Projecting Their Experiences Onto Everyone Else

Projecting Their Experiences Onto Everyone Else

Last week, I responded to a viral post concerning Anna Duggar. I took each point the author made and tried to explain how what she wrote was false, or it was true and she was trying to make it seem like a bad thing. After pondering this, I came to this conclusion:

What I have noticed is that some women who have suffered through physical or sexual abuse in their childhood or marriage, tend to project their experience onto everyone else, and it blurs their perspective about marriage. They go on to water down God’s Word and His commands, because they place all of the blame for their pain on these rather than on the sinful actions of their abuser. They need to find true healing in Christ, so that they can accept God’s commands and see that they are indeed perfect (Romans 12:1,2).

From what I have observed, many of the popular female preachers were sadly abused in their childhoods. This is why they twist Scripture and rail against the Church in order to do what they are doing, namely sinning against God and His Word. They will use all of the feminist talking points in order to try and convince women that what they’re doing (preaching in the churches) is okay. It’s not. Instead of using their painful past to tell of the redemption and healing they have found in Christ, they use it in a way that makes all women victims and convinces most women that they are being “abused” in their marriages, thus they do far more harm than good.

Most of them don’t think highly of men either. They use words like toxic masculinity and misogyny. This is why they don’t like the term “authority” and Patriarchy. They don’t think it’s healthy to have only men lead in the churches. They falsely believe that women need to be taught the Bible from a “feminine perspective.” The bottom line is that they are clearly feminists and have fallen for the feminist agenda.

This is why you must be very careful who you learn from, women. If God gave us clear reasons why women are not to preach to men nor be in authority over them, wouldn’t these reasons be the same for not teaching women doctrines outside of the doctrine that God has specifically stated for the older women to teach the younger women in Titus 2:3-5? There are few older women teaching biblical womanhood. Female preachers don’t teach it, or they wouldn’t be able to do what they are doing.

I saw Christian women sharing this woman’s post about Anna Duggar and raving about it. Many women have little discernment and wisdom these days, because they follow female preachers who teach to their itching ears instead of biblical truths that would probably offend them. It’s a lot easier teaching to women’s emotions and feelings rather than hard, biblical truths. But teaching to their emotions doesn’t bear good fruit. Teaching biblical truths about womanhood bears much good fruit! Never fear speaking the Truth, women. It’s good, and it never comes back void.

Now I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions and offences contrary to the doctrine which ye have learned; and avoid them. For they that are such serve not our Lord Jesus Christ, but their own belly; and by good words and fair speeches deceive the hearts of the simple.
Romans 16:17,18

4 thoughts on “Projecting Their Experiences Onto Everyone Else

  1. It is very true.

    To take a child’s innocence is one of the greatest crimes, and millions of adults today were robbed of their innocence not only by grown ups who they were molested by, but, by television, Hollyweird, newspapers, and the internet, all of which desperately seek to corrupt a child’s innocence constantly.

    America was warned in the 1960’s, that if she allowed porn to be legalized, her children would savagely and mercilessly come under attack, and that is exactly what has happened. It is like Dracula, where one person is bitten, turns into a vampire, and bites another, starting the cycle all over again. A child who is abused rarely fails to turn around and abuse another child. A tragic example of this was a boyhood family friend, who was constantly around my family, and was beloved by us all, and he really loved being around us too. Well, years later, we learned he had been molested by his father, and, though we saw no hint of it around us, he turned around and got into child pornography, molested children, was arrested, and is currently serving a decades long jail term. A truly good life was tragically forever scarred, as he can never regain his reputation, and may never be able to marry and have children, to say nothing of the children harmed forever by him.

    This moral corruption poses a far greater threat to America and the world than all the viruses in human history combined, yet, our news media isn’t concerned about moral corruption, yet trumpets virus fears 24/7. Clear proof of why no wise person pays any attention to the media at all, only foolish and silly people do.

    “In the little world in which children have their existence, whosoever brings them up, there is nothing so finely perceived and so finely felt as injustice.”
    Charles Dickens

    “To please a child is a sweet and lovely thing that warms one’s heart and brings its own reward.”
    L. Frank Baum
    Author of “The Wizard of Oz”

    Not only does stealing a child’s innocence harm them, but, it also blurs their concept of right and wrong. A child who is not given holy patterns of righteousness by a loving father and mother in their youth will find it much more difficult to ascertain truth and virtue in their adult years, and while we all are given a conscience at birth, yet, a child who is shown love, joy, and peace by parents in their childhood is much more likely to reflect these to others, and a child that is shown hate, misery, and chaos is much more likely to reflect these to others too.

    Often, when you see a child mistreating others in school, you can be sure that child was mistreated at home. Two examples on both sides of this. One young man in 7th grade, who I am nearly certain had no father at home, every day in PE, would silently and viciously creep up behind me, as I stood unsuspectingly, and place me in a sleeper hold, where I could not breathe. This was terrifying to me, and I had been taught to be Christ like and not fight back. Worse, there must have been a lot of hurting kids, because no one stopped him, and when I let the PE teacher know, they did little to nothing to stop it. Not sure why I didn’t tell my parents. Ironically, to show there is good and evil in the world, the same aforementioned young man who was arrested decades later for child molestation, as a boy, stepped in and stopped this bully, physically putting him in a headlock whenever he tried to do this to me.

    On the flip side of this, there was a family of 10 at my church, the Father was a very strong preacher, who would publicly state that something is wrong with parents who do not protect and defend their children against evil, it’s a lack of natural affection. I used to take his children out on trips, along with other kids in my church, and my siblings, and we would go all over, to Yosemite, to railroad museums, to Jack London’s home in Napa, to Angel Island, to IMAX, playing sports, to amusement parks. Had a lot of wonderful times. Well, his children, while not perfect, radiated the love their parents showed them to the world. They were very affectionate, very kind, and easily loved everyone they came across. I remember I’d stay the night at their home, as a young man in my twenties, and their daughter would wake up early in the morning and make me a lunch before I left to go to work. No one told her to do this. She wasn’t even 12 yet.

    Currently, I work on the oil fields in North Dakota, and am aware of a situation where a young man had both his parents die at a young age. He joined the military and was traumatized by what he saw in action in Iraq. He has a lot of good qualities, is a hard worker, soft spoken, and patient, but he’s also a functional alcoholic, and comes home every night and gets drunk, it wears off by the morning, and he goes to work. It does affect job performance as a couple of serious mishaps have happened on jobs he was responsible for, including tires on trailers of 18 wheelers rolling off while the trucks are driving. The appropriate authorities were alerted and apparently nothing happened and the situation persists. He also, due to a dysfunctional church, has a distorted view of Christianity, and thinks his functional alcoholism is covered by grace, and he can go to heaven without repenting from his functional alcoholism, which is completely false, and is the antinomian heresy.

    “To every ailment under the sun,
    There is a remedy or there is none,
    If there be one, try to find it,
    If there be none, never mind it”
    Mother Goose

    The remedy for all boys and girls whose childhood innocence was stolen from them by a ruthless and satanic world is to seek God, who alone can heal from all ailments.

    “ I sought the Lord, and he heard me, and delivered me from all my fears.”
    Psalms 34:4

  2. Yupp.

    Older women, who are bitter and unhappy with their own life choices, try to ‘go after’ younger women.

    And every single time, destruction follows.

    It’s a form of Gossiping and Sticking Ones Nose Where it Doesn’t Belong dressed up fancy.

  3. Yes there is A LOT of projection and false teaching,
    “Silly women laden with sins”, and ears looking to be tickled. They are not interested in the truth because then they would have to see themselves as they are. Kind of like the Picture of Dorian Gray where they are used to looking good or competent to everyone else but in reality there is a portrait of themselves that is very unflattering. God sees the real us and the ONLY hope any of us has is Jesus standing in our stead. We can’t fool God.

    As for women who have been abused. Sadly, there are far too many of them. Instead of bringing others down with false teaching they need to point others to God. They also need to be wise and stop the cycle. There is a good book called
    It is about 2 black sisters who grew up in the early 20th century. They had an aunt who went everywhere with them. We need to face the facts that kids are being abused (girls AND boys) and start protecting them. If us mother’s aren’t able to do it at all times than having a trusted grandmother or aunt is the next best thing. We can’t live like we’re on television where kids go and do without proper guidance like they are little adults and expect nothing bad to happen.

  4. I remember leaving a church service after it had begun when it became evident a lady was going to be preaching. My husband and I are firmly on the same page as we see what God’s stance is on it. If a woman is in the pulpit, we’re not going to stick around and listen.

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