What and who exactly are women to teach according to the Word? There are women teaching other women the Word but failing to teach what God has instructed them to teach. Many women didn’t like yesterday’s post about being silent in the Church. This is offensive to them and they tried to convince me by using Hebrew and Greek that I am wrong, as if the translators of the KJV Bible made mistakes and they know better than these men of old.
In further researching what women being “silent” in the church meant, I found some very interesting things in the commentaries of old about this topic. One thing I did not find is that woman are allowed to speak in the church. It seems to me that silence means silence. (This doesn’t mean they can’t sing. They are not to do anything that is teaching men or being in authority over them when they sing. The Apostle Paul is clear about this.)
Elliot’s Commentary: But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.—The whole purpose of these weighty admonitions of the great founder of the Gentile Churches relegates Christian women to their own legitimate sphere of action and influence—the quiet of their own homes.
Wow! Most Christian women wouldn’t like what Elliot had to say about a woman’s sphere – “the quiet of their own homes.” This is what feminism has rebelled against and unfortunately, many Christian women fell in lock step with them. Do you, women, not understand the importance of your home? Don’t ever let anyone try to convince you that it is not. We have the privilege of bearing and raising an army for the LORD in our homes. We are our husband’s help meet and have the privilege of making our homes a peaceful and beautiful place for our family in the midst of a loud and ugly world.
Matthew Henry’s Commentary: According to St. Paul, women are not allowed to be public teachers in the church; for teaching is an office of authority. But good women may and ought to teach their children at home the principles of true religion…St. Paul shows what is the only proper sphere in which woman should work, and in which she should exercise her influence and power; while man’s work and duties lay in the busy world without, woman’s work was exclusively confined to the quiet stillness of home.
Matthew Henry again reiterates “the quiet stillness of home” as the place where women work. Is your home peaceful? You, as the woman of the home, have a big responsibility of whether or not your home is peaceful by your attitude and behavior. Are you gentle and kind with your husband and children? Do you control your emotions and feelings so you are led by Truth and the Spirit instead? Do you find that the JOY of the LORD is your strength? In order to have a peaceful home, you must hide God’s Word deeply in your heart so that you won’t sin against Him. As you are doing this, make sure you are teaching your children godliness as well.
Matthew Poole’s Commentary: Nevertheless women may, and it is their duty to instruct their children and families at home, especially in the absence of their husbands.
It is fathers who are given the command to raise their children in the nurture and the admonition of the LORD in Ephesians 6:4 but as the husband is head over the wife and the wife is home full time, she will be the one who is teaching them the ways of the LORD throughout the day. Make sure you are reading them the Bible, even more so than Bible story books, since it is His Word that is living and active and sharper than a two edged sword. Use every opportunity to teach your children truth.
We are blessed with five grandchildren. One of my sons and his wife told me that every night when they put their nine month old baby to bed they sing a hymn and pray over her. The other day, I watched my one and a half year old granddaughter and as we put her to bed, we sang and prayed over her. It was such a sweet time! Find any way you can to speak and teach truth to your children just as Timothy’s mother and grandmother shared their faith with him (2 Timothy 1:5).
Gill’s Exposition: But I suffer not a woman to teach, They may teach in private, in their own houses and families; they are to be teachers of good things, Titus 2:3. They are to bring up their children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord; nor is the law or doctrine of a mother to be forsaken, any more than the instruction of a father;…(but in church) but to be in silence; to sit and hear quietly and silently, and learn, and not teach.
Women are to teach the Word to their children and Titus 2:4, 5 to women. Even the Proverbs 31 wasn’t running around to different Women’s Bible Studies, teaching women the Bible, or attending conferences. She worked hard in and around her home. She was full of good works and deeds. What does it say about her words and what she teaches? “She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness” (Proverbs 31:26). In order to have wisdom, she had to know the Word of God for all wisdom comes from Him. When she spoke, she spoke words of wisdom and taught her children wisdom. Her words were also those of kindness. I am sure all that are around a woman like this clearly knows that she has been with the LORD.
“Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised” (Proverbs 31:30). She fears the LORD. If you fear the LORD, you don’t fear man and this is why she can “rejoice in the time to come.” She doesn’t fear the future because her trust is in the LORD. She respects and honors her husband as head over her and has no desire to teach men or speak in church. She knows her place is in the home and she finds her joy there.
Expositor’s Greek Testament: 1 Timothy 2:12. This refers of course only to public teaching, or to a wife’s teaching her husband. In Titus 2:3 St. Paul indicates the natural sphere for woman’s teaching.
In this commentary, we are told what women are to teach women, namely to love and obey their husbands, to love their children, to be sober, good, discreet, chaste, and keepers at home, namely godly womanhood. Few women want to teach this today. They would rather teach through books of the Bible or Old Testament figures or the end times, anything but Titus 2:4, 5. The thing is that woman are more easily deceived, therefore, it is best to stick to what the LORD has commanded for us to teach and let men preachers and teachers teach the whole of God’s amazing Word.
That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:4, 5