The Feminist Additions to Titus 2

The Feminist Additions to Titus 2

“The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober (most of the time), to love their husbands (if they make them happy), to love their children (which includes leaving their children all day so they can have a career), to be discreet (this doesn’t mean they can’t do what they want to do), chaste (but living with their boyfriend before marriage is okay), keepers at home (but they still can have careers), obedient to their own husbands (only if their husbands love them as Christ loves the Church), that the word of God be not blasphemed.” (Titus 2:3-5)

This is how feminist-minded women want me to teach biblical womanhood. I often hear, “Why do you only tell what a woman’s role is? What about husbands loving their wives as Christ loved the Church?” and “You’re a woman hater!”

According to God, women are to be sober at all times. They are to love their husbands even if their husbands don’t make them “happy.” (As believers, happiness is not what we strive after but walking in the Spirit and obeying God are our goals in life.) Women are to love their children enough to sacrifice whatever it takes in order to be the ones home raising them, if at all possible, and we know with the Lord that all things are possible. They are to be feminine and discreet in everything including breastfeeding. They are to be keepers at home and this is where their work is to be done. All of these are God’s commands not mine.

 Wives are commanded to be “obedient to their own husbands.” Period. There are no qualifications or exceptions given in this verse so I teach young women to be obedient to their husbands since they need to focus upon this more than what submission doesn’t mean. (Of course, we must take the Bible as a whole and know that God’s will overrides a husband’s will.) I will never teach them that their husbands should love them like Christ loves the church since wives have no control over their husband’s behavior.

What benefit is there for women teaching this any ways? If a wife will only obey her husband if he loves her as Christ loved the Church, she then becomes the judge and jury towards her husband. “Is he loving me as Christ loved the Church? Of course not, therefore, I refuse to obey him.” No husband is perfect and having expectations about how a husband is to treat her makes for bad marriages. She needs to focus upon herself and make sure that she is obeying the Lord with a meek and quiet spirit while the Holy Spirit works mightily within her.

The way God worded the verses above, He made it clear that wives are to focus upon their own behavior and not try to convict or change their husband’s. It’s not their job. It’s their job to work on loving and obeying their husband, loving their children, becoming discreet, chaste, sober, good, and keepers at home.

But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves.
James 1:22

6 thoughts on “The Feminist Additions to Titus 2

  1. So true. I bought a book at a seminar written by a man about father leadership in the family. I gave it to my husband but never read it. I didn’t want to put expectations on my husband from the book. I realize that I am not anywhere near perfect and I should spend my time and energy on getting myself right not “fixing” him or laying expectations down. Whenever I get frustrated at him I realize it is because of my expectations for how I think things should be aren’t being met. I try to let go of those things.

    I’m sorry so many women choose to disobey the clear teaching of scripture. The peace that comes with obedience and faith is such a blessing.

  2. Their husbands should love them. They should love their husbands. Too many modern “mutual submission” believers mistake submission for loving and serving. Translate hupotasso using words from the lexicon with more obvious, clear, and apparent meanings like “obedience” or “subjection” and it is easy to see “mutual obedience” or “mutual subjection” is illogical and nonsense. Then they seem to only focus on Eph 5:21-22 and skip v24 being subject in everything, and Titus 2 and 1 Cor 14 and 1 Tim 2 and 1 Peter 3 and Genesis 3 and etc, or pick a Bible translation that only uses their favorite obfuscated translated word “submit”. God is not the author of this confusion, but of peace.

  3. I was curious about what The Message translation( which I believed people should stay away from) of Titus 2 and oh my goodness! It’s completely mess up! But the feminists would love this version of the ahem ” Bible “.

    1. I just looked it up and it is messed up. “Guide older women into lives of reverence so they end up as neither gossips nor drunks, but models of goodness. By looking at them, the younger women will know how to love their husbands and children, be virtuous and pure, keep a good house, be good wives. We don’t want anyone looking down on God’s Message because of their behavior. ” I may have to write a post on this one!

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