“The suicide rate is up 63% for women aged 45-65 and up 200% for girls aged 10-14,” wrote Jamieson Webster, a clinical psychologist, in her article Why are Suicides in Women Rising? Why is this happening so dramatically in women?
“Many patients struggle in their role as women, something that has taken on a particular exigency because of drastic changes in gender dynamics. The women I see are often anxious and cannot reconcile ideas concerning work and family, what it is to be a successful woman and a mother, to say nothing of the demands of maintenance placed on their bodies. They are disappointed and they feel disappointing.” She falsely believes that women need more “rights,” more independence, and more leadership positions in order to become mentally stable.
The reasons women are so depressed and suicidal these days are because they have lost their way and are so far from the narrow path that they are supposed to be on, thus they are left confused and depressed. How can we leave the life that our Creator created for us and expect to find satisfaction and joy? Way too many women have been raised in broken homes and/or without mothers home full time because their mothers refused to make “narrow path” choices. This is the result of feminism and lies, not from “a lack of child-care support and maternity leave, as well as male dominance in the workplace,” as Jamieson concluded.
She also believes that women suffer from“a wandering womb that would suffocate a woman from the inside.” No, the womb isn’t suffocating women from the inside. It is God’s perfect design and gift to women. Most women have no idea that they were created by their Creator to be wives and mothers and use their wombs to bear and raise children because they aren’t being taught this anywhere in our culture, not even in the church. The narrow path is ignored.
Instead, they are being taught to pursue higher education, a career, have multiple sexual partners, use birth control, have abortions, and “live” life before being tied down. When they finally get married, they make sure they keep their false sense of freedom by staying in their careers and leaving their children in the care of strangers while they stay on the hamster wheel away from home.
In her book Home By Choice, Dr. Brenda Hunter found from her study that babies who are unable to bond with their mothers full time because their mothers work, grow up to be emotionally unstable and insecure. “We’ve radically altered the way we rear our children. It’s just never happened in history that we’ve imposed such early separations of such a lasting duration. It’s a big human experiment that has a huge price tag…severe separations in early childhood can create ‘scars on the brain.'”
Our children need continuing parental care to have a sense of wholeness. They need someone at home who’s passionately concerned about them, not just during the early years but over the long haul. Even beyond infancy and toddlerhood, children need someone to be present during most of the hours they are at home. Someone needs to be available on a daily basis to educate, love, nurture, discipline, and guide…If a mother wants to rear a child who will leave home with a sturdy sense of self, she needs to be there for her child during his growing up years.”
If you were not bonded and raised with a mother full time and struggle with depression, are there answers for you? Yes! If you believe God’s Word, there are definitely answers for you, for the battle is in the mind.
Jeff Vanderstelt wrote a great article called How to Win the War For Your Mind. “We need to take captive our thoughts and examine them. To take something captive is to take control of it and put it in a controlled environment — like putting a ferocious animal in a cage. Then, we need to take a close look at our thoughts and consider what we are thinking or believing and why.” If God says He gives us a “sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:7) I believe Him and who is to argue with Him BUT we must take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ and dwell on the lovely and the good as He has told us to do, along with being transformed by renewing our minds with truth.
Everyone talks about hormones being a cause of depression. I had almost NO hormones for many months before hormone replacement and yes, I could tell my body was not thriving and something was terribly wrong with me, but I had NO depression. Even through my many years of illness and pain, whenever I began to feel like I was getting depressed, I would immediately take my thoughts captive and remind myself that I can indeed do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me and that the joy of the LORD is my strength. (I do know there are some mind-altering drugs with the side effects of depression and suicide. Stay away from those, if at all possible.)
If you struggle with depression, begin reading Philippians 3 and 4 every day for a month. Highlight verses that stand out, circle words that mean something to you, and memorize your favorite verses. Allow His Word to dwell in you richly. Then go to Romans 6 and 8 and do the same thing. Find out who you are in Christ, that you are dead and freed from sin, and now walk in newness of life and see that you, too, can be transformed by renewing your mind with the truth of God’s Word, just as He promises you will.
I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
Romans 12:1, 2