As many of you know, Debi Pearl’s book “Created to Be His Help Meet” is the book that began the transformation of my marriage. I read it with eagerness and was thoroughly convicted throughout the book. I was so convicted that I bought cases of the book to hand out to every woman that I knew. I mentored groups of women and individual women with this book for many years. Yes, I have heard all of the arguments against it…
In the beginning, God put man (Adam) “into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it” (Genesis 2:15). His work was to be in the garden. Then God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him” (Genesis 2:18). Then we are told, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh” ( Genesis…
“Directing your husband’s traffic undermines this goal by setting up a mother/son relationship rather than a husband/wife relationship. That’s why the sex wanes. What kind of man wants to have sex with his mother? So, what does it mean exactly to not direct your husband’s traffic? It means not making any comments—ever—about what you think your husband should be doing or how you think something should or shouldn’t be done. If you find this difficult to do, keep in mind…
Many women use this verse to try and convince me that God is an egalitarian God who believes that men and women are equal (the same is what feminists actually mean) since they absolutely hate the thought of patriarchy and men in authority: “There is neither Jew not Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus” (Galatians 3:28) Here’s how Trey responded to a woman on my…
God is a patriarchal God. He set up husbands to be head of their wives. The wives are commanded to submit to and obey their husbands. Every great institution on this earth has one leader. Marriage is no different. Two heads create a monster with contention and disunity. God created men to be the ones in authority over their home for unity and peace. When wives obey God in this area, they will see the blessings of obedience to God….
My favorite type of fictional novels are historical fictional novels written by Christians, and Jack Cavanaugh is one of my favorites. I read “Songs in the Night” trilogy many years ago but have enjoyed it again recently. Cavanaugh studies history and this book was about WW2. It’s an excellent read! There are a few paragraphs that I want to share with you. In the story, the main character is a married preacher man with a pregnant wife. One of his…
Susan, a 16 year old, is at an appointment with her high school guidance counselor. The counselor asks Susan, “So, Susan, what would you like to do with your life?” “I would like nothing more than to be a wife and mother,” Susan answers. “Well, Susan, there’s so much more you can do with your life than just being a wife and mother. How will you be able to support yourself? What if you never marry and what will you…
A woman named Angela Dougherty wrote this tweet yesterday: “Just ban marriage all together. It is a legal and social institution which exists to benefit men and control women. It’s archaic and unnecessary. Let everyone be responsible for themselves. Hell of a concept all the way around.” The funny thing is that she thinks she’s being profound and thought these concepts up herself. It’s the same concepts that Marxism and the Black Lives Matter Movement pushes. But these concepts aren’t…
A woman named Mary made the following comments under an article on Facebook: “I can’t get over the idea that Eve was created just to meet Adam’s emotional need for companionship (along with others) like she’s his birthday present or ancillary to him or something…How do I interpret 1 Corinthians 11:7? I mean, I get she’s created in the image of God, but it would appear that she’s also just supposed to refract the glory of Adam too, and that…
“Why does his happiness matter more than mine? Why should I have to know what makes him happy and what his favorite foods are? I would love to make my husband happy but only if he’s willing to do the same for me. Both of our happiness should matter equally, but this article makes me feel like his happiness matters more than mine. Please, help me understand as to why this is.” (Aubrey) This was a recent comment left on…