What is sex? Is it just intercourse? Are unmarried couples who are fooling around and ejaculating with each other but not having intercourse having sex or just fooling around? President Clinton told the world that he did NOT have sex with that woman. He only had oral sex so was he telling the truth? What exactly is purity and being chaste before marriage? How about anal sex? I found out about some young women who pledged purity until marriage but…
“When I was 14, my mom said I should NOT wait until marriage to have sex – I didn’t even need to wait for love. Her advice was to only have sex with people who respected me. I don’t have a punchline. I just think if more moms said this to their daughters, life would be easier.” This was written by Amy Silverberg on Twitter. This tweet had almost 497,000 likes and 63, 000 retweets. One person responded: “I’m VERY…
You would think from the reaction (even from Christians) from my viral post, Men Prefer Debt Free Virgins Without Tattoos, that marrying a virgin or not is no big deal. After all, there are few virgins, anyway, so what does it matter? Once one is forgiven, it’s all washed clean, right? For one thing, God, our Creator, tells us that it matters. He commands older women to teach younger women to be chaste. This means to remain virgins until marriage…
My husband and I discovered that many women claimed to have been hurt by the “purity culture” after our post on this topic, but it seems they were hurt more from their sin and then looked for someone or something to blame it on. We live in a victim culture that never seems to want to place the blame for their sin on themselves. The entire “purity culture” grew out of a deep void that was lacking in the youth….
Virginity isn’t popular in our culture, no, not even among Christians. Contrary to popular opinion, God takes it seriously and warns us strongly against the sin of fornication (sex outside of marriage consisting of a husband and his wife). Remember, He destroyed two cities due to fornication. Then in Revelation, we are told about the “great whore, which did corrupt the earth with her fornication” (Revelation 19:2). Fornication corrupts. All of His commands to us are for our good; they…
Written by My Husband, Ken, and Me There’s an article in the New York Times called, “How Should Christians Have Sex?” In it, the Christian author, Katelyn Beaty, tries to explain why the purity culture was harmful and dangerous. She was taught abstinence until marriage and signed a pledge that she would wait for sex until her wedding night. There were purity rings, purity balls, and even journals in which she wrote letters to her future husband. She feels that…
Written By My Husband, Ken, and Me Does Christ’s crucifixion on the cross give us the freedom to sin? Since we have been completely forgiven, can we now live however we want? The Bachelorette sure seems to think so! (Please don’t watch this show as it is a bunch of immodest, intoxicated people making out with each other. It’s not what Christians should be entertained by nor supporting.) From the Daily Wire, “Though ‘The Bachelorette’ star Hannah Brown has been…
We live in a highly sexualized culture. We can’t even watch a football game without seeing scantily-clad women and commercials that would make our grandmothers roll over in their graves. Evil is considered good and celebrated and good is considered evil and offensive. Pornography is watched by most men (and even many women now) and living with one’s boyfriend before marriage is considered okay even in the Christian community. How do parents raise their children to withstand the sexual aggression…
Hollywood makes sex out to be absolutely amazing with fireworks the very first time a couple has sex so young people grow up to believe that it must be amazing always, UNLESS they are raised in a godly home by Christian parents. I was out to lunch with some friends the other day and they were all taught to be pure until marriage. They taught their children the same thing. The problem was that they weren’t taught that sex was supposed…
Younger women, God calls you to be chaste regardless of what our culture promotes. Chaste means “pure from all unlawful commerce of sexes. Applied to persons before marriage, it signifies pure from all sexual commerce, undefiled; applied to married persons, true to the marriage bed.” Therefore, no type of sexual activity before marriage and once married, sexual activity is only between a man and his wife. Sex is wonderful but it was created by God, not only to create new…