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The Message’s Watering Down of Biblical Womanhood

The Message’s Watering Down of Biblical Womanhood

The Message’s interpretation of Titus 2:3-5:

Guide older women into lives of reverence so they end up as neither gossips nor drunks, but models of goodness. By looking at them, the younger women will know how to love their husbands and children, be virtuous and pure, keep a good house, be good wives. We don’t want anyone looking down on God’s Message because of their behavior.

Compare this to the KJV:

The aged women likewise, that they be in behavior as becomes holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”

The Message wrote “by looking at them (older women)” instead of “that they may teach the young women.” So older women don’t need to teach the younger women according to The Message. The younger women just need to look at the older women. Oh, right! I sure didn’t know how to love my husband by just looking at older women who had good marriages. I just thought they were married to better men than I was. I needed an older woman to TEACH me how to love my husband.

The Message leaves out a few words that the KJV uses such as chaste, discreet, good, and sober but I guess virtuous and pure can take the place of chaste. What about being discreet, good, and sober? Young women sure need to be taught these important qualities since I see many young women lacking them.

Then The Message changes “keepers at home” to “keep a good house.” Therefore, young women don’t need to have their lives revolve around their homes (“looking well to the ways of her household” as the Proverbs 31 woman was known for doing) but can have careers and do what they want as long as they “keep a good house.” I am sure most women much prefer this way to describe being homemakers instead of being “keepers at home” which is too restrictive in their minds.

The Message completely leaves out “obedient to their husbands” because this is offensive to women today just as being “keepers at home” is. These same women who get offended have no problems obeying their boss but there’s no way they will obey their husbands. Look, every institution has a leader and marriage is no different. God ordained husbands to be the leaders of the home for order and peace. Two leaders never work!

Wow, did The Message water down the final phrase! Instead of “that the word of God be not blasphemed,” the authors wrote, “We don’t want anyone looking down on God’s Message because of their behavior.” Blaspheme means to speak evil about. When young women fail to obey Titus 2:4, 5, their lives speak evil about the word of God. It’s a lot different than simply looking down on “God’s Message.” Make sure your lives don’t cause others to speak evil of God’s holy Word and please, don’t read The Message.

And if any man shall take away from the words of the book of this prophecy, God shall take away his part out of the book of life, and out of the holy city, and from the things which are written in this book.
Revelation 22:19

Has God Called Women to Be Independent?

Has God Called Women to Be Independent?

Corrie, who loves the ways of the Lord, wrote a comment on my Facebook page supporting a post I had written. Then “Lauren” responded to her comment this way: “Yes, I’d love to be able to rely on a man and not contribute or make my own money to feel independent.” Corrie then asked the women in the chat room, “Why the need for independence? To be independent from your husband is to go against God. Even the connotation of independence seems to be in rebellion of the Bible. It’s like you are saying you need no one in life, not even Christ.”

A woman wrote to me the other day and told me she was proud of raising three independent daughters who will be able to take care of themselves financially, therefore, not be in need of husbands. Is this a good thing and something to be “proud” about? Is this how God requires that we raise our daughters and can any of you find Bible verses that commands we do this?

Here are the responses to Corrie’s comment from the wise women in the chat room:

Paige: It is definitely rebellion. And sadly it is due in part to our individualistic society. Everything is about self, whereas in other cultures, the emphasis is the family unit – mom, dad, grandparents, extended family.

Helen: Women today HATE to feel dependent on anyone. They want to make their own money so they don’t feel beholden to anyone or have to rely on anyone for their ‘bed and board.’

Molly: Yes, we are to be dependent on our husbands who are to be our heads. It is a safe and fulfilling place to be, however, it goes against what girls are taught today. Lori is counter cultural because she teaches that we are to respectful of our husband’s calling and role.

Lindsay: It’s silly to claim that a woman staying at home and caring for her home and children is not contributing. They’re assuming these things don’t count and only making money is a contribution. Yet caring for the home and children is a huge contribution. Someone has to care for these things, and if the couple doesn’t do them, they have to pay someone else to do them. Plus, no one is going to care for the children like their own mother, so there’s the quality of care to consider as well as the cost. When a woman stays home, she is dependent on her husband financially, but he is dependent on her to care for the home and children. That’s not a bad thing. It’s a good thing. A couple needs to depend on one another. If they aren’t doing that, why in the world are they married?

Katie: I think it stems from lack of trust. Also, so many of us have divorced parents or absent fathers, so because we couldn’t rely on our fathers for one reason or another, we mistrust men in general. Before I was saved, I had the same mistrust. I put all my effort into becoming financially independent, so I didn’t need to rely on a man. I achieved my goal but it felt so empty.

Taylor: If I’m not contributing, I wanna know why I’m so tired!

Jessica: My stepdaughter just said the same type thing. I’m sure her mother has drilled into her to never trust a man; you can’t depend on one. Society shoves it down everybody’s throat too. We live in a sad world.

Rachel: While growing up, it was drilled in my head that one should not depend upon a man. One should get a degree, and a man wouldn’t want to have a woman who was lazy. And where we live in California, even health and human services drilled messages through ads at the movie theater to teenagers that families need two incomes.

Likewise, growing up with a divorce rate of 50% – watching everyone’s parents getting divorced – it reinforces that message. Having the personal experience of losing my dad as a teenager to a heart attack, two friends in high school lost their dads to heart attack and aneurysm, then friends in college lost their dads to suicide (two different friends). There’s a lot of reasons why people do what they do, and why they have trouble trusting God. Some ideas are so ingrained into your consciousness, it takes God, faith, and a whole lot of courage to go against an upbringing and experience.

Likewise, I also have the added perspective of the life we are living…Not easy, but doable, and God has blessed us with all that we need. Truly amazing. I hope all women with the desire to have good, loving husbands who support them and the desire to have children may be so blessed by God, and I hope God may supply all their needs too.

Rachel: I’m not sure this woman, Connie, feels so obviously defensive. It would be hard to go through life distrustful in a marriage, feeling like one’s contribution were directly tied to a monetary contribution, and that the option to stay at home and be happy in a traditional role was not a possibility – either because the concept of marriage or trust in man is so broken or having a feeling of poverty in one’s life. What happens at the end of one’s life, when one is infirm and cannot work? Does their life become less meaningful or worthy of life? It’s a deep and painful question to deal with. I’d wish her well and pray for her.

Brittney: I’d be curious to know if this woman goes to work for a man. Does she not rely on her male manager to make decisions for her and tell her what to do? Where a SAHM makes many independent decisions daily for her family because her husband has entrusted her to do that. To me, the latter seems more “independent.”

Helen: People also mistakenly believe you are only “contributing” to the family if you bring hard cash into the coffers. Those other contributions to the family as Lindsay and others have talked about are equally valuable. It’s a sad day when only a paycheck equals contributing.

“The decline of the family as the primary haven in a heartless world, the growth of individualism, and the retreat from community loyalty and dependence have made it increasingly difficult for anyone to achieve an adequate sense of belonging in a hostile, fragmented world” (Dr. Archibald Hart).

Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.
1 Corinthians 11:9

Blessings in the Midst of Viral Posts

Blessings in the Midst of Viral Posts

As many of you have noticed on my Facebook page, my viral post has gone viral again. Each year at this time, it goes viral and I receive many hateful comments with a few good ones thrown in. Most in our culture hate the ways of the Lord but in the midst of the ugliness, there are some wonderful comments I receive from women who have found my blog because of the viral post and love it. What those who hate God intend for evil, God uses for good!

Here’s one of the good comments I received yesterday:

YES!!!! Finally someone who “gets it.” I just stumbled on your page and saw everyone mocking your thoughts and it is so sad. My husband and I fully believe the things you write out. I am 34 years old, have a masters degree, started and operated an incredibly successful boutique for six years until we got married. When we were married, my focus became on him and our family. He is thirty years old, a pharmacist, and the best daddy to our two girls. When we married that was our firm belief that he would be the provider and me the homemaker.

When he was finishing pharmacy school, all of his classmates would think it was so amazing that he would have a home cooked breakfast, a healthy lunch packed, and a hot supper waiting on him when he got home. I ran all of his errands, handled all bills, home issues, everything to help make his life easier so he can be the provider of this family and so when he walked in our house, he could relax and enjoy time with us and not have to worry about mowing the yard or calling a plumber. And it is TRULY My pleasure. Taking these burdens off of his shoulders gives me joy because he takes burdens off of my shoulders so I can spend every waking moment raising our girls and giving them the attention they need so they can become strong women.

One time someone said, “I want to be a stay at home mom like you so I can do nothing all day,” and it floored me that she thought that’s what I did. I promise she could not juggle the hundreds of duties I handle every day. We believe God made women the nurturers and men the providers and I don’t understand why it is so frowned upon. I am an intelligent woman who experienced life to the fullest and created a very successful business and have NO regrets about leaving that life to raise my girls.

We read horror stories of child abuse and neglect from Daycare enters and babysitters and it pains me to think that my girls would learn life from a stranger; someone who didn’t share our beliefs. And trust me, we are not some insanely strict, weird, cult Christian family. We are your everyday American family that loves practical jokes, baseball, and Christ. And I think it’s a shame that women think careers are more important than raising your family.

Anyway— long drawn out message to say I LOVE YOUR PAGE and thank you for standing up to these bullies. Your word is TRUTH and God sees your work.

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1 Timothy 5:14

Raise Your Daughters Right

Raise Your Daughters Right

Written By K.B. Davis

Society is awash with talk of fathers raising their boys and sons right – teaching them how to treat women, work hard, be a provider, cook, clean, and tidy up after themselves.

Quite right and all well and good.

But I do not hear the equivalent for girls. So, who teaches women? I do not hear anything about raising daughters right, or teaching them to be clean, tidy, cook, and keep a home.

I do not hear about teaching girls to respect men, or to submit and obey their husbands. I don’t hear about teaching them to dress modestly, to be meek, chaste and humble.

I do not hear about teaching them not to be man-hating, victim-mentality feminists who have swallowed the lie of the world wholesale.

I don’t hear anything about teaching them to love themselves the way they are, rather than “toning” their skins and yearning to wear make up and lace wigs when they grow up.

Because right now, society is full of girls AND women who are more of the latter, and less of the former things mentioned above.

Some are downright lazy, extremely untidy, and can’t cook to save their lives. They have no idea what a “man” is, talk less of how to treat him. They have grown up with a sense of entitlement thinking a man is someone of the male gender who exists to please them and pander to their whims.

Some call themselves “slay queens “ or “slay mamas,” and their major skill seems to be taking selfies, dancing, twerking, and posting half naked pictures on Instagram; subliminally begging for attention. All they know is how to dress sexy, look good, and wear makeup.

Others fight and cuss each other out on social media, or spew out sexually explicit stuff without any decorum or modicum of self respect. Furthermore, women are now competing with men in the violence stakes – in regards to things like domestic violence and violent crimes in society.

So, who “raised” these girls and women? Ghosts?

The Bible says to “train up a CHILD in the right way, so when they are older, they will not depart from it”- Proverbs 22:6. It didn’t say to train up just boys and sons.

But more importantly, it tells the older women to TEACH the younger ones to be “humble, chaste, be homemakers, to love their husbands and be obedient to him”; among other things – Titus 2:3-5.

This is not opinion. It is Scripture.

Parents, raise your DAUGHTERS right. Mothers, raise your DAUGHTERS right. Not just your sons.

Are You Dressed in Foolishness or Faith?

Are You Dressed in Foolishness or Faith?

Written By Judy Turner

Most of us take some effort to look presentable when we are going to be around other people. We strive to wear the best that we have to church, family celebrations, get togethers with friends, or special occasions. What about what your soul, emotions, and your character are clothed with?

Proverbs 31 speaks of a virtuous woman who is “clothed with strength and honor and laughs at the days to come.” Is this what others notice when they first meet you? Are you known for a quiet and confident trust in the Lord when you are in the midst of challenging trials?

Do you try to think logically when the unexpected happens? Are you known for your wisdom or your worries? Are you “dressed” in foolishness or faith? Do you rely heavily on the promises of the Lord, or do you frequently have “meltdowns”?

Scripture tells us about “the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness.” Do you praise the Lord often? Do you speak about what is good, what you like, and what you are thankful for? What we dwell on and what we say reflects our heart or our persona, just as clothes reflect our style.

Carefully choose what you wear today! Put on a thankful heart. Wear confidence that your Lord, the judge of the earth, will do right. Radiate confidence that the Lord has “this” and will work it out for best. Walk in wisdom. Focus on the Word of God and His promises. Then you, like the Proverbs 31 woman, can “laugh at the days to come.”

Your Lord has your back. Your Lord gives wisdom when you ask in faith. Your Lord is good and worthy to be praised. Your Lord is faithful! Let others see Him in you!

She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
Proverbs 31:26

Happy Mother’s Day!

Happy Mother’s Day!

Strength and honor are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.

 She opens her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

She looks well to the ways of her household, and eats not the bread of idleness.

Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.

 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.

 Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that fears the Lord, she shall be praised.

 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

Proverbs 31:25-31

Guard Your Treasures

Guard Your Treasures

A few days ago, I was outside in front of my home watching my grandchildren play. A sweet neighborhood girl who is six years old came to play with them and brought over all of her dress up clothes which my oldest granddaughter loves! They were having a great time but then I heard the little girl say to my granddaughter, “Boys can wear dresses, too!” I quickly responded, “None of these boys will ever wear dresses!” Then she said, “Boys can wear tutus, too.” And I answered, “None of these boys will ever wear tutus! Dresses and tutus are for girls.”

She’s in the public school system and her parents are not believers but if parents aren’t vigilant about what their children see, listen to, and the friends they keep, their precious children will be corrupted quickly in this wicked and adulterous generation. We must always have our children near us so we can protect and guard them from the enemy who wants to destroy them. God gave children mothers to protect them.

I don’t agree with these marches or leaving public schools to protest the sex education they are forcing upon the children. Christians need to pull their children out now! The government should have never been given authority over raising our children. This is our responsibility and if people think that being able to opt out of these classes will somehow protect their children from the perversion going on in our culture, they are sadly deceived and mistaken.

The following was written by the very wise Nancy Campbell at Above Rubies on this very topic of protecting our families.

 God has given us so many treasures in family life. We must protect them and watch that we don’t give them away.

In 2 Chronicles 12:9 we read how the King of Egypt came up against Jerusalem and “took away the treasures of the house of the LORD, and the treasures of the king’s house; he took all: he carried away also the shields of gold which Solomon had made.”

King Rehoboam was not on guard. He allowed the treasures of God’s house and his house to be taken away. These were not little treasures. They were treasures of gold. Everything in the house of God was made of pure gold. Even the shields were made of gold.

We must also guard so that we don’t allow our treasures of gold to be taken away. This is just what the enemy wants to do. He comes to “steal, kill, and destroy” (John 10:10). He comes to rob us of all that God wants us to enjoy.

When we let him rob us, we end up with second best. The King of Egypt took the shields of gold, “Instead of which king Rehoboam made shields of brass” (2 Chronicles 12:10). Counterfeit! Second best! Which do you want? Gold or brass? You have to choose.

God is the author of marriage. Because it is God’s plan, the devil wants to destroy it. Don’t let him steal your marriage. Keep a soft and forgiving heart. Don’t let hardness take hold of your heart. Hardness leads to divorce (Matthew 19:8). Instead, build your marriage. Every day, find some way to build into your marriage and make it stronger. When you strengthen your marriage, you are a threat against Satan, the Destroyer.

Guard your children. Don’t allow the enemy to rob and deceive them with lies and deception. Don’t give them away each day to the public education system to drill their humanistic and alternative propaganda into their brains.

Micah 2:9 says: “The women of my people have ye cast out from their pleasant houses; from their children have ye taken away their glory forever.” The Amplified Version translates this verse: “From her children you take away my splendor and blessing forever (by putting them among pagans, away from Me).” God says that the glory of children is for them to be raised in the home.

Guard your fertility. Our fertility is a very precious gift from God. And it doesn’t last forever. It is only for a window of time in the seasons of our whole life. We can’t determine when we will have children. It is ultimately in God’s hands. To walk in God’s perfect plan for our lives, we should yield our wombs to God, for His glory. He will give the children He has planned from the foundation of the world.

If you are having problems conceiving, ask your husband to lay his hands upon your womb and pray over you every day. Make a specific time every day. Your husband is your covering and God will hear his cries for you.

Guard your family life. Once again, family is God’s idea. It’s the way He has planned for us to live in their world. He has no other plan. He specifically states that He wants the solitary to live in families. It’s the healthiest way to live. But because it is God’s plan, the devil hates it. We know he is bent on destroying family life.

He won’t always tempt you with blatant, sinful things to destroy your family, He uses little things. He subtly deceives you. Watch for his deceptions. Watch that your family doesn’t become fragmented; everyone constantly going their various ways. This is the testimony of most families today, but it’s not God’s way.

He wants us to build our families. To make things happen in our homes that keep the family together and build relationships. That encourage interaction and family life. Determine to sit together for your family meals, especially for your evening. Don’t only eat food at your table. Feed the soul and encourage family discussion and participation. And feed the spirit. Never leave the table without reading God’s living Word and praying together. Guard this precious time. Don’t give it away.

“Drive your pegs deep” (Isaiah 54:2). Guard your treasures, dear mothers. Don’t let them filter through your fingers. It can happen so easily. You must PURPOSEFULLY, DELIBERATELY, and INTENTIONALLY build into your marriage and family life. It doesn’t just happen. You must make it happen.

Constantly think and dream of how you are going to build your home and family. That’s what a builder does. He dreams. He gets a vision. And then he takes action and builds according to the plan.

Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.
Psalm 127:3-5

Becoming Feminine Women

Becoming Feminine Women

One of the women in the chat room shared a site called A Lady’s Code. “A lady possesses a code of conduct which serves to guide her in the course of daily life. These are her non-negotiable golden rules … principles that dictate the best course of action in a given circumstance.” I am one that is always eager to learn and grow in godliness, femininity, and biblical womanhood so when I find sites like this, I love learning from them!

Many women today have forgotten how to act like women and have not had anyone model to them what ladylike looks like. It’s good to seek out feminine women that you know and can learn from. The Duchess of Cambridge just gave birth to a baby boy and from all that I have seen of her, she is a feminine woman. I believe our First Lady is a feminine woman. There isn’t anything masculine about either of them and I appreciate this. When I have heard them speak, they are soft spoken and kind. They walk and dress ladylike and treat their husbands with gentleness.

I love this picture of Kate seven hours after giving birth. I love that she loves her husband and having children. She is a wonderful example of femininity and being ladylike for women all around the world.

“A Lady’s Code” teaches women how to be ladylike by giving wise encouragement, including how to drive, not gossiping, how to sit and stand, how to speak and words to say, and in many other areas. It is good to be known as being feminine and ladylike since God made us women. Here are a few of her posts:

A lady possesses a sense of wonder and interest in the world around her, so that boredom is simply foreign to her. So keen is her sense of awe and reverence for the marvels of creation that, to her way of thinking, boredom would be an insult to her intellect and to her Creator. She does not need or expect to be entertained, but is capable of finding something interesting and useful to occupy her wherever she finds herself, even if it is nothing more than keenly observing her surroundings. She has a teachable spirit, ready and eager to take up a subject matter of which she knows little, and can find in it some wonderful thing to benefit her ready mind.

“There is not a blade of grass that springs uninteresting to me.”
Thomas Jefferson

A lady does not need an audience in order to shine. She is who she is, whether or not anyone else is watching.

She runs her life by principles (her code), not pretense. She is genuinely concerned with what she should be, not what others think her to be. She knows how to enjoy an experience without turning it into a photo opportunity…

… She can buy a new car without posting a picture of it on social media.
… She will keep a tidy house when no guests are expected.
… She can dine at a fancy restaurant without publicizing photos of what she ate.
… She does a good deed when no one will notice.

A lady of substance is more concerned with being rather than being seen.

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Proverbs 31:30, 31

*Photo by Daniel Gerhartz

Study to Be Quiet

Study to Be Quiet

We are commanded in 1 Thessalonians 4:11 to “study to be quiet.” What does this mean? It apparently means that it’s not our nature to be quiet so we must study how to be quiet. Gill’s Exposition put it this way:

“And that ye study to be quiet,…. To live peaceably in their own families, and to give no disturbance to other families, by talebearing, whispering, and backbiting; to behave with quietness in the neighbourhood, town, or city, they dwell in, and to seek the peace thereof; and to lead a quiet and peaceable life, in all godliness and honesty, in the commonwealth, and under the government to which they belong; and not to create and encourage factions, divisions, animosities, and contentions, in their own church, or in any of the churches of Christ; and it becomes saints to make this their study, to be very solicitous for it, to strive for it, and pursue after it: the word used signifies to be ambitious of it, as what is a man’s glory and honour, to emulate and strive to outdo each other, as who shall have the honour of being the quietest person, and the most peaceable member in the community.”

In order to be quiet, we must seek to be at peace with all man as far as it depends upon us. We must first be at peace in our homes with our husband and our children. We love, serve, and sacrifice for them. We show them kindness and patience. We are careful with the words that we speak to them.

We seek peace with people outside of our family. We don’t speak negatively or critically about them. We don’t whisper things behind their back as a means of tearing them down. We don’t slander and gossip about others and find out all the things they are doing wrong so we can tell others. The only reason that people do this is to elevate themselves and make themselves look better than those they slander or they are trying to destroy the reputation of those they slander which should never be named among those who call themselves believers in Jesus Christ.

We abide by the rules of our government. We don’t “encourage factions, divisions, animosities, and contentions.” We pray for our leaders instead. Politics is NOT our life. The news of the day doesn’t consume us because we understand that this isn’t our home. We are strangers and aliens simply passing through to a bright eternity with our Savior so we go about His work instead of worrying about what’s going on in our culture. We store our treasures in heaven where they are safe and protected.

We love those in our churches and pray for them. We pray for our elders and deacons as they lead our church. We are quiet in our churches as we are commanded to do so; for it is shameful for women to speak in churches. If we have a question, we ask our husbands at home instead of marching up to the pastor and demanding an answer. If we disagree with something that is taught, we don’t make a big stink about it but pray that truth will always be taught in our church.

Let us all be known as the “quietest person, and the most peaceable member” in our community and the only way we can do this is by clothing ourselves with the righteousness of God – believing in Jesus Christ and being filled with His Spirit, then we can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens us!

 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.
Romans 12:18

Which Proverbs Woman are You?

Which Proverbs Woman are You?

There are two types of women described all throughout the book of Proverbs. One is a godly woman and one is a foolish woman. I read through the entire book and noted all of the references made specifically to woman excluding Proverbs 31. First, I will give you the verses of foolish women to make sure none of these describe any of us!

“It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman” (Proverbs 21:19).

Contentious means given to angry debate and quarrelsome. It’s easy for us to want our own way and to be right but this isn’t what God calls us to do nor be. There are so many Christians books and articles about how to “fight fair” in marriage but according to the Word of God, we shouldn’t be fighting at all. “And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men” (2 Timothy 2:24). Strive means to struggle or fight vigorously. As women, we are called to have meek and quiet spirits, therefore, we must not quarrel or fight with our husbands.

“It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house” (Proverbs 21:9)

Brawling means the act of quarreling. Again, we are told to NOT quarrel. It should have no place in our lives. If you struggle with quarreling with your husband, ask him to call you out on it every time you begin to quarrel and immediately stop! It’s a hard habit to break (I know), but worth the effort. Peace in a marriage is a beautiful thing!

“It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house.” (Proverbs 25:24)

This verse is given twice (Proverbs 21:9)! Again, we are warned against quarreling.  It would be better for a man to be exposed to the harsh heat of the sun, wind, and winter on a roof rather than live with a quarreling wife in a big and beautiful home. It will drive a man crazy! God commands wives to submit to their husband and when wives do this, quarreling stops immediately since they understand his headship over them.

“The contentions of a wife are a continual dripping” (Proverbs 19:13)

“A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike” (Proverbs 27:15)

Twice we are told that a quarreling wife is like a “continual dripping.” I am sure you have heard a faucet that drips, drips, drips and it can drive you crazy because it is so constant and so annoying. This is what you sound like to your husband if you quarrel with him. Choose to bite your tongue rather than quarrel with your husband. Let him be right all the time if need be. Big deal!

“As a jewel of gold in a swine’s snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion” (Proverbs 11:22)

Discretion means being wise and having common sense and good judgement. A woman who has no discretion (isn’t wise and doesn’t have common sense or good judgement) is compared to a piece of jewelry in a pig’s nose. As godly woman, we are called to be discreet. We are to be wise in avoiding errors and evil and do what is right and good according to God’s Word.

“She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house” (Proverbs 7:11).

This is completely opposite of having meek and quiet spirits. We aren’t to be loud. We aren’t to be stubborn and insist on having our own way. Our feet are in our homes as keepers at home where the Lord has commanded that we be. We don’t go out marching for our “rights”  and demanding that we be heard. No, we work quietly and hard in our homes taking care of our families while giving all of our concerns to the Lord. He is mighty to save! We study to be quiet, do our own business, and work with our own hands (1 Thessalonians 4:11). We don’t have a sense of entitlement and wanting things for free but are content with our lot in life; for godliness with contentment is great gain.

“A foolish woman is clamorous: she is simple, and knoweth nothing” (Proverbs 9:13)

Clamorous means speaking and repeating loud words, being noisy and turbulent. Without Christ’s Spirit working mightily within us, we will not be meek and quiet spirited women. As our culture spirals downwards, women become more loud and turbulent. This is why we need to be in the Word and allow His Spirit to transform us into His image.

“Three things the earth is disquieted…an odious woman when she is married” (Proverbs 30:23)

Odious means hateful, offensive to the senses, and disgusting. There seems to be many women who are hateful and disgusting these days. You can see it all over Facebook, during the feminist marches, and watching them on TV with their immodesty, unfeminine behavior, and foul language. I can tell you one thing, it’s so very ugly! The poor, poor men who are married to odious women. What a pity.

“A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones” (Proverbs 12:4)

Virtuous means morally good, practicing the moral duties, and abstaining from vice. Are you good? Are you washed by the blood of the Lamb? Have you been cleansed from your sin and walk in newness of life? Do you love the Lord Jesus, His Word, and seek to obey Him in every area of your life?

“Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands” (Proverbs 14:1)

With wisdom we build up our homes. Where do we find wisdom? We find it in God’s Word. We must be in His Word daily, then we must apply it to our lives. We must continually renew our minds with truth and take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. We must seek counsel and learn from godly, older women who have walked the path before us. If we don’t do this and instead are led by our emotions and feelings, we will be foolish women who tear down our own homes.

“Whoso finds a wife finds a good thing, and favour of the Lord” (Proverbs 18:22)

Yes, marriage is ordained by God. It was not good for man to be alone so God created a help meet for him. Unfortunately, many women don’t understand their created purpose but for those who do, their husbands are blessed men indeed!

“A prudent wife is from the Lord” (Proverbs 19:14)

Prudent means cautious and practically wise. She has common sense, lives within her husband’s income, obeys biblical principles, and loves her husband deeply. She is a pleasure to live with.

“A gracious woman retains honor” (Proverbs 11:6)

Gracious means she is kind, friendly, and forgives easily (merciful). She is not easily offended, doesn’t hold onto grudges, and lives her life for eternity. She loves people more than things, is not envious of others and what they have, and has learned to be moderate in all things (1 Corinthians 9:25).

My question for you: Are you building your home up with wisdom and sound judgment or are you tearing it down with your emotions and feelings? Which Proverbs woman are you?