No Time to Build a Family

No Time to Build a Family

God’s will for married couples is to build a family. They are to be fruitful and multiply. They are to raise their children in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord – raise godly offspring who walk in truth. Mothers are to be the keepers at home and fathers the protectors and providers of their families. Feminism is against all of this and the ugly fruit that it is producing is clearly shown not only here in America but in Japan, too.

“Men in Japan do fewer hours of housework and child care than in any of the world’s richest nations. That keeps women from getting better jobs and holds back the economy,” states an article titled Japan’s Working Mothers: Record Responsibilities, Little Help From Dads. Japan’s workforce is in desperate need for more women in the workforce. There aren’t enough workers to fill in the gaps even though 67% of women are working in Japan.

“But many of those women are stuck in limited roles in the workplace, and one of the biggest hindrances to their ambitions — and the nation’s as a whole — is the disproportionate burden women shoulder at home.” What are those “burdens” at home? The children, of course! Children are keeping women from working full time in the workforce and if the women do work full time, they have a difficult time giving it their all because of the “burdens” at home.

“It is a legacy of the country’s exacting domestic expectations and rigid gender roles for who performs them. While Japanese women have entered the work force at historic levels, their avalanche of domestic responsibilities is not shrinking — and men are typically not helping.” Is it “exacting domestic expectations and rigid gender roles” that is hampering women’s work in the workforce or is it something much greater than this? Yes, it’s much greater than this. It’s the roles that their Creator gave to them and no matter how hard women fight against this and want to change it, they can’t. They wanted to take on men’s roles but men don’t necessarily want to take on women’s roles.

What is causing this problem that women are needed in the workforce so badly? “Now, with a declining and rapidly aging population, Japanese employers are struggling with a severe labor shortage.” Women are no longer having children in numbers as they did in the past because of their careers. It has become a vicious cycle in which there appears to be no solutions. If more women enter the workforce, less children will be born and the population will decline even further, thus less men and women in the workforce.

We’re often hearing about the pay gap between men and women which continues to upset feminists greatly. “But close to half of working women are employed part time, and more than half are on temporary contracts, reinforcing a large pay gap between men and women.” Many women aren’t putting in the hours that men put in due to the “burdens” at home and their nature which isn’t built like men’s.

Their solution: “But the boost to the Japanese economy would be much larger if women could pursue higher-level careers and were appropriately paid, Ms. Matsui added.” In other words, instead of women being home bearing and raising children, they falsely believe the solution is for women to spend more time in the workforce. It won’t be for long! Japan needs more children! They will be unable to sustain their economy unless more women begin to bear children.

The title makes us think that dads are the ogre but not so. “Despite some efforts to modify the work culture, excessive hours remain the norm (for dads), helping explain why men contribute so little to housework or child care: They simply do not have much time.” Just reading this article made me exhausted. The kind of lives that the women and men live is no life at all. It’s all about work and making money, not building a family and spending time with the children. This lifestyle for women in Japan and for many here in America is so far removed from what our Creator created us to do and it will never work long-term.

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1 Timothy 5:14

14 thoughts on “No Time to Build a Family

  1. Our sad view of children as burdens will come back to haunt us when they, raised to dispose of anyone who is inconvenient, dump us in nursing homes just as we dumped them in daycare and treated them with resentment! The they will do it to their children and so on… If they’re not aborted, they are treated by the “Nasty Women” as an inconvenience…

    1. That’s true, and parents who mistreat children or their own parents will have a very sad future to look forward.

      The Wooden Bowl
      A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year-old grandson. The old man’s hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered. The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather’s shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth.

      The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess. “We must do something about father,” said the son. “I’ve had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor.” So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl! When the family glanced in Grandfather’s direction, sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone. Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food.

      The four-year-old watched it all in silence.

      One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, “What are you making?” Just as sweetly, the boy responded, “Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up.” The four-year-old smiled and went back to work.

      The words so struck the parents so that they were speechless. Then tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done.

      That evening the husband took Grandfather’s hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the remainder of his day, he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.

      1. Reading this has made me cry.

        My father has come to live with us after a very severe heart attack which led to cardiac arrest.
        The thought of my father living with us caused stress and division between my husband and I because Dad is unable to do anything physical. He misses the toilet often and makes a mess in the bathroom. He needs to be waited on. We are both very busy – we have four children and a business. We don’t have the time to take care of someone else. But this comment just made me realise we DO have the time. We just don’t have the desire. And that is so, so wrong.

        I hope Dad is not aware of our attitude. We will be taking good care of him from now on, and valuing the short time he has left to live with us.

  2. “Just reading this article made me exhausted. The kind of lives that the women and men live is no life at all. It’s all about work and making money, not building a family and spending time with the children.”

    Yes, me too. This is so sad. Who gets to the end of life surrounded by colleagues, co-workers, and constituents? Who wishes they had worked more and made more money? You can’t take it with you, anyway.

    First and foremost, be reconciled to God through Jesus Christ. As you transition from this life to the next, it’s generally your family you want around you, not things pertaining to work. I don’t even like to see men think this way, but it’s worse when women do, I believe, since God did not make us to have career aspirations, climb the ladder, and compete with men on a man’s turf. This is one main reason relations between men and women are so bad today. If not brainwashed by feminism, men seem much more content to perform their duties than women do theirs.

  3. Japan is a nice, safe, stable society because of its cultural homogeneity. However, I seriously wonder if they will survive as a strong nation if they keep going in this trajectory.

    It isn’t just that they’re not having children–they’re also not even having sex. This is the sign of a dying society.

    https://www.theguardian.com/world/2013/oct/20/young-people-japan-stopped-having-sex

    “Aoyama cites one man in his early 30s, a virgin, who can’t get sexually aroused unless he watches female robots on a game similar to Power Rangers.”

    This is repulsive, but also terribly sad. We in the U.S. are kidding ourselves if we think we can prevent ourselves from going the same way.

    1. Poland, Hungary:
      https://www.lifesitenews.com/news/poland-and-hungary-block-lgbtiq-rights-from-being-enshrined-in-eu-legislati

      Hungary again:
      https://www.theepochtimes.com/hungary-promises-no-tax-for-women-with-4-or-more-children_2797115.html

      Brazil:
      https://www.cnsnews.com/blog/michael-w-chapman/brazils-new-president-eliminates-lgbt-office-first-day-office

      There are indeed nations that are fighting back against the sexual perversion in this world. We know that in order for these changes to last, the Nation and its leader need to be seeking God, not just an arbitrary moral compass (even a broken clock is right twice a day).

      Gen 5:2
      Gen 1:28

  4. Great article, Lori. Last night I went to a protest against Drag Queens reading to children at the Brentwood Library in the People’s Republic of California. The police even came out, though it certainly wasn’t to protect the reprobate drag queens from us Christians, it was to protect us from the pagans, who have commonly done much damage to Christians throughout history. Rome’s four worst emperors were all homosexuals, who viciously persecuted Christians, Nero, Elagabalus, Commodus, and Caligula.

    And who was bringing their little tots to hear the ‘nice’ drag queens read? Why, it was single mothers and other young women, prolly many married, though I didn’t see a single man bring a child to the debauched reading at all.

    About 60 people turned out to protest, and it was very unfortunate, watching all the extremely beautiful young women parading along in all their glory, like the lily of the field, whose beauty came from God and was to please him, and knowing deep down, that to pursue one of them to marry would be like pursuing Delilah, and it could destroy me. Makes me quite angry. I understand how the media and schools have brainwashed women, but at some point, there needs to be a reformation, and bless you, for your message cannot be heard often enough, along with the many women who read and comment.

    Went to dinner with a fellow conservative activist, a man, married with 2 children, both grown, and he was urging me to get married, and was telling me the Bay Area had quite a few beautiful woman. I told him I knew, my first date was with a 49ers cheerleader, and my second with a Warriors cheerleader, but that pursuing a woman for marriage, which is the only reason to pursue a woman romantically if one wants to please God, is quite out of the picture, because at least 95% and maybe more women who are marriage age and attractive in California, are strong adherents of birth control. I am totally not attracted to any woman who despises having children in marriage, no matter how beautiful she may be. She is literally a walking death trap. For while her beauty advertises her availability, her heart is like that of a Black Widow, it makes death of all around her.

    While I’m no Adonis, I’m also no ugly duckling, and while my last name is not Bezos, I have already grossed nearly half a million a year. But women in my area are interested in men they can manipulate and who their fellow feminist friends will commend. They don’t understand what a real man is at all, hardly.

    ‘Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.’
    Proverbs 31:30

    1. 100% this, every word. There is nothing to add, nor should be taken away.

      If, as a result of this blog, so much as one young female heart is spared the curse of feminism and seeks God’s intention for her life, it will be a success.

  5. This is very interesting. However, I have a question. Whaf is overall more important. Salvation, ie repenting, baptism etc, or building a family? Many wonderful Christian women I know only have a few children. They love God with every fibre of their being. They adore their husbands and children. Some women have no choice but to work, but still love their children and husband.

  6. History hopefully teaches us. Instead of leading quiet lives of meekness (whatever happened to that word?) which is precious in God’s eyes, we demand and are entitled. Where has this led us? Can we really have it all? (Bring home the bacon AND fry it up in a pan?) Do we just want more “stuff” and are our husbands giddy because WE can provide all these things and more toys for him so that he can show them off as a matter of pride for other men to see? We must be led out of 1 John 2:15-16 and into 1 Peter 3:4 (suggested reading – the whole chapter). From what I have seen as an older woman it has led us to a very tired, irritable, impatient and imprudent (I could probably add more words) society of women. God made women to be cherished and protected. Have we embraced this.? I don’t believe so. We want what we want and when we want it. Just as a side note, if you be so brave, look up the satanists commandments and see if our society has not indeed gone down this path. Our communion is with God who asks us to seek His kingdom and righteousness first in Matthew 6:33 and all these things shall be added unto you , but, also read verses 19-34. Yes, read chunks of God’s Word and not just little verses here and there so as to keep things in the right context. Our time here on earth is more like a vapor. As Jonathan Edwards said, “Lord, stamp eternity on my eyeballs”. May we ever be transformed by God’s word and not conformed to the world. From someone who has had to pay the price for going the way of feminism for a time, and now leading a peaceable life. May the Lord bless those who read and heed the commands of the Bible which are not burdersome.

  7. Thank you for this site. I am a homeschooling mother of two boys and wife to a wonderful, godly husband. It took me until I was 40 years old and 8 years married to finally begin to apply God’s design for wives and mothers into my life. My marriage has never been better, and I have never experienced more joy. I had to let go of many people and many long held ideas, but the fruit in my heart and life has been undeniable.

    We are a family of 4 that serves the Lord on an island in the Caribbean where feminism is, sadly, rampant. It is a matriarchal society and the church is incredibly corrupted by this view to the point where most of them have both a male and female pastor. When they ask us where we congregate, we say “at home. My husband is our pastor.” My husband once had a female pastor scoff at him when she asked him who is mentor was, and he answered “God’s Word.” This was after he had preached Truth to ‘her’ congregation upon invitation. I was so angry, but he told me, “It’s ok. I just preached truth to ‘her’ congregants, so the laugh is on her. If I am a wolf as she believes, then she is a terrible shepherd.”

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