Many will argue that husbands are commanded to submit to their wives because of this verse: “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God” (Ephesians 5:21).
The very next verse states this: “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husband, as unto the Lord” (Ephesians 5:22). Why didn’t Paul add: “Husbands, submit yourselves unto your own wives”?
“For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body” (Ephesians 5:23). Why didn’t Paul add: “For the wife is the head of the husband”?
“Therefore, as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing” (Ephesians 5:24). Why didn’t Paul add: “…so let the husbands be to their own wives in every thing”?
“…and the wife see that she reverence her husband” (Ephesians 5:33). Husbands are never commanded to reverence their wives.
“Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands…” (1 Peter 3:1). Why didn’t Peter write: “Likewise, ye husbands, be in subjection to your own wives…”?
“For after this manner in the old time, the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands” (1 Peter 3:5). Whey didn’t Peter add: “…the holy men also…being in subjection unto their own wives?”
“Even Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are…” (1 Peter 3:6). Why didn’t Peter add: “Even Abraham obeyed Sara…”?
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord” (Colossians 3:18) Why didn’t Paul add: “Husbands, submit yourselves unto your own wives…”?
The aged women are to teach the younger women to be “obedient to their own husbands” (Titus 2:3-5). Older men aren’t commanded to teach the young men to be obedient to their own wives.
Even from the beginning of time, God created Eve to be Adam’s help meet, not the other way around (Genesis 2:18). Then, after the Fall, God told Eve, “Thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee” (Genesis 3:16).
“But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God” (1 Corinthians 11:;3). There’s no place that tells us that the wife is head of the man or that the husband is to submit to the wife.
“For a man…is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man. For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man” (1 Corinthians 11:7-9).
There’s no way one can negate all of these verses about the roles of husbands and wives to say that husbands are to submit to their wives. They’re not. It’s not God’s ordained order. There can’t be two leaders. There’s only one leader in the home and that is the man. God created men to lead. It’s His will. If you don’t accept that, you are not accepting God’s will.
Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
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