Depression and Suicide is Skyrocketing Among Women

Depression and Suicide is Skyrocketing Among Women

“The suicide rate is up 63% for women aged 45-65 and up 200% for girls aged 10-14,” wrote Jamieson Webster, a clinical psychologist, in her article Why are Suicides in Women Rising? Why is this happening so dramatically in women?

“Many patients struggle in their role as women, something that has taken on a particular exigency because of drastic changes in gender dynamics. The women I see are often anxious and cannot reconcile ideas concerning work and family, what it is to be a successful woman and a mother, to say nothing of the demands of maintenance placed on their bodies. They are disappointed and they feel disappointing.” She falsely believes that women need more “rights,” more independence, and more leadership positions in order to become mentally stable.

The reasons women are so depressed and suicidal these days are because they have lost their way and are so far from the narrow path that they are supposed to be on, thus they are left confused and depressed. How can we leave the life that our Creator created for us and expect to find satisfaction and joy? Way too many women have been raised in broken homes and/or without mothers home full time because their mothers refused to make “narrow path” choices. This is the result of feminism and lies, not from “a lack of child-care support and maternity leave, as well as male dominance in the workplace,” as Jamieson concluded.

She also believes that women suffer from“a wandering womb that would suffocate a woman from the inside.” No, the womb isn’t suffocating women from the inside. It is God’s perfect design and gift to women. Most women have no idea that they were created by their Creator to be wives and mothers and use their wombs to bear and raise children because they aren’t being taught this anywhere in our culture, not even in the church. The narrow path is ignored.

Instead, they are being taught to pursue higher education, a career, have multiple sexual partners, use birth control, have abortions, and “live” life before being tied down. When they finally get married, they make sure they keep their false sense of freedom by staying in their careers and leaving their children in the care of strangers while they stay on the hamster wheel away from home.

In her book Home By Choice, Dr. Brenda Hunter found from her study that babies who are unable to bond with their mothers full time because their mothers work, grow up to be emotionally unstable and insecure. “We’ve radically altered the way we rear our children. It’s just never happened in history that we’ve imposed such early separations of such a lasting duration. It’s a big human experiment that has a huge price tag…severe separations in early childhood can create ‘scars on the brain.'”

Our children need continuing parental care to have a sense of wholeness. They need someone at home who’s passionately concerned about them, not just during the early years but over the long haul. Even beyond infancy and toddlerhood, children need someone to be present during most of the hours they are at home. Someone needs to be available on a daily basis to educate, love, nurture, discipline, and guide…If a mother wants to rear a child who will leave home with a sturdy sense of self, she needs to be there for her child during his growing up years.”

If you were not bonded and raised with a mother full time and struggle with depression, are there answers for you? Yes! If you believe God’s Word, there are definitely answers for you, for the battle is in the mind.

Jeff Vanderstelt wrote a great article called How to Win the War For Your Mind. “We need to take captive our thoughts and examine them. To take something captive is to take control of it and put it in a controlled environment — like putting a ferocious animal in a cage. Then, we need to take a close look at our thoughts and consider what we are thinking or believing and why.” If God says He gives us a “sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:7) I believe Him and who is to argue with Him BUT we must take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ and dwell on the lovely and the good as He has told us to do, along with being transformed by renewing our minds with truth.

Everyone talks about hormones being a cause of depression. I had almost NO hormones for many months before hormone replacement and yes, I could tell my body was not thriving and something was terribly wrong with me, but I had NO depression. Even through my many years of illness and pain, whenever I began to feel like I was getting depressed, I would immediately take my thoughts captive and remind myself that I can indeed do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me and that the joy of the LORD is my strength. (I do know there are some mind-altering drugs with the side effects of depression and suicide. Stay away from those, if at all possible.)

 If you struggle with depression, begin reading Philippians 3 and 4 every day for a month. Highlight verses that stand out, circle words that mean something to you, and memorize your favorite verses. Allow His Word to dwell in you richly. Then go to Romans 6 and 8 and do the same thing. Find out who you are in Christ, that you are dead and freed from sin, and now walk in newness of life and see that you, too, can be transformed by renewing your mind with the truth of God’s Word, just as He promises you will.

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
Romans 12:1, 2

12 thoughts on “Depression and Suicide is Skyrocketing Among Women

  1. What are your thoughts on postpartum depression? Seems like that would be hormone related? I’ve been struggling with it ever since the birth of my 1st child 8 years ago. It’s so hard!

    1. I believe the main cause of postpartum depression is not getting enough sleep and this is why we trained our children to sleep through the night quickly. Sleep is vital for mental health but even so, we must learn to not allow the way that we feel control our behavior by being daily in the Word and renewing our minds with truth, even if it’s just a few verses in Philippians. It may be a battle but it’s a battle that can be won because the Lord has told us it can be. It’s a choice that we make, for even the Apostle Paul through his stoning, shipwrecks, beating, imprisonments, etc. told us:

      “I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: every where and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me” (Philippians 4:12, 13).

      The same God who lived inside of him, lives inside of us!

    2. I had post partum depression after my third. I started taking vitamin B complex 100 mg and that helped me tremendously. The B vitamins are very important for our mental health.

  2. I know all is possible through Christ and as long as I live in truth with his word and trust in him, then I don’t have to worry about things like depression. As a wife and mother, I try to fulfill my role and stay in my place because I trust the lord to know what’s best, I think that has been the best way to prevent depression.

  3. I’m having a few disagreements with my husband. I believe that we can solve our (not so big) issues with a little time and patience from both of us. I was talking with my father about it partly to vent and partly to get some advice, since he’s an intelligent man who I respect and admire and we have a great relationship.
    So what was the advice?

    Get a job (and not an easy part-time job that fits around school hours) but a real career, so I can have a bargaining tool to use against my husband: if you don’t change, I ask for a divorce.

    I was stunned.

    I understand that my parents want me to work, so I don’t waste the expensive (for our country standards, in the US would be below average) education they worked so hard to pay for, so I can have a pension, not to “waste” my intelligence and set an example for my child because it’s 2017 and not 1957 so everyone should work , and I totally accept different opinions about it….but for a divorce?

    Setting aside that it’s so unchristian (and my parents are Christian who go to church several times a week) , it would simply create more problems than I already have.

    But no, he said that I need to take the lead of my family, so that I’m worthy of respect and everyone should make a sacrifice for the sake of the family: my child would go to daycare and my husband would have to contribute to housework. I don’t see how we can benefit from it (except in the very distant future of retirement) since my wage would be spent in childcare, household help and clothes.

    To be honest, I felt sick in my stomach. I have also felt angry and it makes me cry if I seriously think about. Not really about getting back to work (again, I accept that there are different opinions) but the reason why I should: so that we have equal opportunity to break our family.

    1. It’s very sad, Mrs. G., how ever the older generations have fallen in lock step with the feminists’ agenda and believed it’s lies. Keep doing what you know is the right and godly response because God’s ways are always perfect for us.

    2. I have found also it is best not to air in issues you may have with your husband to your family. You may get over it but they get stuck and it can really affect how they view your spouse. When I had an issue with my husband I have talked to his father about it, not mine because I knew his father would love him no matter what and wanted the best for us, not just the best for me.

      I’m so though that you got such hurtful advice. 🙁

  4. Hi Lori
    Your article made me cry. Truly those that hate me (God) love death. As a mother of nine and married many years, I often take the example of my own mother and that is to just keep working regardless of how you feel because at the end of the day you will have accomplished something and that brings its own rewards. Just read to the children if that is all you can do but do something don’t just let your thoughts rule you. Certainly memorise those scriptures and remember – This is the day that the Lord has made, we will rejoice and be glad in it.
    Blessings

  5. I respect your opinion, but as someone who is a Christian and who also suffers from depression and anxiety, I have to respectfully disagree. I’ve studied and prayed and memorized, but it wasn’t until I began counseling and medication that I began to improve. And that was after a great deal of trepidation and consultation with my clergy. I still study and pray and memorize and worship but I’m in a much better place.

    1. I believe she said to avoid them if possible. For you and I, it wasn’t possible and I do not feel condemned by her words. I was one of the unlucky people that had the suicidal thoughts after starting a medicine for my depression. I am doing better now and I’m praying for you.

  6. I found it interesting that in an article by No Greater Joy, that that they connected all the studies on how dangerous soy is to the hormones and then mention the possible connection those dangerous hormone issues with rising rates of depression/mood swings.. (I put a quote from the article at the bottom of the comment)

    I don’t like doctors, if I can do it naturally through herbs or food you better believe I will! But sometimes God reminds me that taking medical intervention can be part of His plan to heal me, sometimes He reminds me that I’m living in such a time as this with whatever the issue is and that He gave wisdom to Dr’s to help and as long as we are following Him and making sure He’s the one opening the door to that treatment, then it is part of His answer to my prayer on feeling better. I think that’s how a chemically depressed person can perhaps look at it if that makes sense, God has to be first and prayer essential but His treatment plan sometimes highlights the wisdom He has provided the medical community and works through their hands at times. Again, I am not a fan of doctors and sometimes their wisdom is just man’s wisdom, sometimes it’s more harm than good, but not always thankfully!

    Having never had depression, but have a mother whom struggled with it, I believe sometimes its nessesary to heal a sick body and restoring it to better health the same way we would treat a diabetic with an insulin problem or a cancer patient or even ppl like you and me who have faulty hormone levels (I have PCOS) and need to focus on things that help heal those things too.

    Sometimes it’s something we CAN do without the medical community, and sometimes God extends His range of help to include them in our journey. Either way, an open Bible is most certainly a healing balm in the process!

    Oh and heres the quote on a soy/depression/hormone link in women of child bearing age from the Pearl’s.

    “Two glasses of soy milk a day, over the course of a month, contains enough of the chemical to change the timing of a woman’s menstrual cycle. Many women of child-bearing age are having terrible mood swings, depression, and they experience monthly PMS. Could these women be playing havoc with their hormones by what they are eating? We already know that women on birth-control pills are known to have more volatile emotions due to the hormonal upset. Just 100 gm of any soy product has the estrogenic content of a contraceptive pill.” It’s a super good article on the dangers of soy so I divereted a bit, but I thought that but was relevant to our convo here too ?

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