Young Women Have Been Told Lies

Young Women Have Been Told Lies

This post is simply going to be a mix of different things I have been sharing lately. A lot is going on in our world right now. It’s nothing new. My grandparents went through two world wars and the Great Depression. Life on this earth has always been uncertain and full of tribulation. Jesus is the solid Rock which we build our lives upon and we trust Him. He still reigns and is sovereign over all.

One woman made a video last year called “They lied to me when I was a teenage girl. Now, I face reality.” Here is what she wrote under the video: “We need to stop lying to teenage girls. I say this as a 27 year old who has spent the last 10 years focused on becoming a physician. We shoot ourselves in the feet by not valuing the role of the mother, which is a role that will bring immense happiness.”

All young girls are told growing up is to pursue higher education and careers. They are never told about the great value of being a wife and mother, so they spend their most fertile years chasing a career and a paycheck. Young women are absolutely being told lies. Even the churches tell the same narrative to young women. Let’s share the joys of being a wife and mother to them, women. They need to know that there’s a great alternative out there!

Ken and I watched “The Auronauts” movie this past weekend. It was a great movie and extremely intense at times. It’s based on a real life story about a man and a woman who go up very high in a hot air balloon to find out about weather. The woman is absolutely the heroine in the movie. She did amazing, life challenging things. The guy was a wimp. When it was over, I asked Ken, “I wonder if they got married in real life.” So, he checked it out and said, “You’re not going to believe this but it wasn’t a man and woman who went up in the balloon but two men!” Feminism rears its ugly head again and makes it out to be that the woman saves the day when it was really a man.

The Social Justice Movement is founded upon this verse: “The LORD God has told us what is right and what he demands: ‘SEE THAT JUSTICE IS DONE, let mercy be your first concern, and humbly obey your God.'” This is from The Contemporary English Version of the Bible. What does the King James Version say: “He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, BUT TO DO JUSTLY, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?” Bible versions do matter! We are to do good, NOT seek justice. God is just. Vengeance is His.

It’s tragic what is going on between the races in our country right now. For all of my black readers, I am only going to share the following information to try to help you understand that Black Lives Matter is not something you want to support. They have done nothing good for black people. If they really cared about black lives, why aren’t they protesting Planned Parenthood who have murdered millions of black babies? What about the black cops who have been murdered in recent days during the riots? These don’t fit their narrative. They are far from being a godly organization.

The movement was founded by three black lesbians. “Unlike the Black Freedom Movement of the 1950’s and 1960’s, BLM is inherently a movement sustained by a politics of blackness that is, Charlene Carruthers reminds us, unapologetically, feminist, womanist, and queer.” These are not things we should be fighting for regardless of one’s skin color.

I love what Voddie Bauchaum had to say about race. “Race is a social construct. The concept of race is not a biblical concept or idea. We are all the race of Adam, one blood. There is less than 0.2% genetic difference between any of us. We all have melanin just in differing degrees. We’re just different shades of the same color. Some have more melanin and some have less. Don’t think that God loves me more because he gave me more melanin than you!”

Did you know that racism isn’t even listed as a sin in the Bible but hate, pride, and not loving others is? Why don’t we bring it all back to the basics and call racism what it is: not loving others as oneself. Teach your children to love God and love others. This is what they need.

Here is what a few men on Twitter had to say about this entire situation:

“Dear Pastor, after Paul was saved by God’s grace, his ethnic pride was buried in the depths of the sea. He spent the remaining days of his life preaching the gospel to Jew and Gentile before his head was cut off in Rome. His message wasn’t ‘Jewish Lives Matter’—it was the gospel.” ~ Josh Buice

These other three men are black and they are speaking truth:

“I understand hurt. But I will not validate lies. Black people are not being ‘hunted down’ by police. Black people have equal opportunities in America like everyone else. The white man ain’t the problem. Its the man or woman you look at everyday in the mirror. Stop it already!” ~ Brandon Tatum, a police officer

“For every 10,000 black people arrested for violent crime, 3 are killed. For every 10,000 white people arrested for violent crime, 4 are killed. I’m going to keep tweeting this until someone can explain to me how this is possible if there is truly pervasive racial bias in policing.” ~ Leonydus Johnson

“How many unarmed blacks were killed by cops last year? 9. How many unarmed whites were killed by cops last year? 19. More officers are killed every year than are unarmed blacks. When do the #BlueLivesMatter protests begin?” ~ Larry Elder

No matter how much melanin you have in your skin, we all need Jesus Christ. HE alone is the answer to everything. Share the Gospel with others, women. They need to know that their answers aren’t found in some movement (Black Lives Matter, feminism, Social Justice Warriors, etc.), law, or vote. It’s found in knowing who they are in Christ and what He has done for them. He created all people and He wants all to come to repentance. This isn’t a battle between flesh and blood. No, it’s a battle being waged in the heavenlies for the souls of men. Pray. Stop listening to the lies of society. Be truth seekers instead.

For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
Ephesians 6:12

26 thoughts on “Young Women Have Been Told Lies

  1. Thank you, Lori, for continuing to share truth during this challenging time of unrest.

    On her YouTube channel, Allie Beth Stuckey shared her podcast “What’s Hurting Black Lives Most? Not Racist Cops” yesterday. It’s lengthy, but powerful as it breaks down the current unrest, truthful discussion of continuing racial issues, and ending with the truth of the Gospel.

    Thank you to all those that continue to point us to Christ and our identity and value in Him!

    In regards to young women focusing on education and careers in their late teens and twenties, I believe that the assumption is “I can do/have it all, and I can focus on family life later”.
    While I am not opposed to receiving education or training in the waiting period before marriage, debt should be avoided and attendance should deepen their walk with the Lord.

    If post high school education is prayerfully considered, that should include a course correction if the Lord provides a husband.

    A young woman can receive an education while maintaining an attitude of seeking marriage, but that paradigm must be intentional and will be counter-cultural.

    The choice of degree also needs to be carefully considered. Must an education involve a graduate or doctorate degree in order to be lucrative? A 6 or 8-year degree could further delay the most precious roles of all: wife and mother.

    I know I’m not speaking to every woman or reader, but if you’re an 18-year-old high school graduate, ask yourself what you want your life to look like in 10 years, and make choices that will
    help you achieve your REAL dreams, not what the world is telling you to dream.

  2. Thank you. Yes, Allie Beth Stuckey speaks truth for which I am thankful. There are a lot of lies and misinformation being promoted to destroy America and race relations. It’s heartbreaking. I am thankful for the many black men speaking out against it and speaking truth. Most of them are godly men who can clearly see what is happening.

  3. I totally agree with you! I had intended to go to a fairly cheap school to learn the details of skincare and makeup artistry should I have a period between graduating highschool and getting married, down to signing a contract and everything. Except turns out, I’ve gotten engaged and I’m getting married next year! My fiancé and I agree that we want to leave when we have kids up to the Lord (I want a honeymoon baby, but only if the Lord wills it), so I canceled my contract because I don’t see a point in wasting money on it when I can help my mother with my four younger siblings until I get married OR get a job at a store or something and put that money towards the wedding. Even when I had the dream of being a professional dancer in a company, I always knew that I would set it aside when I got married so I could start having kids as soon as the Lord gives them to me without having to go through the stress of having to quit my job and making sure that my husband makes enough for us to live on. I want to start out as a single income family so that it’s easier to transition when kids do come along ☺️

  4. This article has so many great points.

    I decided in my mid 20’s I wanted to focus on being a wife and mother. I quit my pursuits to attend medical school and focused on my relationship with Christ. One marriage and one baby later, I can’t express the gratitude in my heart for the Lord’s mercy towards me.

    Also, I didn’t know( or remember) that BLM was founded by and based on feminism and anti-christian beliefs. I believe and want equal treatment and opportunities for all people and anything less than that is exactly what the Bible calls it, sin.

  5. As the church, we cannot let this opportunity pass us by. We should be showing love and unity for one another while the world is showing it’s hatred and disunity. It is so difficult right now because of all the restrictions put on us but if we can call each other, walk together, or perhaps drop off goodies if you are into baking. However small this is not only a good opportunity to show the world, but a great one start new loving habits with each other.

    As for lying to women, yes indeed, we must stop! The church needs to lead the way in that truth. No way can we expect the world to do right, that is why they are walking in darkness, because they believe the lies. We have the Truth, therefore we should be that light on the hill. If I happen to meet a nice young man and a nice young woman in church I always try to introduce them to one another. I can’t do it easily at our current congregation but I do whenever I visit my home congregation (the one I grew up in).

  6. God doesn’t say anywhere in the Bible that all people should have equal treatment and opportunities and if not, it’s sin. We live in an unfair world. It will always be unfair! Christ didn’t die so life on this earth would be fair. No, He died to save us from our sin. He wants us to love Him and love others.

  7. I have a serious question. Why should girls even be required to attend High School or anything beyond 6th grade — homeschool or regular school? I’m 100 % serious. As long as girls can do basic reading and basic math (skills needed to run a household — following recipe, budget, etc)…why do they even need any further education. the Amish are one example of this. I believe their girls stop after 8th grade (or the equivalent).

    I am being 100 % sincere. Someone give me a reason a girl/women evens needs this beyond the basics.

  8. I agree with you which is not a politically correct opinion in this day and age. If one is a good reader and good at math, everything else comes easily to them. I seriously don’t remember anything beneficial that I learned in high school, college, or even graduate school. Most public schools don’t teach children to be good readers. They give them terrible books to read. When I homeshooled my children, I bought books from Sonlight Curriculum which are fantastic! They had historical fiction, biographies of missionaries, and amazing books that my children loved. They all became great readers and still love to read. We did an hour of Saxon math so they were all great at math too. MOST of schooling is a total waste of time and money and doesn’t prepare people for real life at all. It does nothing to prepare women to be wives and mothers, that’s for sure.

  9. I would like the mother of my children to have a deeper understanding of the academics she will be teaching our kids, so that the quality of the teaching is improved. That’s about it.

    Don’t think I’m going to ask her to start taking night classes or anything, but we’ll probably do some grammar and math study (in particular) as the years go on.

  10. Amen Lori! Races doesn’t exist the roots of the problem is feminism and the theorie of evolution who did came up with this concept of race. You should watch the sermon of pastor Roger Jimenez where he demonstrate by the statistic that the reason why black people are more likely to have troubles with the cops is because of the fact that a lot of them are raised in single mother household without a male authority figure.

  11. Fatherlessness is devastating the black families, Darly. I completely agree with you. It devastates ALL families but the numbers of fatherless children is so very high in the black community. Here, the Gospel is the answer as always. People need to hear the Gospel, repent, and believe, then obey it. For His ways are perfect.

  12. I am a credentialed teacher, CW. All of the years of my schooling didn’t help me to have a deeper understanding of the academics. What children need most is to know God’s Word and obey Him. When they do this and are good readers and good at math, everything else in life will come more easily and they will be good citizens of their society.


    I will add to this and say MOST young and older women willingly believe the lies.

    Genesis 19:11 KJV And they smote the men that were at the door of the house with blindness, both small and great: so that they wearied themselves to find the door.

    Even though women are suffering because of their sin in disobeying God by not staying home to minister to her husband and children, they keep doing what is wrong.
    I see many women bosses and most of them are under a lot of stress. They have major health problems from it and most have marriage problems stemming from her job.

    Romans 1:32 KJV Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.

    In their heart, women know they are doing wrong, but they choose to sin anyway.
    They sing their favorite song – ME! ME! ME!

    Proverbs 13:12 KJV Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but when the desire cometh, it is a tree of life.

    All the women delaying their marriage and having 1-2-3-5 years of engagement???
    For what?
    So you can plan an elaborate, expensive wedding? RUBBISH!
    So you can work at your career longer?
    So there is more temptation to have sex before the wedding?

    Ephesians 6:12 KJV For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

    Most women are willing pawns of Satan in this battle.
    In their hearts they know what they are doing is in opposition to God’s commandment.

    Matthew 6:24 KJV No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon.

    Woman serve either her husband or boss / money, not both. Guess who loses 100% of the time – the husband loses……….
    Wife will hate her husband while tolerating her boss because of the money.
    A lot of time the boss will require sex from her to keep her job, which she gives to the boss.
    While husband is deprived of sex at home.

    Proverbs 22:7 KJV
    …..and the borrower is servant to the lender.

    Since I am a 59yr old widower, I see many 50+ year old women still deep in student loan / credit card debt.
    Most women have lower paying jobs than what they were expecting because of their “college degrees”.
    So later in life these women are still deep in debt and HAVE to work to pay the lender.
    Also I hear MANY women fantasizing about their BIG wedding and getting money for it.
    I hear talk of the average weddings costing $30,000 and the sky is the limit.
    Most women don’t have that money so they take out a loan. $30,000 for one hour of fun?????
    And then 10 years to pay it back to the bank?
    That surely is being a wise steward for God…….
    A courtship of a short time, an engagement of a short time of 4-6 weeks to get things ready for the marriage.
    Not the wedding feast, but the marriage.
    Then the marriage and a lifetime with each other.
    Not till she is no longer feeling happy.
    You made a vow to God of “till death do us part”
    Ecclesiastes 5:4-5 KJV When thou vowest a vow unto God, defer not to pay it; for he hath no pleasure in fools: pay that which thou hast vowed. Better is it that thou shouldest not vow, than that thou shouldest vow and not pay.
    So according to these verses, what does God think of a wife who breaks her marriage vows because she isn’t feeling happy anymore?????

    Over my lifetime I have heard many women say they refuse to stay at home and minister to her husband and children.
    Twenty years ago at a previous job I had, there was a 32yr old woman there who was dating a decent guy for about 14 months.
    She was telling everyone at work how good he was and no other guy had ever treated her that nice.
    He was talking marriage with her. The guy wanted her to be a stay at home wife.
    She said no she wasn’t staying home and being under a man’s control like that.
    Then she started talking with another guy at work during the shift. Call him bad boy Stevie. Bad boy Stevie was a drummer in a local rock n roll band. He had long hair to his shoulders, he liked his booze and drugs, smoked $3 cigars and talked to her of drinking fine wine and visiting museums to see the paintings.
    Can anyone see where this is headed?
    Yep, she dumped her decent guy and quickly married bad boy Stevie. She was going to be a stay at home wife, have children and sight see the world!
    Well they married, went on a 3 day honeymoon and then filed for divorce during their honeymoon……..

    pornography – man looking at a naked woman’s body.
    I involuntary see it every time I go to the store or to work.
    There is a requirement to wear masks covering mouth and nose. The women have their mouth and nose covered, but the rest of their body is openly displayed.
    I look straight ahead and a woman is scantily dressed.
    I avert my eyes to the left and there is another woman with everything on display.
    I avert my eyes to the right and there is another woman with her body on display.
    So what am I to do??????
    I hear people say that the women just don’t know what they are doing. RUBBISH!
    All women know how they are dressing.
    If a woman says shes doesn’t know, she is lying to herself.
    Its not even safe in church either.
    The “Christian” women dress just as revealing as the worldly women.

  14. I think Christians need to remember what the purpose of an education is. First of all, what is the chief end of man? “The chief end of man is to glorify God and to enjoy Him forever.” (Shorter Catechism) Genesis 1:28 also tells man to take dominion over the earth. I would also add that as Christians, we are called to do God’s will (Romans 12:2), which brings Him glory. An education is to equip the man to be able to do all that God wills for Him, which will bring Him glory. Whether he is a doctor, lawyer, or plumber, so long as it is God’s will for him, he will bring God glory. Because a man is also called to provide for his family, his education should assist him in this as well. So where does a woman fit into this picture? Women are also called to glorify God and do His will. Do not forget the Creation Mandate was also given to the woman, but in a different role. Genesis 2:18 says that woman is a help that is meet (aka suitable) for him. This means we are to help the man in all things necessary for him to complete the vision God has given him. Different men will need different kinds of women. As long as it is the Lord Who arranges the marriage, they will be suitable for each other. So, back to the question of why a woman should be educated or should they indeed be so. I believe yes, women should be educated. They should be educated because they need to be competent helpmeets to their husbands. In these trying times we live in, men now more than ever need women who have their back and can help get the work done when no one else can. They need women who can help them fulfill the mission God has given them. As I said earlier, different men need different women to help them. An accountant might need a different sort of woman than a farmer would. That is why it is critical when a woman is educating herself that she be in constant prayer and letting God lead her in the areas where her husband will need her help most. He might need a woman competent in graphic design to help him run a business. If so, it would be a mistake for the young woman spend all her time learning, for example, astronomy. That does not mean she should not study astronomy, but she needs to pay special care in learning graphic design because her husband will need it, even if she does not know that at the moment. So what should that education look like? First of all, forget grade levels for a minute. That is an invention of the public school system, and they do not really determine how educated a person is. I personally could read as well as a senior in high school when I was twelve, but my math skills needed work. I believe that a man made system of education is not necessary to become really educated. Indeed, if a person does not really want to learn, they will not regardless of where they are being educated. Certification may be necessary for a woman depending on how she is helping her husband, but it is not a requisite for becoming educated. I believe it was Sir Francis Bacon who said, “Reading maketh a full man, conference a ready man, and writing an exact man.” This is all that is really required for a good education. Read on a wide variety of subjects, such as history, different branches of science, theology, et cetera. Learn to see the hand of God in these subjects. Educating yourself is such an adventure! Once you start, you never want to stop. The sky is truly the limit. An education may also help a woman while she is single to serve the Lord better. If God is calling her to open a home based business, it would be useful for her to know a few things about the subject, as well as the services her business would offer. Without this knowledge, she could not fulfill God’s will for her in that season of life. And who knows, those skills may also be useful for her future husband one day. Just because a woman is single does not mean she is in limbo or has no purpose. A single woman is to be busy doing the things of the Lord (1 Corinthians 7:32). She needs to search for ways to meet the needs of others and to glorify God. Knowledge of certain fields of study may be useful for this. So, to conclude an incredibly long comment (sorry for that, Lori) too many people in the church have a twisted view of education. They see it as a road for glorifying self, “fulfilling your dreams”, “chasing your heart”, et cetera. No. An education’s primary purpose is to equip us for the Lord’s service so we can do His will in every area of our lives. We need to ask God to give us His dreams for us, based on His Word and His ways, and we need to let go of any dreams God does not desire for us. Hope this answers your question, WAM.

  15. Well they married, went on a 3 day honeymoon and then filed for divorce during their honeymoon……..

    “Nice guy” should be grateful. He dodged what would have been a lethal bullet.

    The women have their mouth and nose covered, but the rest of their body is openly displayed.

    And to think that there are people who STILL deny that we live in a world devoid of sanity…

  16. I would submit most boys don’t need more than an 8th grade education either. Well when I say 8th grade, I don’t mean the modern 8th grade. This is an eighth grade exit exam from the 1800s. Past these types of general education subjects further study for both boys and girls would be better done as internships or apprentices.

    I know my daughter sometimes asks why she needs to learn algebra (she’s quite good at it although it is not a favorite subject). Algebra is the foundation for future maths or even financial planning. I told her if she needed to figure out how much money she’d like to save up for her future children to buy a house with interest rates and the ages of when they start saving, algebra will come in handy. Also if she marries an engineer/scientist/etc type who has his own practice, she could be a real help to him. Finally she’ll need to be able to teach these things to her children as they may be important to them in the future as it may be to her.

    But after developing a good foundation, further learning should be specialized. That is supposed to be what high school was when it was first started. People would choose to go to high school or college after 8th grade depending on their future plans. Now high school is a prerequisite for college and no longer does it focus on teaching skills (which is what it first was for), it just draws out what should have been learned in the lower grades.

  17. I don’t think that it is so much a matter of the level to which we educate our girls that is the issue. That is a matter for their fathers to decide. But it is a matter of the focus of that education, what it teaches in terms of aspirations and where it is aiming.

    Beyond the most basic levels of education it is very clear that boys and girls need to be taught separately, with the focus on the respective roles for which God has designed them and for girls always in anticipation of marriage, motherhood and their future as keepers of the home and helpmates for their husbands.

  18. Anon – what you are describing and the approach that you and your fiancé are taking is exactly the approach which God calls you to take.

    As a women entering marriage the prayer that God will bless your womb as soon and as often as he wills it is the prayer that every Godly bride should have on her lips. Not how can I fit in the inconvenience of pregnancy around my career aspirations.

    I truly hope that your prayers are answered – perhaps even on honeymoon.

  19. I just want to say thank you for this article. We need the correct information. You have gone to a lot of trouble, which we appreciate. Thank you Lori.

  20. I had the same conversation with my husband while watching the Auronats…

    And yes we wikipedied the true story as well!

    I don’t even bother wondering anymore, I know that women don’t actually do stuff like that, never will and never have.

    And that’s ok.

    Hollywood doesn’t want to tell stories about mothers and wives and real women. Those require too much IQ from the audience….hanging from a hot air balloon with one hand is better for a low IQ audience who can’t comprehend a lifetime of loyalty to one person.

    Actresses are just awful people now. I was told that in the past actresses were considered one step above prostitute and I absolutely believe that. When I was young I used to worship the actresses and now I realize…these are the women you DON’T want to be. The pretty dresses are the LURE

    Also the actress almost lost her eye during filming of the Auronats which is ridiculous. A lot of actresses have been getting injured during stunts which I think is unacceptable.

    Money is a nice thing to have….but if there’s one thing about Hollywood….They always get their money back….whether it be drugs (you or your children), divorce lawyers, or dying without kids….what they give…they always get back.

  21. My husband says by high school age, that all students should be learning a trade, the girls, home skills, office skills, teaching and nursing skills. He says that kind of work is women’s work. Including banks, bc that’s paperwork.
    The boys should all learn blue collar, manual labor work, carpenter, electrician, plumbing, etc. Men should only do paperwork if they are physically handicap or a heart condition that would prevent them from doing manual labor.

  22. I agree Lori, I was home schooled by my mom as we traveled with my dad until I was around 16 and ending my “sophomore year of high school.” My parents had always known that, like my mom, I was never going to work and was going to be a lifelong housewife and mom. My mom graduated high school and met my dad in her first year of college, married and never entered the workforce. My folks knew I was a kind of a free spirited girl that just wanted to stay home and be a mama. About a month into my “junior year” my dad decided that it was serving no purpose for me to do all this schoolwork to get a diploma that I would never use, so I just “quit school.” My mother was relieved, and I spent the next couple of years at home and traveling with my parents and learning about life and true biblical marriage until I was 18 and met my future husband who worked for my dad. I know I am in the politically incorrect category feminists love to attack – I’m 43 years old, don’t have a high school education, never had a job and I totally submit to, serve, and obey my husband in everything…..and I couldn’t be happer!!!!

  23. Wow! You have had a wonderful life, Summer! Traveling with your parents and learning valuable life lessons is so far superior than sitting in classrooms learning things we forget after each test.

  24. It’s very helpful to have a deeper understanding of things like history too. There’s a tendency for even history books to write in a very biased manner, leaving out half the story or even promoting myths. Some of the most popular history books used in public schools encourage them to judge events by modern standards, cherry-picking facts to present a certain viewpoint of events. Sometimes the only way to find out the truth of the story is to read several first-hand accounts of the people who were actually there. No one has time to do that for everything you need to teach the kids, but at least be aware that some books could be very biased and will promote a very modern, pro-feminist viewpoint.

  25. Thank you Lori! I have been truly blessed that my mom and dad raised me to live a life of biblical womanhood pleasing to my husband and to the Lord. My mother has been and still is a fantastic mentor to me, and has instilled in me that being very submissive and obedient to my husband exactly where I need to be and that makes me very very happy! I have certainly had my share of bad times. I am blessed with three grown sons very close in age, our plan was for my husband to keep me pregnant and have at least six children, but my body didn’t allow that after a few miscarriages. But God is in control, and I try to put as positive a spin as possible when I can on this wonderful blog!

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