God’s Highest Calling For Women

God’s Highest Calling For Women

“Marriage and motherhood are not a woman’s highest calling. The NT explicitly tells us in 1 Corinthians 7 that only those who burn with lust need to marry so as to avoid sexual temptation. Getting married is a kind of gift to glorify God and according to Paul, it’s but ONE kind of gift.” (Ariel Gonzalez Bovat on Instagram).

In the beginning, God created Adam. God said it was NOT good for man to be alone, so He created Eve to be his help meet (helper suitable for him). Then God instituted marriage and commanded that they be fruitful and multiply. God has never rescinded this command. This was God’s perfect plan for humanity.

We are told in 1 Timothy 2:15, “Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.” All women who continue in faith will be saved, but childbearing refines godly women and makes them more like Christ. It is the ministry that God has given to women; being help meets to their husbands and raising godly offspring.

Is singleness a gift? No, it is actually an affliction for many who want to be married but are not. Doug Wilson wrote an article titled Seven Reasons Men Should Marry Before Their 23rd Birthday. It’s fantastic! “Men need help, and they need help as soon as they have assumed the full responsibilities of adulthood. Women were given by God to help men because men needed the help, and that help has to do with their vocation and calling. If a woman is called to be the wife of a doctor, she can step into that calling by being the wife of a med student. God does not say ‘it is not good for man to be alone after grad school.'”

Paul wrote about singleness by “permission and not of commandment” (1 Corinthians 7:6). If a man doesn’t burn (which most do) and wants to live a life like Paul (which most single men are not doing), then yes, he has the freedom to do so. Many these days act as if singleness is God’s will for us. That it’s far superior to marriage. This just isn’t true if you take the Bible as a whole and understand God’s original design for us.

Why do you think Satan and feminism have fought so very hard against God’s will for women? Satan doesn’t want women marrying. He doesn’t want them bearing children and raising godly offspring. This thwarts his wicked plan for us as we are seeing in our nation. He wants young women going off to college and working for a career during their most youthful and fertile years. Do you know that college educated women initiate divorce 90 percent of the time? (This is one of many reasons that I will NEVER advocate for women to go to college. It has caused FAR more harm than good.) Divorce has skyrocketed. Broken homes and families are common. This isn’t God’s will for humankind!

What about single and barren women? Here’s a great post I share often to encourage them. We live in a fallen, wicked world where God’s perfect will isn’t happening for many. Feminism has caused a lot of this damage. Many godly, single and barren women grieve over their circumstances, but even in their grief, they need to remember that God is good, and His plan for them is good. They must learn that godliness with contentment is great gain.

Marriage used to be common, so did women having children and being home to raise them. Now, it’s a minority of the population doing this. There are a LOT of singles now. Is this a good thing? NO! Marriage matures us. It teaches us many good and beneficial things. The Apostle Paul even wrote that the elders of the churches must be “the husband of one wife.” If singleness was fantastic, he would have encouraged elders to be single like the Catholics do. I am sure Paul understood why God said that it wasn’t good for man to be alone, and why He created marriage.

Yes, God can use single and barren women in powerful ways, but this doesn’t negate God’s perfect will for women. Doug Wilson ends his article this way: “Feminism is a toxic mess. The best and only complete answer to it is for men to find a woman early, love her completely, feed and educate her children, and bring her as much happiness as you are capable of bringing someone. As one Puritan put it, and man should first choose his love, and then love his choice. Young Christian men should marry in such a way as to make celebration of a 75th anniversary a much greater likelihood.” And women need to be taught by older women to LOVE THEIR HUSBANDS until death do they part.

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1 Timothy 5:14

13 thoughts on “God’s Highest Calling For Women

  1. I agree! I feel women don’t need any kind of education past high school, or even 8th grade. Once puberty hits, they really should be at home full-time, learning how to be a good wife, mother, and homemaker. They can be married off at 16 in some states with their parent’s permission. At this point, they can start having babies as soon as they’re married and homeschool them as soon as the child is old enough. They don’t need college or a career for this, their education up to 8th grade or high school should be sufficient enough to teach them how to read, write, do simple math, basic science and biology, and homemaking for the girls! The father can help teach their sons house maintenence, car maintenance, woodworking, etc. Once the boys are old enough, they can go on to high school and then a trade school to prepare them for a good job to take care of their family.

    What do you think, Lori?

  2. I saw that post. Oh my, i immediately thought “that aint right!”
    While some remain single and God still blesses them and uses them, effectively that post gave women an excuse to question Gods word and pursue a career instead of preparing for marriage.?‍♀️?‍♀️

  3. Carol,

    I have always believed that if children are taught to be good readers and good at math, everything else will come easily to them. They don’t need “higher education” where they are taught the wisdom of this world which is foolishness to God. I do think 16 is too young to marry. I do know some women who were married at 17 and 18 and to this day have good, solid marriages. I would have LOVED being married and having children right out of high school at 17 years old. I never had any desire to go to college nor have a career. We are to make disciples and the best way for women to do this is to raise godly offspring. What can be more important than raising the next generation?

  4. Having just given birth to our sweet baby #6, we are indeed the minority! This post brings great encouragement for living a life to glorify God. Thank you!

  5. It is very important that girls get a high school diploma.
    Reason being, if they desire to homeschool their children many state homeschool laws require the teaching parent to have a high school diploma or GED. It’s much easier to obtain a high school diploma than a GED. Just something to keep in mind when preparing for a homemaker career.

  6. 1,000% agree with Carol.

    As for the age, while I think Muhammad was a pedophile for marrying his best friends daughter, Aisha, at 6, and consummating the marriage at 9, while he had 8 other wives, yet still, she became his favorite wife.

    And, the other Abrahamic Religion, Judaism, has a Talmud, which allows pedophilia.

    As for the third Abrahamic Religion, Christianity, nearly all reliable accounts put Mary’s age at marriage at 12-15, when she married Joseph. Though, longevity wasn’t what it is today, 2,000 years ago.

    That said, I wouldn’t go lower than 18 to find a wife, and I’m 42. 16 just seems far too young. There are some states whose marriage laws allow it though.

  7. I was in my 30s when I married, ‘churched’ but not a Christian. My darling husband & I became Christians within a week or two of one another. We’ve been married now for 42 contented years. Not blessed with children which is deeply sad, but we were free to follow God in different ways in ministry from child blessed Christian families for whom we pray daily. It’s wonderful being a ‘transformed wife’.

  8. Also agree 100% Carol!! I never even finished high school and have never worked. My mom homeschooled me until the summer of my “sophomore year” and the plan was always for me to stay home and be a housewife and mother. Where I live you can make the choice to continue school at 16, so may parents stopped homeschooling and I stayed home and traveled with my parents until I met my husband to be (who started as an intern with my dad’s company) and we started dating when I was almost 18. We got married 3 days after my 19th birthday (he was 24) and he brought me back from our honeymoon pregnant and kept me pregnant until I was 24! All to say, I’m 43 with 3 grown sons and a grandbaby coming and I’m still the little housewife my husband married 24 years ago! I wouldn’t have changed a thing!!!!

  9. I am seeking help from you lovely ladies. My 12 year old daughter is passionate about history, and digging it up. She wants to be a historian,or archaeologist. She has Native American Indian cousins, and want to learn all about them. I don’t think she needs to learn this. I worry she will get told lies about God’s wonderful creation. How do I tell her this is not a thing Christian girls should do? That her calling is motherhood?

  10. Oh, Carol, how true! I had a 9th grade education. I taught my kids myself. One of them wanted to study history in depth. I said no, it wasn’t needed. He agreed finally. Sadly, he left our home and our values. Our girls now teach there little ones. It’s a beautiful thing to see.

  11. Sally, do you have Open University where you can learn online? Might be worth looking at. God bless. BTW, your daughter sounds amazing!

  12. Lori, is Online University or similar ok? The type where you can fit study around childcare and housework?

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