Mothers are to Be Keepers at Home, Not Fathers

Mothers are to Be Keepers at Home, Not Fathers

Nancy Campbell is one of my favorite godly, older woman. She hasn’t compromised on the truth of God’s Word and I appreciate this about her since I see so many other women compromising on what they used to teach that was biblically sound to fit into our culture and not offend women. Our goal in life shouldn’t be to not offend others. We are commanded to speak the truth in love and may we never veer away from this high and holy path no matter who it offends or how many “followers” you lose.

Nancy was asked about stay-at-home-dads and her reply was biblically accurate and exactly how I have replied to women who have asked me. This is how she responded.

This is becoming more accepted in our humanistic society. However, it is the opposite to God’s plan for men and women. God created the woman to be the nurturer, nourisher, and nest builder of the home. He created the man to be the provider, protector, and priest of the home.

When a mother, to whom God has graciously and miraculously given children, leaves her children in a daycare, or even with their father, to pursue a full-time career out of the home, she denies who God created her to be. When a father refrains from taking up his responsibility to provide for the home, he denies who he is as a man!

The only way you can accept this state of affairs is if you have a humanistic and progressive mindset. You cannot accept it if you have a biblical worldview.

God gives a warning to men in 1 Timothy 5:8: “If any provide not for his own, and especially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.” Take notice that these words were spoken to men, not to women.

Two verses onwards, God speaks about the woman and gives a description of the lifestyle He has planned for her: “Well reported of for good works; if she has brought up children (FIRST ON GOD’S LIST), if she has lodged strangers, if she has washed the saints’ feet, if she has relieved the afflicted, if she has diligently followed very good work” (1 Timothy 5:10). It is a picture of a mother ministering to her children first and then opening her doors in hospitality and reaching out to the needy around her. Her ministry is in her home.

The picture God gives of the wife in Psalm 128 is of her in the heart of her home with her children all around her table (Psalm 128:3). The picture God gives of the wife in the New Testament is of her being a keeper at home, ministering to the needs of her children and managing her home (1 Timothy 2:15).

To accept the reversal of roles, we must be brainwashed in some way. Why? Because it is opposite to nature. God has not invested in men the same maternal anointing He put in women. Yes, fathers love their children, but they do it in a different way to mothers. They have a strong instinct to protect their children. They want to provide for their children, but they cannot “mother” their children, especially babies and little ones. They are anointed to “father’ their children. And children need both mothering and fathering.

Babies and toddlers need the comfort of their mother’s breasts. Breastfeeding is tied up with motherhood. Scientific studies reveal that the more frequently a mother breastfeeds her baby the more motherly and nurturing she becomes. The hormones release the mothering hormones. A man does not have the same hormones God gives to mothers.

God has also put within women a love for home, unless of course it is brainwashed out of her by our education system, the media, and the deception of our progressive society. A man is not cut out for the finer touches of the home and to making a home feel like a home. He was created to go out and to provide; to work hard for his family.

And what about the following generations? The greatest teaching we give our children is our example. They watch what we do. They observe our roles. When we reverse the roles, they grow up confused. What happens to society? As more men stay home and more women enter the work force, there will be less and less children born. A career woman who is full time providing for the family does not have time to have children. Already we are being overtaken by the Islamic population who surpass us. Our average is only 1.8 children per family. Their average is 6.8 per family.

And God’s very first commandment carries with it a mandate for dominion (Genesis 1:28). Those who are fruitful and multiply will be those who take dominion. We see this already happening in Europe.

Let’s stop this ridiculous deception now–for the sake of our families now and for the sake of future generations.

Be blessed, Nancy Campbell

One young woman responded this way to Nancy’s post on Facebook: “I TOTALLY DISAGREE AND I WILL BE LEAVING, THIS PAGE. VERY VERY SAD. I will pray for you.” Women today are deeply offended by truth, especially if it doesn’t match up to what they want to do and believe. Then they have temper tantrums, as this young woman did, and stomp off.

This should never be said about us, women. As godly women who love the Lord’s ways more than our ways since His ways are so much higher and better than our ways, we seek to know His will for our lives and then walk in it joyfully; for there is nothing better in life than walking on the narrow path that leads to life, even if it is in complete opposition to the world’s ways.

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1 Timothy 5:14

12 thoughts on “Mothers are to Be Keepers at Home, Not Fathers

  1. Thank you for faithfully posting on your blog. I look forward to reading it every day!🙂 Yes, women are so easily offended by the truth these days, but I think of our Lord who lived a sinless life in the culture of His day! Later He told John the Baptist, “Blessed is he that is not offended because of me.” By the way, I appreciate Nancy Campbell as well. I volunteer at a Christian Crisis pregnancy center, and the staff and clients love her “Above Rubies ” publications.

  2. I agree with Holly; I look forward to reading your blog posts every day! Thank you for teaching and speaking the truth of the Word. God’s ways are so much better than our own invented ways.

  3. I’m reading this while nursing my sweet baby. If I had to work I never would have been able to breastfeed. It took months for us to nail it down, I had to pump a lot so I wouldn’t lose my supply. I can know I’ve done my best for my baby.

    It would be unbearable to have only a few evening hours plus night time feedings to spend with my baby and drop her off everyday to be cared for by strangers who in a way become her mothers too. It must be so confusing for an infant or young child to split their time between their loving mother and care providers who have to divide their attention among many children(This is indeed very different from a mother of multiple children.)

    How many daytime smiles, kisses, laughs, cuddles, soothing, and bonding the mother and child miss. Skin to skin bonding and breastfeeding, essential for an infant.
    I KNOW my baby better than anyone, as I should since I care for her full time.

    I’m hoping I’ll be blessed with many children and look forward to homeschooling them.
    I understand now the attack on God’s plan and His people that even birth control is an untouchable topic among Christians. Coming from someone who almost died from birth control, I’d much rather trust God with 10 children than prevent the fruit of marriage for my convenience. My body is not my own, but the vessel that God uses to miraculously create His kingdom through my obedience. What Christian woman wouldn’t want to be gifted and used so purposefully?

    I pray and think often of the mothers and babies who have to endure this unnatural and cruel separation of work and daycare, no thanks to feminism. I know it’s not always easy to change our circumstances and that I’m very fortunate to be home but thankfully we have a loving God who knows our hope. I’m so sorry to the mothers who hurt over this. I pray a way will be made for you to be home.

  4. Thank you Lori for Nancy’s post. She is such a sweetie! I follow a blog particular blog and I get so irritated when women comment that the daughters of this particular family are holding themselves back by not seeking careers. They think these daughters shouldn’t be staying home and taking care of the home. It’s really sad they won’t accept the truth of scripture. They even mock other ladies comments by accusing us of living in the 1950s!

  5. I can’t even think off leaving my baby! It is very difficult to when I have had to leave her with grandma for a short time! I’ve felt this way with all 3 of ours, and still do with the older two although it is a little easier when they stop nursing. I think that hormones must make us more attached to the one who is nursing. I love Nancy Campbell and her magazine is very encouraging. It must be very difficult for those women who work. How could you not want to be with your children ? You would miss everything. The only thing we can do is pray that the Holy Spirit convicts this woman (who commented) of her rejection of Gods Word.

  6. Should a mom work so the father can be at home more? My friend says this is a good enough reason, and I say kids need their mom more than their dad!

    1. We do!
      My husband works a LOT more than I do, but I run our business one day a week so he can be at home with the kids, and I also work Saturdays so he is at home with them then, too. My kids have an awesome bond with their father and as our oldest son is now a teenager, he needs his dad around a lot.
      It works well for us 🙂

  7. When my husband was seriously injured and had to give up work for a time, I had no choice but to step up to the plate and re-enter the workforce while he stayed at home with the kids. And they all loved it! He took care of all the cooking and cleaning and the kids loved being at home with Daddy all day! They thrived under his loving care.

    Now, he’s had a career change and is able to work again, but we still juggle things a bit (we have a business) so he can have the odd day at home with them. He’s always said how unfair it is that mums get to stay home with the kids and dads have to go to work and miss out on so much. Now, I do the majority of the house and kids, but he does one day a week, and my kids get the best of both worlds! And I get a break from the house, and he gets a break at home with the kids. It works well for us 🙂

  8. Amen and Amen! Sadly, the world no longer cares what the Word of God says, and unfortunately neither do most churches. We have lost so much because men and women have chosen to disregard God’s written instructions for us. God, please help us turn back to your ways.

  9. What if your husband wants you to work and put the kids in daycare? What if your heart aches to be with them and you question it (being at work) inside you every day? What then? Submit and pray? The one blessing here is that my children seem to love their daycare.

  10. I understand what you are trying to address and I commend you for it. BUT, I also see that there are situations where a wife has to be the one to work. Take for example my in-laws. My husband’s dad had a lot of health problems shortly after he married, and because of his health, he was never able to return to work. His wife became the main breadwinner for the family. Their two children had a stay-at-home dad and a working mom. It was not by choice, but it’s what it had to be. Their two children had a special bond with each of their parents. Their daughter is now a stay-at-home mom and their son (my husband!) is a faithful worker in a ministry. My father-in-law continues to have health issues, but he is a godly man and a faithful prayer warrior. He cared for his home the best he could, even if it’s different than what he thought it would be.

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