My husband told me that a Christian stay-at-home mother won American Idol last week. I responded, “That’s too bad. She won’t be a stay-at-home mother any longer.” I used to watch that show, but I grew bored with it. I saw other full-time mothers tell the judges on their first audition that they were doing this for their child/children. How is leaving home often and touring around the nation helping the children? Yeah, they’ll have nicer things, but so what? They want a full-time mother.

I watched the entire video of her performances. She is beautiful, humble, and kind; her voice is incredible, and I appreciate that she always dresses modestly. She sang a few Christian songs, but of course, the judges encouraged her to become more worldly. She said that she wanted mothers with young children to know that they, too, can have small children and still pursue their dreams. She also wanted to give women a voice, or someone said that about her. She didn’t take her husband’s last name for her stage name. (I will never understand this reasoning.)

I don’t doubt she is a Christian or that she deeply loves her husband and children. He quit his job to care for the children while she pursues her career. They’re looking for a large bus now so her family can tour around with her to her singing engagements, and I am sure she will have many. She will one day be rich and famous. She has everything she needs for this. Is this a good goal for women?

Will she regret it someday? Will she begin to fit into the world as many Christian singers do and water down Scripture and dress immodestly? Will her and her husband’s marriage survive? The percentage of marriages where the husband cares for the children and the wife is the provider has dismal divorce statistics. (God is our Creator. We can always trust Him.)

God commands women to be keepers at home, and men to be the providers for their families. I believe wholeheartedly that His ways are perfect. Our dreams, as Christian women, should be to live in obedience to God’s will, not have dreams apart from His will. Children prefer a home with a backyard, and their own bedrooms and toys, with their mothers home with them, rather than living in a bus for a long time. It may work for a while, but after a time, they will want to go home. I pray she decides to do the right thing for her children.

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1 Timothy 5:14

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