The definition of marriage has been incredibly watered down in our culture. Many believe they don’t need a piece of paper. They can live together, and this is okay. Many young “Christians” believe this to be true. Some believe if you’re having sex and even having children, you’re married. So what exactly is marriage? “But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave…
One woman shared the pain she was in because her husband was having an affair. She’s understandably devastated. Another woman responded to her. She had an adulterous husband who had left her for ten years. This was how she responded to the suffering woman: “I have been where you are and it is devastating. My husband and I are back together after ten years of him being away from God. It’s a traumatic thing to go through but also a…
If you don’t read Doug Wilson, you are missing out. I follow him on Instagram. He wrote an excellent post called A Matter of Rank. I am going to share the words on the slides he shared on Instagram. Go to the post for his entire thoughts about this. “The desire that a woman has to usurp the rule of her husband is a desire that goes back to the third chapter of Genesis. This is the source of the…
Throughout my years of writing and mentoring women, I have seen a number of hugely popular Christian women getting divorced. They then often congratulate other popular female influencers on their divorce. They give reasons for the divorce and state they had “biblical reasons.” This seems all so wrong to me, and I will try to explain to you why. We should never be celebrating or trying to justify divorce to anyone. The reason God gave for divorce was due to…
Today is our 41st anniversary! Forty one years with the same man. It’s a huge blessing in many, many ways. As many of you know, our first twenty years were rough. We argued a lot, thus we didn’t enjoy each other much, yet divorce was never an option for us. Once we married, we both knew it was for life. We determined from the get-go to be covenant keepers. We’ve raised four children together. Now, we are enjoying our married…
“The joy and ‘uncomfortable conversations’ behind the decision of a growing number of men to throw off the shackles of an ‘archaic’ marital tradition.” This from an article called Meet the Australian men taking their wife’s surname. So instead of taking her husband’s last name, he is taking his wife’s father’s last name. Makes perfect sense, doesn’t it? Not at all. When a couple marries, they become one flesh and the husband is the head of his wife. Therefore, the…
Whenever I teach women to submit to their husbands, without fail, some will bring up that husbands are to love their wives as Christ loves the Church. What many women believe this to mean is that husbands are to do whatever they can to make their wives happy. You know, “Happy wife, happy life.” They are to chase their emotions and feelings and try to satisfy their every need. Guess what? This is NOT how Christ loves the Church, contrary…
A woman wrote this to me on Facebook yesterday. All of my responses are in parenthesis next to her comments: I would love to know your thoughts on this? Anna Duggar did everything right*. She was raised in a conservative Christian home. (Yes, she was raised by godly parents as commanded by God.) She dressed modestly, and when she met Josh they practiced courtship instead of traditional dating. (She dressed modestly as commanded by God.) She married with her parent’s…
“Winfrey is revealing in a new interview with Vogue that she and Graham actually did talk marriage back in the ’90s. “Nobody believes it, but it’s true. The only time I brought it up was when I said to Stedman, ‘What would have happened if we had actually gotten married?’ she remembered. ‘And the answer is: ‘We wouldn’t be together.’ “She continued, ‘We would not have stayed together because marriage requires a different way of being in this world. His…
This has been the feminist mantra since feminism reared its ugly head many, many years ago. I sure wish I knew what TV shows and magazines were framing being a wife and mother as “some sort of feminine ideal bliss.” I sure can’t find any these days, can you? TV shows and magazines strictly portray the bliss of being in the workforce, working for a paycheck, and being independent. There’s only a few like me who encourage women to marry,…