We Weren’t Created to Be Alone

We Weren’t Created to Be Alone

My favorite type of fictional novels are historical fictional novels written by Christians, and Jack Cavanaugh is one of my favorites. I read “Songs in the Night” trilogy many years ago but have enjoyed it again recently. Cavanaugh studies history and this book was about WW2. It’s an excellent read!

There are a few paragraphs that I want to share with you. In the story, the main character is a married preacher man with a pregnant wife. One of his sermons was written based upon Ecclesiastes 4:9-11.

“‘Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?’

“What a powerful passage about companionship. We were not created to be alone. Every human being has an intrinsic need to share life with another. We are stronger, better, happier when we have someone with whom we can share life’s experiences.

“And while this passage teaches a welcomed truth about the advantages of two persons who are mutually committed to each other, the benefits of those joined in marriage are far greater.

“Ephesians 5:31: ‘For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.’

“O blessed mystery! Love knows nothing of arithmetic. Love transcends such menial concepts. In marriage, one plus one equals one. They are no longer two (one man, one woman), but one flesh.

“Some couples, to their detriment, never comprehend the bliss of this concept. They struggle against the truth. Attempting to live as though they were still separate beings, they torture and scar themselves as surely as if they had taken a blade to their conjoined bodies. Oh, but those who embrace this essence of marriage, to them is reserved a joy that is unparalleled in this world or the –”

“‘Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.’

“This then, is the key: If a man and a maid commit themselves to each other in this fashion, I can virtually guarantee them many years of happiness in marriage. And just the opposite is true, too. If a man and maid spend their days thinking only of themselves – their needs, their wants, their desires – I can guarantee a marriage of endless strife and bickering. This is a powerful truth, not to be taken lightly, to be ignored only at one’s own peril.

“Never once have I had a husband or wife come to me for counseling and say, ‘My spouse thinks only of my good, night and day. They’re constantly doing the things I want to do, never what they want to do. I can’t stand it anymore! I want a divorce!”

My husband and I have been married almost 40 years. I can tell you that there is nothing better in life than growing old with one person who you have raised children with and now are enjoying grandchildren together. It’s a blessing that God has bestowed upon us. Do all you can to be the wife and mother that God has called you to be. You will reap His blessings; for He promises us that we will reap what we sow.

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
Proverbs 18:22

11 thoughts on “We Weren’t Created to Be Alone

  1. This is beautiful and true. Thank you for posting. Indeed, it was the Lord God Himself who said it is not good that the man should be alone. God solved the problem by making an help meet for him. This is woman’s purpose and reason for being.

    1. Well said Lady of Virtue! My reason for being is to serve and obey my husband and live a life of biblical womanhood as God instructs us to!

  2. Great post! My husband and I will celebrate 28 years of marriage next month. I can’t imagine my life without his love and support. I feel sorry for anyone who isn’t in a committed (marriage) relationship – life is so much more fulfilling!

    1. Same here! 27 yrs. this year for us. Way better than I ever imagined and better every year. We’ve had our share of tough times but we come out of them stronger when working together.

  3. Today is our 36th wedding anniversary. I am so grateful he kept me because I started out pretty selfish. Becoming a mother helped me a lot with the selfish part. Now if our sons could just find Godly wives as well. Boy do I wish I had known a woman like you from the beginning.

  4. Amen! I am so blessed to have my husband. Many of the young adults he works with often share how they are secretly jealous that he has a wife, happy children, good food, and a warm home to come to at the end of the day. We’ve only been married 6 years, but I can’t imagine having been alone, still running the rat race, for the last 6 years. How depressing.

    And the more we focus on serving other people, the happier and more fulfilled we become. We weren’t created to “chase our dreams” or live only for ourselves. We were created to do the good works God planned for us in advance in Christ Jesus. We were made to serve and love those around us. And the more we focus on other’s needs instead of our own, the more free we become. Imagine if more people discovered the secret joy of serving rather than being served. Depression and anxiety rates would plummet, and divorce lawyers would be put out of business.

  5. Do you think God designed some women to be alone? He said it’s not good for the man to be alone, but does He care about women who aren’t chosen by a man? Did he make women more able to tolerate being lonely than men? My heart breaks for my 25 year old daughter who has turned down the interest of plenty of non-Christian men but seems almost supernaturally invisible to Christian men. It seems like God wants her alone, and she’s very disappointed.

  6. I wish i weren’t alone. I am 43, never wed, and have desired this type of relationship. I do believe that perhaps my role in life had been to encourage and help uplift younger Christian women. I enjoy it and unfortunately through that manner and in nursing is the only way I get to quench my thirst for children. I have resigned to being single in this life and never having kids, but I do love to hear stories from young women and old alike who have found their God given mates!

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