Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
“Whose testimony is the more considerable, because they have been constant eye-witnesses of her whole conduct, and, therefore, must have seen her misdemeanours, if there had been any, as well as her virtues; and call her blessed — Both for her own excellences, and for many happy fruits which they have gathered from her wise and godly education of them.” (Benson Commentary)
Yes, there is great blessing in having our children call us blessed since they clearly know all of our faults and failures. Prayerfully, our virtues will far outweigh our faults as we lean upon the Lord for strength and gain wisdom from His Word. Being cheerful instead of grumpy and moody has a great influence for good upon children. This will draw them to the ways of the Lord instead of push them away. They should be able to easily see God’s transforming power in us. If they can’t, it means we aren’t spending enough time at the feet of Jesus.
“Her children arise up,…. As olive plants around her table; grow up to maturity of age, and ripeness of judgment, and so capable of observing things, and doing the work here ascribed to them: or they rise up in reverence of her, and respect to her, suitable to the relation they stand in to her:…for such a mother, and wish themselves as happy as she is; they pray for her blessedness, peace, and prosperity, as all Zion’s children should, Psalm 122:6; they pronounce her blessed, as well they may, since she is blessed with all spiritual blessings in Christ; and so are all in her family that truly belong to her, her children and her servants, her husband also, and he praiseth her; that is, he is ready also to rise up and speak in her praise and commendation…though she owes it all to him; for her comely parts and gracefulness, which he describes with wonder; for her dress, her garments, though they are his own; for her faith, love, humility, and other graces, though they are his gifts.” (Gill’s Exposition)
In order for a mother to have children that respects her, she must train them from an early age to respect the authority in their lives whether it be towards their parents, teachers as they get older, government, elders, bosses, and ultimately, God. If a mother fails to teach her children this important discipline, the child will suffer their entire lives since children don’t naturally obey, respect, and reverence authority, as we can see among many children today.
Children need to be disciplined and trained from a young age to obey their mother’s first request to them – immediate obedience but the mother also must show her children a lot of love, warmth, affection, and cheerfulness so obedience isn’t burdensome. She should want them to grow up to obey the Lord willingly and joyfully. Mothers are the training ground where children either learn to do this or not.
“Her children arise up, and call her blessed. She is a fruitful mother of children, who, seeing her sedulity (constant attention) and prudence, and experiencing her affectionate care, celebrate and praise her, and own that she has rightly won the blessing of the Lord. Her husband also, and he praiseth her; in the words given in the next verse. Having the approbation of her husband and children, who know her best, and have the best opportunities of judging her conduct, she is contented and happy. Septuagint, ‘Her mercy (ἐλεημοσύνη) raises up her children, and they grow rich, and her husband praises her.'” (Pulpit Commentary)
“She is contented and happy.” Would your husband and children describe you this way? This mother chooses to be joyful. She frequently has a smile on her face. She brings light into her home since Jesus is light and lives inside of her. She doesn’t grumble and complain, no, not even about the weather; for she has learned that godliness with contentment is great gain and she knows worry adds nothing to her life. She smiles at the future because she knows that God is in the future and has it all under control. All of her sins are forgiven and she’s been washed as clean as snow. She can now walk in newness of life because of Christ’s finished work in her.
You can choose to be joyful, women. You can choose to smile warmly at your husband and children. This will cause them to feel accepted and loved by you. It will also make your home a happy home! I believe one of the best ways to learn to have a quiet and meek spirit is to learn to be content and joyful.
Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content…I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.
Philippians 4:11, 13