A song called I’ve Never Been to Me was written in 1977 but didn’t become popular until 1982. I remember listening to it when I was young but never paid much attention to the words. Ken randomly began singing this song on our walk the other day and told me how much he loved it when he was a teenager so we listened to the song. When Charlene sang the paragraph that I highlighted in bold below, tears sprung to my…
TheJoyFilledWife and her husband went through some difficult times in their marriage. Her husband was deeply addicted to pornography and it was devastating to her. Often, addictions, such as this, make those who are addicted mean and controlling. During this time, her husband agreed to see a counselor with her and this counselor turned out to be amazing. It’s almost impossible to find one who will teach the hard truths to the husband and the wife but the one they…
It’s much easier to put the responsibility of a wife submitting to her husband on the husband’s shoulder. After all, most marriage books and pastors teach that if a husband is loving his wife as Christ loves the Church, then it will be easy for a wife to submit to her husband. Or if the husband meets all of his wife’s “needs” then she will willingly submit. Here is how many preachers/teachers of the Word teach biblical submission: “When husbands…
Hollywood makes sex out to be absolutely amazing with fireworks the very first time a couple has sex so young people grow up to believe that it must be amazing always, UNLESS they are raised in a godly home by Christian parents. I was out to lunch with some friends the other day and they were all taught to be pure until marriage. They taught their children the same thing. The problem was that they weren’t taught that sex was supposed…
Abraham “hearkened to the voice of Sarah” (Genesis 16:2) and slept with her maid because Sarah couldn’t bear children. She thought this was a good plan but nothing good came from it. Hopefully, she learned her lesson to not try to manipulate her husband after this. Twice she obeyed Abraham when he asked her to lie and tell people that she was his sister because he feared for his life. Both times, God protected her while in the Kings’ harems….
Let’s study God’s instructions to us about sexual relations in a marriage. 1 Corinthians 7:2-5 shows us clearly what these are. If you don’t like them, you will have to take it up with the LORD since I am simply teaching what He commands. “Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.” God forbids all sexual relationships outside of marriage. He wants one man to marry one woman. This…
Divorce always begins with seeds of discontentment planted in our minds by ourselves or others. Feminism flourished because it appealed to wives’, mothers’, and homemakers’ discontentment. “We can no longer ignore that voice within women that says: ‘I want something more than my husband and my children and my home.’” (Betty Friedan, The Feminine Mystique) As soon as we allow discontentment into our thought life, we are on the path to nowhere good. “He is not as romantic as he…
Young women are made to believe they can have everything they want but almost always, they find out the hard way that they can’t. On the Dennis Prager show last Friday, a young man called in and related a story about this issue. He was out on a business lunch and a woman in her forties sat next to him. She was a very successful business woman. Somehow the topic of marriage and motherhood came up and she sadly said,…
In my book and in previous posts, I have shared how my parents didn’t get along when I was growing up. There was little harmony between them but a lot of contention instead. However, in the last few years of my mom’s life when my dad was taking care of my mom, she deeply grieved for the way she had treated my dad all those years. She grew to greatly appreciate him and saw what a kind, loving man he…
Women proclaim that people had to fight and die for women to have the right to vote as if this were a God-ordained right. This isn’t true. There was never any civil war over this issue nor is it a God-ordained right. Women “fought” (meaning they left their homes, raised their voices, and shouted for their “rights”) for the right to vote since they felt they knew better than men. They didn’t trust men to lead them in the right…