Yes, more women are divorcing their husbands today than men divorcing their wives. Statistics show that women are 70 – 80% more likely to divorce their husbands. I searched the Internet for reasons and was given many but I will focus upon one in particular called 6 Reasons Women Leave Their Marriages, According to Marriage Therapists. (When skimming through some articles written on this topic, there were numerous reasons given but this article seemed to sum them all up well. The points the article made are in bold and I give my thoughts for those who may have the same complaints about their husband.)
The wives feel taken for granted and overly responsible for the relationship. Many women come into marriages expecting their husbands to be Prince Charming to them who continues to romance them. They aren’t taught to accept their husbands just the way they are, take their eyes off of their supposed needs, learn to serve joyfully, and do whatever they can to make their marriages strong. They must remember that they are the ones who were created to be their husband’s help meets, not the other way around.
They keep having the same argument with their partner. This is an easy solution – stop arguing! The husband is the head over his wife and she is to live in submission to his leadership. The Bible compares a quarreling wife with a continual dripping, rottenness in his bones, foolish, and it’s better for a husband to live on a rooftop than with a quarreling wife. Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement (1 Peter 3:6). If we truly believe and love the Word of God, then we will treat our husbands as our “earthly lords” as God created them to be and would never dream of arguing with them!
They’re not satisfied with their sex lives. This isn’t a reason to divorce a husband! We must not look at Hollywood or Fifty Shades to measure sexual satisfaction. It’s way more important to the Lord that we please our husbands sexually, treat them with respect, and live in submission to them. When a wife is kind, loving, warm, and affectionate to her husband, most men will do anything they can to make a wife like this happy; for we are promised that we will reap what we sow. Besides, most of sexual pleasure comes from the mind and the good and loving thoughts that a woman sows in her mind towards her husband during the day, the better her sex life will most likely be.
They don’t talk and emotionally connect with their husbands like they used to. Men aren’t women. They aren’t emotionally connected as women. Most men don’t talk as much as women. If you’ve married a man, expect him to act like a man and not a woman. Besides, there’s nothing about “emotionally connecting” in the Bible that states this is a requirement for a good marriage.
They’ve outgrown their partners. What does this mean? They are better than their husbands? They know more than their husbands? This is an excuse to divorce the husband of their youth? They have fallen for the lie that there is something better “out there” wherever out there is. I can tell you from watching my parents being married for many years and Ken and me being married for almost 37 years, there’s nothing better than growing old with one man, the man of our youth.
They get to the point that divorce is the only way to put themselves first again. “Often, longstanding issues like addiction or uncontrolled anger will simply push women over the edge.” Unfortunately, addictions and uncontrolled anger are common today in our culture and much of it is due to children not being raised and nurtured by their mothers full time and having a mother and father in the home. Many children today are coming from divorced families and divorce causes anger and emptiness in the children’s lives. Addictions are a way to escape reality and porn, drug, and alcohol addictions are rampant. Women have their addictions and anger problems, too, for all of the same reason. The answer isn’t giving the children the same broken life that the parents had. The answer is stopping the crazy cycle and remaining committed for life even during the bad times. You know, “for better or for worse.” Just because marriage gets hard doesn’t mean we are to bail out. This is pure selfishness. Women will never find happiness by putting themselves first since the greatest of all is the servant of all. The more we learn to forget about ourselves and care for others, the more fulfilled we will become. It’s the way God created us to be! (Read this if your husband is a very angry man.)
Love is a choice, women. Love isn’t a feeling or emotion. Love is a choice to be selfless, serving, forgiving, generous, sacrificing, and loving unconditionally. God commands two things from us: that we believe on the name of His Son Jesus Christ and love one another (1 John 3:23). We are commanded to love our husband and even reverence him. Our love, submission, honor, and respect towards him will have a much better chance of changing our husband into the man that God wants him to be than anything else we can do.
What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.