Written By John Moody on Facebook

Younger woman: “Hey Miss Anne, I was wondering, I really want to grow as a wife and mom and better serve the Lord in my home and with my husband and children. Can you help me?”

Older woman: “That is great! We are just about to start our newest woman’s ministry discipleship rotation, and this time I will teaching the women Nehemiah and Ezra!”

YW: “Oh, that’s good, but I really want to learn how to love and honor my husband better and how to keep the home running more orderly. It’s been so stressful, especially when he gets home from work. I have really been struggling with…”

OW: “…and then, once a month, the woman’s book group is going to be doing Grudem’s Systematic Theology…”

YM: “Yeah, my husband is already going through a catechism with the family though and aren’t the elders doing a theology class before church during the discipleship time every Sunday morning?”

OW: “and we are memorizing the 1689 London Baptist..”

YW: “Well, my husband already has us memorizing Psalms together. I just don’t know as tired and as little sleep as I am getting if I could really add any of this in. Do you know how to get little kids to sleep better and to sleep more quickly? We often aren’t getting to bed until after 10:00, and my husband has to be up for work at 4:30.”

OW: “and you should consider coming on our quarterly four-day women’s retreat! All the older mom’s make it!”

YW: “Well, um, I am already really badly behind on the cleaning, laundry, and cooking, and we just started homeschool with our oldest. We don’t have anyone to watch the kids. What I am looking for is someone who can teach me how to keep my home better and have it run more smoothly. For instance, how do you get any laundry done with three under five? They seem to make messes faster than…”

OW: “…. this quarter’s event is Marla and me teaching the book of Ephesians!”

YW: “Didn’t the elders of the church just preach through the book of Ephesians?”

OW: “and I bet you would really benefit from reading JI Packer’s ‘Knowing God.'”

YW: “Probably, but right now, I just really want to know how to manage my home and love my husband and kids better.”

OW: “Hopefully, we will see you Wednesday for the Ladies’ tea and Bible study!”

YW: “Well, we have a doctor’s appointments that morning, and I still need to find someone to sit with the two younger kids while I run Silas into…”

This isn’t too far off from what we personally experienced, and what we have seen in many churches for two decades.

One woman asked him in the comment section: This is the struggle I am facing right now. Then I look around hating myself because I can’t figure out how to do all this stuff, and no one will teach me. They just say, “Oh, that’s hard” and “It’s just a season so any ways, come to Women’s Bible study. We’re doing a study on evangelism.”

He responded to her: One of the things that inspired these posts was watching my dear wife go through this time and time again for over two decades in the church. She should be able to go to older women about this or that practical issue. What I wrote above is exactly what the women would say to  her. Then be like, “See you at church or Bible study!” We have four generations of women with very few of them ever taught how to be a godly, productive woman in the home.

The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Titus 2:3-5

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