When we were struggling in our marriage for many years, my husband Ken, would write his feelings down so he could try and make sense of what was going on. The other night, he was reading me some of those thoughts. He wrote that he loved 95% of who I was but had a lot of trouble with the other 5%. I was continually preaching the Bible to him and trying to control him through my emotions, withholding sex, and…
Dennis Prager shared an article on his Facebook page and wrote: “Feminist Advice: Five things not to give a man. This could be retitled – How Not to Get Married. Feminism is dedicated to making women unhappy.” The article is titledStrong Women Should Never Do These Things For a Man – or Anyone Else. Just the title shows the selfishness of feminism and how it’s all about them. As godly woman, life is not about us but learning to serve…
Blogs that make me “feel” good, talk about not judging, and enjoying their “messy” lives don’t hold much appeal to me. I love to read blogs that challenge and convict me to become more like Christ. It is why I love the Bible so much. Trey, an older man, comments on my blog once in a while and many times his comments convict and challenge me. This is why I like them. Here’s one of his great comments on my…
Guest post by Kelley “Can you expound upon what you mean when you say “they are not only fighting for their husband’s eternal soul“? I am not quite sure I understand what this means. Can you provide scripture with this for further understanding? Thanks.” Dear Tamra, We are not wrestling with flesh and blood in this battle for the souls of our mates and children. We are engaged in spiritual warfare with the principalities and wickedness of the rulers of…
A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones (Proverbs 12:4). “Solomon seems to intend by this appellation, a woman who has all the perfections of her sex; wisdom, modesty, prudence, virtue, and, above all, economy and good management; and by her who maketh ashamed, he means the contrary; and particularly a woman who dissipates her husband’s substance in expensive follies; in the same manner as he called a…
How are godly women to win their disobedient husband? By being in subjection to them without a word while they (their husbands) behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear(1 Peter 3:2). This “coupled with fear” stood out to me recently so I went to the commentaries to figure out what this meant. Pulpit Commentary: “The close connection with the word ‘chaste, and the parallel passage, Ephesians 5:33 (‘the wife see that she reverence her husband’), make it probable that the…
A woman commented in the chat room: “There was an article recently about appreciating your husband even when he leaves his socks on the floor etc… I’m sure most people have read it… I kept thinking so basically appreciate the sucky things he does because hey, at least he’s not dead…. I’d rather my husband appreciate me for more than ‘at least she’s not dead.’” Another woman responded to her the following that will bless all of you! “I am…
From a comment on Are Wives in Submission to Their Husbands Inferior? I grew up seeing two generations of women flagrantly refusing to submit, and the effects on their marriages was disastrous. No unity, no sweet companionship, but a very them (men) vs. us (women) mentality. And both men were God-fearing, good men who could never do anything right in their wives’ eyes. That just made me all the more ready to respect and submit to my husband when the…
There are women who acknowledge their wrong past behavior in their marriage. Their husbands have left them for other women. These wives can see how they pushed their husbands away with their indifference, withholding sexual intimacy from them, and their lack of affection. They won’t give up on their marriage because they are not only fighting for their husband’s eternal soul but for their family to stay as one, especially for their children’s sake. There is one such woman who…
Written By Ken The bad thinking of the world that many Christian wives have adopted: “My husband’s role is to meet my needs. I may not know exactly what those ‘needs’ are, and they certainly will change from time to time, but any loving husband will try to chase down my perceived needs and make me ‘feel’ better about myself and our relationship. After all, he is to love me like Christ loves the Church.” “Men need to understand that…