The Heartbroken Career Woman
This post contains notes I took from a video by Jennifer Morse from “The Ruth Institute.”
“We must clean up the mess from the sexual revolution. These are the victims of the sexual revolution: 1) Children of divorce (no-fault divorce); 2) Reluctantly divorced (One party doesn’t want to get divorced but the government sides with the one who wants the divorce.); 3) Donor conceived persons; 4) The hook-up culture; 4) Heartbroken career women.
“The heartbroken career women have it all: advanced degree, a good job, well off financially, maybe married with no children or just one. She postponed everything for the sake of her career. This is my story. I was raised Catholic. Sex without babies seemed like a lot of fun! I married the first man that asked me after living with him but was divorced at 24 years old. I pursued higher education and married again. My plans were to be tenured, then have a baby and put the baby into daycare while I went back to my job.
“However, I was infertile and infertility brought me to my knees. We adopted a child from Romania but after years of infertility, I ended up conceiving a child. Through this experience, we understood how much children need mothers and fathers. They are the foundation of society. I was lied to. Our whole generation of women were lied to.
“You women pursuing your doctorates, you can look forward to infertility treatments too. Infertility is thought of as a normal part of an educated women’s career path. ‘You can participate in higher education and in the workforce but you have to do a couple of things. You have to agree to chemically neuter yourself during your twenties, during your peak childbearing years. Then in your thirties, when you’re socially and economically ready for children, you have to go through infertility treatments that are expensive, humiliating, and possibly dangerous. That’s the deal we’re offering you.’
“Feminism says, ‘Ladies, adapt your bodies to the economic system.’ I say, ‘Why not take our bodies as given and adapt the economic system to us?’ This is what the sexual revolution has given to women.
“The sexual revolution accomplished two things: 1) The separation of sex and childbearing from each other and both from marriage. Before the sexual revolution, marriage was the umbrella for socially approved sexual contact and child rearing. It’s the umbrella that unites all of these things. The sexual revolution broke those things apart. 2) Men and women are completely interchangeable. There is no significant difference. This is the idea that leads to the heartbroken career woman.
“For a woman to be successful, she must get on the same career path that a man is on. The career path was designed for people who don’t have babies, namely men. What’s the result? We’re miserable.
“The only coherent solution to the sexual revolution is the ancient Christian teachings on marriage, sex, and the family. All the moving parts fit together and make sense. The Church has been right all along!
“Trying to build society around these two premises of the sexual revolution is irrational and impossible. It’s impossible to build a society upon the premise that sex doesn’t make babies and that men and women are interchangeable in every aspect. When evidence comes up to refute this claims, they try to suppress it.
“Sex is an act of love between a husband and his wife which creates children out of that love. This is God Almighty’s beautiful plan of love for us.”
Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.
Psalm 127:3-5
16 thoughts on “The Heartbroken Career Woman”
Hi Lori,
I liked this post but felt impressed to clarify the purpose of sex according to the Bible. While part of the reason for sex is children it isn’t the only reason. There are sex acts that will not produce children. Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 7:5 to not deprive one another except for a time. This command does not have any conditions such as being past childbearing age. Song of Solomon is graphic description of love and sex without mentioning children. Sex is God’s gift to mankind in marriage.
Sex, at the deepest level, brings a oneness from the union of husband and wife. In John 17, Jesus goes into detail about being one with the Father and wanted us to be one with Him and the Father as well. Paul shares in Ephesians 5: 31-32 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
Sex is for pleasure, children, and at the deepest level “oneness”.
What a masterful essay.
It’s absolutely true. All sex outside of heterosexual marriage, and even the sex in heterosexual marriage engaged in selfishly to avoid having children when the woman is medically able to, is a sin. It leads to negative consequences, both short term and long term.
Great essay!!
America believed this in 1900, largely, as porn, birth control, homosexuality, and abortion were illegal. Now, our society is literally dying from pursuing hedonism. 110 million Americans have an STD, literally 1/3rd of our population.
Onto the Coronavirus. It should be called the Chinese Communist Party virus, as it never would have been as big a contagion as it is if China had been honest about it. The CCP virus originated in China. Keep in mind, who funded and supported Communism in China? Was it an organic movement where the Chinese suddenly decided they wanted to be Communist? It certainly wasn’t, as evidenced by the fact that 60 million Chinese were brutally slaughtered by Mao to uphold this wicked ideology. So, if it didn’t come from China, where? From Communist Russia, that’s where. They funded Mao and trained his army. And also, from American politicians, especially General George Marshall, who pulled aid from Chiang Kaishek and the Nationalists, thus allowing the weak Communist forces, on the brink of destruction, to survive, and to use the Long March, to gain power.
Who funded Communism in Russia? That’s easy, the Bolshevik Revolution was funded by Wall Street Bankers.
Myron Fagan exposes the Council on Foreign Relations (CFR), the Rothschilds, and the Illuminati.
https://100777.com/myron
John Flynn describes how China went Communist, and how America caused it.
https://www.amazon.com/While-You-Slept-Tragedy-Americanist/dp/B0007DVP5Y
Dr. Rodney Howard-Brown, and Paul Williams do a brilliant job in exposing the hold the Council on Foreign Relations has over America, as they control our media, schools, and tech companies.
https://www.amazon.com/Killing-Uncle-Sam-Demise-America/dp/1640070974
Anthony Sutton details how Wall Street funded the Bolshevik Revolution.
https://www.voltairenet.org/IMG/pdf/Sutton_Wall_Street_and_the_bolshevik_revolution-5.pdf
Alex Newman documents how our education system has been subverted by socialists for 150 years, meaning we all have been affected by it, in one way or another.
https://m.theepochtimes.com/author-alex-newman
Cui Bono, follow the money.
Knowing all of this – which, by design, the vast majority of Americans do not, because we are too busy trying to keep a roof over our head and food on the table to be bothered with history. Most of us believe the media and schools are teaching us everything we need to know. They certainly are not – how does this relate to the CCP virus?
Well, the same globalist bankers who funded Communism in China, and Russia, slaughtering 100 million, the same ones who seized control of America’s money in 1913, the same ones responsible for America’s entrance into every war, from World War 1 on, the same ones who control our media, tech companies, libraries (notice how the libraries all are promoting “woke” literature), and schools, the same ones who have controlled both sides presidential candidates since Woodrow Wilson, with the possible exceptions of Reagan and Trump, are the same ones who concocted this virus and unleashed it. You won’t see the elites get it. Oh no, they will tell us Tom Hanks and history wife have it, Rudy Gobert, and Kevin Durant have it, but the elites have the cure, as they created this. They did this on purpose, just as they crashed the stock market on purpose in 1929, to get FDR elected. They are betting America is not strong enough, virtuous enough, and wise enough to withstand the shock their virus terrorism causes. Remember, China is controlled by Globalist Bankers. They love China, because they can pay a Chinese laborer in a month, what they pay an American Union Worker in a day. They make vast fortunes off Chinese slave labor. These globalist bankers saw Trump was on his way to winning a second term, and so, in a panic, they unleashed this virus. It has had its desired effect so far.
One way to ensure these bankers don’t prevail, is ensure you and your friends and family are exposed to news sources who tell the news through the prism of history, the Bible, the Constitution, and the Founders.
They are all laid out in my website, messanonews.com
This will be a huge fight, as this is easily the biggest conspiracy in world history. It’s only possible because never in our history have so many minds been controlled by so few, as the elites ruthlessly use their schools, media, and tech companies to bully Americans into compliance with their wicked schemes. Also, knowledge of the Bible and history is at all time lows in America. That must be changed, and the time off here gives everyone time to read and study, as we never have before. The book “The Killing of Uncle Sam” contains 188 other books in the bibliography, all of which give a fascinating insight into history few of us have had.
Americans are not altogether blameless in this travesty. It is our lack of wisdom and virtue which allowed it to happen. Sin makes us weak, and easy to enslave. Those who are enslaved within, can never long remain free without.
“Human rights can only be assured among a virtuous people. The general government . . . can never be in danger of degenerating into a monarchy, an oligarchy, an aristocracy, or any despotic or oppresive form so long as there is any virtue in the body of the people.”
George Washington
Sean,
Sex is first and foremost for children in marriage.
The Jews of the Old Testament realized this, and so did the New Testament Christians.
American Christians have been cheated out of their destiny, as demography is destiny, by being deceived into thinking birth control is an option for Christians, whether natural or unnatural. It isn’t when a woman’s health isn’t endangered.
You have the priorities backwards, as sophists, hedonists, and Epicureans commonly do.
First priority is children, then pleasure. It’s not wrong to have sex when one can’t have children due to health or age, but it is wrong to have sex to avoid children when one is married and capable.
Paul’s command not to deprive each other does not supersede the Biblical command to be fruitful and multiply.
Song of Solomon absolutely does not mean to substitute childbearing with pleasurable sec acts that prevent conception.
You have the two commands backwards. The first command is to love God, then your neighbor. That means, your first duty in marriage is to God, to have children, then to pleasure your spouse.
So many women are believing the lie. Even Christian women. It’s devastating our numbers and darkens the whole world. It has a negative chain effect. This lie is setting up women to experience negative consequences first in their own lives as outlined in the article which then negatively impacts the whole world by not having enough Christians. And the Christians we are look the same as the non-Christians. We are dealing with all the same sins and outcomes because we live exactly like the world does.
I’ve dealt with consequences for believing the lie for too many years in my own life and can hardly abide the “moderate, level-headed” Christians who want to be “good stewards” and ignore God’s wisdom (Children are a blessing and blessed is the man who has a quiver full and be fruitful and multiply, etc) for their own “wisdom” (don’t multiply too much, God won’t provide, etc.) We need to value what God values. We never cut down trees because they are bearing “too much fruit” but yet we cut ourselves. Our hearts are fearful.
We believe the lie that women shouldn’t be keepers of the home, “Yeah women can be keepers of the home when they are at home” but who says they have to be home”?
Or, instead of teaching your children when you wake and when you lie down and when you go along the way, “my local school does just as good a job teaching my children as I would do. And we are just as happy etc. etc. Therefore you too should ignore God’s word and do as I did”. This is the issue. For every Christian who goes their own way and says God is good with it because all turned out well for them (God is merciful) there are multiples of families who it doesn’t turn out well for (just look at the dwindling numbers in church). Even if God spared you, you should recognize that His will is good and perfect and preach His will, not your wisdom.
Because of these lies our armies are dwindling and we find ourselves in a world that denies God and is reaping the consequences of that dearth. Our politicians deal in death and our young people are riddled with debt and disease. No one has peace and how would they without living according to the wisdom of God?
Wow, great thoughts there. Thank you for posting this, Lori.
Even if some women don’t have a strong craving for a child, it’s very true to say that every female is created to be a mother, in other words we are just plain made for the job of motherhood. Being motherly is totally natural, the way we put together a home, the way we are with everyone. Our minds naturally thing about the needs of others, in a totally different way to men. To fight against being a mother when you can be one, is fighting against your normal nature. Common sense says get married first. You are meant to be married to the man you have sex with even if you can’t have children. At this point I would like to say, if you sinned before you became a Christian, God forgives you, but for your own sake don’t sin again, work towards being the woman God created you to be Jesus was born into a family. Whether you mother your own children or others is too much for me to write about here but every woman can be a wife and home maker. God wants every woman to do this, so strongly that the bible tells young widows to marry again, have children and be home makers and gives older widows the choice. If God says it in the bible we have to work towards it.
Amen
Whats up the infertility in their 30’s? is it the chemicals in the air nowadays and the processed foods?
My mom and her sisters got married in their late 20’-early 30’s and they all had their kids in their 30’s and 40’s without fertility treatments. Grandmas had her first kid at 19 and last at 45. Her daughters didn’t get married at young because there were no Christian men around and Dad has to approve of the marriage. My cousins had their kids late 30’s early 40’s. we are raised to be housewives and sahm, and the husband is to provide for his family.
By the age of 30, 90 percent of women’s eggs are gone. Peak fertility is in their early 20s.
Birth control pills/iuds, etc really messes up a lot of women and most women are on some form, even if they’re not having sex, in order to regulate or “normalize” their periods instead of addressing the cause, which often is a nutrition issue
There are probably a number of things influencing infertility – years of birth control, poor nutrition, sedentary lifestyle, weight issues, stress. There are many women in their 30s who aren’t married yet, not by their own choice, and it can feel like a knife to the gut to be told they only have dried up, defective eggs now. It is true that peak fertility is in your 20s, but that’s not the end of the story.
Saying women are born with all their eggs is a bit of an oversimplification. We don’t have all the eggs ready to go, and one rolls down the chute every month. It actually takes about three months for the egg to fully form, ready for ovulation. During that time, you can do things to help make the healthiest egg, giving an older woman the best chance to have a healthy baby. Nutrition is most important – healthy food full of antioxidants, a prenatal vitamin, and especially Coenzyme Q10 (the active Ubiquinol form) supplements. CoQ10 is made in our bodies naturally, and affects cellular energy. Our bodies don’t make as much as we get older, so older ladies who hope to have a child should supplement to make the healthiest egg. Beyond that, exercise will help with blood flow, and a proper diet low in sugar will help keep blood sugar stable and hormone levels where they should be.
I don’t say any of this to encourage younger women to put off marriage or children of course, but to give hope to older women who have been waiting patiently and may be discouraged or feeling bitter. Just do what you can to keep yourself healthy, and leave the rest to God.
As a 30-something female attorney who came late into action on my convictions as a Christian woman, I’m here to warn young professional ladies: do not be surprised if you find yourself attracting men who, for whatever reason, do not want to work or take responsibility for a family. Be VERY wary of men who are impressed by your education/job. It feels good to feel smart and accomplished…but don’t deceive yourself. I think a responsible man is going to care more about your qualities as a helpmeet.
I have a flexible lower rung legal job that is a blessing in my situation. I still pray the Lord blesses me with a husband but my work is on myself and being good wife potential. Part of that is being realistic about my age and wasted time. My consolation in life is that Jesus is (our) husband eternally.
Women, STAY OUT OF LAW SCHOOL! Look how aimless our men have become in a world where we “compete” with them by being given extra advantages to compensate for our weakness.
Don’t contribute to Western decay with vain imaginations about how strong and independent you are. By the time you realize you need a man it might be too late.
Thank you Lori for all your guidance.
A lot of these womens today who delay marriage to have their fun or pursuing a career had an abortion in their early 20’s if you look at the abortion rate statistics it show that womens by the age of 20-24 had the highest abortion rate according to cdc it’s shocking!
Since I’m about to enter my first year of college I’ve been doing all the math about how long it would take me to get to my “dream career” of being a pediatrician and I realized “wow I’m 17 and it’ll take me 14 more years just to get started in this field” and then I started wondering how I’d be able to squeeze in time for a baby while in medical school and God reminded me that I’m not supposed to be trying to “have it all.” I read 1 Corinthians 1 this morning and it reminded me how Jesus lived a humble life and didn’t chase a career that he thought it would give him a ton of money, so I shouldn’t either. For now I decided to go to a Christian college that’s close to home and affordable and let God decide the rest. But being a mom (not a career woman) has always been my priority.
You made a wise choice, Camille. Just make sure you don’t dig yourself into a lot of debt that will keep you from being a wife and mother.