Women Will Be Without Natural Affection

Women Will Be Without Natural Affection

We are told in 2 Timothy 3 that “perilous times shall come” and people will be “without natural affection.” There’s a good reason that God commands older women to teach younger women to love their children. Many young women don’t even want to have children. If they get pregnant, many will easily have their babies slaughtered in their womb and some even celebrate it. If they have children, they will leave them in the care of strangers to raise while they go off to pursue their “dreams.” Yes, many women these days are without natural affection.

Some of the commentaries of old have this to say about this phrase:

“Careless and regardless of the welfare of those connected with them by ties of blood.”

“Even to their own children, as well as of piety toward their parents.”

“To parents, or children, or wife; parents thrusting their children into religious houses against their wills; children leaving their parents without their knowledge or consent; married bishops and priests being obliged to quit their wives, and declare their children spurious; with many other such unnatural actions.”

People need to be taught to love. They need to be taught to have natural affection. This should be taught by the parents. Children who are raised in godly, loving homes with full-time mothers have a much easier time loving and having affection for others. Those who were not, can learn. What is love? What are natural affections?

“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)

God is love. He is the One who gives us natural affection for our spouse, children, and parents. As our culture has rejected God, the love of many has grown cold because iniquity abounds (Matthew 24:12). Women, you must be in the Word consistently and learning from the Lord. It’s His Spirit living within you and His Word that convicts, changes, and transforms you. You can’t do it on your own.

Children bring SO much joy to life! I watch my children with their children and I laugh because children are so funny and fun. My children and their spouses are enjoying their children tremendously. They deeply love and have great affection for their children. We had all of this for our children too. NOTHING in this world compares to the lasting joy that children will bring. Then raise them up in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord, because there is NO greater joy than having your children walk in truth (3 John 1:4). No greater joy, women. No greater joy.

 Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
Psalms 127:3

12 thoughts on “Women Will Be Without Natural Affection

  1. Sadly, I don’t think natural affection is something you can learn/teach. God may give it you, yes, but that’s not learning it. Women today are just plain evil. They have turned their backs on God to pursue equality, careers, and dreams. Which is ironic since God will give them better dreams, although they might not be the ones they think they want, if they were to just follow Him.

    1. The natural affections that they were supposed to express toward their husbands and childrens had been suppress by the love of their own self and the love of money which is covetousness and they are envious and never content never satisfied.

  2. I have a very close friend who is a single mom. Her husband died before their daughter was born. It’s been a struggle for her. She has to work 2 jobs to support her daughter. She wants more time with her daughter to teach her how to be a woman for God, but she feels ashamed when she tries to teacher to be a keeper at home when she has to have multiple jobs to support the two of them, and isn’t being a keeper at home herself. What should she do? Her daughter is 10, by the way.

    1. I have a cousin whose husband died when her daughters were very young. She had to work full time but often told her daughters that all she wanted to do was be a full-time mommy. Both of her daughters are grown and are full-time mamas.

  3. For the FEW, VERY SMALL REMNANT of women that are following God’s command of being a keeper of the home, you will get a “job well done faithful servant” when your life here on Earth is done. Its gives me hope that there is a Godly woman left out there for me.

    For the MANY women that are REFUSING to follow God’s word, what do you think God is going to say to you?????

    Many women say that they are a Christian but their actions show they are walking away from Jesus. What am I to believe, their words or what they do? I have always been told that actions speak louder than words.

    MANY women say they do not want to be a keeper of the home. Paraphrasing God’s word, the bible speaks of a man that had 2 sons. He told them both to go work in the fields. One son said he would go but didn’t. The other son said he wouldn’t go but then he did go. Which son did the bible praise?

    Yes women, us men can be very unlovable at times. The same as women can be very unlovable. No man or woman is perfect. If I found a perfect woman, I would have to pass her by because I am an imperfect man.

    As a man, I am to be working to provide for my wife and children. My present job is a very fast paced, very stressful and very cold at -20F temperature workplace. Then at home as a widower I also do housework, raise 3 teenagers and also work my garden, orchard and tend livestock. As a man, I could CHOOSE to REFUSE to do what God has told me to do. But I have made a FREE WILL DECISION to do what God has told me to do.

    Women, I beg of you to choose God’s command to you. Refusing God’s command will cause hurt to you. As a man I can tell you that choosing to go against your husband is very destructive to the marriage.

    The bible says that a woman has two choices. She can either help build the home or she can tear the home down with her own two hands. Women, which are you doing?

    Women, your God given ministry is to take care of your husband and children. As a man, I work in the world, I do not want to come home from work to find a worldly wife tearing the home down.

  4. Whatever the reason for this is and as much as I don’t understand the lack of the “mothering instinct” some women obviously experience nowadays, I can’t help but to feel happy or even grateful these types of women decide not to have kids. They would probably make terrible and selfish mothers and they would not raise Godly men and loving women.

  5. I’m sorry for the state your hometown is in, and I applaude your right and ability to protect yourself and your community. However, I believe people still have the right to protest even if I do not agree with them. By protesting I do not mean rioting and looting. Violence should always always be condemned, no matter what side it comes from. However, violent and peaceful protesters should be clearly differentiated. There are many peaceful protests going on, as well.

  6. the preacher at my dads funeral said the same thing about children growing up to serve God, he made a point to tell EVERYONE in the congregation the great job that our parents had did with us, dad the preacher/ general labor, mom at home with us. made me embarrassed being put on the spot.

    Lori-however we were taught that “natural affection” meant totally something else. but churches interpret differently. yours is p.g. compared to what we were taught:)

  7. My baby is 12 weeks old and I love to be with him. I would much rather look at his cute face all day than my co-workers. I have been on maternity leave and have decided to put in my notice that I’m going to quit.

    I have never known what I wanted to do for my career and was always told to follow my passion but I could never decide what that was. So the job I have is okay not anything I enjoy. Throughout my pregnancy I prayed for God to make a way for me to stay home with my baby.

    Now with the coronavirus I would feel very uneasy putting him in daycare, it would have been hard under normal circumstances. The daycare is open I just don’t want him to go. I prayed asking God if it was the right decision because technically we can’t afford it and it’s scary. I had been reading John and picked up where I left off. It was John 10, the Good Shepherd and his Sheep. It said “ the hired hand is not the shepherd and does not own the sheep. So when he sees a wolf coming he abandons the sheep and runs away… The man runs away because he is a hired hand and cares nothing for the sheep.”

    This is exactly what I worried about with daycare, it’s not their child so they are not going to give the same level of care and interaction he would get from me at home. I have him on a schedule and I would worry they wouldn’t follow it. And just general worries about how they would treat him.

    So anyway we decided I will quit and stay home and I am happy to be with my baby everyday but scared financially.

  8. When there is no love in a family it causes problems in church settings. I’ve been in 2 different types of congregation. Unloved Christians fight for attention and love, they have very unbalanced lives, can’t keep a job, can’t manage money and many other problems. Christians from loving families don’t need to fight for love and attention because they get all the love and attention they need at home. They are pleasant to be with. They are more secure and more able to concentrate. Being loved and secure they are better able and more willing to help unsaved needy people. I’ve written this from my experience of being in the 2 different Christian groups, not at the same time.

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