Do I Condemn Mothers Who Are NOT Keepers at Home?

Do I Condemn Mothers Who Are NOT Keepers at Home?

“What I find appalling is you condemning women that don’t have the privilege to be keepers at home. Most moms have a difficult time with self-esteem and you are adding to this anxiety. What about single moms? Are they less of a woman because they have to support their family?” A woman wrote this comment to me on Facebook last week but I hear similar sentiments often.

Do I condemn single mothers or mothers who can’t be home full time because I teach what God has commanded that I teach to younger women, that they be keepers at home? How is obeying God and doing what He asks of me condemning anyone?

Yes, God tells us that young women who aren’t keepers at home blaspheme the word of God so if they feel condemned, they feel condemned by the Word of God, not me. God’s Word challenges and convicts many and this is why many hate it. But just because many hate it and it convicts many, does this mean we don’t teach it?

Of course not! We obey God regardless of how it is received. Many single mothers or mothers who can’t be home full time want to be home full time more than anything else when they understand that this is God’s will for their lives. Instead of feeling condemned, they know they are doing the best that they can at this time in their lives and are praying and seeking for a way to come home. Women write to me and tell me these things. There are women in the chat room who must work, even one of our administrators, and they know that what I teach is biblically accurate but for reasons beyond their control, they must work outside of the home. They would all love to be home full time!

They aren’t angry with my words because they know they are truth. They understand that all of God’s ways are good. Some women have to work because of their own bad decisions. They have a ton of student loan debt that makes it impossible for them to come home. Some divorced their husbands because they weren’t “happy” then later figured out that this isn’t a good reason to divorce the father of their children and the provider of their family. Some work because their husbands want them to work outside of the home.

Some have to work because of sin done against them. Maybe their husband abandoned them and now they are forced to work. Their children have lost not only their father but their mother, too. They are heartbroken and trying to figure out a way to live on less, work part-time, or maybe even find a way to make money from home. In the meantime, they pray protection over their children daily and ask the Lord for His strength and wisdom.

We must always remind ourselves that with God all things are possible. Mothers who must work for some reason that is out of their control and for single mothers, they know their children still suffer from their absence. It’s okay to acknowledge this. Single mothers know that their children would be much better off with a father in their lives who is providing for them but in this difficult time, they must put their full trust in the Lord and depend upon Him to see them all through. Sometimes, it just takes a step of faith in the right direction to see how God will provide abundantly for those who ask!

Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us.
Ephesians 3:20

31 thoughts on “Do I Condemn Mothers Who Are NOT Keepers at Home?

  1. I agree you provide a balanced and nuanced view. Yes it is true and we cannot deny in this world today it is not the world where women being in the home is expected and possible anymore for many women. However as you said, that still doesn’t make it “A-okay” that more and more women are leaving their children for careers even if forced to for financial reasons. I place the blame on society though for setting these women up to fail as they need the income or else and have little social help as they would in the past to be stay at home mothers without another breadwinner. We expect single moms to get jobs versus consider it our duty to provide for women who don’t have a husband to step in due to the radical feminist movement about women “not needing a man”… Many men also see women who don’t work outside as leeches mooching off him rather than his duty as a man to provide. Sad! My mother had to work but she always wanted to be a stay at home mom.

    1. A Lady of Reason, you say: “I place the blame on society though for setting these women up to fail as they need the income or else and have little social help as they would in the past to be stay at home mothers without another breadwinner. We expect single moms to get jobs versus consider it our duty to provide for women who don’t have a husband to step in due to the radical feminist movement about women “not needing a man”…”

      It’s clear that you’re a bit young and still need to learn a little more about the world you live in. Here is your Red Pill for today. “Social Help” has names and a faces and is enacted at the barrel of a gun (taxes). One of those names is Trey Magnus and one of those faces is mine. Let me make something very clear. It is not my duty to provide for another man and woman’s poor decisions. Period. I might choose to help, but I should not be forced to do so at gunpoint.

      That said I (as a tax payer) am already doing just that. According to https://www.lexingtonlaw.com/blog/finance/welfare-statistics.html
      In the United States in 2019, means-tested welfare system consists of 79 government programs that offer cash, food, social services, education, training and housing for low-income Americans. As welfare programs are both funded through local, state and federal taxes.

      According to lib.post.ca.gov/Publications/…/Safe_Harbor.pdf 90% of welfare recipients are single mothers. What do many of these single mothers who are on welfare do, they have more children so they can get more money from the government. The end result is MORE children living in poverty. We need LESS Governmental Welfare/”social help”, not more.

      When you feed something it grows, you have to starve something to get it to die out. Yes children will suffer but children have been suffering since the dawn of time. The key is to have as few suffering as possible and governmental welfare programs put MORE children in the position to suffer, not less.

      1. Hang on. Not long ago, someone on here said families should be having as many children as possible, even if they’re relying on welfare to feed them. I pointed out the opposite view – that if we’re relying on welfare to feed our children, we definitely should not be intentionally having more of them. My view was met with hostility.

        Now Trey is saying he wants to see less welfare… is that less welfare in general, or only for single mothers? Do taxpayers in America think it’s okay for families to have continue to have children while on welfare, as long as there is a mum and a dad in the same house?
        I don’t get it. Why are children only a blessing in some circumstances? Either children are a gift from God, and we should have as many as we can, even if we need welfare to feed them, OR we should have less welfare, and be responsible in only choosing to have as many children as we can afford to feed without welfare.

        1. Single women shouldn’t be having sex, ergo shouldn’t be having babies. Doesn’t mean that babies aren’t a blessing even when conceived in sinful circumstances, but it’s perfectly consistent to say, on the one hand, that married couples should be open to having lots of kids, and that single women should NOT be having lots of kids, because they shouldn’t be doing the thing that makes babies.

          Also, single parents in the US at least are much likelier to be in poverty than couples. Check out Figure 10 in this publication:

          http://nccp.org/publications/pub_1194.html

          Only 13% of children living with both parents are below the poverty line, compared with 22% living with another relative and 41% living with just one parent.

          Parents who are married and trying to follow God’s will as best they understand it will work hard, look at ways to save, and demonstrate wisdom and self-control. They may still be in poverty–the poor you will always have with you, and the poor are NOT despised in the Bible–but they are not creating or perpetuating the kind of multigenerational dysfunction that leads to familial breakdown and overdependence on government safety nets.

          1. Heidi I agree with you that single women should not be having babies but that was not what I asked. I asked specifically about welfare, and whether or not American Christians who seem to be against welfare, think families on welfare should continue having babies.

        2. Heyo! That person was me. I’m sorry if you interpreted my stance on things as hostility, it wasn’t my intention at all.

          Children, according to the Word of God, are blessings. Fertility, according to the Word of God, is His domain. Several times in scripture God opened and closed the wombs of women with or without their consent. (I cited references last time so I figured I wouldn’t bombard you with them again).

          My point of view was to show you that marriage, since the beginning of creation, was (primarily) for the producing of babies. Not for us, for Him: hence, the controversial story of Abraham and Isaac. We are called to live by faith, (which means trust or confidence), and claim to live by faith in God, but then doubt God’s ability to provide for our families?

          God RAINED DOWN FOOD from heaven, DEFIED NATURE by allowing a physical man to WALK ON WATER, and fed THOUSANDS of MEN (and men sure can eat!) with 5 LOAVES of BREAD, and TWO FISH, TWICE!!! Do we as Christians ACTUALLY BELIEVE those accounts, or do we just teach those in Sunday School?! Those are INCREDIBLY OUTRAGEOUS and downright UNBELIEVABLE events and yet they HAPPENED! God can do all this, but when it comes to family size that’s when He becomes an amateur?!

          My point wasn’t “to have as many children as possible” but to never interfere with God’s PERFECT WORK.
          If He wants you to have only 2, praise God! 4? Praise God! 14? Praise God! 0? Praise God! For God is GOOD ALL THE TIME! AMEN!

          Single Christian moms should not be fornicating, and Christian men should always be providing for their families: according to the Word of God (unless, of course, physically unable to). Married Christian couples with children who are struggling with finances should put their faith (TRUST/CONFIDENCE) in ALMIGHTY GOD, to provide for them, as well as the man of the house providing. And when HE sees that they have enough children, then He, who is faithful, will close up the womb.

          And to those who are upset about the Government, all I can say is look forward to the day when the LORD JESUS CHRIST will reign for a thousand years! HALLELUJAH! I really can’t wait!

          1. Regarding your questions about American Christians and welfare; I suggest that you look up the woman called Octomom. She was HATED here in the states ( a Christian nation) because she had many children that she couldn’t take care of and went on welfare; literally got death threats.

            The anti-child mentality, like everything else worldly, is running rampant in American churches. Many American Christians are for birth control whether or not finances have anything to do with the situation.

            The words “birth control” itself prove how faithles it is. To control means to supervise the running of said thing. When you supervise your own birthing abilities, which God has plainly wrote in scripture that He holds the key to (Gen 29:31, Gen 20:18, Jere 1:5) how then are you also having faith (trust) in Him?

        3. Sorry, KAK, I’ve been away from the computer for a few days.

          To answer your question on welfare. I am against ALL governmental welfare programs. I do believe there should be programs that are sponsored by the local churches that help the poor (truly help the poor, not just indiscriminately hand them money) but these programs should not be from the federal, state or local governments.

          Governmental welfare is done in a poor an unaccountable fashion that allows for epic amounts of waste and fraud and promotes more dependence (sometimes multi-generational dependence) on said welfare and in the long run, INCREASES the number of people that live in poverty. I am not against lending a helping hand but the way governmental welfare is done here in the United States hurts everyone (especially the recipients) in the long run.

          The old proverb “Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.” has a lot of wisdom to it. The Bible says that if (2 Thessalonians 3:10) that “if anyone is not willing to work, let him not eat.” Governmental welfare bypasses Biblical instruction completely and just feeds people daily, teaches them nothing and gives them little incentive to get out there and take responsibility for themselves and become productive members of our society. The government literally STEALS money from those who work hard for it and gives it to those who refuse to work at all. This is an abomination.

          Regarding your stance on personal responsibility and having children, you and I agree on this matter. The Bible tells us to “be fruitful and multiply” and that “children are a blessing from the Lord”, but nowhere in scripture is contraception forbidden and nowhere in scripture is it taught that sex without the possibility of conception is sin.

          I am all for families having as many children as they want and can afford to take personal responsibility for. I am against abortion and the types of birth control that abort a fertilized egg but I am NOT against all forms of Natural Family Planning and forms of birth control that prevent the sperm from coming in contact with and fertilizing an egg.

          I believe that God expects us to use the brain he gave us (and the knowledge we have available) to make wise choices and not having more children than you can afford to take care of is one of those wise choices. I know that faith in the Lord is a must. I trust and depend on the Lord to keep me safe but to go and play on a busy freeway while “having faith” in Him to keep me safe would just be foolish. Here is a well reasoned article that does a good job of explaining it. https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/does-the-bible-permit-birth-control

          For the Catholics on this site who are ready to die on the alter of their religions man made rules, you should do some research on the history of the Catholic church’s stance on birth control. Like most of the man made “rules” in the Catholic church, the rules on contraception haven’t always been what they are today. This article is a good starting place to learn. http://theconversation.com/how-the-catholic-church-came-to-oppose-birth-control-95694

          1. But most forms of birth control give a false hope of zero pregnancy and when a pregnancy occurs, abortion is the answer for many. No birth control is 100% effective, then what? Will not God provide? The roots of birth control are Satanic in nature and have made it so children are inconveniences and burdens. The only form of birth control that has zero negative consequences is NFP (even the condom has toxic chemicals in it that can cause cervical cancer in women). The only consequence of NFP may be a baby which is not a negative consequence but to most these days with the birth control mentality, it is seen as negative. Did you know that Planned Parenthood passes out birth control pills like candy because they know it will end up being more abortions for them? I can see men and/or women doing something permanent to prevent pregnancy if a future pregnancy can seriously harm a woman.

          2. What’s the point of talking about me but not to me? I have feelings, y’know? I wrote two long responses as to why I’ve come to this conviction and not one of them was addressed. I’m not a Catholic and I never was. And if God called me into a busy highway, like He calls people to go on dangerous mission trips, I would want to have the faith, that whether I live or die, that He will be glorified through my obedience. I would give my womb to the Lord, despite finances, for two main reasons (although I do have more).
            1. Because the Bible says in Romans 12:1 “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.”
            I choose to sacrifice my ENTIRE body to the Lord because He has told me to. If I am on birth control, and He wants to give me another baby, how am I acceptable unto Him, if I am blocking Him?

            Reasons #2, Is because of Mark 6:34-44. It reads, “And Jesus, when he came out, saw much people, and was moved with compassion toward them, because they were as sheep not having a shepherd: and he began to teach them many things. And when the day was now far spent, his disciples came unto him, and said, This is a desert place, and now the time is far passed: Send them away, that they may go into the country round about, and into the villages, and buy themselves bread: for they have nothing to eat. (Notice how the disciples were trying to take CONTROL, and tell God Almighty how he should take care of things, when He already had a plan; sound familiar?) “He answered and said unto them, Give ye them to eat. And they said unto him, Shall we go and buy two hundred pennyworth of bread, and give them to eat? He saith unto them, How many loaves have ye? go and see. And when they knew, they say, Five, and two fishes. And he commanded them to make all sit down by companies upon the green grass. And they sat down in ranks, by hundreds, and by fifties. And when he had taken the five loaves, and the two fishes, he looked up to heaven, and blessed, and brake the loaves, and gave them to his disciples to set before them; and the two fishes divided he among them ALL. And they did ALL EAT, and were FILLED. (Incredible!) And they took up twelve baskets full of fragments, and of the fishes. And they that did eat of the loaves were about five thousand men.” Wow! To me this is what inspires me to trust God, even when my eyes tell me it’s “foolish”, “(For we walk by faith, not by sight)” 2 Corinthians 5:7. I bet the disciples thought that Jesus was pretty “foolish” when he planned to feed all those hundreds of people with so little food. In the same way that I’m “foolish” for trusting God to provide for the babies He plans to give me! And yet, God Almighty did, and still does, the impossible. “But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible.” Matthew 19:26

            I also want to clarify that I don’t think this is a matter of salvation; I think you can ne Born-again and still be on borth control, like how the disciples were follwers of Christ and doubted Him many times! To me, this is a matter of spiritual maturity. I know what I believe is radical to many Christians, but so is trusting that God will be able to make a man stand on water! God bless!

  2. The only reason that any woman cannot be a keeper at home is because of a failure to do what God has called us to do, and that includes not just the wife, but the husband also. If it is necessary for a wife to work outside the home, it is at least partially, if not entirely, a failure of the husband, not the wife.

    1. Sadly, Robert I agree. I have seen this with some of the women I have known and helped in church!
      Also some women (like me) have husbands who have very bad health problems and are unable to work, my precious Hubby is now retied as he is 67 but due to his health he had to retire at 52 and it is not easy; however that said God has never let us down and has always provided!
      Jilly

    2. The reason I have had to work outside of the home on a part-time basis for my entire married life is because my husband was injured and is very limited in what he is able to do, and the length of time he is able to do it for. He simply cannot hold down a full-time job. It’s physically impossible for him.
      While I have been working he has been looking after the kids, so our children have never been put into daycare.
      But, for us at least, the reality is, if I don’t contribute financially to the family, we don’t eat.
      God has blessed our family by providing work opportunities for me which fit in with our family. I’m still able to be there before and after school for our kids. I’m still able to focus on managing a busy household. And I’m also able to bring in enough income to supplement what my husband is able to earn, to keep us still technically in poverty (according to the official definition of poverty) but not lacking any essentials.

    1. From Titus 2:

      3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;

      4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,

      5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

  3. The logic of that criticism (“Your teaching makes people feel bad!”) is appalling. If you follow it to its logical conclusion, we should not preach against ANY evil because it might make someone who has participated in it feel criticized. It is our JOB to teach against the poor and sinful decisions that will bear bitter fruit down the road. Not to do so would be cruel.

    Bravo, Lori.

  4. Whenever I see someone talking about how important self-esteem is, I know they don’t know themselves, or pride. Every human is born with plenty of self esteem. Simply watch a baby. They have no problems demanding what they want and all of it they can get. It is when we learn that the world doesn’t owe us anything, we owe the world something, that we begin to learn the two great commandments, love God, and love others. Nothing about self esteem in those two commandments, but, you rarely fail to have worlds of self esteem when you obey them.

    Further, part of love is chastisement and correction.

    In our world, there are too few who learn to love correction, and as Solomon said, ‘Correction is the way of life’. If we would judge ourselves, we would be judged by no man, but our media and schools do not teach us God’s standards or to judge ourselves at all. Self-introspection is extraordinarily rare, and those who heed the Greek dictums of ‘Know thyself’, and ‘the unexamined life is not worth living’, are just as rare. And so, we have tens of millions of Americans who are infuriated when another person informs them that their view of themselves differs from God’s view of them.

    There was another person who did this, who I am reminded of. His name was Cain. He became the first murderer in human history. And, there are plenty in America, who hate to be corrected, full of hatred, which is just as bad as murder, according to Christ.

    Proverbs 22:4 By humility and the Fear of the Lord, come riches, and honor, and life.

    If we would Fear God, we would fear nothing else and no one else, and the Fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge and wisdom. This means, if we don’t fear God, we know nothing, as Psalms 14:1 says, ‘The fool hath said in his heart, There is no God. They are corrupt, they have done abominable works, there is none that doeth good.’

    And understanding our faults brings humility. This also enables us to be more understanding about the faults of others, for we are told that if we don’t forgive others, not only are our prayers not heard or answered, but God won’t forgive our sins.

    Mark 11:23 For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith.

    24 Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.

    25 And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.

    26 But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.

    God actually commends those who are lowly, meek, humble, poor in spirit, and have a low opinion of themselves. Some of the greatest leaders in world history, and especially in the Bible, were extraordinarily humble. Paul said, “: This [is] a faithful saying, and worthy of all acceptation, that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners; of whom I am chief”. It’s hard to find much self-esteem there, but Paul was an extraordinarily gifted Servant of God.

    We ought to be more concerned with esteeming God and our neighbors, than esteeming our own selves, to learn to be selfless, not selfish. Modern psychiatry, which is largely fraudulent, and cares only about money and power, leaving millions of victims in it’s wake, will assure us that we need to feel good about ourselves. Well, to feel good about ourselves, we need to understand cause and effect. Lincoln said, ‘If I do good, I feel good, and if I do bad, I feel bad. That is my religion’. Also, ‘virtue is it’s own reward’. Does your conscience bother you? Great!! It means you still have a conscience. It’s really bad when your conscience no longer bothers you, and one has seared it.

    Early in America, our Founders understood that virtue, or right living, leads to happiness. We have lost sight of this in the past century, and now we have Cultural Marxists who tell us we can’t be happy if we are a woman, or if we are black, or if we are a homosexual, which are the 3 main victim groups of Cultural Marxism. We are told that we can’t be happy due to our circumstances, or a chemical imbalance in our brain, or our Father didn’t hug us enough when we were five. We are told that we can’t be happy because Lucy didn’t like me in the 9th grade, or because a girl’s tenth grade boyfriend made a sour face at her in front of her friends. We are told we can’t be happy because people told us we had big ears in elementary school, or made fun of our freckles, or that we were skinny, or too healthy, or had a big dome, or a small one, or had big feet, or all the other features that kids find to make fun of in school. It’s all a bunch of nonsense. In the end, as the Stoic Epictetus said, ‘Life is 10% what happens to us, and 90% how we respond to it’.

    And, since this is quite long, and I must close, self esteem has little to nothing to do with how others view us, and nearly everything to do with how God and our conscience views us, and I shall end with 2 poems, one about the importance of our own conscience, and the other about how circumstances don’t matter, our response does.

    Some people may say this is too long, and they don’t have the stomach to read it all, but quite often they’ll have a television, and will have no problem watching people lie, deceive, amuse, and manipulate them for hours on end. I apologize for not being a masterful deceiver.

    The Man In The Glass
    Peter Dale Wimbrow Sr.

    When you get what you want in your struggle for self
    And the world makes you king for a day
    Just go to the mirror and look at yourself
    And see what that man has to say.

    For it isn’t your father, or mother, or wife
    Whose judgment upon you must pass
    The fellow whose verdict counts most in your life
    Is the one staring back from the glass.

    He’s the fellow to please – never mind all the rest
    For he’s with you, clear to the end
    And you’ve passed your most difficult, dangerous test
    If the man in the glass is your friend.

    You may fool the whole world down the pathway of years
    And get pats on the back as you pass
    But your final reward will be heartache and tears
    If you’ve cheated the man in the glass.

    If—

    By Rudyard Kipling
    If you can keep your head when all about you
    Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
    If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
    But make allowance for their doubting too;

    If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
    Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
    Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
    And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:
    If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;

    If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
    If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
    And treat those two impostors just the same;
    If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken

    Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
    Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
    And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

    If you can make one heap of all your winnings
    And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
    And lose, and start again at your beginnings
    And never breathe a word about your loss;

    If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
    To serve your turn long after they are gone,
    And so hold on when there is nothing in you
    Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

    If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
    Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
    If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
    If all men count with you, but none too much;
    If you can fill the unforgiving minute
    With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,

    Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
    And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

    1. I love both of those poems!
      My father used to quote The Man in the Glass in it’s entirety to my sister and I when we were growing up. And I have “If” framed on my wall above my desk. Both so true!

      1. That’s awesome, KAK, you are fortunate to have a father who instilled that in you and your sister!

        I wanted to memorize it long ago, and I suppose I should get around to doing it. Beautiful poem.

  5. Definitely not. I see you urging mothers to be where it is best for all, at home. While there is a percentage that simply can’t be at this time, any woman who is honest will look at their situation to see if that’s true. Many will find that it’s not only possible to be at home, but it’s more practical. And what could give anyone more *self-esteem* than knowing they’re doing what’s best for their family, society, and following the Lord’s commands?

  6. I was raised in public housing and my mother received food stamps. She was a single mother of five having her first at 15. I can tell you these government programs are double edged sword yes I without it we would not have survived but is extremely difficult to get out of that area and way of thinking. Out all my siblings and cousins only four of us on Married With Children and don’t live in public housing everyone else are single mothers with at least two children in public housing or low income housing. I did everything in my power not to end up in that situation I started volunteering and working at an early age at the library and at church and went to University for baking. I’m happily married to a wonderful husband who allows me to stay home with our daughter and my heart breaks for my sisters and cousins who have to work so hard and be away from their children.

  7. Does God’s word necessarily condemn Christians? I’d argue no. They are forgiven and still God’s children.

    So in my opinion, God’s word doesn’t condemn single mothers who are Christians. They are spotless in God’s sight as are all Christians. But God’s word does point to a better way.

    But life happens, but if a woman has to work, so be it. But she should be aware that her child has a good chance of not being close to her (due to lack of bonding during the infant years). And her working during those very early years increases the likelihood of a child growing up to be a sociopath who is incapable of close relationships (seriously).

    And finally, as far as step parents go (if mom thinks it will solve things to remarry), that’s a minefield as well. With girl children, there is relatively common occurrence of step dad (or mom’s live in boyfriend) acting inappropriately with the teenage step daughter (obviously not in all cases, but it’s somewhat common).

    And then if mom has children for step dad, step dad often treats his children differently than mom’s other children (which is painful for mom’s original children).

    But is having a children (as a single mom) better than aborting? Of course.

  8. The issue is not that some Godly women are forced by circumstances to make an economic contribution by working outside the home – that has always been the case.

    The issue is that no Godly society should be structured to condone, encourage of facilitate women putting career before home and children. No husband should believe that it is preferable or allow it if it can be avoided and no wife or mother should ever do so for any reason other than necessity.

  9. A married woman should not work even if she has no children. The reason is simple: she’s not a man. Male masculinity empowers her feminine contribution to the family, neighbors and the community at large. A wife who bakes her neighbors a cake does more for the community than buying big screen tv’s or other stuff that will be in the landfill in a few years.

    1. I do agree that it is infinitely better for married women not to work outside the home whether or not they have children.

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