One woman shared the pain she was in because her husband was having an affair. She’s understandably devastated. Another woman responded to her. She had an adulterous husband who had left her for ten years. This was how she responded to the suffering woman:
“I have been where you are and it is devastating. My husband and I are back together after ten years of him being away from God. It’s a traumatic thing to go through but also a beautiful journey learning things of God that can only be learned through this. It’s beauty out of the ashes. I would never want to not have learned what I have.
“Don’t dwell on anything your husband says or does. Constantly look at Christ and what He can do and the husband He is to you at this time. I constantly looked to God and brought every deep pain and fears to God. Don’t dwell on the negative and what ifs. Your husband is in Satan’s prison right now, and God has chosen you to stand in the gap on his behalf to see him set free.
“I know it looks so impossible…but GOD!!! Don’t let positive or negative things get your hopes up. Keep an even expectation in God’s timing and power. My husband would say and do things that would get my hopes up (even saying he wanted to come back), and I was devastated when nothing happened. Then negative things he said would make me feel hopeless. I was a roller coaster for a few years. Then God taught me to keep my eyes evenly on His power and timing and not get my hopes up or down according to my husband. What God speaks is truth and not the whims of humans. Praying scriptures and specifically is your literal weapon. Praying much for you.”
This woman lived out 1 Peter 3:1,2. She won her husband without a word by her godly behavior. She knew what was at stake. Not only her husband’s eternal soul, but the lives of her children who needed their father. I have seen pictures of them since he has returned. They are beautiful! The children are thankful and happy. It was worth the spiritual battle and suffering that she went through. Yes, it was hard and painful, but oh, so worth it.
Women, no advice can be more powerful and effective than God’s. Never discount His instructions to you. He loves us, and His ways are best. I am sure many told her to divorce him, since she had “biblical” reasons to do so. However, she remained steadfast in her commitment to her marriage vows. Now, she is so thankful that she did. We are promised tribulation and suffering on this earth, but as we suffer for Jesus Christ, good will always come from it. He rewards those who diligently seek Him (Hebrews 11:6), and we are promised that we will reap what we sow. Put on His full armor and remind yourself that it’s a spiritual battle. Satan would love nothing more than to tear your marriage apart. Do all in your power with God’s strength to not let him.
Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
1 Peter 3:1,2
***Yesterday, I made a video sharing the testimony of four women who have won back their adulterous/disobedient husbands. They are all testimonies of the power of 1 Peter 3:1,2; God’s prescription for women.