Living Simply to Be Home Full Time

Living Simply to Be Home Full Time

Matt Walsh wrote a post yesterday about Americans being a nation of depressed people. I wrote this comment in response to it: “It’s because we have left our Creator’s design for us. Men were created to be the providers and protectors. Women were created to be keepers at home, help meets to their husbands, and bearing and raising children. Children need mothers who are home full time to raise, protect, train, and nurture them.” 

Of course, some agreed and some disagreed. Those who disagreed don’t like to discuss or acknowledge the facts. No, they have to attack and make false accusations against those to whom they disagree with because they despise the ways of the Lord. As an example, one guy wrote about another woman and me: “They don’t get it. Never will. They are blind to facts. They feel cause they can, everyone can. The holier than thou arrogance here is ridiculous.” So we are arrogant because we speak the truth of God’s Word?

But then a woman named Deborah wrote the following and is worthy of a post of its own:

Yes, it is more difficult today to make ends meet. The Socialist Left made the cost of living so high so that mothers would need to leave the home to help provide a living. They indoctrinated the women in the 60s to beat their chest and declare they are equal to men and they began to refuse to keep a home, raise their children, cook, or do any other domestic skill.

They (and men) began to demand the best of everything, clothes, homes, every shiny bauble known to man. They stopped having children in lieu of fancy cars and boats. I was raised by my grandparents the OLD way. We didn’t even have running water in the house, no plumbing, drew water from a hand dug well, GREW OUR OWN MEAT AND VEGETABLES, canned everything to get us through the winter, SEWED OUR CLOTHES, and lived on very little.

WE WERE NEVER HUNGRY. We did not have candy, chips, colas, beer, nor any of the other luxuries of frozen foods, delivery of food, etc. We had NO CAR. We walked to town and carried the bags back. I was quite old when we got our first phone and TV. We plowed the fields with a horse and hand hoed the vegetables. We raised chickens, hogs, etc. for eggs and meat. Poppy hunted for game.

My grandparents were in their late 50s when they took on five grandkids under the age of seven. They didn’t have two nickles to rub together. But we survived and LOVED IT. I wouldn’t trade that life for all the shiny baubles in the world.

What I’m trying to say is that you can do without a lot of things you think you have to have. You can supplement your food with a garden and animals. If your wife doesn’t work, you don’t need two vehicles. Yes, it is more difficult today because the Left wants to destroy everything “family” and everything Christian.

(Directed to men:) You need to get educated so that you don’t have to settle for minimum wage. There is a dire need for the “trades” in this country, such as welders, etc. Women need to get educated so that if something happens to their husband, they can make a living without depending on others for their needs. (I don’t agree with her on this one since getting an education today means accruing a large debt and putting off marriage and children, plus many husbands don’t want to give up their wives’ income when they marry. As believers, we don’t need to live in fear of the “What ifs…?” We need to obey what God has commanded and live in faith of the “But God…!”)

Everything in the right season. Courtship, marriage, THEN CHILDREN, and don’t forget education to support the family. Start your own business. Electrician, plumbers, or whatever you can do, do it and do it well. Minimum wage jobs were never intended to support a family. They were always intended for teenagers to start their work history and make money to support their young years and SUPPLEMENT their family. It was also a place for those who cannot rise higher in society, for whatever reason. My main point is that people don’t have to have the best of everything but you do have to get above minimum wage if you are to raise a family these days.

Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal: For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.
Matthew 6:19-21

9 thoughts on “Living Simply to Be Home Full Time

  1. We garden and raise most of our own meat. It is incredibly rewarding but it isn’t much cheaper than shopping for it in store, because of the feed & care that goes into animals and garden. We still do it because for us it’s worth the time & money. You have to have land to do it though and land is expensive these days. But once we bought our land we wouldn’t trade this life for anything.

    1. We live on an old family farm so we’re able to garden and we also have chickens. I’d love to eventually have cows one day. It does take a lot of time to tend to the garden and livestock but it is well worth it to me just knowing where our food is coming from. Thankfully, I am a stay at home mom and have time to do these things. We’ve sacrificed some things for me to stay home but I wouldn’t trade it for the world. God’s ways are best and He has been faithful. 🙂

  2. Thank you for sharing this with us.It is true that we don’t need to have it all(material things) to be happy.We should pray that the Lord teaches to be content with what He gives us..Godliness with contentment is great gain.

  3. There is something so special about waking up and having your little ones come to see you, one by one, to hug you and kiss you. To tell you how much they love you.

    There is something so special about not having to rush anywhere and being able to hug them back, and kiss them, and share with them how much they mean to you.

    There is something so special about being able to get up, and make your bed while the sun is rising, and getting down beside it to pray for the day and each one in your family. There is time to focus your heart on what’s important and it makes you happy inside.

    It is very special to be able to spend time with our dear children, to be the best you can be for them. To be mature and loving, soft and caring, the mommy they so dearly love.

    It is very special when you are busy doing the laundry, and your sweet children are doing their own chores, singing their praises the Lord above, helping another with their little hurt, or surprising you with tea and a treat.

    It is so special to know that God is with you, that He leads and He guides you, you are never alone. It is the best feeling to be loved by these precious children, gifts from above, and there is no other care to me in the world.

    We are strangers and pilgrims in this earth, we have a work to do here for our Lord. It is the most blessed, the most fulfilling call. Some may not see it – but I don’t seem to care. For I am the happiest of all!

    1. You have stated the “hidden manna” of the biblical wife and mother beautifully. The work she does is invaluable, and so the world cannot recognize it. Thank you for this comment and blessings.

  4. My husband and I agreed before we even got engaged that if we were to marry and have children I would stay home with them. I remember well meaning friends telling me I should put my kids in daycare and go to work so we wouldn’t have to struggle. We didn’t see it as a struggle or a sacrifice. Doing without the luxuries was worth it. You can always buy stuff. You only get to hear your baby’s first words once. You only get to see their first steps once.
    Staying home, raising my children and caring for our home was my dream career.
    My kids are grown and I’m a grandmother, and I still stay at home, so I am available to pour into my grandkids lives. The job and the joys never end.

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