One man posted this question on his Facebook wall: “Should a wife have sex with her husband even when she is not in the mood?” I answered, “Yes, because a wife who loves the Lord and His ways certainly will, since she is not led by her moods or emotions but by the perfect Word of God.” A woman responded to me, “Lori Alexander, really? You do realize that a woman is a human being in her own right, and…
A woman wrote, “If a husband ever says, ‘You’re not submitting!’ I would say, ‘Bad leadership!’ The husband always initiates! If he is loving her to death, I promise he will have a submissive wife. Husbands create the wife they have. If you’re mean and angry all the time, that’s what she will become. You’re the leader. If you speak tenderly and serve her, she will be your reward. Serving and honoring you.” Did she speak the truth? Where in…
On Friday, a young woman privately messaged me on Instagram and shared with me that she had only been married a few years, yet her husband is deeply addicted to pornography. It has been devastating on her marriage, so she asked for my advice. I immediately decided that I needed to write out a post warning young women not to marry porn addicts. We’ve seen too much devastation in marriages with this addiction. Here is the post that I wrote:…
We have had a few men through the years who want me to teach that wives should submit to their husbands in everything, yes, even if husbands ask their wives to do evil. They feel that I need to repent since I don’t teach women this. I don’t believe women should submit to physical abuse nor to anything evil the husband asks her to do. Yesterday, two men took me to task on this very topic since I listed a…
What do women do who are completely against vaccinating their children, but their husbands want their children to be vaccinated? They believe that vaccines contain aborted babies and can cause harm to their children. They are even afraid that their children could die from them since some have. Can they disobey their husbands’ will in this circumstance? Are the husbands asking their wives to sin? (Yes, some believe that vaccinating children is sinful.) I asked the women in the chat…
A woman in the chat room alerted me that I was on Diply and told me she prayed for me. I had never heard of this site before but found it easily. It’s not a Christian site, but the author of the article wrote, “A Christian blogger is facing major criticism after a Facebook post encouraging women to find the majority of their joy doing housework and submitting to one’s husband.” I am not sure which post he was referring…
Women will frequently write me and tell me that they want more children, but their husbands do not. I have some ideas why men may not want more children. First of all, many wives put their children above their husbands once they have children. They co-sleep with them even if their husbands don’t want this. The women give all of their time and energy to their children and have little to no time left for their husbands. They forget that…
Whenever I teach about wives submitting to their husbands, I inevitably have women bringing up Ephesians 5:21, “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God,” as if this teaches husbands that they must submit to their wives, too. But what does the very next verse state? “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” There is no addition here that states, “and husbands submit yourselves unto your own wives” as much as many women would…
Written and reposted with permission by Michael Foster at It’s Good to Be a Men J. C. Ryle warned, “It is only too true, that thoughtlessly entering into marriage is one of the most fertile causes of unhappiness, and too often, it may be feared, of sin.” A chorus of henpecked husbands and divorced men say, “Amen!” Marriage is full of risk. It shouldn’t be entered into lightly. Many are the victims of an ungodly woman. In Proverbs 7:26, Solomon…
My friend, Carol, has been married for over 47 years. When asked what her secret is to keeping such a strong and happy marriage, she answered, “God is first, then her spouse, her children, then ministry for her, then self in this order.” In contrast, many couples today prioritize their marriages with self as first, then work, children, spouse, and then, maybe God at Christmas and Easter. According to Goldie Hawn, who has been living with her partner Kurt Russell…