Teaching Your Children to Not Be Racists

Teaching Your Children to Not Be Racists

We never had to teach our children not to be racist yet none of them are racist. Did you know that racism isn’t even a sin listed in the Bible but pride, hate, and not loving others is? In this case, many people of all races would be considered racist since most struggle with pride, hate, and not loving others. What is the answer to racism? Jesus Christ and His two greatest commands which are to love Him and love others as they love themselves.

 If you teach your children to be patient, kind, and everything else listed in 1 Corinthians 13, they will grow up to love and not be racist. Also, teach them who they are in Christ. Teach them that their worth and value come from Him, NOT from what others say about them or do to them.

I have been writing about this topic on my social media lately. Two black women got into a discussion on my Instagram and I am going to share it here:

First woman: “Racism is a problem. My skin color is considered evil, suspicious, and criminal to many. Do people stare at you in fear? Are you followed around in stares because you look suspicious? Are you constantly questioned just because of the way you look? As a woman of God, I look up to you (she was writing to me) and value many of your views but sadly, not this. I pray that one day you will understand.”

Second woman: “I used to believe in racism. I used to think exactly like this. I overcame when I stopped believing in my skin color and started looking at morality (right or wrong) instead. It can be overcome. It helped immensely when I became born again. We blindly follow and believe the media and mainstream culture that constantly tells us our skin color is ugly, evil, and we’re just slaves. It’s a rhetoric to keep us angered and voting. You can overcome it! I did! I’ll be more than happy to give you pointers too. Hope this helps!”

First woman: “I know I am beautiful so this has nothing to do with self-hatred. If you are a born again Christian and your sister in Christ expresses to you that she has been judged and treated unfairly because of her skin color or that her husband was harassed because he looked suspicious, you show love and compassion. You try to understand. You stand with her, offer comfort and prayer. That is what Jesus would do. You don’t tell her that she is lying and that racism doesn’t exist simply because YOU don’t experience the injustice personally. How can you say you love your neighbor if you dismiss their pain because you don’t experience it yourself?”

Second woman: “Was it right or wrong for the person to harass your husband for looking suspicious?”

First woman: “It is wrong to harass anyone, but to be harassed because you don’t look like you belong in a white neighborhood is not just wrong. It’s racism. Learn your history. The colored only signs were not created by the devil. They were created by white people that felt they were superior to black people and those type of people still exist. You may not experience them but many others do. Show compassion and pray for them. That’s all you need to do.

Second woman: “Yes, that’s correct! It was wrong for the person to harass. It’s wrong. It’s that simple. I’ve gone through many unfair treatments like everyone else. Humans go through lots of difficult situations and incidents. MAN wants us to label those situations as ‘racism’ based on skin color. GOD wants us to see the situation with morality – either right or wrong. But the damage has been done and now there is more ‘racial tension’  and ‘annoyance’ out there between races.

“MAN has rewritten history to push a mainstream narrative about history that’s taught heavily in public schools and universities. Whites didn’t place ‘signs’ to oppress Black people. The original Jim Crow was created after slavery as ‘Black Codes’ by the Democratic Party to get Black communities on their feet and get stuff together. Crime rates were extremely high, so therefore more laws were enforced. Segregation allowed Blacks to flourish. Back then, they had strong family units, fatherhood, marriages, businesses, clean neighbors, worked hard, and believed in God. Today, not so much. They weren’t complaining about ‘laws’ all day. It’s best to relearn history without mainstream media or mainstream info. I relearned and felt better. Hope this helps.

“If I may add, don’t fall for MAN’s teachings. They are false teachings that lead deeper into the darkness of the world. Always follow God’s light, the truth – 1 John 2:15 and Romans 12:2. I wish you well and stay guarded in the Word.”

First woman:”Show compassion and pray for those that are hurting. That is all you need to do. If you can’t do that, you are not born again.”

Second woman: “I’m showing compassion by helping you overcome MAN’s false teachings. I did so when I became born again. My life became peaceful and simpler. So, I’m passing the wisdom to you. However, I awakened to born-again based on a comment about ‘racism.’ Thinking first helped. MAN wants us to be angered. GOD wants us to be peaceful. I always recommend thinking first and not fall for MAN’s mainstream bait. I hope this helps. Please be safe, and God bless.”

Racism is hatred and pride. ALL races have this sin. It’s not a skin issue. It’s a sin issue. Jesus is the answer.

There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.
Galatians 3:28

Before you begin using the hashtag Black Lives Matter, PLEASE read what they stand for and support. It’s not biblical in any way.

31 thoughts on “Teaching Your Children to Not Be Racists

  1. Overall we just need to love people. Sad whats going on and I understand the cries, people want there voice heard and it seems like no one is listening. God sees and is listening. Look how long He allowed the Israelites to suffer in Egypt before pulling them out. At the end of the day count it all as joy when you go through trials (james 1:2). God has us and the reward is so sweet.

  2. Yes, racism was never mentioned in the Bible, only the God or gods people worshipped. We know that, while God did allow slavery, it was never based in race, only religion. This is a HUGE difference to me and shows God judges us by our actions rather than something we were born with and cannot change.

  3. I have explicitly been told that my opinions and experiences don’t matter, purely because of my skin color and/or sex and or (perceived, straight) sexuality and/or (perceived, “cis”/normal) gender.

    Seriously. But because I’m white, I wasn’t trained to be a victim by the media, schools, politicians, etc.

    This obsession with race is actually related to the cancer of feminism, when seen through the “intersectional” lense. This paradigm assigns a value to everyone based on how many victimized/marginalized groups they identify with. So a black woman is better than a black man, and a disabled pansexual Muslim trans woman is at the top of the food chain /s

    In Christ there is neither Jew now Greek (ie no racial preference or awareness), neither male nor female (he is the same Lord of all). But the same people who tell us to be colorblind ONLY see race!

    Just as “neither circumcision nor uncircumcision is anything, but only faith working through love”, so we shouldn’t regard these external features when deciding how to treat people.

    You might be born again, first lady of the discussion, but your life bears more fruit of the world and its systems than of the Word of God.

  4. People have aura’s about them.

    I was in the woods and there was a man…he was white…and to this day I still remember the ‘Bad Vibe’ he gave off. He was very creepy and very suspicious.

    I’ve seen white criminals in a car theft ring, and yes…You could smell the criminality a mile away.

    I know I’ve given off bad vibes before myself. I was angry once and I wanted everyone to know it and that day I succeeded.

    I don’t think it’s worth getting into a conversation about any of this with African Americans.

    It’s a Catch22 situation that begins and ends with their community.

    And yes, the African American community needs to embrace Jesus and Christianity.

    We forget that Minneapolis has had an influx of African immigrants, largely Muslim, certainly no Christians in the refugee group.

    Except in rare circumstances (a doctor who saves the life of one of my children, for example)…

    I will bow down only before God. I will bow down and kiss the hand of Christ and only Christ.

    No one else gets that honor.

  5. Acts 17:26 KJV
    And hath made of one blood all nations of men for to dwell on all the face of the earth……

    It doesn’t matter the skin color, if a person gets a paper cut, we all bleed the same color blood.

    If everyone had the same skin color, sinful people would still find a reason to hate groups of people because of some other characteristic they have.

    I have literally been around the world several times.
    I have found good and bad in all skin colors.
    I judge a person on their actions.

  6. I would question the voracity of this statement “Whites didn’t place ‘signs’ to oppress Black people. The original Jim Crow was created after slavery as ‘Black Codes’ by the Democratic Party to get Black communities on their feet and get stuff together. Crime rates were extremely high, so therefore more laws were enforced. ”

    Nonetheless, races are not what God is concerned about. They are like the flowers He made, he made them all and they are all good (as everything he created is). “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.”

    Since the world is showing it’s true colors, this is a prime opportunity for us Christians to shine Jesus’ light and show ourselves separate from the darkness. We can show love to one another (regardless of race) to such an intensity that they’ll know we are Christians. Jesus told us, “A new commandment I give unto you: that ye love one another, as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. By this shall all men know that ye are My disciples: if ye have love one for another.” For so long us Christians have looked like the rest of the world at best and less than at worst (as we’ve been accused of being unloving towards others). This is our chance to shine!

  7. Yesterday I chose not to participate in Blackout Tuesday because not because I didn’t care but because I don’t think it brought honor to God.

    I’ve never been fond of the Black Lives Matter group because I believe if they truly believe that ALL black lives matter like they claim on their website ( thank you Lori for the web info) they would fight to protect the rights of unborn black babies. Their lives matter too.

    My husband and I have taught our daughters not to be racist and to love all people regardless of their skin color and to share Jesus. Because at the end of our lives we will not be judged on how many protests we participated in, how many times we posted the hashtag Black Lives Matter or whatever the newest movement is. But we will be judged on whether we lived a life that glorified God.

  8. Is slavery morally right? If not, why does God NEVER say it’s wrong, and actually condones it, even to His own people?

  9. God never condones slavery. You will never find one verse that states this. He knew it would exist so He commands those who have slaves to treat them justly and with kindness.

  10. From what I have found, the Black Lives Matter movement was founded by three black lesbians. “Unlike the Black Freedom Movement of the 1950’s and 1960’s, BLM is inherently a movement sustained by a politics of blackness that is, Charlene Carruthers reminds us, unapologetically, feminist, womanist, and queer.” https://medium.com/national-center-for-institutional-diversity/hearing-the-queer-roots-of-black-lives-matter-2e69834a65cd

    You are a wise woman, Regina! Your daughters grew up with love instead of hate and bitterness as many children are growing up these days. You are a blessing!

  11. I am not sure about that statement by the woman either, M, but her attitude was good and from what I have read, it’s the welfare state that has destroyed the black families faster than anything else. They need the hope that only Christ can give and find their value and worth in Him.

    Voddie Baucham has a great video on this topic. “Race is a social construct. The concept of race is not a biblical concept or idea. We are all the race of Adam, one blood. There is less than 0.2% genetic difference between any of us. We all have melanin just in differing degrees. We’re just different shades of the same color. Some have more melanin and some have less. Don’t think that God loves me more because he gave me more melanin than you!” https://www.youtube.com/watchv=rUyA8TeR1Yg&feature=youtu.be&fbclid=IwAR3xpOjfA0R6iEcNPm3eL__V7_DBt8y90I7wE3AeJSdnnLScYcSJMLVGyZ0

    He’s a great preacher of God’s Word!

  12. Sounds harsh but slavery is a fruit of sin. When a nation of people depart God and His ways the come under the power of another nation or people. This is a clear pattern in the Bible and was addressed by Jesus Christ himself in John 8 . The answer to all this matters is repentance by submission to God’s Word

  13. Lori, I have a question for you.. My husband and I are expecting our first baby, which is exciting! But we go to a church that is made up largely of older people. We attend there, because it’s the closest we know of, although an hour away, that really sticks with teaching God’s Word, singing hymns, etc. A good church. But I’m thinking our child/children, may not have many friends their age other than cousins, since I would also homeschool. I know I’m Thinking/ somewhat worrying ahead, about something I don’t even know yet how it’ll turn out, so maybe that’s not wise… We don’t want to change churches and go to a shallow church that has a bunch of kids.. What would you suggest?

  14. No, I wouldn’t. It’s more important for your child to be raised in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord than to have playmates. Pray for more children. Children love having siblings!

  15. I am a middle aged white woman and I have come to see that some people simply want to have a victim mentality. I had a friend from years ago that did have a rough childhood but she found the Lord, married a good man who loved her and attended a very good church. She never could let go of her rough childhood and her mentality permeated everything.
    She is no longer in church at all and her kids have gone to the world, victims as well:(

    When I tried to encourage her, she said that I could never understand her situation because of my perfect childhood, never reflecting that I actually also did not have the best childhood-My father was killed in a car accident when I was young and was raised by a single mother with very little money. As I grew older, I made the choice to be thankful for what I did have-there were some that lost entire families in accidents.

    Life knocks everyone down at some point in time but you cannot see yourself as a victim!

  16. Blessed Wife, I understand your thoughts. We attend a small congregation with my two children, a baby from another family and a teenage boy from another family (not around my kids’ ages). They pray regularly for more children to come. As I was speaking to my husband about it he made a good point that while we’d absolutely love to have more families with young children, (especially because we also homeschool) there are benefits of having the only children this age. The first is that the kids don’t have to deal with drama of fair weather friends and other issues. The second is that our Christian family is so loving and tries to make up for the fact that there aren’t other kids. They attend my kids’ recitals. They give them beautiful Christmas and birthday gifts. One sweet lady who has a tennis court even regularly asks me to bring my kids’ out to her court so she can give them tennis lessons. They are thoroughly “spoiled” by love and attention from our church family.

    With all that said, I do try to make sure we attend regional youth events, church conferences, family church camps etc. where my kids can spend time with other Christian kids. Also whenever I can have my daughter get together with a close Christian friend she has that lives not too far away we try to make it happen. Finally we try to visit our church family when we are on vacations etc. as I want my children to develop a love for the church and be exposed to as many other Christian young people for potential future spouses.

  17. The Bible never condones slavery, yet it recognized that it occurred. Slave traders were condemned in both the OT & the NT:

    Exodus 21:16, “Kidnappers must be put to death, whether they are caught in possession of their victims or have already sold them as slaves.”

    1 Timothy 1:9-11, “For the law was not intended for people who do what is right. It is for people who are lawless and rebellious, who are ungodly and sinful, who consider nothing sacred and defile what is holy, who kill their father or mother or commit other murders. The law is for people who are sexually immoral, or who practice homosexuality, or are slave traders,[a] liars, promise breakers, or who do anything else that contradicts the wholesome teaching that comes from the glorious Good News entrusted to me by our blessed God.”
    [a]1:10 Or kidnappers.

  18. Blessed Wife, I grew up in such a church. Good teaching, but no other children my age. We started there when I was ten, and I am almost 22 now. It has been great! I feel like I have so many sets of grandparents :). Yes, it might have been nice maybe to have youth group, but I do not really feel that I missed out on anything. I always knew everyone there loved me. Your children will learn how to interact with older adults better, and they will gain a lot of wisdom by listening to them. Hope this encourages you. Just follow God’s leading on this. Blessings!

  19. As a black woman, I say this very kindly and so much love: unless you are a person of color and walk in the shoes of that experience, you don’t get to decide what’s racist and what isn’t, or if racism exists.
    That’s not for you to decide.

    Much love to you, Lori just sharing my POV.

  20. Racism is hatred and pride. No color of skin has the patent on hatred and pride thrown at them. Everyone experiences it at one time or another. I have experienced much hatred towards me, Traicee. I was mocked and ridiculed as a child and teenager, and I am mocked and ridiculed and even threatened daily for the things that I teach. ALL Christians can expect to be persecuted in this world. We are promised this. The Gospel is the answer to ALL hatred and pride. In Him alone, we will find rest from the storms raging around us. You won’t find it from anywhere else.

  21. Traicee, you said, “you don’t get to decide what’s racist and what isn’t, or if racism exists.

    That’s not for you to decide.“ This is not true. No one, or not one race are the arbiter of truth. God alone is. Racism is sin and He is the only one who gets to decide what sin is. The world doesn’t know God and arrogantly inserts themselves into God’s position, deciding for themselves if it looks good (like Eve) or “doing what was right in their own eyes” like was stated throughout the Old Testament.

    As Christians, we have a wonderful opportunity right now to show that we are different, to show we follow God’s definitions. We can show love for each other and do good to one another (especially to the household of faith as we are exhorted to). As Lori says, racism is hatred and pride. You don’t need to be black to understand or define that sin.

  22. M,
    Thank you for your input, I respect your point of view. I definitely do not agree with it on any level whatsoever, but that’s what’s great about America. We can disagree but still love each other.

  23. Hi Blessed Wife,
    I agree with the other responses to your concern. I also attend a church with a mostly elderly congregation, and I homeschool my two children (ages 5 and 10). Very often my two are the only young ones present for the children’s message during church service, or to attend Sunday school. It has never been a problem. The congregation adores my kids, and without them the church wouldn’t have much of a Sunday school! My kids help keep the elderly congregation young and continue their focus on educating the young, and in turn my children have many wise, godly people to look up to in our church community. True we have a big extended family (18 first cousins!), but most are unfortunately out-of-state. However, they are not lacking in social skills in the least. They are close with each other, and the time they do spend with other children (or adults for that matter) they are well-behaved and considerate. If you still have concerns and haven’t tried it yet, I encourage you to consider local Co-Op options with other homeschooling families; participating in these help my kids get some exposure to other children their age with similar values, without taking away from the tenets that are important to our family. I hope this helps – God bless!

  24. I’m a black woman Traicee and I disagree with your worldview on this matter. Christians are to be biblical not follow the world and their ways.

  25. I’m getting sick of all these variations on a theme of “you’re not black so your opinion doesn’t matter”.

    Dismissing someone else because of their race is… racist.

    Dismissing the opinion of some white people because of what other white people did isn’t exactly classy, either.

  26. Thanks Lori,

    But the person who wrote about Jim Crow is very wrong. That is extremely inaccurate. I am not sure who taught them that, but it isn’t correct.

    Love your teachings, Lori! Post more financial stuff! Love that!!

  27. Wizard Prang,
    As a black man myself, I have to say that I completely disagree with your sentiment. While I don’t agree with you and also feel sad that you feel that way, please understand that I (and I am sure Traicee) as well as the rest of the black community sends our love to you.
    We’re all in this fight together.


  28. I don’t really agree with some of your messages, but this is an important message to spread. Thanks for using your platform to spread love and not hate, you’re a good person.

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