Whenever I write about submission, women have a tendency to come up with all of the exceptions, mostly, “What if he asks you to sin?” One woman wrote, “I almost agree completely with this article, but find it strange that she doesn’t make a simple disclaimer that we are not to submit to our husbands if they are asking us to sin or break the law. We are first and foremost subject to Christ. I agree that 99.9% of the time, there is little to no room for not submitting, but you are not disobeying God in a case in which your husband is leading you to sin against God’s word, which does happen, sadly.”
God’s Word doesn’t give the exceptions so why should I? Instead of focusing on the .1% exception, why don’t they focus upon learning to be submissive and see what happens? Since women have the ability to build up their home or tear it down with their own hands AND win their disobedient husbands without a word by being in subjection to them with godly behavior, why isn’t their first reaction, “Since this is God’s prescription for me, I am going give 100% to learning how to be a godly, submissive wife and leave the results up to the LORD”?
Maybe, just maybe, women do have an amazing amount of power for good in their husbands’ lives if they just believe God and obey Him, instead of trying to figure out the .1% exceptions. The same issue is concerning keepers at home. If instead of looking at all the ways they can’t come home, why not believe God, obey Him, go home, and see how He works? I am sure God works on a disobedient husband in mysterious ways for good when a wife goes about winning him without the word and I am also sure He can provide for mothers to be home full time with their children; for NOTHING is impossible with Him.
Finally, when studying and learning the Word of God, we take it as a whole. We know that we are not supposed to murder or steal. We know we aren’t to be adulterers or participate in any type of sexual immorality, therefore, if your husband asks you to participate in something that is strictly forbidden in the Word and evil, then you have every right to not obey your husband. We must always take the Bible as a whole and not by piecemeal but I’m not going to make exceptions every single time I write about submission. I expect most women to be wise enough to know that they shouldn’t obey their husbands if they ask them to participate in something that is evil or harmful to them.
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.