Recently, I have been watching a few couples journey through infertility on YouTube. They are young, Christian couples who want children desperately. One such couple is a positive and joyful couple. They have adopted a few children already and people ask them why they aren’t satisfied with them. “Why do you keep seeking ways to have a baby instead of being content with what you have or adopting more? After all, there’s plenty of children who need to be adopted.”
Most every woman wants to carry her own child (unless she’s so hardened to the beauty of motherhood by sin and feminism). They want to feel their baby move in their womb. They want to see their baby on an ultrasound. They want to see their stomach grow, then give birth. They want to nurse their baby and know that their baby was formed through the love they have for each other as a couple. This is completely normal, women, and right. There’s never any reason to feel shame because of these God-given desires. After all, He is the One who created the female body to bring forth life.
I grieve for all of these precious Christian couples who are unable to have children. I pray that the Lord will bless their wombs. I cry when they receive yet another negative pregnancy test. Yes, they can all adopt but even this is hard, expensive, and unpredictable, plus it doesn’t take away a woman’s longing to be able to carry her own children.
I had a miscarriage with our first baby. I was completely devastated and so was my husband. We were looking so forward to having children. It’s all I ever wanted to do in life! My dad came into our room (we were staying at my parent’s home during the miscarriage since Ken had a broken leg and could hardly walk and I needed help) and told us that thankfully, we could get pregnant. And we did just a few months later. I went on to give birth to four children which have been my greatest blessings in this life.
Fertility rates are greatly decreasing as our environment becomes more polluted. Men’s sperm count is going down fast but fertility can be improved by diet. One of these couples proved it by dramatically changing their diet and her follicle count was higher and so was his sperm count. Most of these couples learn to eat a lot healthier while they are on their journey to conceive babies. One couple I know couldn’t get pregnant because the husband had poor sperm count, they went on a strict and healthy diet, and are now pregnant with their first.
My encouragement for all of you who are infertile and want children badly is to do what you can to get as healthy as you can, then leave the results in the Lord’s hands while praying daily. If He opens your womb, there will be great cause for rejoicing and if He never does, you can rest in Him knowing that He is good and His plan for you is good. Not our will but yours be done, dear Lord.
He maketh the barren woman to keep house, and to be a joyful mother of children. Praise ye the LORD.