My Mom’s Last Days

My Mom’s Last Days

The other day, my mom told me that she didn’t recognize my dad for a few hours and it scared her. She felt so badly because she loves him so much. It was the moment that I knew her days on this earth would not be much longer. I shared it with my children, my college friends, and the chat room. My children were grieved. They love their grandmother. My college friends shared all of their wonderful memories they have about my mom. The chat room shared the pain of losing their own mothers. It matters not if you have had your mother for 60 years as I have had or lost her as a child. It’s always a difficult thing since death is the last enemy but thankfully, Jesus conquered the grave.

I’ve been writing my thoughts about her in my head since that day and decided I would do it now, when my dad could read it to her instead of waiting until she passes away into the arms of Jesus (which may be too late by the time I publish this since the hospice nurse said she only has a few days left to live).

As a child, she became my biggest supporter and encourager because I didn’t have good friends from kindergarten through high school. We’ve always been very close. I was bullied a lot as I am sure many of you were. I would have loved to be homeschooled by her since I loved being with her so much but it wasn’t heard of in our area back then. I know she would have gladly homsechooled me if she knew about it. She hated to see the pain I went through in the public schools.

She was a fun mother! She loved to entertain and feed people. She was extremely generous and gave whenever she saw a need. One of my college friends wrote, “She has been a lovely example of a joyful, peaceful Christian woman.” Another one wrote, “I remember your mom’s delicious carrot cake, her warm hospitality, her love for her daughters, and most of all her trust in God.”

After I had my babies, she would come and live with me for several weeks. When one of my babies was fussy and I was exhausted, I would go to her house and she would be walking and rocking the baby to give me a break. She loved babysitting and being with her grandchildren! My children love her to this day. They never have had a negative thing to say about her, only love and appreciation.

When I got so sick with parasites then a brain tumor and neck fusion, she was always there for me helping any way that she could. She was such a big blessing in my life! She would brush my hair often since she knew this is what I loved while my dad gave me foot massages. I know it was so hard for them to see how much I suffered but it sure made the suffering easier having them helping to bear the load. I wish everyone was blessed with a mother like my own.

She’s been wanting to go be with Jesus since she was 80 years old and has been continually dizzy from an inner ear infection that left permanent damage but she never complained about suddenly being quite immobile. Her favorite thing lately has been for us all to visit her throughout the week bringing her meals and simply sitting with her. She was one of seven children so she wasn’t a loner at all. In fact, for her the more the merrier! She hated to ever see anyone left out.

Last week, she wanted to make sure I was okay due to the contentious comments I had received from my viral post. I assured her that I was fine. Even on her deathbed, she wanted to make sure I was alright! She has fully supported me in my ministry. In fact, she was the one who bought me “Created to Be His Help Meet” many years ago. It even changed her marriage in her old age. It’s never too late to grow in Christ and become what He has called us to be.

Dear Mom, I love you so much and I’m so thankful for Christ’s death and resurrection so that we get to spend eternity with each other. I will miss you but am so blessed that the Lord chose you as my mother. You had a life well lived! Love, Your daughter.

And I heard a voice from heaven saying unto me, Write, Blessed are the dead which die in the Lord from henceforth: Yea, saith the Spirit, that they may rest from their labours; and their works do follow them.
Revelation 14:13

UPDATE: My sweet mama passed into the arms of Jesus on Sunday evening.

34 thoughts on “My Mom’s Last Days

  1. She really must have been a good mother-it reflects in her children. So thankful for our hope in Jesus-I will see my Dad again!

  2. Dear Lori, I’m praying for you and your family. God has given you a rich heritage with a Godly mother. I pray she will be transported to her heavenly home quietly and quickly, since she longs to see her Savior most of all. The God of all comfort will bless and keep you during this time.

    1. Thank you, Holly. Thankfully, she has had very little pain which is a blessing. She is eating and drinking little so her time is near. Lots of tears have been flowing, that’s for sure.

  3. What a sweet and beautifully written post . You truly are so blessed to have her , and she to have you. “Created to BE A Helpmeet ” radically changed me and our marriage as well, and reading your posts is a steady reminder to stay the course!

  4. It’s hard to lose your mom, even though you will see her again. I pray that you, your family and your mother will have peace during this time.

  5. This post touched my heart so. My own mother is returning home today from visiting me for a week. I have been dealing with a very dangerous condition recently and she flew out to help take care of the kids and the home so my husband could focus on helping me and getting to the bottom of the issue. She has been more of a blessing to me in this time than I can express. I’m so thankful for precious mothers who never stop loving their children! What a wonderful woman your mother was.

    1. I am so sorry to hear about this, TJFW! I will pray earnestly for your complete healing. You are such a treasure to many and thankfully, you have a precious mother like my own. My mom always told me she would have to be on her death bed to not help me since I have needed so much during the years. We are blessed!

  6. Wow! I am praying your heart is full with the joy of Jesus and the love of your mother. She obviously lived a JOY= Jesus, others then yourself- kind of life.

  7. Lori, I will be praying for you. Reading your posts reminds me of what Franklin Graham wrote in a book I’m reading Through My Father’s Eyes. He shared about his precious mom Ruth and het lasts days.
    I know your mom was a treasure but what a blessing she will soon see Jesus and one day you will see her again.

  8. What a beautiful tribute, Lori. You are so wise to write it now. I will think of and pray for your mom and you and your whole family. Blessings to you.

  9. What a lovely tribute to your mother! And a beautiful photo of the two of you! I really enjoy posts like this! My prayers are with your sweet family.

  10. A beautiful post, Lori. I will be praying for you and your family to have peace during this time. Death is not the end, but it is still challenging and painful. Hugs sent your way!!

  11. This is so beautifully written. I’m sure it will mean the world to your mother to hear how much you love and appreciate all she has done for you.
    You and your family have my deepest sympathy.

  12. Lori, what a lovely tribute to your mother, I’m sure she’s very proud to have you for a daughter. May the Holy Spirit bring comfort to you and your family during these difficult times, and may your mother rest easy hearing the words, “Well done, good and faithful servant,” when she enters into eternity with Christ! Praying for God’s rich blessings upon you all.

  13. Your mom sounds like my mom. How I miss her! She died suddenly and we never got a chance to say good bye. Godly moms are rare jewels.

  14. Wow, moms are truly a special gift from God. No matter how old their own kids are, they always are concerned for them first. I pray that your mom passes peacefully.

  15. I am so sorry that your Mum is soon to be on her final journey to be with Jesus. Not sorry for her of course because there is no fear for her but for those left behind who knew and loved her that is where the pain is. Lori she must have been an incredible woman to raise a woman like you who is strong enough to stand up against the negative of this world and preach truth. Thank you for your ministry your family are in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time I pray it brings you all closer to each other and the Lord x

  16. Oh, how I can relate to what you are going through. I lost my own mother 16 years ago, but it seems like yesterday.She was the rock for our family. There was never a stronger woman. In her waning hours, my dad who hadn’t left her side in days, we finally convinced to go into a waiting room to actually lie down. Because my mom was so strong, she waited until none of us were in the room, and then she went home. She didn’t want us to suffer . I pray your moms journey is painless. You will miss her, but rejoice in the fact she is home with our Lord. Praying for you, Lori…Barb

  17. Dear Lori,
    What a beautiful woman of God your Mother was.Please know that I am so sorry for your loss.May your beautiful memories keep you and provide great joy for you as well.Love, Dawn E. Brown

  18. What a beautiful and lovely tribute from a much loved daughter to her much loved mom. While the pain of loss is almost unbearable here on earth, we can rejoice that earth is just a blip on the screen and we get to spend eternity together with both Jesus AND our loved ones. This is not goodbye, just a “I’ll see you later”, as you so well know. Your mom and mine are probably already baking carrot cakes together in heaven for the King! You have an awesome mom and sounds her thought is the same about you. Prayers for God’s peace to surround you–Paige

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