Dressing and Acting Like a Harlot

Dressing and Acting Like a Harlot

“And behold among the simple ones, I discerned among the youths, a young man void of understanding, Passing through the street near her corner; and he went the way to her house, In the twilight, in the evening, in the black and dark night: And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot, and subtil of heart. She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house” (Proverbs 7:7-11).

Here’s a man; a man who is not wise. He meets a woman that is dressed like a harlot. She wasn’t necessarily a harlot, but she was dressed like one. Many women dress like harlots these days. They dress sexual and sensual. They show off their bodies with no shame. This loud woman is the opposite of dressing modestly and being shamefaced. She provocatively wants to draw attention to herself and cause men to stumble.

“Subtil” means deceitful, cunning, and treacherous. This describes her heart. She likes to deceive men by her sensuality. She is the opposite of being chaste and discreet. She hates God and His ways and enjoys destroying men’s lives.

She is loud and stubborn. She fights for her rights and wants her way. She is opinionated and tries to force her ways on others. She will do whatever she can to get what she wants. She won’t listen to wise counsel or rebuke. She has the opposite of a meek and quiet spirit. Her feet abide not in her house. She is not a keeper at home nor does she look well to the ways of her household.

In every way, this woman is the complete opposite of a godly woman. Unfortunately, this describes many women these days. They use their lack of clothing and their actions to seduce men, even married men to get what they want.

How do the men end up who “visit” these loud and stubborn women? “Her house is the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death” (Proverbs 7:27).

In a few chapters later, we are told more about this woman. “A foolish woman is clamorous” (Proverbs 9:13) “Clamorous” means noisy and loud. God is very clear that He doesn’t want women who believe in Him to be loud. He doesn’t want us always stating our opinions, needing to be right and heard, and fighting for what we want. He has never called us to do these things. He wants us to be the exact opposite of what feminism is telling women that they should be.

How do the men end up who “visit” this clamorous woman? “Her guests are in the depths of hell” (Proverbs 9:18)

How about us? What are we to be known for? May we pursue godliness and what the Lord requires of us.

“Strength and honor are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness” (Proverbs 31:25-27).

“While thy behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughter ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement” ( 1 Peter 3:2-6).

“In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with braided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But which beometh women professing godliness with good works. Let the women learn in silence with all subjection” (1 Timothy 2:9-11).

“I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully” (1 Timothy 5:14).

“That the aged women…teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God ne not blasphemed” (Titus 2:3-5).

It’s clear what God wants from us and how He wants us to live. You can either choose to obey Him and be blessed or choose to disobey Him and suffer the consequences.

Now therefore hearken unto me, O ye children: for blessed are they that keep my ways.
Proverbs 8:32

38 thoughts on “Dressing and Acting Like a Harlot

  1. This type of dress even goes on in many ,many of our churches.It makes it hard for men who try not to look. Most of our pastors will not even address this issue.

  2. I recently got into a “discussion ” on Instagram with a total stubborn woman about this very issue. She just wouldn’t listen and would keep saying ” I don’t read strangers comments” “And you’re wasting your time” but every time I would respond with scripture she would claim she is not reading my response to her. She is the perfect example of of the loud woman described in Proverbs 7:7-11. It’s shows how much feminists have poisoned the minds of women today.

  3. Sadly, the preacher will not address the sin because of 2 reasons.

    #1 Most likely the preacher’s wife and daughters are also dressing like harlots.
    So the preacher would get a hot tongue lashing from his wife and no sex for him.

    #2 Most of the women in the congregation are dressing like harlots.
    Since most of those women are controlling the tithe, the preacher will not call out the sin so as not to lose money.

  4. It’s even harder when these women are on stage singing. I prefer churches where women aren’t involved in any of the service.

    It’s up to the older women to teach these younger women in classes, or at lunch, or inviting them to their home for 2 hours, or just pulling them aside and kindly saying, “I think you are revealing more than you intend.”

    Sometimes we wear dresses where we think everything is covered, but when we bend over a child we reveal too much and don’t even realize it unless someone says something. Yes it can embarrass, but how much better to not do it again!

    I think we need to take the risk, PRAY FIRST, invite women over, and discuss it. We can also teach younger girls modesty in Sunday School and the importance of it honoring God and our own bodies, without going into too much detail.

  5. Hello Lori, I really appreciate your insights, and I am following them closely. I need to address though that for a godly women wearing pants is wearing men’s clothing. And God is clear on that in the Old Testament. Have you realized that pants are a symbolism of the same feminist movement we are against? “ men and women are the same”. Prior to 1960-s if you realize women would naturally wear only skirts or dresses because they were leased brainwashed from the modern movement of feminism and closer to the way the holy women of the past would dress and conduct themselves. I suggest you give mire thoughts to this topic . I have so much respect for Godly women that dress in skirts or dresses as they truly show modesty. Wish you the best. God bless

  6. Lori, you have been a blessing to me and to many others with your biblical stance regarding women, and long may God use you to teach many women.
    However, I do want to challenge you to look deeper into the pants issue for women. You have correctly pointed out the dangers and great damage that feminism has done to society, and you have even rightly spoken out against the suffrage movement as unnecessary at best.

    Please look at the history of pants on women, and study it. Women did not wear pants a hundred years ago. Pants on women were pushed by the very feminists you rightly denounce. They wanted to use fashion to promote their worldview of “equality” between men and women. The old adage: who wear the pants in this house refers to authority. But many women now can say: “I” wear the pants in this house.

    I agree that the heart matters more than the outside appearance, but our fashion choices are not without consequence. God told the Israelites to differentiate between women and men clothing. The principle of a different look between men and women continues in the New Testament, as Paul teaches that long hair on men is shameful, but glorious on women.

    Many churches today would not touch the issue of pants on women, but actually the messaging would be consistent: men and women are different. They have different functions. They should look different and dress differently.

    I am not writing this to berate you, as I love your ministry. Just gently asking you to study this issue.

  7. yes .. you will get bashed nowadays if u speak the truth because people follow worldy things

  8. If married the husband should set the modesty standard. Yes skirts and dresses only is nice but at the end of the day its up to her husband and what he prefers.

  9. Since most of those women are controlling the tithe, the preacher will not call out the sin so as not to lose money.

    BINGO. This what INEVITABLY happens when a pastor depends solely on the contents of the collection plate for his livelihood.

    Women’s ungodly influence on leadership, characterized mainly by fear, is also why most churchian franchises are still in COVIDIOCY lockdown mode even after the “threat” has been proven to be mostly nonexistent.

  10. Just my two cents on the matter, I might be wrong but the way I interpret Deuteronomy 22:5 is, it is against cross-dressing. So, a woman pretending to be a man by dressing in a man’s attire, presenting herself as male, not being content with her God assigned gender (and vice versa for men), that is not Biblical. However, pants have been a unisex item of clothing for a while, hence, this is (IMO) a personal choice. If you feel more comfortable and prefer dresses (or, of course, if that is the preference of your husband 🙂 ), that is totally fine, and if you like pants, you can find the kind that look feminine and modest, and that is okay, too.

    This issue was discussed in my church a little while ago and our pastor also says the Bible is against cross-dressing, not pants per say; however, reading through your comments, I realize the pressures he must be feeling when discussing such topics. Said stance was convincing enough for me, though.

  11. But wouldn’t you agree that the pants women wear, in general, wouldn’t be confused with the pants men wear? They are very different.

  12. Hi Lori

    I wear pants too. Hubby loves them. Pants are more modest than skirts & dresses, at least they cover you completely. the skirt part can allow people to look at your body if the wind blows just right not matter the length. As well as the waist part can get caught when you get up allowing the skirt to fall off of you. None of this is modest at all. Pants cover everything=modesty

  13. As a North Indian woman pants have been part of my attire and my peoples for centuries. They are always worn with a long tunic over, the pair are called a Salwar Kameez. I think this can be historically attributed to climate. Women in cold countries and regions wore pants. It’s not a mark of femininity. There are cultures such as those in the pacific islands in which males wear skirts or robes! And yet the Pacific Islands are mostly Christian. We must be weary of being legalistic. If we believe the word of God is to be spread across nations and cultures then we must be mature about cultural expressions such as clothing.

  14. I personally wear skirts and dresses only. I wear them because I feel uncomfortable with the outline of my lower half exposed. Even in very loose pants (assuming there is no tunic) when you move around, the shape of your backside and hips shows. That personally makes me feel on display (though I hope I am not vain enough to think all men will want to look at me), so I wear looser skirts and dresses. I also wear them because they are a sign of distinction between the sexes in manner of dress. One lady I know says she wears them to remind her of the difference between her role and her husband’s. I think that is so beautiful. We live in an androgynous culture today. I don’t want to have any part in promoting that. I also wear them because usually, a woman who dresses modestly in skirts and dresses is immediately identified as a woman who serves the Lord. I want people to know that I am a Christian just by looking at me. I have had opportunities to share truths about my faith because people knew I was a Christian, even though I had never said so. That being said, Deuteronomy 22:5 is probably not talking about skirts versus pants. It just says to have distinction between the sexes. It is not a sin for women to wear pants as long as they are not too tight. Some of the really flowy pants are very feminine and modest. Occasionally, I will see a woman when out and about who wears jeans in a very classy and feminine way. It always makes me pause because it is a very beautiful thing. I love seeing women, regardless of whether they wear skirts/dresses or pants, who dress in a beautiful and feminine way. Unfortunately, society as a whole does not dress as well as they used to back in the day. Interesting, how we have less heavy duty labor (like washing clothes by hand or churning butter) that is involved in our chores, yet the people who did that heavy work wore better clothes (as in more feminine and pretty) than we as a society do now. Look how the pioneer women dressed. Long, beautiful (at least, I think their clothes were beautiful) dresses with aprons to keep their clothes clean. They always washed their hands and faces (assuming water was not scarce) and brushed their hair. They understood the importance of being presentable. I miss that. We would do well to learn from their example.

  15. I’m giving my point of view on pants from a man’s prospective.

    Whether a woman wears pants that are skin tight or loose does not matter.

    When a man sees a woman in pants, he is NOT looking at the woman’s face at the beginning.

    If a man is looking at the woman who is facing away, his eyes are automatically drawn to her rear end.

    If the woman is facing him, his eyes are automatically drawn to her lower waist area. (you figure out the area I am talking about)

    It doesn’t matter how “Christian” the man is, pants on women are designed to draw a man’s eyes to those parts.
    The pants legs coming up and joining together near the waist, are designed to “funnel” a man’s eyes to certain areas.

    Its then up to the man whether he averts his eyes, or sins by continuing to look.

    My elderly advice to a woman wearing pants is to wear a dress or skirt over top the pants.

    And shame on all the “christian” women wearing skin tight jeans or jeans with rhinestones glued to the rear of the pants.

    Please don’t tell me those “naive women” do not know they are dressing that way. THEY KNOW!!!!

  16. My 5 year old is obsessed with wearing dresses so the way I combat potentially accidental immodesty from wind (or let’s be honest, doing somersaults in the front yard!) she has to wear shorts/pants/leggings underneath. I do this as well. I usually only wear skirts/dresses to church and I will wear a slip and a pair of biker type shorts underneath. I figure it’s best that her mother is held to the same standard. ?

  17. This seems extreme. If pants were truly designed to draw the eye to the groin, wouldn’t it happen when you looked at men as well?

  18. I agree that skin tight trousers are not appropriate, but I think you’re going overboard with your other comments. I suppose we’re all different and have different temptations and urges, but I certainly look at a woman’s face first and not her lower waist area. I respect that she is a daughter of the Lord.

  19. My view and most importantly my husband’s is that trousers however loose fitting are not as modest as a skirt / dress which is appropriately long (mid calf as a minimum) because they draw attention to your bottom and crotch.

    Furthermore in western societies trousers are a deliberate statement of androgyny whereas skirts and dresses are a clear statement of femininity.

    It is always a matter for a father and then husband to determine what is acceptable but I am very happy that I have been skirts and dresses only for nearly 20 years.

  20. It is said that women are not as aroused by visual as men are.
    Over the years I have also heard many comments by women concerning how good a man’s backside looks in tight jeans.

  21. I respectfully congratulate you on having overcome the sin temptation.
    But most men and women still struggle.
    And it is not a sin unless a man CONTINUES to look.
    Just like if a naked woman jumped out from behind a wall and was standing in front of the man.
    A man could not help but notice she was naked.
    The sin would be if he continued to look.

    For the record, I DO avert my eyes after first seeing the woman.
    When I am in a public place, I see immodesty in front of me.
    I look right, there is another immodest woman.
    I look left and there is another immodest woman.
    The same applies to what I see in churches.
    I see NO difference between Christian and secular women and the way they dress.
    They all want to show their “wares” to get a husband.
    But the man they get by doing that is not concerned by what is in her heart, but only by her body.

    There have been studies done that show men AND women look at the front or back areas on a women in pants BEFORE they notice her face.
    Do an internet search for those studies.
    If the women is in a modest dress, both men and women noticed the woman’s face first.
    The same woman was also shown in pants.
    Both men and women admit their eyes were FIRST drawn to the “waist” area.

  22. This also should be a call to those who somehow believe trashy lingerie is allowable in a marriage. It is not, even in private; a godly man would never desire his wife to wear such demeaning clothing. The verses shared above make that abundantly clear.

  23. In 100 years from now after American parents have put their sons in dresses, will the next generation of Christians not say “This isn’t cross-dressing, but our culture”?

  24. The worldly women wear pants that *are* different, but in the sense that they are even worse. When they worldly women wear pants, they are mostly tighter than men’s pants, thus outlining their legs. This is done on purpose by the world to show off their “sexiness.”

    Now, I believe that women can wear a feminine pants, one that looks like a skirt, or else in no way can be mistaken for male pants, i.e. culottes.

    Basically, just keep in mind two principles:
    1. Modesty
    2. Identification

  25. My husband doesn’t mind if I wear pants but I prefer flowy dresses/skirts. And I notice I am treated differently out in public when I’m wearing a skirt rather than pants. I’m treated with more respect, both by men and women.

  26. There’s nothing demeaning about sexy lingerie. My husband loves it! I also love how I feel when I wear it. And my body belongs to him so…

  27. My husband out purchases my clothing to make they are Godly and something he also likes it.

  28. Titus 1:15
    Unto the pure all things are pure: but unto them that are defiled and unbelieving is nothing pure; but even their mind and conscience is defiled.

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