that a man won’t overlook a woman’s flaws if he falls in love with her, but if you stack two women up with identical personality, the debt free virgin will almost certainly be more attractive to him as a mate. This is just common sense.

  13. This is no doubt offensive to some but is it really that controversial that men might not care for women that come with
    $100,000 of debt- (no self control)
    A questionable past (would you feel special being her 48th boyfriend?)
    and tattoos that might not age well?

  14. I discovered your blog quite by accident and from what I have read so far it is very interesting. From some of the comments you have made I assume you are not real popular with the rabid feminists?

  15. According to an article on CBS’ website posted July 9th, “Women owe about $890 billion of the country’s $1.48 trillion student loan debt, nearly double the $490 billion owed by men…”
    Where is SL debt diminishing? The blog author’s acumen in her posting is spot on.

    *Cue blaming of the mean patriarchy/glass ceiling/wage gap/other virtue signaling myths for the imbalance.

    1. I really do not understand feminism😂 they will see in the end how wrong the path that took in life was. Women will be begging to be married and have babies to take away their reproach.

  16. I have a lot to say about this. And I’m really only going to address one of the three topics (even though I could go on about all of them) you covered here: debt and college.

    I married last year. My husband and I met…in college. We attended a Christian college for four years a piece and each received a Bachelor’s degree. He spent an extra couple of years pursuing his Master’s, which did not work out. So, between the two of us, who do you think brought more debt to this marriage? Him. Between college and credit cards, he was the one with the most financial burden, and as my husband he was putting that on me. We even had to take out a loan to help pay credit cards off more easily in my name only because I had the better credit score—and a pretty good one. (My mom, who raised me single, taught me well when it came to finances.)

    Now I don’t say this to put him down or complain. Times are hard, those are the cards we have to play, and I choose to work with my husband in all things. But I say this because you don’t seem to be wanting to hold men accountable for their choices here. If, as you say, men are supposed to be superior and provide everything for their wives, what would you say to those college-educated Christian men like my husband who can’t do that alone? Are they excused because they’re men?

    We live in a world where it’s nearly impossible to make a living unless you have a college degree—and even now a Master’s is starting to be required. My husband and I can’t afford our life without a double income, and that’s just the bare basics. Not only is your article damaging to women who want to make good lives for themselves and who God has plans for that may or may not include a husband, but it’s also ignorant of the current economic and institutional situation we’re living in.

    I personally want a family some day. I want to raise children in the Lord and love them and teach them. But I also want a career and a greater purpose and a life where I don’t have to struggle providing for my kids. And with God, I know both are possible, and these are the very things he provides to make it possible.

  17. This stood out from the article which I 100% agree with. “It greatly offends working mothers to teach women to be keepers at home.” God’s word doesn’t change just because the world does. The problem isn’t so much women going to college though, it is that most men nowadays don’t want to be the sole breadwinner of the home and have a wife that stays at home. It is a double edged sword of the society we are currently living in.

  18. Hi Lori,
    I am so sorry you’ve been receiving so much backlash to this post; I want you to know that I am praying for you and that, while I disagree with the main point of this article, I also disagree with the way others have gone about expressing their own disagreement. I would say more, but I’m in the middle of writing up my own response in the hopes that others might read it and be less quick to grow angry. Stay tuned for that if you’d like to read it <3

  19. Increasingly, there is little difference between “Christians” and others. They all think the same thing and make the same comments. The only view that matters at the end of the day, is God’s, and this is found in His word. Take comfort in Philippians 1:29 and Matthew 5:11. I know you own a Bible.

  20. Educating women is of great benefit to society. I homeschool my children. All 6 of them. My 18 year old daughter is attending college on a full scholarship. She worked very hard at homeschooling so that she wouldn’t have debt from college, yet she has a beautiful mind that loves our Lord, serves our church family by singing worship every Sunday, and serves her family as she is able, since she chose to live at home during college despite having the opportunity to live on campus for free. We highly encouraged her to pursue higher education because her beautiful mind is a gift from the Lord, and we do not squander Gods gifts.

    I am dismayed at how you put all men into a very small minded box. My husband, a pastor, married me, a single mother of 19, with a tattoo and college debt. He thinks I am a priceless treasure, despite having to pay off my college debt incurred for the career I never worked at. He loves my intelligent mind and the ability to have thoughtful reasoned conversations. He tells me how proud of me he is when I kick butt at Scrabble and he always wants me on his team when we play games with friends,because I’m good at them.

    My college education prepared me for home schooling my kids in such a way that they are clever, love to learn, logical and wise. They also can cook, clean, care for children, and do other wonderful things that prepare them for life as well.

    As I read your article with my husband he commented on how it saddened him to think that some young woman may find herself unworthy of a righteous man’s love, because she wasn’t what you have described men want. Men don’t want robots. They don’t want women to pander to their whims, or obey their orders. They want women who love the Lord, who serve him faithfully in whatever calling he has placed upon their hearts, who love others, who are kind and loyal, and who are wise enough to know that no woman should attempt to become the woman some man wants…. But rather strive to please the Lord with the gifts He has bestowed upon them. He is the only man that matters! A wise woman knows that.

    1. You and others are reading a lot into the post as it does not say that a woman/wife should not be educated, but rather think twice before burdening our family with college debt. Especially if you are not going into a career. Like so many you want to read your experience into the post instead of reading it from a perspective of what God admonishes and desires.

      The fact that it all worked out for you and our husband may have far more to say about God’s bountiful goodness than it does about His admonitions. Will you raise your daughters to stay pure for their marriage bed, avoid debt and especially large and ugly tattoos that will scar their God given bodies? You bet you will, yet you will object to a post that tries to teach thees principles to young Christian women who do not have parents like you.

      You are correct in much of what you write about what men want in a wife, but so wrong that women are not significantly focused on getting the best catch they can in a godly husband. You overlook the many Christian young women who need to be told to think twice before falling headlong into societies hedonistic ways. Are we not to be different from the world? And are not godly men preferring Christian women who are different by doing things God’s ways? This is what godly men “prefer” and not to say they do not have grace and love for those who fall short of their preferences.

  21. Lori, I see you’re getting a lot of grief from leftist websites. Just wanted you to know you’re right on target. May the Lord bless you and protect you from the arrows being aimed at you by those who do not seek the truth.

  22. I want to be pleasing in the eyes of the Lord, not marriageable men. God gave me a mind, a heart, a body, and a soul to work for Him, not to simply for a husband or to propagate the species. I’m not seeking a husband; I’m seeking God’s will.

    1. The best place to start in seeking God’s will is to be in His Word where He teaches us that one of our greatest ministries for God is found in marrying and bearing godly offspring. A few are called to be single so that they can devote their whole focus to ministry. If that is you, go for it with all your heart, but most Christian mothers can’t imagine life without our beautiful babies. Few will lead another to Jesus in their lifetime, but a mother can help God build His family with her investment of Christ’s love into her children, winning their souls for Jesus.

    2. Matt 19:4-6, among others:

      He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”

      Sounds like God’s will there.

  23. Excellent advice, Biblically sound.

    You’ll get a lot of hate from this article. Heaven loves it, though, so that might be something of a consolation to you.

    Cheers.

  24. Hey Lori!
    I read your article after my friend posted it on Facebook. I really enjoyed how you included an email, and how your articulated your points with examples.

    One thing that stuck with me was when you said “I will never understand how women prefer careers over having precious babies.” It made me think of my mother, who stayed at home her whole adult life to raise me and my siblings. I am so grateful I had a stay-at-home mother, who dedicated her life to me and my siblings, and teaching us how to live our lives in the name of others.

    She and my father instilled in me at a young age that I was to live for others, to become the best version of myself so I can take care of those who need it most. I have interpreted that to mean that I can help more lives if I work in healthcare, specifically pet care.

    I do want to have children, and be a good mother. But I can help more lives if I do pursue this career. Jesus Christ dedicated his life to helping others, and I could not see myself doing anything but helping those that need it most.

    I hope this might help you understand why some people follow their careers. If not, I hope this isn’t offensive or unwarranted. I really enjoyed your article, and your point of view.

    Keep writing! 🙂

  25. As someone who finished college debt-free, loves the Bible and is still a virgin without tattoos – I find this collection of quotes ridiculous. My first and hopefully final serious relationship began at the age of 39. Had I skipped college and later postgraduate studies, learned to cook and waited around for a man to show up, I would have forfeited 20 years of serving others through work and ministry. The Bible teaches quite clearly that all of our work is an act of worship, so both my time in the secular media and working for Christian ministries were opportunities to serve others and be an ambassador for Christ. Paul and Jesus weren’t the only ones who lived single, childless and blessed lives. Encourage women who also have seasons of singleness and may never raise children to flourish where God’s placed them, whether or not it comes with a paycheck.

  26. I am not sure I understand why a father or husband is the only way a woman can understand scripture. I understand and disagree with most of this article, but I am confused where you get this particular viewpoint…

    1. The Bible tells fathers that they are to raise their children in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord and the Apostle Paul tells us that if a wife has a question about the sermon, she should ask her husband at home so these are biblical, however, all godly wives should be in the Word daily and allowing it to dwell richly within them.

  27. I read a whole bunch of angry comments about this article you wrote. So much so, I needed to read for myself to see what could cause this outrage.

    Thank God we have people still saying what you have! I think the anger is more about personal guilt from what they see in themselves than any fingers pointed at you. It’s not easy going against the grain or bucking trend. It’s not popular to say that women cannot do everything and be everything and still do it all with a high level of success. That it’s not the piece of paper framed on the wall, the paycheck and independence, the bigger home, better cars, etc that matters… the important things are your children. But how can you argue that point in a world that needs special car alarms so you don’t forget your child in the backseat. We value our phones more than our children. And for a large majority of people… kids, husband, family… homemaker… that’s not the prize. They’d rather enslave themselves to a “man” that signs the check not the man that takes care of her.

  28. Seeing how this has made the rounds on the internet – I feel it’s worth noting that it’s primarily feminist SJW’s in “christian” clothing that seem triggered by this idea. And then they bemoan their own single status.

    I get where this article is coming from and yes, I care less about a woman’s sexual experiences than how much secular feminist doctrine she’s drank in… but I do find the two to be curiously correlated. And tattoos… meh, women used to think they were edgy. But it’s not edgy. And who wants to look at the 60yr old version of that tramp stamp that you thought was cool in college. Yeah.. “love me for me” – well ok, but doesn’t that go both ways?

    Feminism has infected the church to the degree that men are simply avoiding women who display it. So they come out to write blogs and be angry about it. And the quality men just shake their heads and move on to women who aren’t wrapped up in that world. If you want to find a good man… ditch the angry blogs by women who aren’t married and aren’t any closer to it. And if they use terms like “power structures”, “misogyny”, and “patriarchy”… well.. just think how single you could continue to be if you become just like them! Yeah Boundless.org… I’m looking at you here.

    Anyway, great article here. Worth chewing on. And if you take anything as Gospel truth because you read it on the internet – newsflash: you’re doing it wrong.

  29. Wow! Just wow! I am blown away. I have been teaching the young men in my church to guard their hearts against the harlot (Proverbs 7). To use societies “tells” (college/debt, tats, face piercings, crazy color hair) to avoid troublesome women. I have explained their need to embrace their masculine nature (protection, provision and procreation) and encourage their lady’s femininity (helpmate, childbearing/caring and affectionate nature). Outside of the “manosphere/pickup community” I cannot find any resources, Christian or otherwise, to support Godly manliness and femininity. Even amongst my fellow Christian men there is a fear of women that is in lockstep with American culture. Thank you so much. You are literally doing God’s work. the situation between men and women is secular and responsible for EVERY ill we see in America. Debt, violence, addiction, suicide, divorce and overall unhappiness.

  30. If you want this message to gain any penetration with women, you’re going to have to target getting it across to young men. Young women by their early twenties and late teens who’ve bought into the careerist life path cannot be swayed unless they know conclusively that men will not pursue them knowing that marriage, family, and children will be only seen as accessories in their lives, than the primary concern. Young men at this stage, especially the increasing number raised in fatherless households will appreciate and respect the perspective these words offer and it is only by reaching them, will you be able to reach the women.

    1. This is an article by a Christian to Christians. The Christian view is that all people are condemned and must seek refuge in Christ from God’s wrath. That God provides that refuge is the good news, the Gospel. The heart must be changed, it needs to be born again, to be a new creature. No woman or man with an unchanged heart will read this article and think to themselves, hey, this seems like a great idea. The hope is, however, that young Christian women will read it, and perhaps see that the narrow-path puts to shame the wide-path-preaching being drummed into the heads of every Christian from all quadrants day and night, even from Christendom itself.

  31. Hello Lori!

    Yes and amen!!!!! This is a messege I feel greatly many young people are missing in these last days. I hope the Lord Jesus takes me home before I have to see much moore of this suffering and travailing in labor this old Earth is doing.

    I for one am so glad my dauhgters have growned up to love Jesus. They know that the man comes first, and have learned to serve and be good obedient women in the home. My dauhter, Janine, makes the most wonderful rhubarb pie, which has been in our family for generations and is a favorite of my husband’s. She is a precious ruby in the sihgt of God.

    My little ones will never learn the evil ways of this world, teaching them they can learn or read by themselves, without the men to help them understand. A woman’s place is to be a loving support for her husband, to cook and clean and sew and knit and be obedient at all times!!! And of course my hubby reads to us at night from Holy Scipture. It saddens my heart her and so many other young girls like her are taught they have to fill their head with nonsense like math, or that evil evolution stuff (the Lord teaches us we do not come from babboons!!), or that men and women should be the same. We are both God’s creations, but have different roles!! The nose and the mouth do not do the same thing, but they both make the face, so too is the home to be the face of Jesus’s bride.

    Tattoos are ugly, and so are pirceings! Why would beutiful women want to ruin their faces, or color their hair crazy colors, or listen to that rowdy rock and roll? All the devil’s handywork, turning our sweet ladies into followers of Satan and enticing them to follow Al Kaeda.

    LISTEN TO HER LADIES!!! Be godly, dont read books without men there to explain them to you, love that you get to make babies one day, and you will be happier!!!!

    1. Did your husband read this to you too? Lol, I’m sorry. I’m not a feminist or anything, but I think it’s pretty sad to think yourself incapable of understanding and learning. We are all made in God’s image, with full capability to learn and grow. Submitting to our husbands and respecting their authority is crucial, but they’d be pretty lost without our uniquely wired mind power. There is a reason women were created, and it’s not just because Adam didn’t know how to do the dishes. Also, if God just wanted women to act as these functional machines, you’d think he’d remove the mouth and mind. But God’s not dumb, and he’s infinite and the MVP. So yeah, we women get to do those incredible things like raising kids and managing the home. But also we get to read and learn and feel and think and experience him in the way only WE can understand. I just love God so much, He’s the best.

  32. Wouldn’t being in debt just make the woman more dependent on her husband? I’m a very devout Christian man and I agree with most of your comments but above all I believe that a woman should be dependent upon her man. Otherwise I fear that the woman may leave her family for another man. I’ve heard many stories of woman who are independent and confident leaving their husband/ man because they realized they weren’t happy. I think that’s horrible and frightening. Please advise.

  33. The title of this article is absolutely true.

    If you’re smart, and work hard, and ‘sacrifice’ by living at home, you can get a degree, Debt Free, nd make good money after, if you want. I make six figures.

    Sex is sacred, and nobody seems to understand.

    Tattoos are immature and permanently ruin beautiful bodies.

    If my wife wants to support the family by making another six figures together or/and helping with a family business, I want her there; we can hire a nanny/provide for a god-mother to help her. If she wants to stay home, I want her there. But this is moot, because nobody has family value anymore.

  34. I love this article
    But you missed a few things:
    Super short hair
    And disgusting face and nose piercings
    The piercings some girls have make me have to blind myself without puking
    I guess a woman can always grow out her hair and take off those piercings, can’t regain virginity and remove ink

  35. I’m sorry for all of the negative feedback this post has generated. Thank you for sharing your opinion. I think it is timely and helpful. Even if people disagree, what harm is there in hearing and considering someone else’s perspective?!

  36. Excellent article! Now if young people would read with an
    open mind and with a heart of understanding.

  37. Looks like you stirred up a hornet’s nest with this one!
    As a guy who is also a debt-free virgin with no tatoos, I understand the self-sacrifice involved in each of those decisions. They’re not necessarily deal breakers, but they certainly are indicators of who a person is and what they value.

    Thank you for acknowledging the value of these traits. I just read another blog which dismisses the ideas you set forth, and commented that the article “makes me regret every girl I ever honored, respected, and didn’t deflower. I don’t appreciate that.”

    There is not a lot of encouragement to sacrifice in the way I’ve chosen to. There’s also a lot of pain for a guy who does so (men are physical beings after all). While your comments may make some people uncomfortable, they also encourage me to live for Christ and not myself. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.

  38. P.S. I very much like the format in which you wrote this. Makes it seem like a dialogue instead of a pronouncement of right and wrong. It’s a very approachable style which makes reading the article interesting and enticing. Good work.

  39. How wonderfully refreshing to hear a true Christian woman whose heart is turned towards God. These same problems have been discussed many times in my circles of the hospital. I know that you will receive many negative comments for speaking God’s truth; I fully support your position and applaud your strength. May you continue in this work and be a true blessing to the many families who need to hear God’s plan. Keep the armor of God close.

  40. Common sense in a world gone mad. Thank you for this. The reaction this piece has gotten from modern xtians is appalling, and prima facie evidence of just how out of touch the modern church is with its roots and the law of God.

  41. Annette,

    Some of this will be very bluntly worded, but none of it is to attack anyone. Iths just direct and to the point, like Lori’s post and it’s about time women hear what follows.

    Your example is a rare example and not the norm and note how your daughter isn’t even thinking about marriage. Plus you’ve left a lot out:

    1) 99% of women do not choose $6,500 degrees. They move to college, pay to live and run up a very high bill in school loans, which they don’t think about being that young.

    2) For the most part, women get useless degrees in Gender Studies (man-hating feminism) which has no jobs, or Social Work or Teaching, both of which pay poorly. So who’s gonna end up paying for it? The husband, of course. Why is it that women want to be independent, but only up to the point where it’s time to pay for the consequences of their actions?

    3) Women looking to set up careers are looking to set up single lives, not marriage and motherhood and taking care of the home as she should be. Men and women are not equal. They are not the same. Men MUST work. Women CHOOSE to work. So when they think it’s okay to put their WANTS ahead of REALITY, it’s not.

    Whether you like hearing it or not, men and women age very differently! Men become “distinguished looking”, while women look worse and men are visual creatures and we’re not looking to wife up the “looks have hit the wall” slut who’s “had her fun and now wants to settle down”. Nature geared men to be attracted to young, fertile women and geared women to be attracted to men who have it together and that’s why men age far better than women. Your feminist anger about that is irrelevant, because it’s built on a lie.

    What women today seek, is to be sluts starting in their teens, go to college to get a low paying degree while being drunk and getting banged by multiple men and piling up debt, then chasing a career and accumulate more debt shopping and then, when they’re older, sagging and have used up bodies with loose vaginas, want to find a man to wife them up before even more wrinkles appear so they can get the man to deplete his savings and investments to pay their still existing college and now credit card debt, as well as pay for the IVF they’ll now need and of course, since he has all that money, it’s time to get their name added to his credit cards and shop even bigger, while nagging him that he doesn’t make enough money and should get a second job when they start sinking financially.

    Or, all of that, except she already had kids and now expects him to pay to raise another mans children and of course, women berate men who object, saying they’re qnot a real man”. And she worked before, leaving the kids in the cheapest day care because she “wasn’t looking to settle down”, so the children have no mother at home and no father at all, while she chases her career and tells everyone; “I’m all about my kids!”

    Of course once married she’ll be a lousy housekeeper and cook because she never learned and will say things like; “I’m nobody’s slave!”, because her Gender Studies course taught her to and how “masculinity is toxic”, while teaching her to act masculine.

    Yea, that’s quite the friggin’ deal men are getting! Wow, baby! Hubba! Hubba!

    Yes, feminism has been so wonderful for women!

    You keep writing, Lori! Men, by nature, want to protect and provide for their wives and children and wish to marry young, virtuous, debt and children free women and only the mind-virus called “feminism” would make a woman think that’s it’s too much to ask for a woman to want to support her family from home!

  42. I’ve noticed a lot of people are coming away from this post with the impression that it’s saying that a girl who has debt, a tattoo or lost virginity is worthless as a spouse. I’m sure you were trying to say that men are hoping for a girl without those kinds of baggage but perhaps you could explain the virgin-tattoo thing a little clearer.
    Also, as Annette pointed out in her comment the points against college seem narrow-minded. There are several reasons a righteous woman might pursue a college degree, (at the recommendation of her parents or because she’s called to a certain mission field…) and several ways she can do it without incurring debt or living in an unwholesome atmosphere. (scholarship… earning her degree over the internet…) This is from someone who chose NOT to pursue college but who still might do so if, say, the government required a degree to homeschool.

  43. “Men Prefer Debt-Free Virgins without Tattoos” This is good advice, I wish you best of luck I think you will help a lot of young women make good choices.

  44. They do, but where can one find such a woman? I live near Boston and every woman seems to dedicate her life here to be abything but what you describe.

  45. I write with no comment on your article–I write merely to inform you that today another blogger, Grayson Gilbert, has posted an article which criticizes some of the negative reactions to it. It is mostly a defense of your article.

    Mr. Gilbert’s article is entitled “On Debt-Free Virgins without Tattoos – Stop being Gnostics”. At present it is accessible here: http://www.patheos.com/blogs/chorusinthechaos/debt-free-virgins-tattoos/

    1. Thank you for posting Mr. Gilberts’ article. His article was a great response and i hope those who read this will also read that.

  46. Lori,

    Reading this blog entry made my day. Thank you, better, I thank Jesus for you. Our culture has become so pathological for a variety of reasons; extreme feminism just one awful example. I spoken to my 18 year old son about a range of issues and have cautioned him regarding the quality of young ladies nowadays. Fortunately he loves and respects me and has taken my words to heart. I fear for his future as he wants to marry and have a daughter some day, but he knows adventuring into the marriage mine field is quite a roll of the dice.

    I wish these so called “professional pastors” would truly lead Christians instead of pandering for the purpose of fulling their pews and their collection plates.

    May God continue to bless you and your family……..

  47. I am always shocked at people who live happy lives because they followed the above advice, who then mock and adimadvert those who give it.

    The vast majority of women are not super special snowflakes of exceptional oddity. Nor do they want to end up like “the woman at the well”. Life is made of opportunity costs. Lying to women about the optimum min/max choices that will get them a loving home with husband and kids, ski that they can feel inclusive and be accepted by the worldly powers is despicable.

    Keep telling truth to power.

  48. This article is highly offensive to most women, no doubt.

    …But it’s also the plain, unvarnished truth. Well done for writing it: very few women would dare.

    Men, throughout history, and all around the globe, have preferred to marry virgins. It is the way they are created. It is only in the feminist, socially engineered climate of the modern West that men are attacked for expressing such a preference, since it has been central to feminist dogma that women should be “sexually liberated” — or “play the whore” as the Bible puts it. Had women realised that such behaviour jeopardises their chances of having a husband and children then they might have been disposed to reject feminism.

    And so, in order to keep feminism going, men were socially conditioned (through fear of ridicule) into declaring that they don’t mind marrying non-virgins, and brainwashed into believing the lie that their wife’s sexual past has no bearing on anything, when in fact a woman’s chances of forming a strong, stable marriage decrease in proportion to the number of sexual partners she has. Western males have become fools; duped, willing cuckolds who marry promiscuous women, with predictably disastrous results.

    And so we see the moral wasteland of today’s society — where (at least here in Britain), the average woman will, over the course of her life, have sex with not one man, not two, but eight different men. That’s all the players on a polo field. No sane man wants to marry that (sadly, men these days are ungodly, and thus foolish creatures). …And that is just the average woman.

    Doubtless this is the price men pay for turning from God. Hosea 4:14 springs to mind…

    1. Most women these days have had way more than 8 partners. They usually cross that number either before or in their first year of college.

  49. I would like to say: God forgives all who turn to him in repentance and we are called to be like Christ; so any man who immediately rules out a woman as worthless because she made mistakes in the past is not someone I would like to know. I’m not saying that having debt, or tattoos, or tons of ex-boyfriends is exemplary, but I think men who dismiss women as lesser who have made mistakes are not actually living out a Christ-like life.

    1. Yes, and the post does not say that either Abigail. It only points out God’s ideals. Our God is a redeeming God, but He first warns us as a loving Father to walk the right path. Do you believe God no longer wants His admonitions known within the church? Why not share God’s standards of what is not only exemplary, but pursuing righteousness.

    2. they aren’t “mistakes” they are decisions that represent a pattern. There is far too much risk associated with a loose woman and far too little reward.
      This is very sound advice and unfortunately hurts some.

    3. You have that opinion Abigail, but the Bible itself says many times to “Judge and judge righteously”.

      I suppose maybe that means you aren’t quite as Christ-like, since your views sound pretty divergent of those of the Bible.

  50. I count my blessings every day when I remember the day 32 years ago that I asked a young lady to marry me. She was a virgin, she was debt-free and she had no tattoos.

    After that time, we have raised three sons together, so she is no longer a virgin but still has no tattoos.

    I count my blessings every day when I remember that day. Would that there were more like her today!

  51. Interesting thoughts. On the other hand, there ARE women in Scripture, recommended even, who do not fit the “stay at home” mother role.
    What I find interesting also, is that in order for a woman to be considered “promiscuous,” why is not that same “label” applicable to the man? After all, it takes two to “promiscuate…”
    Men are as scarred by multiple relationships as women, says research.
    Years ago, a Time Magazine front page was a picture of a man,lying in bed, by himself, with a wall full of female “scalps.” The idea that, after all that sexual prowess, he was still alone…

    1. Yes Rudy, and this blog is written for Christian women. The men can teach what you are saying to the Christian men. Most things that are not done God’s ways scar us a little or a lot, and men should be taught good morals by their parents. The idea of a man’s sexual prowess is an ugly perversion of God’s intent for one man and one wife united together as one for life.

  52. I know plenty of mothers who have tattoos, weren’t Christians their whole life, and are THRIVING in their families and with the Lord. Not to mention thousands of women who have had their purity ripped away from them or people from the middle and lower classes who don’t have Daddy’s trust fund to pay their way through school. I work 3 jobs to be a student, have had many things taken away from me by the hands of others, and I know I will be with a man who adores me for me and the ways I don’t fit the mold. It’s not always so cut and paste like you are. You can’t speak for all men with all different types and desires and backgrounds because you are not them. And if you truly think you have that authority then your page is bust for me.

    1. Yes Katie, God’s grace abounds, but that does not mean that God does not prefer a better way for our own good. Godly young men will fall in love with girls who have not perfectly followed God’s ways, after all, they too have their own sins and issues. But don’t for a second believe godly men do not “prefer” that their future spouse be a debt free virgin without uncomely tattoos.

  53. There will be more virgins available to marry when Christians teach their sons to:

    1. Not practice fornication, adultery, rape
    and/or sexual assault against females of any age, at any time in their lives;
    2. Be virgins and pure as the new-driven
    snow on their wedding nights;
    3. Remember that HOLINESS and sexual purity is required by all males who claim to serve God and/or follow the Lord Jesus Christ.

  54. Amen! I am a single Christian man and I absolutely refuse to court a woman who has marked her body with disgusting pagan tattoos!

    Also, it used to be the norm that a woman would be a virgin upon marriage, but now that is the smallest of a minority! Feminism teaches women to be as promiscuous as they can be.

    1. I don’t see why Lori should be worried. Most of the detractors have no ground to stand on, so why pay them any attention short of showing examples for good Christian men to avoid?

  55. Very interesting blog post.
    Let’s face it. Most women don’t really care about a man’s prolific sexual exploits of the past. Unless it means he is divorced, has been financially zeroed out with alimony and child support payments.

    Women care most about his fidelity in the here and now for all of its indications and implications to her own security, protection, resources and provisioning to her and her offspring. This is normal and common.

    Because of the feminist equalism narrative which now permeates the church and dominates pretty much other areas of public discourse (school, work, government), most women are seeking out examples of unfairness or stuggling to understand why men don’t think like they do: “Okay, so why would men make such a big deal out of my past sexploits? Why is it ok for men to be sluts, but not women!?”

    Because men know that premarital sexual congress affects women differently, and that a woman with a roster of past sexual partners will likely struggle to have and hold a devoted and loyal relationship to him as her husband, no matter what he does or how he performs. And men understand what such a woman represents to him in terms of legal and financial risk in modern day western society.
    And because human males want assurances of paternity and their own genetic success.

    On the financial debt question, the US has $1.4 trillion in student loan debt. Two thirds of this is held by women.
    Men tend to have more consumer credit card debt than women however. These two levels of debt do not balance out fairly, but it represents a significant barrier that both men and women more seriously consider for any future together.

    Marriage rates are way down for a number of understandable reasons. And yet men are still marrying highly-educated, highly leveraged women. The propensity of such women to look down on such potential male suitors and husbands is truly astounding. If only we would consider the immense legal and financial risks of marriage which are strictly reserved for men. One would think given the current field of play in intersexual relationships in modern times, women would come to the conclusion that a little more gratitude might be in order for such men.

    1. It’s no better that young men be promiscuous. Men can become just as damaged by premarital sex, and furthermore, if you think it is fine for young Christian men to engage in sexual exploits then you must also be encouraging young Christian women to do so as well, as less you are promoting sodomy! I expect more from a devout Christian such as yourself. Or rather I doubt you’re a Christian at all. Probably another one of those dang liberals trying to infiltrate the church and spread your pagan ideals onto the youth. First it will be promoting premarital sex for men, what’s next, women? Children?

  56. MA’AM YOU ARE RIGHT!!!! I am a wife and mother to 3 with another on the way and your article is the true.

    I WAS THAT WOMAN. Before marriage I was a promiscuous, tattoo bearing, indebted college athlete.

    By the grace of God, He sent me a kind, forgiving and Godly man years after I had repented. But it cost me dearly.

    I had emotional baggage from my sexual liasons that had to be worked through, over $11k in college loans had to be paid off, suffered through painful pregnancies and deliveries because of pelvic injuries from high impact sports and I was totally unprepared for domestic life.

    We decided before marriage that I would stay home, the children would be homeschooled and we would help our children down a better path. Is it easy living on one income, being a SAHM? No but it’s worth it!!! I only wish I was better prepared.

    Young ladies please don’t mark your bodies, give away your virginity and fork tens of thousands of dollars to earn a degree that has you sitting in a cubicle all day. Listen to this article and choose a better path!

  57. Rudy said: “RUDY SCHELLEKENS says:
    July 24, 2018 at 2:00 pm

    “Men are as scarred by multiple relationships as women, says research.”

    Not valid (e.g., nonfeminist) research. The classic Teachman study showed how even a couple of premarital partners substantially dinged a woman’s odds of making her marriage last 10 years, from 80 to 44%. Five previous partners, and she was down to less than 30%. Marrying such a woman is playing Russian Roulette with 4 of the 6 chambers loaded.
    That’s without even getting into the Telegony issue. That’s where a woman’s previous sexual partners permanently leave their DNA in her brain, and apparently ovaries. The result is that if a man impregnates a woman who has had ANY previous partners, any resulting children would not be entirely “his”, that he’d be at least in part cuckolded. Top animal breeders often will never again use a female for breeding, if even once a male unintended for her mounts her. Apparently, this traditional wisdom has been borne out by modern science, like so many things.

    Teachman graph: http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_R-WhB9g9eYk/TJDSr8V_ShI/AAAAAAAAAOg/VmMGTymAVcI/s400/teachman

  58. Katie says:
    July 24, 2018 at 2:21 pm
    “I know plenty of mothers who have tattoos, weren’t Christians their whole life, and are THRIVING in their families and with the Lord.”

    No so. Every day that a person bears a tattoo, they are in a state of unrepentant sin. Leviticus 19:28 is very clear on this, for Christians who have not torn out and discarded most of their Bible. Had Mary Magdalene borne tattoos (the Bible doesn’t say AFAIK), I don’t doubt that Jesus would have informed her that removing (and never replacing) all of them, and being apologetic about ever having had them would have been an essential part of his command to her to repent and turn away from sin, and to never do it again.

    Further, when a man sees a woman with tattoos, he is likely to think she’s been with so many guys, that her “price” to bed him is likely to be very low, so she could be a good “just for tonight”. However, his hindbrain ALSO tells him that she’s at WAY higher risk of serious STDs (and there are multiple of those now that are INCURABLE), as well as utterly unfit for anything longterm, let alone marriage and being the mother to his children.

    1. Just to think, Pam Anderson caught Hep from a rocket scientist of a tattoo artist who thought that sharing needles with ol’ Tommy was a great idea, if memory serves correct.

  59. As a Man of God in a misandrist satanic society i can affirm this that real men only want Godly women. There’s a reason God made women a virgin, to be at home not in debt at feminists colleges where by the time you graduate youre unfertile and created 20 years of payment for your feminist degree in feelings. Even biology proves women must be a virgin to please a man. Any woman who is against this hates god and is a child of satan.

  60. You are 100% correct. I am a man of God in my late 20’s. All men say the same. Women who sleep around will pay the price of being alone because they fell for Satan’s plan, feminism. Thank you for standing up for women by telling them the truth.

  61. Excellent article, many will refuse to listen, but you’ll surely save some from terrible mistakes.

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  62. Lori, thank you for your godliness in the midst of harsh protest.

    11 “Blessed are you when others revile you and persecute you and utter all kinds of evil against you falsely on my account. 12 Rejoice and be glad, for your reward is great in heaven, for so they persecuted the prophets who were before you.
    Matthew 5

  63. Good article, very biblical and a must read for every young maiden. One of my girls wants to get a music degree in piano at BJU so she can give lessons from home when God gives her children and a husband of course. But she has to pay it off as she goes along. We made sure there is a good church to connect with. I think the perfect way is for them is to stay home until marriage, it does protect them. And of course stay pure until marriage and no tattoos is also a biblical concept. I do believe that the deceiver has deceived many in the church, and we have embraced worldliness in every aspect, from home to church and reaping the consequences, just the way Christians respond to this makes it obvious. Pastor John Mc Arthur in the 1980 had a sermon on the woman role and it said the same and much more on this topic and today they would snarl at him. We give in little by little to the lies and deceit and justify everything we want. An excellent article will share it with my kids.

  64. If you had written that men prefer fit, healthy chicks, no one would have batted an eye, even though there are a lot of unfit, unhealthy ladies out there, who, apparently, would now feel worthless because someone dared to point out the obvious. Now, why is that?

  65. I think looking at this article I have some things that I agree with but some that I disagree with. Firstly: my fiancee is a debt free virgin without tattoos who went to university (in the UK so college for us doesn’t = debt) and learned to cook for multiple people whilst at the Church we met (as she and others hosted church members for lunch at their houses on Sunday.) It was also when I learnt to cook incidentally. In short, while I accept this may be unusual, learning to cook seems to happen more often than not in university. The Church where we met in question does have a lot of emphasis on biblical womanhood and manhood.

    I also disagree that women shouldn’t work for pay at all. Unfortunately it is getting increasingly difficult to raise children without a double income, this idea that men have to “man up” and get a job that will pay enough to raise a family often doesn’t actually get realised, not because men are wimpy but rather because jobs of that kind of pay (even with a degree) are hard to obtain. I know some will say “a man should wait until he gets a job of sufficiently high pay before he gets married so his wife can be stay at home and homeschool the kids” but that effectively forbids marriage for the poor, which of course you wouldn’t agree with.

    Furthermore I think there is potentially a conflation of purity with being a virgin (though I accept you probably do not conflate these two things). There are some who have been sexually assaulted that have been driven away from God by this false teaching. Further, virgins can be really impure in thought and action. One could get into the mindset of “it’s ok if I watch porn, so long as I’m still a virgin” ridiculous I know, but it’s a view I’ve heard.

    Then again, I believe that the USA/UK clash might be showing here again, as we don’t have the same trade based economy, it’s mainly services based and that means mostly slightly higher than minimum wage (for reference for a lot of people that means £7.95/$ 10.17 dollars). I also accept that cost of living is different in the USA, so that might be an issue here. Even so the point still stands. Many Christians talk about the job market as though it’s all the same as when you were the same age, but it simply isn’t.

    Secondly I can see wisdom in a lot of what is said-whilst at university I encountered a lot of ideas that are antithetical to the gospel, so anyone (not just women) should count the potential cost. I also agree that being debt-free is good, and personally while I’d be willing to forgive someone their sexual past if they were honest with me from the get go (not that it really matters at this point), virginity is preferable, and having a Godly attitude towards sex regardless of previous behavior is essential.
    Also Tattoos I don’t really like aesthetically speaking, , but it is not a sign of being unregenerate as some are saying.

    So in short I do prefer (and did prefer when single) and I do praise praise God that my fiancee is a debt free virgin without tattoos, but I have caveats as stated above.

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  67. All the women are aghast at this article, but all the men are nodding their heads thinking, “yep, sounds about right.”
    A woman can get married without living up to these standards, but the point of the article is what makes a woman more desirable for marriage in a (Christian) man’s eyes. What about what women want? Well, that’s gonna take a LONG time to write about, so let’s save it for another day.

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