In all the years I have been mentoring women, frequently I have women asking me, “Well, what about him? Doesn’t he have to do this and that, too? What about Ephesians 5:25? He’s called to love me as Christ loves the Church and he isn’t so I can disobey, disrespect, and be the leader in the home since he isn’t obeying God, so there!” No, they don’t add the last part but this is in essence what they are saying…
The Five Love Languages is an extremely popular book. I have never cared for it much. It seemed selfish to me and is just another way to place too high of expectations upon others, especially our husbands. “If you don’t love me the way I want to be loved then you can forget it.” I even have a friend who “unfriends” anyone who does not speak her love language. We must be very careful about popular terms that are not…
Are husbands “allowed” to use my posts to try and convict their wives about something I have written? Of course they are since they are head over their wives and the leaders of their homes. What if they are using them to manipulate their wives? I am not sure a wife could know her husband’s intentions but he has every right to show her whether it be to exhort, rebuke, or encourage her (Titus 2:15). The one thing I want…
In Genesis 3:16, God said to Adam and Eve after they sinned, “Thy desire shall be to thy husband and he shall rule over thee.”Have you ever studied what this means? I decided to look how the theologians of old interpreted this verse. Here is how the Benson’s Commentary (1857) interpreted it: “Thy desire shall be to thy husband – That is, as appears fromGenesis 4:7, where the same phrase is used, Thy desires shall be referred or submitted to…
My friend, Carol, has been married over 45 years. When asked what her secret is to keeping such a strong and happy marriage she replies,“God is first, then their spouse, their children, then ministry for her and work for him, then self in this order.”In contrast, many couples today prioritize their marriages as self is first, then work, children, spouse, and then maybe God at Christmas and Easter. According toGoldie Hawn, who has been living with her partner Kurt Russell…
Do you remember my post that went viral in June? (It’s gone viral again with over 17 million hits now.) It was shared so much on Facebook that the UK Daily Mail did a story about it and so did US Weekly. I just looked at the UK article a few days ago and scrolled down to the comments. This is the last comment posted: “She’s happily married. I wonder how many of the feminist sisters who mock and attack…
Does the name Elizabeth Gilbert ring a bell? She is famous for writing the book Eat Love Pray with a movie about it. Her book sold over ten million copies and women flocked to watch the movie. I never read the book or watched the movie but I heard about it like I am sure many of you have. She needed to “find herself” so she left her husband and went in search of meaning in her life. She supposedly…
Always Learning has been my blog since February of 2011 and I felt it was time to have a change with my book being published. I love the name The Transformed Wife because I frequently write about the verse in the Bible that tells us to be transformed by renewing our minds with Truth. Once we believe in Jesus Christ, we are a new creature in Him, filled with His Spirit, and transformed as we spend time in His Word…